Simon Sinek Best Ever Motivational Speech COMPILATION - MOST INSPIRATIONAL ADVICE VIDEO EVER

you want to be a great leader start with empathy you want to be a great leader change your perspective and play the game you are really playing you don't have to be happy

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y day what vulnerability means is you create an environment in which Does anyone feel safe enough to raise their hand and say, I don't know what I'm doing, so I think the whole concept of looking for happiness or looking for a job you love or looking for love is completely wrong, it's finding an area where you can work hard and then you have to work hard to maintain it these are no longer times of peace and those models cannot work today it is not about being in charge, it is about taking care of those who are in your charge we do not always have to be right no We always have to be in charge we don't have to be the one who succeeds we keep telling them you are the future leaders we are the leaders now we are in control what are we doing?

Your whole life you will be told that you need to learn to listen. I would say that you need to learn to be the last one to speak. How can I help my people be at their

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natural state? You must understand from where. they are talking about why they have the opinion that they have not just what they are saying now who are you going to ask for help and when are you going to accept help when it is offered and that is why we have literally created cultures where every day everyone comes to work and lies, concealments and falsifications, you cannot win the game of business, the infinite player does not play to be number one every day with every product he plays to survive the competition, how can we advance our cause in a way more efficient and productive than before? yesterday the world is too dangerous and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things only empathy is caring about human beings not only about their performance you want to be an elite warrior it is not about how tough you are it is not It's about how smart you are, it's not about how fast you are, if you want to be an elite warrior, you better be really good at helping the person to your left and helping the person to your right, like this. that you are dealing with an addicted generation, this is a big time bomb for these children who commit suicide.

Go look at their Instagram and you would have no idea they were depressed if you woke up and checked your phone before saying good morning to your girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse, you have an addiction and like any addiction, it will eventually destroy relationships. , it will cost time and it will cost money and it will make your life worse. You are dealing with an addicted generation. This is a big time bomb. They get a lot worse, okay, so combine that with the facts, you have an addicted generation that doesn't have the skills to ask for help when, with the fact that they are so good at Facebook and Instagram, they are good at putting filters. in everything, so they are good at showing you how smart and strong these kids who commit suicide are.

You look at their Instagram and you would have no idea that they were depressed because they are happy and they are star athletes, right? I have no idea why they are really good, so when we say stupid things like my door is always open, you are assuming that they have the courage to walk in, combined with the fact that, to a large extent, not all, but many, are subject to failed upbringing. strategy because their parents told them they were special they could have whatever they wanted they could be whatever they wanted they got medals for coming last the kids got into honors classes not because they deserved it but because their parents complained and some of them got good grades not because they got them but because the teachers didn't want to deal with the parents and then the kids graduate from college and get a job and in an instant they find out that they are not special and they get nothing for coming.

In the end, their parents can't get them a promotion and you can't have what you want just because you want it and in an instant their entire self-image is shattered and therefore you have an entire generation growing up with less self-confidence. than previous generations, so you have less self-confidence than previous generations, combined with an inability to ask for help with the things you're struggling with and you turn to social media or the device you keep checking, you keep checking, you count your likes, you count your likes your account you follow your account your followers if someone stops being your friend oh my god, it's a trauma we are growing up in a world of facebook instagram in other words we are good at putting filters on things we are good at showing them to people what life is like It's amazing even though I'm depressed so everyone sounds tough and everyone seems like they have it all figured out and the reality is there is very little toughness and

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people don't have it figured out , so you have an entire generation growing up with lower levels. self-esteem that previous generations now add technology, we know that interacting with social media and our cell phones releases a chemical called dopamine, so when you receive a text message, you feel good, dopamine is the exact same chemical that makes us feel good when we smoke. when we drink and when we gamble, in other words, it's very addictive.

There is an entire generation that has access to a mind-numbing, addictive chemical called dopamine through social media and cell phones. They don't have the mechanisms to cope with stress, so when it's significant. stress starts to show up in their lives they don't turn to a person they turn to a device they turn to social media they turn to these things that offer temporary relief we know the science is clear we know it People who spend more time on Facebook suffer at higher rates of depression than people who spend less time on Facebook. If you're sitting at dinner with your friends and you're texting someone who's not there, that's a problem.

