5 Ways to help someone struggling with their mental health | Mental Health Season - BBC Ideas

Can I just um no? I don't know what to do um um I guess I don't know what to say Sorry, sometimes you don't know what to say and you're basically walking on eggshells sometimes. It can surprise people if

someone

says you're having a good day they just expect you to say yes I'm fine and I'll do it no I'm not and some people might get confused oh oh oh and I think there's a fear of saying something incorrect do you know what I know about Mental Health I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa, body dysmorphic disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder back in 2013 and on Friday August 29, 2014 I tried to take my own life my name is fakira and I am Sandeep's mother mother is his best friend my best friend his first first tournament session um when he was

struggling

with his uh with his

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health

and uh from there, in a strange way we got along well, I think it's Love at first sight.

I like to think I'm Dr. Will Murcott. I am a

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nurse and senior lecturer at the Open University. For me, listening is at the top of the list. I think that is the first and most important step, if possible. active listening repeating some of the things they have told you so they can feel and realize that they are being

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ed that first initial conversation you had with me when my mom and dad sat me down and that's when the bubble burst For me that's when I thought at that very moment that

someone

was noticing how I was feeling, someone was noticing and monitoring my pain, just asking how you were doing, it was so crucial and so important to me at that moment, they asked you twice, you know?

Are you okay, yes I'm okay, but no, are you really okay? And then it's like, well, no, actually I'm not. I think there is a need to try to solve the problem and do something, and it almost takes some time to be able to solve it. a problem or a person and sometimes that is not the right thing to do in that situation people don't necessarily look for answers people want to be heard one of the things that I have learned as a mental or professional is that often if I try and set goals or have my own needs and desires about how someone should improve are usually wrong and from my point of view it is working with a person at

their

pace and trying to understand how they want to move forward.

You can suggest him to go. to your GP you can suggest support groups, you can suggest people doing an activity, you can go and join that activity with them so they don't feel alone, with that one size fits all, you've had a great idea. Isn't that right, Family Trust? Yeah, great, so what we do is we go to the family atmosphere and go to a coffee shop or just sit there the four of us doing our break and then what has been your positive throughout the month? Which has been? your negative we spend a lot of time insulting each other we just send each other little videos oh yeah I've been watching that and just little clips they're all just a click of a button away now you're in my pocket yeah if they're really fighting and on Breaking Point hotlines and the Samaritans also need to know that there is support out there and it's very hard to see that when you're in a dark place when you're in a dark place Yeah, one of the scary things is that kind of pressure of? what do I do if?

Because there couldn't be anything scarier than someone talking to you about ending

their

life, hurting themselves in some way. The person really also needs to know what. points you will find something acceptable or unacceptable and then you will have to do something or involve someone else. I al

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try to end that conversation as soon as possible to say look, you know I will never violate your trust, but if there are things that worry you. then maybe I have to do something about it and again, that's absolutely fine because one person will thank you later and let people know that I'm here and we're going to do this together, so if that means it's right, If you and I are going to make an appointment at the GP, we're going to go together and we're going to do this together and it's about being in the mud together, you have to keep your own emotional batteries charged because when they run out you can't

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anyone else and You have a hard time functioning, much less trying to take care of yourself.

The plane and the oxygen mask. Put on the oxygen mask first. Self-care is priority number one. I think so. I don't think you can. actually fail and that's something I would really recommend to everyone who is helping someone with mental health issues: you haven't failed, you can't fail, but you can do something, trust again, trust your instincts, be yourself, the right thing is probably what you first felt and that could have been sitting and listening just nodding or it could have been responding tell me more about that so don't worry too much don't think too much but there is support out there there are people that they will listen to you and give you advice and guidance, and it's important to talk oh my goodness, it's very important to talk, very important to talk, we had most of the talks with a lovely man, you know, yeah, it's good, it's good to have someone like Josh in my life, he makes my life better, thank you.