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Mindset Expert Shows You How to Control Your Negative Thoughts |TrevorMoawadon Impact Theory

Dec 29, 2021
if someone says something out loud, it's 10 times more powerful than if they think it, and then when we start looking at the data, particularly the data just reinforced by Christine Porath of Georgetown and Harvard, that negativity is a multiple of four to seven times more powerful. what a positivity so think about that if i say something out loud it's 10 times greater if it's

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it's four to seven times more powerful only if you follow the data and say stupid out loud ultimately you are predicting and perpetuating exactly what you don't want to have happened and who is always in

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of what tom biliu says hello everyone welcome to

impact

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today's guest is a former all conference bisport collegiate athlete who has become one of the head coaches most sought after performance on the planet. he worked with 11 number one draft picks and helped approximately 700 world-class athletes prepare for the nfl draft.
mindset expert shows you how to control your negative thoughts trevor moawad on impact theory
He has worked closely with some of the most prestigious NCAA football programs and coaches, including Nick Saban, one of the most outstanding coaches college football has ever seen, proving that his methods work in real life, he has been part of eight national championship games and has worked with high performance players in virtually every major sport, has helped coach tennis players, top golfers. league baseball players nba players ufc fighters us special forces personnel and even some of the top performing ceos in business today sports illustrative named it The best mental coach in the sports world and co-starred with future Hall of Fame quarterback Russell Wilson on ESPN's QB TO QB In addition to appearing on ESPN's hit show Draft Academy, he has been featured in countless major media outlets, including usa today, mpr sports, Illustrated fox sports and many others so please help me welcome the man the world's top performing people and organizations bring when you need that winning edge CEO of unlimited minds and author takes what it takes trev o malwad hi welcome great to be here mate great to have you what a privilege anyone deep into the world of d e The Fundamentals of Thought got me at hi yeah I love it that's basically the thrust of

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book is there a way? to think that it will be useful to you and there is a way of thinking that it won't yes ok so now diving into um there really are two concepts that I think set it apart you have how powerful

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thinking is and some of the stats on around that that are pretty scary and some of the stories that you have about that that I think will really shake people up yeah um and then of course there's neutral thinking so I think that's the next two we should review yeah and then I think probably a third of that would be kind of behavioral

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, you know, identifying behavior, but what I ultimately learned, my father was the president of the national association for self-esteem, the Most people probably don't even know that exists and he was one of the first authors of Chicken Soup for the Soul so anyone who is probably over 35 would know but the power of p Positive thinking never really resonated with me and when I was young and 18 and I dropped out of college and was diagnosed with an initial diagnosis of cancer and it turned out to be shingles and a host of other things that I quickly began to understand well I don't know if positive thinking works all the time and the data is anecdotal i know negative thinking works and it works negatively and one of the things is it would start in alabama and it would start with the jacksonville jaguars and it would start with the miami dolphins i started noticing and even looking going back to a young age nobody wants to be told to be positive that positive thinking is probably the number one reason this industry hasn't grown in my 44 years of life positive thinking in many cases repels people. you're telling me to be positive and i'm getting divorced you're telling me to be positive and i threw three interceptions you're telling me to be positive and i have to deal with this president you're telling me to be positive and i have this current situation you're telling me to be positive I have this health situation, so what is the alternative?
mindset expert shows you how to control your negative thoughts trevor moawad on impact theory

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Well the alternative has always been negative so when we got to the university of alabama you have this finite window of time how long could you influence it all comes down to influence would you be okay if it's

your

family your children regardless of the circumstances or the situations so the ncaa gives you 22 hours to influence your players for a week and so when you look at human performance you look at nutrition you look at strength and conditioning you look at signs of fatigue you look all these different things coach saban believed there had to be some emphasis on psychological education and so how are we going to do that? well, most people think that sports psychology treats someone who has a problem. and make them bigger and then how do we have an educational platform for the 120 players and a college football team is a business you have 120 employees and you lose 35 of those employees every year and it's an ebitda driven business where when you succeed you get more sponsorship and as you get more sponsorship you make more money and as you make more money the school makes more money and everyone benefits and it all happens to win but if your best players leave every year and that's 35 and they take their great behavior and their great habits and their great

