How to (ACTUALLY) Stop Buying: 4 Unconventional Tips

Alright, we were having a really good conversation in our mentoring group about how to

stop

buying

things and so many women. I often hear the frustration that I'm decluttering, I'm getting rid of things but things are still coming in so how can we

stop

, so here's the question. I have had a constant battle with shopping. I have really good months and then I almost get drunk at this point. I have blockers on websites that prevent me from mindlessly accessing, browsing and shopping online, but when I'm stressed. I think that makes me more likely to go shopping.

Then I realize that my closet is full of things I don't need and I end up cleaning out every few months. I want to stop this cycle and am wondering if anyone has any experience with this and any advice. to help combat it, everyone brainstormed that in the comments was very helpful, but I think one thing she recognized is that I think when I'm stressed is when I shop well, so there's something about having to get to the bottom of it. what am I doing this first of all and do you like shopping when you are bored, tired, sad, frustrated, lonely?

Well, because when you pick up the phone now, even if you want to mindlessly scroll through social media or do something to unplug, it's always right there, that's what I feel, it's just as tempting as it used to be, you had to physically go to the store , so you had the opportunity to stop or control yourself or be accountable that you have to tell someone where you are going now 8:00 at night no one tells you to go to bed, yeah, so here are some of the ideas, although from the comments, one was learning where your stuff comes from, learning how the fashion industry is a big part of our environmental waste and how it damages the environment.

Brands acted during the pandemic and how little they care about their workers, yuck, yeah, it's hard and I know you were recently talking about your new sneakers, what do we call them? Are they tennis shoes? No, I think we're supposed to call them. sneakers are high top. I called them shoes and they corrected me. So they are high-top sneakers. Well we had a really fun conversation on D's channel so we'll link to that too but honestly this sweater is from Amazon and even like I was

buying

it and I'm like don't do it don't do it right but I'm saying it's the color that I want like it's cute it's easy it'll be in my house in 2 days and it's super It's easy to return if it doesn't fit me so there's that convenience that like me I need something in this color now even I think that You shouldn't have done it that way, but it is what it is, we are all working to make better decisions and we

actually

have a great alternative for you that we will share a little later in video number two.

Oh, this is a good option. Stop using donations as an outlet. Charity shops are a gateway to pretending to be discarded. they're helping the poor or getting a second life where instead they're just contributing to our passion for disposable consumerism and we

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have to visit their group, we really talk there, yeah, like we're not going to let them go . the hook like if you want to change and if you want to make some changes in life we ​​are going to help you. I like that so we got to Vis with Matt Paxton uh recently at our minimalism masterclass and he said if you go.

Go to any Goodwill store or thrift store, you won't believe how much is thrown away, our thrift stores are overflowing and that is why we have often said that you don't even have to feel bad about throwing things away anymore because we have consumed too much over the years. While the stores are full, many stores have limited the donations they receive, they are very picky about what they receive because they have too much and again we think, oh, if I donate it then. You know, I don't have to feel so guilty, unfortunately, that's not the case anymore.

Number three, start trying to reach out to family and friends to address stress. Okay, make plans, do things, don't go shopping. This will have a genuinely positive effect. effect on anxiety instead of hiding it behind impulsive purchases, yeah, right there I think if we can recognize when we pick up our phone, we're looking for something, you know, and we're looking for a connection, we're looking for Dess. Looking for some hope or some peace and so finding real ways in real life to connect with people and that can be texting that can be FaceTiming, you can, you can still use technology, but recognize that, oh, This doesn't really stop my stress. cycle, this is actually just contributing to it, so okay, what are some healthy ways I can find to share my load right now?

Yeah, I think I get frustrated sometimes because I really like a lot of the influencers that I follow on Instagram, yeah, but but. How do they make a living? Affiliate links selling you something. Always some of those girls. I'm like your closet must be so full of clothes because of how much you show off every day. Damn, I just wanted to be your friend. I don't want you to sell me all your junk, you know? And then I have to stop following them because I have also noticed that I can't go to social media at night.

I don't make good decisions. Impulse. anything someone wants to sell me and they make it look so good, so I had to stop following anyway. I really try. I don't go on social media at night. Instead I read fiction, blah blah blah, which actually brings us to number four. which is understanding dopamine, so take a look at what they found about dopamine levels while shopping. It's almost entirely in the buying and choosing stage, where the actual purchase does nothing to alleviate anxiety. You can fill your basket online and then just drop it off, make sure you're not receiving marketing emails so you don't get the "you forgot things in your cart" emails so I thought it was also really good to understand how it works and it really is true.

