Girl Chat Vault: Is Anything Off-Limits During Pillow Talk?

Uh, speaking of

chat

ting when you're getting too comfortable with your boo late at night, you know, yeah, how real are you? You're earning this for a really good moment right there, how real are you keeping it? A recent article on Madame Noir asked if there should be any topics that are off-

limits

when it comes to

pillow

talk

, such as would you ever tell your man about your friend's relationship drama or Would you tell him confidential things that happen at work, ladies, what is your

pillow

protocol? Well I think. when you're married it's different, I think if it's work stuff you can absolutely tell your husband, sure, best friend stuff or friend stuff, in fact I think if you have a great husband, they appreciate the fact that you you are a great friend. and they don't want to hear those things like if you told your friend no it's true you wouldn't tell anyone that means no one yeah so I think that's great but at the same time you should be able to tell them everything, but I think he will appreciate the fact that some things you have told someone else that you are loyal to your friends and they will applaud that yes, pillow

talk

is very important to me, yes, because I am sapiosexual, you know, I am writer.

Really, very well, tell me if any of you ladies agree that a sapiosexual is someone who is turned on by intelligence and stimulating conversation, yes, but most people don't, some people are really attracted to it first because of looks, money or things like that, yes, no, that's all. about the conversation, so pillow talk can really do me good, like most women do, if you look, just saying for me, if you kiss this mind, she will follow you, so I want my pillow to wait, I want talk about giving us an example, yeah, yeah, so okay, okay, okay, real talk, okay, I shared this with you before my pillow talk.

I'll give you a good example, a bad example, I know today when I meet men and have pillow talk if it's stimulating. you're talking about dreams, goals, um questions that you want answered in the world, like a real topic, um, uh, I like to talk about, I like to talk about world change, I like to talk about things that you want to do in the community and that you like the things you have done. done as a trade deficit no no no someone you've helped someone you've helped recently I like it if I hear from someone you've personally helped in your life that turns me on if I hear about your family situations and what you're doing to play a role in your family to help change that thing that turns me on um if you don't care and you're talking about things like um if you're gossiping all the time yeah, if you're just talking about you complain during pillow talk, yeah, you're raising older people in all relationships, oh my gosh, um, if only if your pillow talk is boring or if you just roll over and sleep, everything dries up, okay, but here's the thing. about wait, you're a single pillow, talk a lot if you're single and if so, like the first or second time, usually the guy is trying to impress the woman, so chill, you know, he's going to say something , If that.

I was going to say that my pillow talk led me to realize that my my my ex and I were no longer compatible, that made me realize that we had nothing to talk about oh you're pillow talk to your ex with my ex, yes. that pillow talk led me to divorce, it led me to realizing that we're not connected anymore and there's nothing you're doing that's turning me on and I'm pretty sure I am too because he probably likes to talk about things That I, wasn't it that I wasn't passionate about it? You know I love you.

I want that ability when he jumps into bed with you. I want to get out of bed differently than I came in. Oh yeah, that's good. I have a question. Is it the conversation before sex or after sex well, I'm trying to think, okay, wait, I think pillow talk is just that intimate moment when you're around and when you're not around, you guys like it on reel, I'm really trying to think if I even talk about pillows because yes, I've talked about, you know, when you have some kids, no, no, no, no, when you have two kids and they run in and out or whatever, because our kids They were one as if sleeping. in her bed, you know, at night, but Aria right now started in her bed and now she's just getting in, so if we're going to get it, we just have to understand it, you know what I mean, so yeah, like we Let's go to bed, he looks.

I look at him and we're like oh yeah, come on, let's hurry up and do it and then I guess that's our pillow talk, but like I said, when you're single, okay, and you and you, if it's multiple people, safe sex, okay? ? I know that sometimes after you know you do, you share certain things because maybe you want to impress that person and there's a vulnerability that happens when you're in bed together, so it's not like that, even when I was single, I think the pillow talk I was before, that's not pillow talk, it's like an interview in a restaurant, yeah, I like conversation for me, what's your five year goal, yeah, that's mental joy, I mean have sex, no, no, and then once you do, I won't.

I don't know, I just want to go to sleep, shut up now, I don't want to be, no, because please, I'll say this. Sometimes you can find out a lot about when you arrived, you know after he broke free. didn't happen, you could find out a lot, but there are some annoying people afterwards, really annoying people and I'm sorry, but I have a lot of friends and a lot of them told me to just post this, uh, yeah, genius, yeah. Okay, uh, no, no, I'm just saying about pillow talk, you can talk to them, but don't bother with that, like not talking to someone to death, where you're like, oh, of course, I asked him.

I just finished a bunch of questions and now she wants to talk about world peace like sir, no it's not that deep, it's really when they're done and you just hug each other and it's just you. They both feel the vibe like a conversation, sometimes they want to roll over and go to sleep, sometimes they want to eat something, but when they're going to talk, I think you're right about that thing about Lonnie as a man. he's in bed with you and he's happy and he's satisfied and he opens up and there's things and then you can talk to him about things that he's not trying as hard on that's right y'all yeah yeah that's it no I'll say that I love it, yes, yes.