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with them, then you're in trouble, so you have to develop the programmatic, you have to develop a system, I mean, you look at the missions and what you did ultimately when you were on the go. ng to sell it you're going to evolve that there had to be if we're going to create the last type of metabolic food or we're going to limit how the recipe has to be the same so you're not the only one who can cook it so ultimately Psychologically, we had to come up with a plan for everyone.
mindset expert shows you how to control your negative thoughts trevor moawad on impact theory
I think learning to meditate and regulate your breath is important, but to me, I think that's advanced chemistry and we need an eighth grade version where we just know. okay there is a table of elements and we need the basics and that's what we did when we started studying what we learned was that negative thinking was the most powerful element that our players were fighting, that negative thinking was used as a weapon and used them against them. So how do you get along with negativity? Are they your inner

thoughts

? Well, if you are trying to change the inner

thoughts

, then you have to go to affirmations and you have to go to images, you have to go to visualization very difficult.
mindset expert shows you how to control your negative thoughts trevor moawad on impact theory
Well, we started to see outsourcing, well, if someone says something out loud, it's 10 times more powerful than if they think it, and then when we started looking at the data, particularly the data that was just reinforced by Christine Porath of Georgetown and Harvard . negativity is a multiple of four to seven times more powerful than positivity so think if i say something out loud it's 10 times more if it's negative it's four to seven times more powerful so when i say negative things out loud high is 40 to 70 times more likely that that will happen or cause an outcome that won't be good for me than if I just didn't say anything, so while we were going to our second year in alabama we were going to our first year in florida state and finally entering our sophomore year at the university of georgia, we made a bet: what if we could stop our players from saying stupid things out loud?
What if we could do that without teaching any element of positive thinking but removing it? e conversations about the heat complain about the coaches complain about the circumstances complain about the situations verbalize the negativity but we weren't going to lie to you and tell you to be positive we just showed you the data and then what we did was some of the things that you guys have noticed in the book the stories about negativity and its surroundings are amazing tell us bill buckner was one that took my breath away so billy buckner who just recently passed away was an amazing eight time gold glove great player Boston Red Sox baseball. well he made a mistake in sports that would go down as one of the biggest sports mistakes in history and in 1986 he let the game winning run score on a ground ball between his legs that would ultimately give the mets the world series now he was just watching an espn e60 story jeremy and i saw an interview that was done in 1990 that resurfaced in 1995 where buckner was interviewed 12 days before the world series and he said you know dreams are for w in you know win the world series and the nightmare would be for me to let the game winning run score on a ground ball through my legs you know and finally that is exactly what would happen now saying that out loud what did he do? he didn't make it happen, but he increased the probability and this is what I want people to understand that his inner thoughts are all over the place.
I want to insist on that. influence his behavior or because you are talking to some magical deity who then says right you said it and then I am going to make it happen I think what he did is a subconscious plant by verbalizing it and knowing that it is 10 times more powerful he is planting it in his subconscious It's not, you don't want it to happen, but it becomes something that's finally on your mind and you gave it more power by verbalizing it and then there wasn't someone to say I'm worried that I'm going to retire and die at 40 of a stroke to the heart right so gun pete maravich a basketball player i'll give you two other examples but he was interviewed at age 26 and he said you know i don't want to play 10 years of professional basketball and die at the age of 40 of a heart attack well played 10 years of professional basketball in pasadena california died of a heart attack at 40. there is another great story i saw from a magazine called unlimited success in 1973 a guy is hired to fix a fridge er car in the back of a train gets into the train panics gets locked inside the car so now he's banging on the door there's nothing he can do he starts to panic and thinks he's going to freeze to death he finds a pen and begins to write tom what is going through his mind and writes i am getting colder as people one of the things we do to ourselves is watch and report i am not playing well i am having a bad day we are having a bad quarter my el marriage not going well observer report still cold er now he writes nothing to do except wait sleepily can barely write finally says these might be my last words and i will show them the article they open the van many hours later and find it and he's dead but the temperature inside the car was 56 degrees, that's crazy, the freezing apparatus was broken, there was a lot of air in the car, there was no physical reason ica for his death the best they could say is that he somehow talked himself into dying and as you know the book covers psychogenic death in and around the korean war when the korean war killed a third of all American prisoners of war and they said one of the things that was done in the prisoner of war camps was the negativity they fabricated articles about the United States being bombed they withheld all positivity they didn't give them any mail believe it or not there are regulations similar for POW camps around the world and ultimately filled these healthy American soldiers with all this doubt that a priest in d even call it surrender itis and healthy American soldiers over a period of days would walk into a corner, they would sit and die with a broken heart, so negativity is the most powerful thing we are combating.
Take a look at our policy today. a positive message versus a negative message is no no no chance have you ever read men's search for meaning i haven't read that guys you're going to love it so man's search for meaning victor frankel in conversation yes yes yes yes yes i don't remember bad he was in five different concentration camps, yeah, and ultimately, um, he says he could tell within 72 hours when someone was going to die because they would surrender, yeah, and he said once they surrendered, it was a 72 hour clock, they no longer knew why they were there. fighting and just dying and he was like but people who kept a mental image of what they were suffering like what they were going to do once they got out for their family for whatever he said they would just move on and it's ju I mean, look, obviously there are a million reasons to die in a concentration camp, but the fact that even in the concentration camp they could go, I'm 72 hours, we can hit because we have seen that person give up. that's crazy to me, well, and i only think when i think ofbeing seven years old at tacoma golf and country club and coming off the golf course and my dad you know everyone calls mr positive and this and that but to be fair to my dad when he was growing up and he was teaching the only positive and negative so if you weren't negative you had to be positive but that never made sense to me and if we could learn not to be negative how to do not externalize the negative then ultimately that would help them more than ever to deal to be told to be positive.
I love what you say. Just shut your mouth. you mean by that why is it so critical if you follow the data and finally say stupid out loud you are predicting and perpetuating exactly what you don't want to happen and who is always in