I know that's one of the tactics out there. There are many tactics like taking out your credit card. Look, it's not that easy to verify. Put it in your C and leave it there for a day or two, but it really is true and I know a lot of you have said, "Leave it." in the cart, let it sit and then see if you really still want it and the nice thing about retargeting is that if you like it, you consider it in someone's like stories directly on Facebook or Instagram and you say H, okay, like you.

Look at it for a moment, maybe click on the link and then scroll past it, it will appear again. You have realized? So let's take this as a positive and say, "Well, I'll have another chance." I'm going to get away from it, I'm going to get off of it and then it's going to come back up and then I can decide if it's something that I really need and usually the second time I'm like, oh no, I understand I don't want that, I don't need that, I know that well. , so we're talking about how to stop shopping just to share some of our favorite ideas for Mother's Day coming up because I know a lot of us, especially because We're decluttering We want to live more simply We're like What do I order?

I have some really cool new finds that I am very excited to share with you and that would be very practical, beneficial and useful for you. so let's quickly go over those number ones. I have to mention that the take your home course is on special right now for a few more days for $94, you get the full course, you get the next full course all day long. order to be made on Saturday April 2 7th. This is a time multiplier. You could spend Saturday April 27th for 8 hours ordering on your own and you are welcome to do so.

It's awesome, great, do it right, but I'll give you your money. If you don't find this, I think it's a time multiplier because if you spend eight hours ordering with Cass, Dana and I, you can easily make three times as much, we will, absolutely, it's a 365-day, one-year money-back guarantee. yeah, make the mess the next day all day too, you can even make the third one and then ask for your money back because we firmly believe, oh, should I show you what I just got here? Wait a second, I got a Mother's Day Gift, so I don't have to, yeah, okay, so Jackie, our partner, is super cool, uh VA, who takes care of all the details.

Did you know that this is the tenth day of cleaning and we are as if we have done 10? 80 hours of De cluttery live with you and us and of course what it says on the back so we're ready to go. It will be very fun. We've learned a lot over the years of doing this and the areas. that we are focusing on garages, storage spaces, offices and craft rooms, we have never done that before, so this whole thing Daya blows me away, you can choose the area you want to work on, but that's me, so good.

You feel like you should join in too well. I think it's very timely since it's spring for garages and storage spaces because you're in that spring cleaning mode and that's perfect, yeah, okay, there you go, so if you're driven, keep going. you can pay it back, I love it, I mean yeah, it's not a push because this is proven, it's a test of time by investing in yourself absolutely and if we could help you do it faster, why not? and then you can move on with your life, right? I say, move. as a volunteer, help people do something else, you are much more valuable to our society if you are free and can help, then anything you can throw away or because the donation centers are overflowing anyway.

I'm done, okay? a Wala water bottle like the best, I have two of these, I got the white one, now they have some calmer colors, but they also have fun colors, you will never want another water bottle, um, and then this is so cool I'll make one complete. video in this book, but it's called House Rules by mcquillin Smith and it's something like that. Di Hospitality Book also has her gift ideas, it's just beautiful and it's 100 interior design

tips

that anyone can do, like why curtain rods aren't. the right height and why your gallery wall doesn't feel right and I like it so good.

In fact, I want to give you this book because it's so good. You can actually have it and it's so much fun and it's like It's lovely that you like sitting at our coffee tables, you're going to learn so much through this, so anyway I just got a shot of dopamine, oh shoot, in I actually need to give it to you on Mother's Day. I'll finish it, okay, thank you. get it again that's great oh no I love it I told you about these I didn't love it moms I was showing it to her the new one um they're like cleaners what are they?

They are more like toner pads for your face that hydrate well no, be honest, you really like them, you love them, it's okay, I don't get into skin care much, this product is actually a GameChanger, if your skin gets aerates on the dry side, it's totally like that. I didn't even put moisturizer on yesterday after using them. It no longer surprises me in Minnesota. I don't know, maybe it gets too dry here and it's just our skin type. I don't know, they're so good, they're a little bit. expensive, that's why you order them for Mother's Day.

