How To Eliminate Self Doubt Forever & The Power of Your Unconscious Mind | Peter Sage | TEDxPat

Why do smart people procrastinate? Why do people who are so motivated often

self

-sabotage? and why no matter how many new business opportunities we have or new skills we try to learn, many of us are simply finding different ways to make the same amount of money or achieve the same level of success, as if there were some kind of ceiling. glass over our head that we are trying to break but we don't know how, now there is one thing we can do. What I know is that this is not due to a lack of resources or opportunities as we live in a time in history where there are more resources and opportunities than ever;

In fact, there are many people who have access to resources, an opportunity that they can never really afford and take advantage of. a life change and the results are mediocre or disappointing and then there are other people who have virtually no access to any resources or opportunities and against all odds they went out and created magic so that the rest of us say WOW and we are Let's stand up or people like Colonel Sanders, who retired penniless at 65 before founding KFC, obviously, Oprah, people like Helen Keller or even Albert Einstein, who dropped out of school at 15 and then failed the exam. admission to Zurich Polytechnic, not, you see, if you want to take a master class on how to take Let's leave aside the excuse that resources and opportunities are the fundamental reason why you are not successful.

Go study the lives of the people on the screen that we see as human beings. A nervous system is programmed for comfort, while the essence of what makes us us, some would say. Our soul is programmed to grow and it is managing that dynamic tension between how good a comfort zone feels and the innate calling of our potential that lies outside of that, which causes frustration in most people and keeps them in. that hamster wheel of mediocrity. So how can we do it? We unravel it, well, let's look at the human brain and see what separates us from almost the entire animal kingdom.

The greatest achievement of human biology is the front part of the brain once known as the frontal lobe neocortex and that neocortex operates at a fearless pace. The way an alpha or beta brain wavelength is one of the challenges is that that doesn't kick in until we're about seven years old, we see kids operating in Belser and in movie theaters, that's why babies sleep so much. My children live in that. magical fantasy world where they are now operating a theater without critical thinking, that also means that children are very impressionable and why Aristotle is widely quoted as saying: "Give me the child for seven years and I will give you the man, but what happens?" When we dig deeper into it, why is it so important, why do we procrastinate or

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-sabotage?

Well, I'll give you an example, let's say it's dad's turn to take little Johnny and the kids shopping, and you know mom is Busy that day and he's a little frustrated. He has to go out and get work done and yeah, one thing you should know about dad, he has his own things to deal with right now, he's figuring out how to pay the credit card bill. credit that this month was higher than I thought. About whether the boss is going to cut his staff soon and he's still recovering from the lack of intimacy that morning caused by a fight he had with his wife, he's dealing with things like We all do it now, little Johnny doesn't live in that world.

And then when they get to the checkout, as any good retail psychologist knows, they place the products at the eye level of the people you're trying to sell to, so Johnny sees the toys and Johnny wants the toy. It's like dad, dad, can I? you have a toy and dad comes out of his you know, mine frog and says no, you can't have a toy to begin with, he doesn't think you can afford it, but now is not the time, but as parents will understand, children are excellent examples. of the ability to be persistent they are not so little joy daddy daddy I want a toy please can I have a toy look little Johnny doesn't live in a world of credit card debt and the frustration of him dealing with his things and try it? to take care of the kids and all the other stuff, Dad bursts out and says listen, you can't have a toy, you don't deserve it, you're not good enough, you're not behaving enough today and Dad thinks that's just Keep him quiet while he goes back to deal with their big world problems, you know, but what's happening now is pretty significant.

You see, little Johnny doesn't listen, that's frustration. All Johnny hears is that I'm not good enough. I'm not worth. and will probably spend much of the rest of his life

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ly acting out that behavior to justify why he is right, including self-sabotage if the threat of success appears to challenge that in a model of the world seen when he arrives. To be able to work with psychology and after thousands of hours of work with people from all over the world, I have come to know that the first indisputable law of psychotherapeutic intervention in other areas, the first indisputable law of personal growth, is that people never overcoming self opinion now one of the challenges is that opinion is largely formed in our under 7 childhood from the perception of where we believe we got or didn't get the love of the people we wanted it most hmm, usually we do. let. people sit with that for a while, it also reflects the first law of relationships which I firmly believe states that no one will ever be able to love us more than we love ourselves now.