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of what is said tom biliu you are always in control of what you say people say yes but i cant think they are all in the thoughts i have been with people the night before the super bowl the night before the nationals eight different times where the doubt is there but we are not outsourcing it and then I'll make people say well what do you want me to lie?
I'm not telling you to lie, I'm telling you that if you look at the data and say I don't want to be here today, I hate this job. up 28-3 in the super bowl playing tom brady he looks at his friend and says hey man they still have tom brady on their side no advantage thats for sure ok why you say you know and almost predicted it thats what its going to move on now ultimately not saying crap out loud is what you have to do create an alternative so i started thinking about a car if a car backs up it can't auto forward so it has to shift into neutral and then it stops then at that point you can move forward by changing your behavior or you can go backwards doing the same stupid thing you were doing neutral it's truth based thinking whats the truth ok in 2010 you are running a data loss company true you've been doing it for eight years you graduated from the movie ufc you're that's not what you want to do you're 60 pounds overweight you lose weight you find two friends and you say hey man uh let's go to my kitchen let's find Find a way to create a product that is going to be unlike anything anyone knows well I'm educated on this because I partnered with the gatorade institute of sports science on img and you know and you created a value proposition that ultimately , you know based on you didn't let your past predict your future you used your past it was real but i want to do something different to make you behave this is a really interesting part of what you say the past is not predictive correct so tell me more about that because I would say that most people would say that the past is definitely predictive correct which is great but they would be wrong so they would be wrong and the simple fact of the matter is that the past is real ok so the only thing What makes it predictive is if my behavior stays the same so I'll give you a Great story we both grew up in Tacoma and there used to be a thing called Toastmasters I don't know if you remember Toastmasters p But Toastmasters was a local, regional, and national speaking group for anyone who wanted to get better at speaking well, my dad. he had gone to a toast early on and heard one of the most successful magazine entrepreneurs in the world speak, he comes back and tells me that I just had the opportunity to hear one of the most successful magazine entrepreneurs in the world speak and he said when are you you're taking your s.a.t i said i'll take it next year he said ok this guy was failing high school he was struggling he was raised by a single mom in the midwest but he promised his mom he would take a test called the s.a.t so he takes the sat in the third year of May does not expect anything to score in June now the sat that I don't know how many of your population know, but it is a standardized test with the math part and a verbal part both are obtained 800 points, well, this guy takes it he's bombing he's failing school he expects nothing as he's telling the story of the toast masters well he gets 1480 out of 1600 so he's flabbergasted that would be for the smart ones. people who heard your project yeah cognitive dissonance so i got a 900 on my sats just to give people a correct framework and i got a 10 90 and i got a 10 10 right i was only four digits it was a miracle TRUE? and and but it's a tough test and if you know it's a variety or f different things for him to score and her mom does what any mom would do knowing her son says did you cheat right? the bubbles you couldn't cheat so she says you want to tell me you really got that score he said yeah i got the score so he's flabbergasted tom so while my dad tells me the story I'm like, it's ok he says it's ok so what he decides is because he realizes he's smart and he's entering his senior year he says I'm going to go to class now he starts going to class he doesn't date who he did when he wasn't going class ok teacher see him in class and they said hey maybe franklin pierce maybe we missed the train with this kid so they start treating him differently just like the guy would tell the story he graduates he goes to a community college and continues to wichita state. he goes under the ivy league and becomes this highly successful magazine entrepreneur so i said he was fine well the guy was always smart he just needed a standardized test to unlock him. princeton mail new jersey thinks nothing of it the next day his wife says you're going to open it he opens it the real story it turns out the s.a.t board will periodically review their test-taking procedures and policies the year he took the he was one of 13 people who were sent an incorrect score on the s.a.t. his actual score was 740 out of 1600. and he said people think my whole life changed when i hit 1480. 1480. and what makes a 1480? goes to class well this is one of the first stories i would share when i got my chance in alabama or florida state or georgia so your language is powerful but number two your demeanor is way ahead of your success and so many people let their feelings dictate what they do instead of throwing your behavior around russell wilson's 510 shouldn't play pro football but he carries himself like the best quarterback in the country and has done since before he was at that level and then your feelings and emotions and your ability caught up with that behavior.