I don't recommend these types of products because I think everyone has different skin, it's all no, this is something I think everyone would benefit from. I was going to say you could. cut them in half I feel like we used to do that we did it to make things go further, I know and since you know what I do with the last little bit, I was going to tell you this, I put it in my hands, oh look, put it here, it's well, maybe it's alternative because, actually, look at my hands. I know I feel like it makes fine lines and stuff.

I know better, yeah, I know, yeah, I know you're like you need it, yeah, alternative, okay, it's so good and I haven't done well, it's good and they're only available on Amazon, but it's an American company who likes cool ingredients. I usually don't like it, you've probably never heard me promote any type of what I've given. his skin takes great care of himself all the time, yeah, oh I know, I bet it's in the dishwasher, this was your idea, huh. She's nice, she's a little dirty, but I think if I contain it, it won't be like that.

I do not know why. Is this so nice to drink? It is light. Yeah, okay, looking at the coffee. I don't know if that's it. I think it's the weight. I think it's very nice. Wait. I told you. No, I do not understand. Um, they haven't actually broken or anything. You think maybe I broke one. I actually did, put it in the dishwasher and slammed it against another ceramic mug. I don't care, I love it and I will buy them again, okay yeah. It hasn't happened to me, so these are great. I would ask this if you are a coffee or tea drinker.

Okay, now the next one is like talking about knowing where your stuff is made and where it comes from if you want to feel. That's cool about the gifts you're giving for Mother's Day, both Di and I are Trades of Hope affiliates and well, I don't know, can you describe it? You'll probably do a better job describing it. Oh, we can empower artisans around the world. world to be in safe working conditions where they are treated fairly and earn a good salary and often a womanwho comes out of poverty takes 10 people with her, her children, other family members, even people from her community, and thus knowing that we can provide them In this safe work environment and many times also in developing countries, Women have to go to a field or an industry or whatever to work and their children are not safe, so this allows many of them to work from home or from a safe place where they can know how to keep and protect their children. too and they maintain them.

I love them so these necklaces so I have three of them how to make the layering necklace but a lot of them are for a certain cause so this one gives 10 life saving meals to a baby facing malnutrition extreme and it has a little bumblebee on it and it's beautifully packaged and when you turn it over it shows the story of the artisan who made it, but what I also love is that it's good quality, so you have this bold link necklace. Use it literally and the finish is still there. I use it in the shower.

I haven't taken these earrings off in over a year and look, you wear them all the time in the shower. Everything that you never take off. Well, no, because they have a backup so they don't stab you with the publication. CU, they circle around. I turned it on, I don't take them out. One of my friends asked me if it was permanent jewelry and I thought: what is it? Have you heard about that? I don't like. It's like this is my permanent Jewish jewelry. I know these are my daily news. Well, now I have two pairs.

There is also a small earring. I have these because I always used them. These like diamonds are earrings. I thought of you when I saw them yeah they're perfect so now and I never knew they were from a friend so I couldn't link them so all my favorite earrings I could never link and now I can like them they're fun they're amazing and they have just the right amount um and so on and then this, well, don't take off the jewelry, but this little bumblebee plate, yeah. Well, that's perfect for your rings and earrings, but I don't have little hands that can reach the dresser now, that and then it's really fun if you need trivets, which I do, you actually have the Bumblebee and um, but again.

It comes very well packaged, you can see the Artisan, oh yes, on the new wallet. In fact, I need something like this, in fact, mom was also asking for something, oh, that's right, okay, we'll give it to mom, okay, but again you can see the candy. lady who made it and by hand real leather oh look how cute it is inside too oh that's yes Made in India wow we also have something for everyone we have jewelry we have clutches and bags we have HomeGoods there beautiful I I love the colors of HomeGoods and any income What you get from the affiliate link goes directly to helping more women so you can feel super good.

Oh, we forgot the shipping code and right now $5 flat rate shipping on anything you buy, so that's Always good to know too, but you can know that you're helping women. You know we were talking about this in Diana's video and we'll put links to her videos too, but sometimes when we hear about trafficking and all that stuff, and especially if I have daughters, oh my gosh, it's like, what can I do? good? You can agree, I'm like now I'm just going to wear this jewelry in the future, so if you watch some video and we, Julie are like, oh, I wonder where Julie is.

It's from Trad of Hope, so I can do it, I can give it to other women and then it helps them learn about it too and then they can give it to other women and we can have such a big impact, so damn, um. but how cool is that, so we can do something and it feels really good, especially for people who are like I don't know what to get them, you give them something like this, how cool and they get something useful like me. I love it, there are also many different causes, like this one for feeding hungry children, this one is for education, so you can even choose your cause or if it's important to that person too.

