GIRL CHAT VAULT: Women Happier in Affairs?!

Oh, who's excited for some

girl

talk? Well, listen up men, if you've noticed that your

girl

has been a little

happier

lately, it may not be a good thing because, according to a recent Marie Claire article in Affairs, then hearing what I said that

women

are more happy in Affairs, which you know, Chris's book is okay, okay, well, a woman a woman in the study said that cheating actually helped her marriage because her boo side gave her the satisfaction and connection that she was missing with her real husband. worked connection, I know, but I'm a little confused because she is seeing the secondary boo and choosing to stay in her marriage, so I never understood why someone is unhappy in their marriage, chooses to stay and is just happy. outside of marriage, why don't you leave?

I think that's selfish, it's cowardly, but in the long term this doesn't work. In fact, I think this is true. It's okay, because exactly as she stated, you feel satisfied in the area you are in. The lack of your relationship in an external place, even due to the fact that she I think she makes you one, can make you seem like a better wife right now because you are not nagging your husband as much if he wants to go out. like, yeah, have fun with your friends so you can sit at home and text your other boo or make a phone call, whatever, right now it seems like that, but in the long run this will never work, it's a terrible idea.

It doesn't work in the long run, yes, I agreed to make a situation more complicated than anything else. I think

women

have such a strong mindset that we can actually compartmentalize the parts of our mind that we want to make happy, you know, if you're in your marriage and you know the house situation is nice on paper, it looks good, You have the kids, you don't have to subject a guy to divorce. I could understand it, although I don't approve of it. I can see how a woman could leave, let me. she go get my six physiques and come home and then play wife and make it happen.

I don't think she'll last now, she won't, but I don't agree that the men would be any less happy in Affairs if they could escape. with that because I truly believe that if a man were a cheating man, if he could be a cheating man and never get caught, he would be absolutely happy in that matter. I agree with that, I'm not saying it, but Lonnie, you. They've talked about this before about what they think they can do until they run into a woman they fall in love with and that's the problem: a man thinks he can do that and then they fall for it and then it's like, I can not wait.

So I can answer your question, Tam, sometimes people are in long-term marriages and something happens where maybe there's an illness or something and they might cheat because of that and they don't want to leave the marriage because they're committed. with him, but maybe they're so guilty of leaving a right spouse or something now, that's supposedly, I guess, what Ashley Madison was supposed to be for the website last turn, yeah, well, it's supposed to promote it is a life on the party website that allows people to perform. outside of your marriage and that's okay, Ashley Madison Madison is a website that's supposed to fly under the radar, but it's for people who are actually married to get together with other people who are married and do their thing on Don't Ask, Don't Tell. kind of thing and the website was thought to be strictly at first it was strictly for people who had spouses who were sick.

I think that was the thought process of okay, now it's just you, what if these battles of secrets are honestly, what if the sick? The spouse discovered that this would make them feel even worse. They really like it. I'm going to die now. You know that there are marriages without sex. It's true and you know it because they stay out of convenience and still consider marriage. okay, people get married for different reasons yes, people you know, there is a thing called convenient, yes, marriage politicians, oh yes, you see that many, yes, there are many open marriages that work for their own reasons.

I remember this is an interesting question when I was thinking about getting divorced, a friend of mine asked me, "Okay, Jeannie, before you go there, if you could have sex somewhere else mm-hmm, if everything else is okay?" at home, would it really work?", that would make you happy and I thought about it because you know. when it comes to divorce you start to get desperate you're like you don't want to you don't want to get to that place I thought you were talking about an open marriage and then I thought no, I actually wouldn't do it because in order for me to have satisfying sex, everything Else you have to be fit, you have to be well, healthy and happy, it's not just a physical thing for me, so I said no and she said okay, that was the right answer because if I said yes, then you shouldn't get divorced because there are ways to fix sex in a marriage, which means there are other things you can work on to feel attracted to each other again and that was a really powerful thing for me and for anyone who is. thinking about divorce, if it really is just the sex, there are things you can do to make it better again, but if it's not, everything else has fallen apart, then that's where you need to think, it's the money for me, try marrying me and I say no, I'm not getting married, what would happen if they broke up the marriage?

They got married and he had money and then something happened and he lost his money, but you really loved him, you're saying you would. I don't want to get married because that kind of circumstances and every one of their wigs and this is a fan in the sense that we'll move on okay the thing is there is a fear that women always want to get married there are some. Women who will want to get married there are some women you know we have a new day and we can take care of ourselves and we just like being single there is nothing wrong with that or that I think sometimes when a woman like me says that then people instantly He says you're selfish you're not you're not right I don't want to end up with a side guy and say it makes you happy you stay single and you recognize what you want to need for your life, then go and get married, you're not happy and you end up cheating like a article that discusses the one phrase all men should eliminate from their vocabulary if you want, that's right, there are mega women who are tired of asking a guy if he wants her to do it. come and the guy answers you if you want the article says that women want to know that you care and that you want them to come see some news, it says that the fact that the phrase is really respectful because it gives women the option of whether whether they want to come or not, it's okay, it's like a gentle rejection that I really just don't care, but if you want the worst, I want it to say, you know what I miss you, I really would.