I think the lesson my dad was ultimately trying to teach me was in addition to my language. What I do not know. How I feel about my past will determine who I am in the future and that's what I think neutral thinking is I think neutral thinking isn't just thinking I think it's behavior and I think it's language so your behavior is what that will change it, but it must also start by asking yourself what it is that I want and why. I want it, why don't I have it? You know what I'm willing to do to get there and I think in terms of listening to one of your previous podcasts I think it's valuable to write things down but in a really simple way that I've probably learned most things through the best athletes of the world and michael johnson who had the gold shoes i will never forget draw brees they were training for the nfl combine in 2001 there are 18 guys michael just finished winning his fourth gold medal and he comes in and he he's just a tough guy fastest man alive fastest man alive at that point um he had just run uh the 43-18 um you know and then when he ran the 19-3 it was uh 26 miles an hour fastest fastest 50 at 150 he ran 9-1 flat so all these athletes were in awe of michael and i think he drew at the time he says hey man did you set goals for yourself? he said yes he said where did you learn so what do you mean what i learned? where did you learn? how did you learn in college?
I didn't learn at university you said did you learn? like smart goals like what are smart goals you know and spark goals are specific measurable achievable realistic and with the time frame michael said when i would go to safeway i realized if i went into safeway a and i wrote down eight things i would go into safeway and I'd be out of Safeway in five minutes if I walked into Safeway and I didn't have anything written down I'd be there for 20 minutes and find myself in aisle 8 and I'd be anxious and nervous and it would be why am I looking at the wind and the ho-hos when I know I'm not I don't need any of those things and he said it because I wrote it. safely and it worked, I thought why would it be any different in my athletic career and I think that's the level we need to educate people. mindfulness is the mark and headspace is a billion dollar appraisal and i sit there and think you know 44 years and growing in this my whole life the only time i can meditate is at the end of church is a big challenge skill and it is absolutely important it is important our affirmations are important absolutely they are important they are changing from the inside out important yes but they are not the starting points don't say stupid things out loud be careful what you consume if i watch three minutes of news increases my probability by 27.
I'm going to say I had a shitty day right when I was going through a divorce. I had a lawsuit. I had some health problems. All these different kinds of things. If I listen to Jake Owen or Sam Hunt, I love the new country. but the new country makes me want to go running and jump off a cliff, you know, it makes me think that I'll never meet another girl in my life, which I hope isn't true, you know, and so what are they? things? that are under our control what we see when we get home what we hear when we're in our car who we talk to when we get on our cell phone and what we always say out loud while talking and I think those are the powerful things and, ultimately our behavior is what will define our success yes i love that man it really all comes down to behavior and it all comes down to what you do day to day which brings me to a concept you got from your father about hope and how powerful it is how can people use hope why does it matter? how does that fit into this equation?
I'm going through cancer even if I'm going through a difficult challenge even if I'm going through a reorganization in a business you know if I still feel good this is not optimal but there is something I can do then I am helpful to myself and when I am useful I have hope and when I am helpless I am hopeless so my father's belief was always to make a habit of hope and that hope was the most powerful medicine we all have and so I think we have to believe that we can influence our future you know we have to believe i don't think no matter what i'm facing i can influence my future that just because my first marriage didn't work out that doesn't mean my second marriage won't work out but it's incumbent on me to be better and that's where I'm spending time. well, she didn't do this, she didn't, there's nothing I can do about it, true, but that's true and that's what you're talking about. different in the future, but a lot of people think that the self-help industry is about things you do.
I think one of the things that makes athletes so amazing is what they're willing not to do, what they're willing not to say what they want. are willing not to eat what they are willing not to eat what they are willing not to watch that's what makes you think in January 2020 what are the five things you can't do right now that will instantly improve your life Tell me about the illusion of choice, yes, I think that's very powerful. You know, it was really fascinating, so, I was, obviously, I've worked in the sports world for a long time and I was my first NBA team, the Memphis Grizzlies and guys love college football and Vince Carter, who now he is 42 years old, the same age. like tom brady and still playing in the nba plays for atlanta vince was about 37 at the time and we just arrested three players at one of the

