How to Improve your Emotional Intelligence (for career success) | Shadé Zahrai

What is the one skill guaranteed to make you more

success

ful, more productive, earn a higher salary, and even become a better leader? Yes, you guessed it, it's in the title Emotional Intelligence, but when I ask my clients and the women I work with what

emotional

intelligence

looks like at work and how to develop it, they are usually stumped because they can't explain. really what it is, is a vague concept in

your

mind even though

emotional

intelligence

is widely recognized as the most important indicator of performance and performance. Of the best students score high in emotional intelligence, most people have a vague idea of ​​what it means, but that's okay because in this video I'm going to quickly explain what emotional intelligence is to eliminate any misconceptions you may have and Then we'll get caught up on my three favorite emotional intelligence strategies to help you go further with this really important skill.

Now this will help you gain visibility as a strong, emotionally intelligent collaborator with real leadership potential. Hi, I'm Shade Zurai and I help women like you hack. their

career

s to advance faster, overcome their limiting beliefs, and confidently create the extraordinary life they deserve. So first, what is emotional intelligence? Well, according to current psychology, it is the ability to understand, use and manage one's own emotions, as well as the emotions of others, and it is said. include at least three skills emotional awareness, which is how you identify

your

own emotions, the ability to harness those emotions and apply them to tasks, and the ability to manage emotions, which includes both regulating your emotions and helping others do the same, given that we are in the workplace we continually interact with others, colleagues, team members, managers and customers.

The extent to which one understands what others think, feel, and how they process information is really important in ensuring that interactions are positive, productive, and lead to the best things possible. Outcomes studies have shown that leaders with high emotional intelligence are better able to create connections and motivate their teams where people are engaged, inspired, and ultimately perform better, so it goes without saying that Employees with strong emotional intelligence skills are more likely to be sought out for opportunities. and leadership positions within a company, so while there are countless studies and theories we could explore, I wanted to make this really practical and actionable for you, so I've put together my top three strategies to help you hone your emotional intelligence and Positioning yourself as a leader within your company first gets better at identifying your own emotional state.

This first strategy revolves around emotional self-identification and self-awareness, which is the ability to know yourself and understand your feelings, but the reality is that we are actually not particularly good at articulating what emotion we are feeling at any given moment, what is a problem, this is especially the case where we may react emotionally to something that happened at work, maybe someone says something that doesn't sit well with us or there is a high pressure situation that you are navigating or maybe there is a confrontation or a conflict that you were not expecting instead of simply reacting you want to become aware of what is happening with your mind and body in those moments now attachment theory and psychology indicate that how experiencing emotions is probably a reflection of early life experiences .

Your ability to manage your core emotions, such as anger, sadness, fear, and joy, often depends on the quality and consistency of the bond you developed with your primary caregiver as a baby; It's actually quite fascinating when it starts. Investigating these things to be aware of what you are experiencing at any given moment is key to understanding how emotions influence your thoughts and actions. When I was studying positive psychology, we were introduced to a concept by Stanford's Emma Sapala, author of happiness tracking, and it's a way to simply understand the nature of the emotion you're experiencing. I call it the energy graph.

You see that all emotions have energy behind them, sometimes high energy like anger or excitement and sometimes low energy like calm or sadness. These energy states. It manifests itself as high or low intensity and psychologists generally use these two dimensions, positive or negative, and high or low intensity, to distinguish emotions, so what you want to be very good at at any given moment is to be able to map your emotions based on them. In these two dimensions, first ask yourself if it is high or low intensity, then positive or negative. Another way to think about the positive or negative dimension is to ask yourself if I feel empowered or not, once you have assessed your physiology and how you feel, you can do things that help you move to the quadrant that is most productive for you at that moment. and that will probably be on the positive side.

High-intensity positive emotions include excitement, elation, and ecstasy and low-intensity positive emotions. include being calm, serene, and content, high-intensity negative emotions include anger, anxiety, and fear, and low-intensity negative emotions include sadness, boredom, and tiredness. Learning to first identify your energy states will allow you to then self-train and ask yourself intentional, reflective questions like what made me feel this way. What triggered this for me is especially helpful when what you are experiencing is a negative emotion. When you think this way, it helps you create immediate distance from any source of the emotion and will help you both understand. what may have led you to that emotion and help you mentally move to a more positive state and remember that there are no good or bad emotions, there are only good or bad reactions to your emotions.

Two seek to understand when it comes to emotional intelligence. A big part of us being able to understand ourselves is learning to identify and respond to the emotional states of others, but since we're not telepathic, how do we do that well? What I encourage my clients to do is try to understand those with whom they are interacting. and what this means in practice is two things: first you have to listen to what they say, not just what comes out of their mouth but also their physical expression, their tone and all the non-verbal cues they are using, it gives you an idea.

Investigate what others are feeling and how their emotional state may change from one moment to the next, and secondly, ask thoughtful questions. Be curious instead of just taking something at face value. Ask them what led you to make that decision or what the thought process you went through was. To get that idea, this allows you to go behind what is being said to discover the drivers of motivation and can really discover where they are coming from or how they are feeling. This helps you put yourself in their place. Taking their perspective and seeing the world through their eyes is huge and allows you to not only connect on a much deeper level with people, but also offer help and support to those who need it.

A big part of trying to understand is putting aside all judgments and prejudices and being present and focusing on relationships once you become more aware of your own emotional states and those of others, paying attention to their cues. non-verbal and taking advantage of where they might come from and what might motivate them. For them, the next step is to focus on how you work with others socially and professionally so that you can make your relationships more effective and enjoyable. Now there are a couple of pieces worth mentioning here that you want to become aware of how you actually use nonverbal language. communication if someone says something you don't agree with you show it immediately in your expression if you suspect something or someone does that it reflects on your face the emotional part of your brain is always active so even if you try to ignore it others They might be realizing you want to be aware of what you are projecting because you may be unintentionally communicating something you don't want to.

You also want to be able to notice when situations are stressful and then skillfully bring them in with some humor to help relieve the stress, This can be relevant at work during a stressful meeting or even for yourself in your personal life, laughter balances your nervous system, reduces stress and anxiety, increases feelings of calm, sharpens your mind and makes you more empathetic and Finally, try to view conflict or confrontation as an opportunity to grow when there is a disagreement. Seek to understand what caused the disagreement. What is the nature of the conflict? Ask questions to look beneath the surface and understand the interests other people are protecting.

Can see? things from their point of view, how can you encourage others to change their own perspective? Emotionally detach yourself from the situation by taking a step back and realizing that any conflict is an opportunity for you to grow as a person, so there you have it, there are my three. strategies to hone your emotional intelligence skills so you can position yourself for

career

advancement and leadership opportunities in the comments below let me know which one was your favorite and which one you found most relevant and if you enjoyed this video please like, comment and subscribe , I really appreciate it. and of course, if you don't want to miss any videos, visit the website

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