I know I don't want you to go out of your way, but I would really love to. I would really appreciate what the phrase is again. I don't even like it. What if you want if you want? My problem with if I want, if you want, lack of enthusiasm, yes, lack, oh my God, the way they talk, know the gentleman in the audience, you three, anyone use that phrase if you want, I mean, do you use it?, gentlemen are real fans, not here No, why do you give it to the one who said yes? The brother, the brother said yes, yes, and the turtleneck, I think he said, why do you say that?

I'm just saying yes, go ahead and do what you want, but does that indicate that? you are not so similar while you are in Taseer, are you not so exaggerated that you want to want to be with her? That means no? Yes, I want to be with her, but you know, if I say yes, you know she might want to do something else. Well, go ahead and make one if she says, Hey, she was thinking about coming to your house. What do you think? Come on, what does it mean to try to play tough games? Never win and date a man and a woman is that your lace is my wife.

Here, what is her name, ma'am?, my name is Lisa, now, how would she feel if she knew?, if she knows, she said: does she really want to come? and he says: if she wants. It offends me because I want to be the one, I want him to be more intuitive, hey, I was thinking about stopping by, you're feeding the man, well, you want to use him to get him to take the bait, don't look at him and see, yeah, there's another one there now that I don't want to and I'm calling another person there's another one that I'm listening to and I don't like it okay tell me if you found this if you're in the dating world when they ask you WYD what are you doing okay then you answer and I think the Most of us women usually never sit around waiting for you to call.

I was going to do the laundry. I went to the gym or to the trucks. so much because you've been doing it in the first place, why are you asking nicely? That bothers me a lot and that's what kids do nowadays and it makes me wonder, were you asking that because you wanted to see if we weren't doing anything? You could insert yourself into our plans, you know what I'm saying? Because it makes it a lot harder for me nowadays when kids like Friday the 17th. I have a musical to buy. You come with me. I love that he is choosing you.

Upstairs we're red oh my god what does what you're doing mean? I don't know when they hit so it's like you know. I just look at him like a greedy guy, I mean, uh, yeah, nothing, how are you? Know? then we go back and forth, you know, but let's say they beat around the bush and they don't like to ask you out, yeah, tell you what they want to do if they don't ask me, yeah, I feel like they don't like me, so I keep moving, I keep moving yeah okay my thing is if you like someone and you know it's cool look when you date online the same way I date online and you meet a lot of guys so you gotta divide and conquer you gotta than to see what they're about, okay, it usually starts with the text, you know, you find them in context and then what I have, I have higher standards, so if they say bless me for the coffee, yeah, and for me I feel that you're cheap because you're not, because or you're dating a lot of women and you just want to spend five dollars on me, you know, I mean boring, I'd rather you said, let's have dinner because that's completely different for me, yeah, okay, I just don't do it.

I know, I'll see you in two weeks and then we'll go out with you, we'll have a text conversation and then we'll have a phone to meet him. a little bit and then we but I hate for me I hate coffee so I thought what you're doing or we're meeting up is he's just being nosy he just wants to know what she's doing during the day or maybe you feed her ego sending him text messages. I don't know what the point is of a guy just texting you how you're doing. She's saying they don't comply. I won't wait for you because it seems like you're very busy, so I think many times yes. a person is texting you, they say what are you doing? because she knows you're busy, she's like me, you know, I'm always here, I'm beer, beer, so they're like, what are you doing?, they could be. like where did you go, what's going on with you, but her, what's she doing and then they're cool and then I think you should take a different approach towards the UK and do an experiment, okay maybe when you actually tell them what you're doing.

What you're doing at Jeannie is always doing something right, so you tell them you're not available for them to write verses, maybe even if you're doing crazy stuff directly with them, nothing, just chill, what's up, nothing, yeah, experience from real life, okay, so this guy I really liked. what's getting to me and it was like always what you're doing and we never had time to hang out, it got to the point where I brought that up. I thought it seems like I really love you, it seems like you really want to hang up, but I need you to be assertive and I'm like reeling like I'm at peace, so I'm going to do it right away, so next time you ask me, what are you doing?

I thought I had some plans, but I want to prioritize you. If you have them, he's fine, great, fine, he hit me and I said why are you asking and he doesn't say anything. He just wanted to know weird, you're super mature and guess what it wasn't, that's weird.