That's bomb, but wait, I'm trying to, you know, talk about guys or when they're so grateful that they're like they're overwhelmed by how much they love you or how they feel about you or what a bombshell you were. Like they were like oh that was amazing he said you know he knows he just hasn't cried it's not even okay this is getting now he's like oh my god I'll ask him like Adam come on cry what ? Okay, wait, Adam, guys, have you ever seen the movie? Stella got her groove back and she's in the shower, yeah, and she sheds a tear during, yeah, okay, has that ever happened to any of you?

Yes, they have a weight problem, yes. People here were like, yeah, oh, yeah, sure because it was so good, yeah, yeah, okay, I was like, okay, I can't be the only one you'd be like and it's like it's not even like a no. , No. a tear just comes out of your heart and you say I don't know if I cry because when in that moment when it's so good and you're happy you say, yeah, you've never been so tense with just one tear that you don't need it's not intentional it's not emotional it's nothing that's literally like that it was amazing and it's a really nice release oh jesus no i pray that about your life you talk about what happens in the bedroom a new study from the Journal of Sex we actually found that men have better sex with emotionally unstable women, maybe that's how my tears come out, you heard me right people, okay, researcher Julia Felton found that women who have feelings of worthlessness have low self-esteem and insecurity.

It turns men on much more than women who have their shit together, this is where it gets weird, yes they found that these women are less likely to talk about their needs in the bedroom which gives the man more control and satisfaction, so ladies, do you think this is true, this makes a lot of sense to me, oh, it does, it does. Here's why I think the theory of unstable women in the first place is that they are generally more insecure and unsure of themselves, so with men or maybe with men who aren't. They have no confidence in themselves, the only way they can feel dominant is in the bedroom, so I think they think sex is better because they can control a woman who is not the kind of man I want to be with, no man I want to be with.

I like the way you guys know me here, I'm assertive and playful, so I'm pretty, I'm pretty, I let you know that I'm confident in myself, I'll let you know where I want it, how I want it and why you're a good Dad, I've heard the complete opposite of this, in fact, I've heard the complete opposite, that is, men like

girl

s who are crazy but like crazy in a wild and sexy way, yeah, not in a crazy or crazy way. insecure because when you're insecure, most women who are insecure don't really want to have sex, no, I think it's like I don't want to take off my clothes, I don't know, I think that's stable, that was the difference in that word of crazy, yes, and I think they mean that these are the type of women who want to please the man so much that they will do

anything

, so they are more experimental, right and that's what the man is just the one who says it's better the sex, yes the man, this is coming from a men's prison, she is trying to keep the man, so she is doing everything she can to please him, then what happens, I think is that the man you know realizes that I don't want to be with her and then he tries to interrupt it.

That's when the supposed madness happens. You know, that's why you shouldn't play with someone's emotions. Not at all, of course, wait, Lonnie, although you've never heard of guys saying

anything

like that. Crazy

girl

s are better in bed like a little crazy again we're not talking about that yeah I feel uncomfortable using crazy and lunatic and stuff like that when it comes to women because I don't want to be labeled like that maybe maybe I like. I consider myself crazy I think the best word is wild when you are wild in bed when you are adventurous that is I am absolutely adventurous yes but guys I am being very real I have a specific friend who has actually said Crazy girls are better in bed and What they mean when they say crazy is temperamentally problematic, uh, but that's usually low self-esteem, something's wrong with them, they don't feel good about themselves and they need to work on themselves, they're referring to the type of girls they like. like to go behind your car and break things like that, you didn't say that those types of girls are a bomb in bed because you know why they do that, because they feel that the man has hurt them.

That's why they usually commit aggression that comes out I'm just trying to understand visually what it's like and physically how sex is better because if only one person lets you do that I'll let you do it no, but what I am What for me is good sex is when both people enjoy it. Do you see what I'm saying? It's a two-way street, but it seems there's a man here who satisfies. Yes, oh, the girl is enjoying it properly. She yes, she is thinking that she is going to keep this man by doing certain things, there are certain things that you won't do sexually no matter what, yes, there are certain people and women that if I do this I will keep him, oh gods no.

That's what we're talking about, yeah, what I'm saying is that it's boring if you're just pleasing the man, well, did the man ever call any of you crazy before, no, never, well, never, oh, I mean, I know They are crazy, yes. I think I called. I called How do you like to get angry with someone or how? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm the only one, but I thought of someone and then the make-up sex will be extra, you know? and they on that, yeah, crazy too, I think I'm a little crazy, no, no, I mean, we both do, we've had good conversations about it, I think she, I think Tam can't be crazy at all, but a monster in the sheets.

Yes, I say it and you know what I want to mention. This is the only thing. Have you ever been with your partner and you know that you just looked at him and he is like in another world? Yes that's fine. One time it was like it was from behind and I looked at him just to see what was going on because and he was like this and I feel so good that I was like, I'm doing what I'm doing. that's fine you