A dialogue to kill the fear of public speaking | Animesh Gupta | TEDxNITCalicut

weather for 8 months of the year, it's like living in your freezer. It's okay, and I used to. I remember because I was on a limited budget. I used to save every dollar, so I would walk a few miles carrying big, heavy 15-20 kilo bags of groceries and I would walk alone to save $2 or 3. just the bus, and um, I realized you know my last name um, I'm a boo, but I assure you it's not because saving money runs in my blood, the really fascinating thing is that I needed to save that money, okay, wait for this.

I paid people in my class so they could present in my place because I was too afraid to come up and talk so I paid people, the way I started this talk was exactly like it was a few years ago. The only difference, the only change I made is that I started to answer myself and I started to ask myself what choice are you willing to make during that whole life of pain because you are hiding today, it's not going to work for you so you have to decide and of course it was difficult, but compared to the other situation, it was easy.

Many people with incredible potential. Many of you raised your hands. Many of you raised your hands when I asked if you weren't going. to have confidence coming here, you have a lot of friends, there it is, you know, as teachers, from sitting here, we know the number of people who would do brilliantly, but they don't because they get caught up in a group discussion in an interview, they They remove the credits. far from them, their ideas are stolen, they are not respected in their social gatherings because they do not speak and imagine what would happen if they began to have this

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with themselves because no one else, no matter how much someone else tells you, you are not going to have this in your head, you have to to have this

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with yourself you have to be true to yourself and imagine what would happen if you started having this dialogue with yourself and you faced the challenge, I mean your growth would just explode, right?

I had a father there, she is, so, one of those, one of those exceptional people, can you chat with her for half an hour? I don't care how impassive you are, you will break. I sit and cry after that conversation listening to their life stories and inspiring struggles at 90 years old. I thought this would be the end. Old age would catch up with his medical ailments. I thought it was going to be the end. She went to Icus. many came back, regained their health, 91 ICU visits increased, in fact, you know, to the point that if there was ever something called a frequent fly program for ICU visits, she would own half the hospital , okay, it was that regular every third. week she was in the ICU and I was thinking, you know, I'm 92 years old 93 94 I finally had it.

I was like, okay, what's going on, what's your motivation, how are you still getting your health back and she smiles and says, um, you know and she. she told me and this is one of the things she had to talk to herself about and she said: you know, even I tell myself that I can't write anymore and when I try to move I feel the pain of breaking a bone and I can barely speak , so sometimes I ask him. I wonder what's the point, why don't I give up? and then she said immediately, like immediately, she gets another sound inside her saying you've always been a fighter, so how can I?

You give up now and she musters up enough courage to write one more poem, so I thought: you know the kind of life she was choosing, paying people and walking away. I'm filling my life with anxiety, pain and regret, I mean. I don't want to be at my D point and look back on my life and say I'm a nobody. I kept running away and because you know the consequences of your choices and beliefs, um it's exactly what fills your life. with the pain or the pride or the freedom that my father experienced and for me, you know this is an easy decision and I want to ask all of you, who are really facing that problem or are afraid to speak up. in front of a crowd, are you really willing to go through that whole situation every day escaping from hiding? oh my god, what if I forget something?

What if this person thinks this about me? No, I just want to escape from this. this or you just want to get out of there, okay, get up in front of the crowd, raise your fist and say you know what, but you want to laugh at me, go ahead, because, frankly, I don't care about this audience. I care about what I will be in 10 years. What I will think of myself in 10 years. So you already know. Bring it. I want this because there is a gun to your head and those are the only ones. two options you have thanks