12 Things That Ruin a First Impression Immediately

Twelve

things

that

immediately

ruin

a

first

impression

. Scientists have shown that we form our

first

impression

of someone within the first seven seconds of meeting them, and there are definitely certain factors that can make or break it instantly. Are you ready to discover what you should and shouldn't do to leave a good first impression on other people? Then keep watching... But before you start, don't forget to subscribe to our channel and turn on notifications so you're always the first to see all our new videos. Number 12: a weak handshake. This point couldn't be more important for anyone having an upcoming job interview.

A weak handshake can

ruin

the first impression. In his research, psychologist William F. Chaplin discovered that people with a weak handshake are

immediately

judged as shy, anxious, disinterested, or even completely incompetent. This is definitely not how you want others to see you, right? Another common mistake people make is holding someone's hand for too long. Strange ! If you're going to give the right impression of confidence AND capability, remember to hold the other person's hand firmly and for no more than two seconds. That will put you on the path to success! Number 11: Keeping your hands in the wrong position.

If you are ever sitting in front of a group of people, whether in a business meeting or at a conference, you need to be aware of where you place your hands... You can put them in your lap. , but never put them in your pockets, because it gives the impression that you are hiding something. If you place your hands on the table, do not squeeze them too tightly or leave them flat with the palms facing down. This makes people feel like you want to control them! Also, don't forget the role that culture plays here. While gently crossing your hands on the table is totally fine in the Western world, this position is considered rude in Japan and India.

Research customs and culture before visiting another country. This will help you avoid awkward situations. Number 10: Chewing Gum You have to admit that it is incredibly annoying and distracting when you are talking to someone and they are chewing gum! Put this irritating behavior in a formal situation, or a first meeting with someone, and it becomes even more inappropriate. Chewing gum makes you look immature, self-centered and somewhat vulgar! So don't even think about it for a job interview. You want to show his best qualities, not his indifference toward his potential employer! On the other hand, a new study has found that in casual situations, people who chew gum are often perceived as friendlier and more approachable.

So be careful with this one, it can help you or hurt you. Number 9: avoid eye contact. Eye contact has an incredibly powerful influence on how we see someone. A 2007 study showed that people who maintain eye contact during a conversation are often seen as more confident, attentive, intelligent, and trustworthy. People who avoid eye contact, on the other hand, are seen as less sincere, more anxious, and even unattractive. It doesn't mean you have to look at people like a creep. Just don't be afraid to look another person in the eye from time to time, instead of constantly looking around!

Especially when you meet them for the first time. Number 8: Playing with your hair Statistics show that women touch their hair up to 18 times a day! It's okay if you're fixing it in the mirror. But if you play with your hair while talking to someone, you could be sending them the wrong message. First of (that): they might think you're flirting with them! But the most important thing is that a person who plays with her hair during a conversation seems insecure, anxious and uncomfortable. Traits that are especially undesirable in official situations. And when playing with your hair becomes excessively repetitive, it may even be a sign of OCD!

If you tend to do this when you are nervous, try to stop this habit. It will do you and your hair a lot of good. Number 7: Choosing the wrong conversation topics. To avoid the dreaded and awkward silence, many people are willing to talk about anything with someone they just met. But you never know what topics might make someone uncomfortable. Therefore, it is better to play it safe and avoid the general TABOO topics out there. They include health problems, money, religion, politics or personal problems and grievances. Try not to focus the conversation only on you and your problems.

That's what therapists are for! It is always a good idea to be attentive to your interlocutor. A good listener is always highly appreciated. Number 6: Invading Someone's Personal Space Just as there are certain lines you shouldn't cross when it comes to topics of conversation, the same goes for personal space. Experts put it simply: The space between you and another person depends on your relationship AND the situation. There is a certain distance for close friends and family, one for informal conversations and another for formal interactions. When it comes to meeting someone for the first time, keep a minimum of four feet between the two of you.

If you stand too close to them, you may appear aggressive. But if you're too far away, you seem disinterested. Just try to find a middle ground and stick with it. Number 5: Making Distracting Noises We've all been in a room with someone who constantly taps their foot, fingers, or taps their pen on the desk! And if you do any of these

things

, not only are you annoying everyone, no offense, but you're also giving them the wrong impression about you! Tapping can indicate nervousness, irritation, or impatience. People might even think that you are purposely trying to irritate others or draw attention to yourself.

And while cracking your knuckles can help relieve stress, it is one of the most annoying sounds, according to a survey conducted by the New York Times. It can be almost impossible to control nervous tapping, but you have to try, especially during important meetings or presentations. Number 4: Constantly Check Your Phone In the age of social media and 24/7 internet access, we have become addicted to our devices! In fact, an Android app called Locket collected data and found that the average person checks their phone one hundred and ten times a day. Even if you're just checking the time on your screen, it's extremely rude when you do it during a conversation. the other person has the impression that they are boring you and it seems that you have better things to do.

A study from the University of Essex showed that even simply having your phone on the table next to you reduces the quality of the conversation and the engagement of participants. So leave it in your bag or pocket. Period ! Number 3: Forgetting People's Names Probably the most embarrassing thing you can do when you see someone is forget their name. And it's especially humiliating if they remember yours. To avoid this awkward situation, get into the habit of immediately repeating someone's name after you've been introduced, such as: Hello, Ana! Nice to meet you. Justifying this faux pas with excuses about having a bad memory or being terrible with names won't cut it.

And when that happens, just act calmly and try to avoid using phrases where you have to name the other person. That should work. Number 2: Being Late Well, your best friend might joke with you that you're always so fashionably late. There's nothing to joke about when it comes to first impressions and being late. Showing up late to a meeting with people you don't know or have a formal relationship with is guaranteed to shine a negative light on you. You will come across as an unreliable and disorganized person, who doesn't respect people enough to value their time! There is nothing good in any of that.

So if you don't want that mass to be how people see you, don't be late! It is easy. Leave your house with enough time so you don't have to rush to your meeting. You'll be all disheveled and unfocused, and that looks bad too! There are tons of resources online to learn better time management skills, so use them! Number 1: The wrong outfit Whether we like it or not, people judge a book by its cover. And remember, they do it within seven seconds of seeing us! There's not much you can say in this day and age, which just goes to show that a lot of the assumptions people make are based solely on appearance.

In fact, statistics claim that 55 percent of first impressions are based on appearance. What's more, studies show that your height, weight, hair color, and makeup can even influence the size of your paycheck. So if you're meeting someone again for the first time, especially in more formal situations, try to be conservative in your choice of clothing, be elegant, and not wear strong perfumes or tons of makeup. You don't have to dress to the nines or anything like that, just look elegant and well-groomed. What else do you think can ruin a first impression? Tell us in the comments section below.

Don't forget to share this video with your friends and family. They need to know how to leave a good impression too! Stay on the good side of life and see you soon.