How to talk to the worst parts of yourself | Karen Faith | TEDxKC

We have the full spectrum. Today there is no voice in my head that I do not welcome. And although some of us are irrational, sometimes we are not bad. Even my annoying and embarrassing personality tries to help in her own strange way, but when I ask her to be clear and kind, she tells me what I need to know, exactly what she needs to feel better and what she would like me to know. But like a scared and angry mother, she only does it when I accept her exactly as she is. So while my openings for self-

talk

and focus groups seem almost identical, the outputs are a little different.

At the roundtable I hand out parking passes and remind everyone to sign for their money, but when I'm with all my characters I say, "I love you and thank you for helping me see what you see." why this practice is so helpful for all of us with our different perspectives within and outside of others. If we can greet each other with curiosity and welcome similar to that of a focus group moderator, perhaps we can do a better job of love. Because what they say is not true: "You can't love anyone until you love

yourself

." Love is a house you can enter through the window unless you can start with

yourself

, start with the person next to you now, even if you know it. him or not.

All you have to do is let them be here. It's easy, right? Wherever they are, whatever they carry, whatever talents they may or may not have, whatever mistakes they may have made, can you welcome them here? Can you welcome each other? We are here now like this. We are beautiful, strange, complicated, scary and sometimes a little terrible, but each of us deserves to be welcomed and each person who shows you unconditional welcome can show you a part of yourself to love. Welcome, thank you. (applause)