One of the other challenges is that we are now also creatures of habit. What does that mean? That means that that prefrontal cortex, now that neocortex, that frontal lobe that serves for all that executive decision making, is a privileged place. In fact, brain waves account for 150 of the body weight, but consume 20% of all calories, so when it comes to using that the evolution of the frontal lobe has some shortcuts, it clearly says that you are using intelligence to make the decision, so it should be a good decision, so when you choose the fries instead of the salad, he doesn't care, his job is to adapt and if you make that decision over and over, instead of adopting critical thinking which is meant to serve you intelligently, delivers it to the midbrain and it becomes an

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behavior or pattern or what we also call a habit. order the fries just because it's what you do, you don't even question it now, that can be very helpful when it comes to learning, yes or no, learning to walk every day, but he also said some challenges, you see, to which we arrived suddenly. we work on our day off we don't know why or you know, suddenly we came home and realized where the last two kilometers or two miles of driving went.

Wow, how did I avoid all the good old middle brain craziness at work, but the deeper challenge? Adding to that, as creatures of habit, is the fact that we use our conscious brain only a small amount of time and that making critical decisions the rest of the time, like 95% of the time, is what I call sleeping people. wake up. I'll give you an analogy, why do you imagine that the conscious

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is an ant? Here he is a cute little responder, hardworking, hardworking, they are determined to get the job done, this is

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conscious

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, in fact, this.

One ant in particular went to a personal development seminar last week, set his goals and is marching north with confidence in the direction of his achievements. The problem is that he is marching on the back of an elephant heading south. Unconscious mind with all our limiting patterns, limiting beliefs in all the other unresolved personal problems that happen there we begin to see why we self-sabotage. Let's see how to get that elephant moving in the right direction. Well, let me give you another example, another analogy: the mind is like the needle of a compass, in fact. It can only point in one direction at a time, but when we operate from our aunt's house, that five percent of the time when we are conscious and use free will we can grab the compass needle and we can point it anywhere, That's what free will allows us.

What to do if we feel depressed we can go choose to watch a comedy or call a friend who can cheer us up if we feel low on energy we can go put on the kettle and make ourselves a coffee or a drink but 95% of the time we don't do that and as soon as we consciously let go of the compass needle it will always return to its default magnetic north which unfortunately for most people seems more negative than positive and that brings us to our third challenge and that is something you might want to get tattooed on the inside of

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eyelids and it's that environment.

Trump's will. what do I want to say with that? I mean our intention will always be overtaken by our environment over time, for example, let's say. that yeah you're a music fan but you don't like jazz, yeah it's for other people, you're kind of a country and western type guy or girl and you listen to country and western in the car when you go to work. but your car broke down this week, so your good neighbor around the corner who works at the same place offered to give you a ride, so you're carpooling the 45-minute ride to work and back for the next five days , but listen to jazz now I don't care what you consciously think three days from now I know what's going to happen three days from now in the car you're tapping your feet to the beat five days from now you're humming it in the shower, see?

We can't choose whether or not to program ourselves with programmable programming by design, we can only choose how we want to be programmed. Another way of saying it is that you can have every intention of being as warm and fuzzy as you want. You can raise your body temperature. You may like to wear big clothes, but if you choose to live in a freezer, the environment will win over time. In other words, you can read all the positive affirmations. You can stand in front of the mirror and say. You believe in yourself, but if you live with someone who constantly brings you down, someone who reminds you why you're not good enough and why it won't work, at some point you'll start to believe it. compliance law if you date nine recreational drug users.

I have news for you, you will most likely become the tenth if you date nine positive people who look at life through the lens of how can we, why can't you hold a mirror to each other's greatness be midwives to the everyone's dreams instead of stealing them you will probably become the tenth or you will leave the environment is the law of ninety-five percent of the law of conformity So how do we change that? Well, there are three tips I want to share with you that will help you change this. You know, I'm a pretty simple guy, so I want to give you some pretty simple advice and I'll break it down into three things.

The first is to stop putting the wrong things, you see, like I said, we are adapting machines, our bodies, our physical bodies adapt to our environment, we cannot choose, that we can only choose the environment in which we place them if it is the gym. or McDonald's, the body doesn't care, its job is to adapt, but the same goes for our mind, so stop putting the wrong programming; In other words, if you think about the two most important things that impact us unconsciously more than anything else, they are the mainstream media. and our peer group that we hang out with, let's touch on all media for a second for those of you who still think the mainstream media is all about reporting the news.