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i was heading to in one night like we hit our quota for her like for one night and vince and i were talking about how he loved college football and he said how many of those trev guys want to play in the nba or nfl and i said probably seven out of ten and he said and its not crazy that they think they can do whatever they want and still reach that level and I said what do you mean he said well I'm 37 years old I'm still playing in the nba do you think I can do whatever I want I said what do you want? i mean yes i think you can he said no my options are finite i said what do you mean the choice is an illusion he said the choice is absolutely an illusion there is a set of behaviors i do that allow me to play at 37 knees and I can't come back and play defense fast enough so when I get down I leave the ball up high most of the time I don't eat fast food after games I lift weights every game day and i said the election is an illusion he said yes and i ended up going at that time he was headed to the university ofalabama and we coined the idea of ​​the illusion of choice, there are no options when you decide when you decided you wanted to build.
You didn't decide you wanted to build a billion dollar empire, but you decided you wanted to make a different kind of nutrition bar, right? Did you start with the bar? Was there going to be the way and was there going to be a way that tasted like muscle milk or was there going to be a way that was going to be different and you did it or didn't you correct it yeah and either you were going to commit the time and I'm just using you as an example , but if I want to be in a good relationship, I saw a statistic that said the average married couple talks 27 minutes a week.
I was talking to some of my friends about it and they said, that's what I find all the time, but obviously that's not a good stat, well, you were born with the gift of making time for people, no, it's a behavior, so to me the illusion of choice is to think you can have a good marriage and talk 27 minutes a week so you have to make time to talk and maybe you're traveling you travel a lot turning off the tv when you're traveling keeping it simple better turning off the tv turning off the light and just engaging in conversation you know if you're engaging with your kids there's a way to do it and there's a way to not do it thinking you have an infinite amount of options it's idiotic and this generation right now gen z and gen y think they can do whatever they want and still achieve things that you can achieve whatever you want to do Want to do in many cases if you are willing to support what There are behaviors that drive that success, but it will be nothing for the Seahawks. since you can perform to a 9.5 standard when you get there that's fine what you're going to find out is that you can't go to bed at five in the morning that's fine so you'll have to adapt your behavior to align. with winning behaviors so the illusion of choice is the fact that there is not an infinite amount of options there can be options yes I can get pasta instead of a cheeseburger but even if I want to stick to a diet or maintain optimal health then i have to limit calorie intake what kind of flu ids when i when i first lost weight i didnt understand that gatorade had 800 calories you know when you drink those four gatorades even though all you are eating are lunches at reality you're like managing all these calories and it's just am I do better and if you want to lose weight there's a way to do it yeah I love it that's super powerful your options are limited by what you're trying to achieve there is a finite amount yeah that's really clever yeah where can people Connect with you for more on what you're doing to get the book yeah so the book right now is that think big dash gofar.com book but they can get it on audible they can get it on harpercollins they can get it really any different environment i've only had twitter for a couple of years so i'm learning how to use social media so you can follow

trevor

moad t-r-e-v-o-r-m-o-a-w-a-d i think we've done a good job and then in the sports world i have the moad group what type of w works with athletes and then unlimited minds is our business that works with corporations and executives very well what's the impact you want to have on the world with all these things you're doing i want to demystify thinking i just want to demystify it i don't want the people feel that it is only for people who are really very bright i want to demystify the idea that change is a challenge well i like it This is it well guys I love that you're taking a new approach to thinking about whether it's just understanding the difference between positive and negative and understanding that there's something else in between or all the nuances that you include in the book.
I think these are incredibly powerful tactics that you will find immensely useful in your life. book interacting with him on social media he will definitely get you to the next level and speaking of next level if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary. be careful my man

trevor

thank you friend pleasure that was wonderful the biggest fear in modern times is what other people think so our job is to love others and not realize what they think of us because we only have one emotion to the time it is our brain works an emotion for what our work

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