Body Language Experts Break Down Job Interview Etiquette | WIRED

Wear what you will wear to the

interview

ahead of time and feel comfortable. Make sure your handshake is appropriate. Sitting. Good posture. Eye contact but not staring at them. The human

body

is always transmitting. The question is who receives that information. The

interview

really begins before the interview outside the door, already when someone hands over a CV or their social networks. When you are parking your car. Are you taking up space that is not allowed? Are you saying hello to the security person standing there? I remember going. I once went to an interview and the person who was going to interview me was in the elevator with me.

Sometimes I give CEOs the advice to sit on that reception stool and watch the person who walks in because then you can also see how they are doing. When dealing with reception staff we evaluate each other in milliseconds, not even seconds, it's not just their

body

language

or facial expressions, it's everything they communicate, some people are already making judgments. First you must make a good impression, understanding that you must make a good impression by selling. You are promoting yourself, so you need to be confident and perceived as trustworthy and competent. know what you are going to say what they are going to ask you, prepare yourself, prepare yourself, prepare yourself, you don't have a copy of your CV and they are referring to it now you seem less prepared and if you hand it to someone, hand it to them courageously If you do it like this you know a little bit of the turtleneck like that completely different than this is who I am and this is what I have done in life when I walk in the room I have to remember that I have to be respectful of that room always make yourself known so you walk towards them you shake their hand can I sit here?

Yes, you can sit here. I have to make eye contact with everyone in that room and I have to treat everyone equally and not focus on the chair you want to sit in, but on the people who are present in that room while you do your presentation. I want to hear a strong voice I want to see an upright posture I want to see chin up confidence No hands in pockets I want to see your hands I want to see you ready to engage in an interaction I will shake hands with everyone equally I will not just focus on the oldest person status or in the leader, if you ask most people, have they ever had a bad handshake?

Yes, we've all had those horrible handshakes. Yes, it was a wet week. It doesn't matter if we meet for the first time, we align. ourselves and that we have a short handshake it's usually like this if you give me a very light handshake I don't want to grab your knuckles if you give me a very strong handshake I don't want to give I give you a loose handshake back. I'm going to try to match your grip level, especially when you're a woman. I've had so many bad handshakes because of the strength that men probably want to portray.

I still don't understand people. and master a handshake, never try to master a handshake, but what we do see is a lot of time and they keep shaking like that all the time or they hold the hand, which makes it very uncomfortable, or they feel the hand, which is like finger. that keeps all my fingers is under your wrist to the point where they touch you here or here or even here and that we wouldn't advise you unless I know you very well it's like hey, how are you, you know, so it's like oh so It's good to see you, great humans, you impress first visually, then vocally, the tone of voice, then verbally and the last is the haptics through touch, the brain catalogs all these negative things.

You have to let them set the stage and the rules don't talk about them. Does this person ever shut up some people start talking immediately hello I'm here for work and they start selling themselves they breathe you know what you're doing and you talk comfortably depending on how many people you're talking to I would always wait just to let them take advantage of the moment of interaction and tell them what they want from you, show that you are involved, that you are actively listening and that you are in the present interaction, use your hands and face for emphasis while they speak.

I want you to nod along with what they say, not too much, look like a Bubblehead, want to have a slight nod when you talk to them, especially when you're trying to show empathy when people ask a question. I'm sure you'll answer Don't be so busy talking that you don't realize they've asked you a question I want to see you oriented towards them because orientation Behavior shows interest Don't touch your clothes Don't remove lint and so on, don't even worry because be awkward, you might see a self-hug, you know that kind of thing and we don't recommend that the best conversations take place comfortably for both parties.

I sit on my shoulders too much. back and my chest out trying to be really very upright I look like a robot if you're too comfortable like that that's not a good representation you'll feel it in your body when it feels unnatural listen to yourself feel comfortable and you should feel Naturally, everyone knows it , but many people don't do it. Don't be surprised by any questions. Do a mock interview. Ask someone to ask you a few questions and see how you feel and if you are clearing your throat. and you have to hesitate too long people don't like hesitation is deadly always say thank you show them respect wait by showing them you are grateful for their time wait know how to say goodbye and shake hands maybe hand out a card if No, you can just nod and Validate everyone you had the opportunity.

This is the last time you have the chance to influence. Remember that the interview only ends when you are completely out of sight. You leave the room with proactivity and a posture that shows you are there. active or that you have the energy to go for what you want, go often if you feel that everything went very well, people can relax completely and do not leave the room with as much confidence or poise as when they entered. you're only done after you get back to your car home, so maintain that level of confidence, maintain that posture, maintain that balance, you're completely out of the room when it comes to virtual interaction, you actually have an advantage, there's actually a lot more control. good lighting is sound okay, many people have learned the hard way not to use the camera that came with their computer, go out and buy it or borrow a decent 4k camera;

You have full control of your virtual space, so you can make sure it's tidy that you don't have things that attract attention, there was someone applying for a high-level job and in the background there was only liquor, it could be in their kitchen, so you can say oh yes, well, he has liquor in his kitchen but first we drink the liquor and in our brain we make an association eye contact is really important virtually you just have to remember that now everything is exaggerated your gestures are now reduced to 27, that's it What most cameras capture and can't look at the rest of your body, so there will be more emphasis on the face.

The other difficult thing with zoom is the technique, so sometimes we have a delay on a question and that sometimes feels awkward, like, can I talk now or not? and you see. the hesitation, giving the turn is delayed a little, which can disorient the interviewee or the interviewer, so I have to be very alert about that, when they talk, look at the screen and when you are talking, look at the camera, it that people usually do. Do they look at themselves when we constantly evaluate our own non-verbals? It's really exhausting and it's very demanding and cognitively exhausting, so it creates what's called Zoom fatigue and that's going to affect our nonverbals because we're going to show fatigue, we're going to show disinterest.

In essence, the rules are the same, the important thing is that you understand that you must be especially attentive to your body

language

because there is no room for interpretation. The goal of any interview as an interviewer is to obtain information, as the interviewee must show confidence and competence. and Trust, you are going to start a conversation with that person or you are also going to ask questions or have examples that really apply. you want the other person to feel comfortable. You want to make them feel that you are someone to trust? How was this person dressed?

Are your clothes clean or do you have food on your clothes? I mean, I'm relaying here what I heard from HR. They are evaluating you because you are going to To represent me, we may have a great brand, but it is your face, your present, that will make the difference. There could be a hundred people applying for that job if you come prepared and have a genuine interaction showing that you really want it. There's a lot more possibilities in that environment than, oh, I'm just here, this is my resume, yeah, please hire me.