I have news for you, you are in Disneyland, see the work of the media. Not to report the news, you're kidding, the mainstream media's job is to stimulate another part of the brain called the amygdala, which is evolutionarily designed to notice the negative before the positive, so they can divert your attention from the mass of the crowd and record it as a viewing statistic to justify fees and media advertising is not a charity, which is why I haven't seen a news report or read a newspaper for almost seventeen years, yes for those of you who they still see things like visiting CNN constant negative news mm-hmm I have news for you, as I understand it, it's all the same news, it's the same news as it was 17 years ago, it's just happening to different people, so it doesn't you can watch the news and be positive. it's like saying I want to be healthy and I smoke it just doesn't work you can go to the gym as many times as you want but if you smoke you can't be healthy it's a binary equation and if you're being programmed by the mainstream media you can't let the default magnetic north stop being negative, it's constant programming, people say, well how do you know what's going on in the world?

You're not kidding, yes, everything is happening in the world. It's a much better question. It would be what you want to choose to focus on, think about the Amazon rainforest at night, yes it's all happening but the media wants to takeyour little flashlight in your hand and the point is, oh my god, look at this, it's a snake eating a rat. versus you saying yes, but watch this hummingbird hatch, it's a choice, so I have no idea what's going on in the world. I have all the clues to what's going on in my world and if something is important enough, it will find me, so stop.

Program yourself with why the world doesn't work and start taking charge of where you point your flashlight now the other thing is about the peer group now some people say yeah I could probably change my friends and some of us maybe should, but I can't change my family, yes, my brother is the most negative person. I know my mother-in-law always tells me I'm not good enough for her son or whatever. I know we can't change our family and you know. Looking at the reasons why you chose your parents is another TED talk, but the best advice I can give is love your family, choose your friends now.

The second thing is to start putting things right now that we live in a time in the society where there is so much great information, whether it's a podcast, whether it's inspiring interviews, whether it's well-known books or the lives of some of the people we saw before every day. or at least every week if you want to take your compass needle and start changing Nitai zhing in a positive direction by exposing yourself to the kind of information that supports your potential and your greatness about where you want to go now, there is no excuse for not being able to do that now in a society where it is so available, but if you don't choose to do it by default, you will get hooked on someone else's agenda and if you don't start filming as the star of the movie in your life by default you will end up as a movie extra in yours. another person and then in the third point you will bring to light the things that should not be there, what do I mean by that?

You know, work with a decent mentor or coach who understands how to navigate the minefield of human behavior, someone who will not only teach you skills, but someone who can reach out and find those unconscious patterns and be able to

eliminate

them for good. I will give you an example. A while ago a client came to see me and told me that he wanted to learn how to manage time. Now, a normal trainer or whatever would probably teach them some good time management skills, but in two minutes it was easy to see that the time management was good.

It wasn't the problem, the real problem was his inability to deal with rejection and therefore he said yes, he didn't say no to people because saying no would trigger a rejection response and therefore he said yes to too many things and therefore So there were too many things on his calendar and therefore he thought he needed time management. You get the idea you see when we are able to start addressing things like our unconscious programming, when we start to create the best habits we can by consciously programming ourselves when we start to grab the compass needle and point it in the right direction so that 95 percent of the time we spend sleeping awake we are able to be who we need to be, that's when we can start to achieve the real game in the city, which is personal mastery see before you spend a penny more on workshops or skills or any job in yourself see mastering one's game throughout human history has been the number one recommendation of virtually everyone who achieved it and then preached its benefits to people who normally didn't do it.

We are not listening, but by mastering our sense of self we are able to enter a room where everything is descending into chaos and retain our Center when everything falls apart around us with the eye of the storm it is like moving, I will handle it, look , that's how it is. the best way you will be able to handle uncertainty and when we commit to self-mastery we give ourselves the best opportunity to become the best and greatest version of ourselves that we can be and then we become the example and the invitation to others does not imposition no one changes because you tell people they change because they are inspired to change and we can only inspire them by being the example and the invitation and at that point we have the opportunity to really make a change in this world makes a difference, which is what the world needs right now and ultimately to be the embodiment of what Gandhi said, which would be the change that you want to see in the world, thank you God, you, you.