The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU

This is what they did. There was a study in Kansas. They filmed a video and we all filmed the video. We show them a video of the game: "This goal went in because the basket was not protected. We don't exchange here, right? We have to do that and then cover the hole." If this were the starting line, the development of the Kansas team would have been like this. Then, they said they neglected all of this and only showed them the times they did it right. The times they did it perfectly. He didn't provide goals, he talked about the same points, the evolution happened that way, it fundamentally changed the way we as coaches interact with our student-athletes.

We can apply this to the business world. We can apply that to the work of our student group, we can apply it to our management teams. Easily: catch them when they're doing it the right way. Last but not least. My son is very good at this. Confident people interpret a reaction in the way they choose. I ask my son that he is very bad at sports, just like his father (Laughs) The game... How was the game? amazing! I scored 3 goals and gave 2 assists. And I said, "I didn't see him play the record!" But he has his own perspective on how to play! (Laughs) I love that! (Laughs) Isn't that right?

I am that person! I say, "I remember when I met my wife, I talked to her in a park. 'Paulie, do you want to go to the movies?' "Ladies? Tingling and twitching." (laughs) And she says, "Um, no." I asked him again. Because I thought I wasn't looking at a good angle. (Laughs) Maybe I'm not wearing the wrong shirt. . TRUE? Because I'm interpreting it the way I want. I finally asked her out again. She gave me this comment, right? She sent it to her friend because that was the trend at the time. "She wouldn't date you unless the last person on Earth existed.

Hell was freezing over. There was little chance he could save the planet." For some people, it's like there's no chance. And I said, "You're saying there's a chance." (Laughs) Right? Because I will explain it like this. If I could give you one thing to remember from this conversation, it's this: no one believes in you unless you believe in your

self

. Listen to the lyrics in that video, this is for the crazy people out there, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the square pegs in the round holes. We're supposed to be different, people. And when people look at us, believe in your

self

.

Thank you. (applause)