Okay, we could go on all day. I know and Di has been working. with them for a long time and you've had a great experience Rock Solid Rock Solid yeah, okay, I have some other things, um, I have a leather travel bag, I mean, I don't know, I want to get it. Get up and walk to the bedroom again it's beautiful it holds up really well so I'll list it as a travel bag so if you need something like that um oh I have mixed mosaics have you seen my gallery wall ? No, right there, oh yeah.

I mean here's my description of the mixed tiles, well let me grab one, oh they're magnetic, oh yeah here it is, I don't have one, I paid for these, not an affiliate, no nothing, that's how I describe them mixed mosaics, expensive but super convenient because there is literally like a magnetic thing on the wall, you put a piece on the wall, they stick, you can straighten them, you can move them, you can change the order, the images just come right on them, but no you can change the photos. Without glass, they are very light, so if they get stained or dirty, I don't even know what you would do about it, which is why they are expensive.

I paid for them myself, even with some kind of code from some influencer and I have been thinking about this for like a year before I finally did it, it was still over $200, okay, for eight, okay, that's not It's cheap, but it's convenient and it's an instant gallery wall, so you know, everything in life is trade-offs and then you decide. So there you have it, it looks beautiful, it could be a good gift for Mother's Day, so, uh, cake pan, we still have our $5 cake book, you can print it and all the others, which all The proceeds will still go to Dorothy's house in Mexico, so we'll do it. definitely put a link for that, you can make a little gift basket with a muffin pan and some of the ingredients, but also maybe we won't have to give anything to anyone and we can just spend time together and stop shopping and oh what !

Well, you know, okay, gifts, bad, sorry, I forgot, I'm giving you the book, okay, I bought you the book so you can get to know the people in your life and, if the gifts are important, the rest was so, especially this San, I could have done it. I sent my husband to the store with my two oldest kids on Christmas Eve like, Sorry, you have to get a gift for your mom, like, kids have to get a gift, like, yeah, okay, so you do it, okay. I think I know the people. like our mom, I think if we go out to eat and spend time together, I think she's fine without a gift, yeah, um, but she wouldn't mind, I don't think it's fine, I don't know, yeah see, maybe I Yeah.

Just looking through my filter, I think you might be, okay, it's F, I find it anyway, but I hope you find some of these ideas helpful too, and if you're feeling lonely and find yourself scrolling and shopping, call to a friend. Unfortunately, people unfollow on social media, go watch The Minimalist Mom on YouTube, yes, watch a documentary on how this is all done. You know it's true, don't you? Yes, but each of us will do what we can. you know, and I even hope you can join us in messing things up. It feels so gross to get rid of all the things we spent money on, but take it away like it's not even close to the things we used to have in our house.

I stayed like for the most part, you know, really sorted, so get it out, get over all the unpleasant feelings and then we move on and we can do better things with our life that are so good, oh, tell everyone about your 30 days of volunteering, oh, I was feeling. a bit cooped up this winter i had a new baby i wasn't sleeping long story anyway i decided i need to get out of the house and i need to help other people so in may i'll just be an experiment and i'd love to you can join me.

I'm going to do some act of service or something good every day. It may be something small. Text someone and encourage them. I have some important things at work. You have big things, so if you want. To join the journey, you can sign up for my email list below and I'll send out a little printable in May. We're going to give away some prizes at the end. The gift person has to give away prizes, um, but then Let's travel together and see how it makes us feel and you know what doing good does for us. I don't think I can commit to the 30 days, but I'd like to join you in making the calendar like bingo. card so you can make a diagonal, you can make a postage stamp, I got it or blackout, I can do it, okay, very good, yes, it's doable, it should be manageable, but you know, and for people who are in one place where they can really volunteer. here constantly like once a month, which is what I'm looking for too, so I'll encourage you to do that too, so I'll meet you where you are.

I love it, so we'll make sure there are details for that. Next, tell us what your favorite Mother's Day gift you've ever received is. It is fun. And I really hope to see you on Saturday the 27th and we can order together. It is fun. It's such a fun day. We laugh, we cry like it's so much fun, your favorite football shirt, especially if you have a number 10, go get them right. I love you. I hope you have a very good day and see you soon.