It's an addiction if you're sitting. in a meeting with people you're supposed to listen to and talk to and you put your phone on the table face up or face down, I don't care, it sends a subconscious message to the room that you are not just who you are. It's just not that important to me right now, that's what happens and the fact that you can't let go of it is because you're addicted. If you wake up and check your phone before saying good morning to your girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse, you have an addiction and like any addiction it will eventually destroy relationships it will cost time and it will cost money and it will make your life worse combined with the fact that there is a Institutionalized impatience, they have grown up in a world of instant gratification. you want to buy something you go to amazon it shows up the next day you want to contact someone you don't leave a message on their machine and wait hours for them to receive the message you just send them a text and they get it back to you immediately you want to watch a movie just you log in and watch it you don't have to check movie times correctly everything happens you want to get a date swipe correctly you don't even have to work up the courage to go like hey you know you don't have to do it there you have a date everything whatever you want, you can instantly have anything you want, instant gratification, except job satisfaction and relationship strength, there is no app for that, they are slow, meandering, awkward, messy processes.

And then the problem is that they are accused of having rights. I don't think they have any rights. Not at all. I think they are impatient. I continue to meet these fantastic, intelligent, ambitious, idealistic, fantastic kids who graduated from school and got a job. They want to have an impact on the world and I go up to them and tell them how it's going and they say I think I'm going to quit. I ask them why they say I'm not having an impact. Like you've been here eight months and it's like you see the top of a mountain like you're standing at the bottom of a mountain, you can see the top, you can see what you want, I want to do. an impact what they don't see is the mountain this big immovable object you can go up fast you can go up slow I don't care but there is still a mountain what they don't understand is that life, relationships and professional fulfillment are a journey there is no application for that I don't have anything you have to go through the slow and annoying process called career and life, but if they don't get it in eight months, they go look for it somewhere else, they don't get it, they go looking for something is impatience and then what this young generation you need to learn is patience that some things that really matter like love or job fulfillment joy love of life self-confidence a skill set any of these things all of these things take time sometimes we can speed up parts of the process, but the journey It's generally arduous, long, and difficult, and if you don't ask for help and learn that skill set, you'll fall off the mountain.

We're taking this incredible group of fantastic young people who have just dealt. a bad hand, it's not their fault and we put them in corporate environments that care more about numbers than children, they care more about short term profits than the long term life of this young human being that we care about . It's more about the year than the lifespan, so we're putting them in corporate environments that don't help them develop their confidence, that don't help them learn the skills of cooperation that don't help them overcome the challenges of a world digital. and find more balance that doesn't help them overcome the need for instant gratification and teach them the joys, impact and satisfaction that comes from working hard at something for a long time that can't be done in a month or even a month. year and that's why we are pushing them towards them in corporate environments and the worst thing about this is that they think it's them, they blame themselves, they can't, they think it's them that can't deal with it, it makes everything worse, no It's like that.

I'm here to tell you that it's not them, it's corporations, it's corporate environments, it's the complete lack of good leadership in our world today that makes them feel the way they do, they're just numbers on a spreadsheet and that's why They enter work cultures. That doesn't help them and the problem is that they are entering the workforce with a deficit. I hear from kids who tell me they struggle to form deep, meaningful relationships and companies don't care. I wish society and their parents would do a better job, they didn't, so we will include them in our companies and now we have to pick up the slack.

We have to work very hard to discover the ways in which we can develop their trust. We have to work harder. finding ways to teach them soft skills that they are missing and therefore is destructive to them as individuals, but will ultimately hurt companies because more and more millennials are entering the workforce. I think the responsibility now falls on companies. is even greater than ever to take care of its people because if the environments that we ask our youngest workers to work in are not designed to help them, I can't even imagine what the suicide and homicide and just the depression rates will be, You know, an accidental death due to an overdose is going to seem like it will reach epidemic proportions in the future, it already is, the statistics are already alarming and yet no one is sounding the alarm, parents have to intervene, we have to stall. give our children free access to social media and phones at young ages, they are not ready for it, their minds can't cope with the dopamine balance, okay, you can give a child a phone, but they can't use it on your room, you can't. they have it on the table they can't take it to school they can only have it until a certain time and they take it away from their children they can take the phone away we have to intervene as parents but as companies now we have to deal with the influx of children entering school our companies with addiction, are you okay?

I'm worried about you. What's going on? We all have performance problems. Maybe someone's child is sick. Maybe he is having problems in his marriage. Maybe one of their parents are dying, we don't know what is going on in their lives and of course it will affect their performance at work. Empathy is caring about human beings, not just their performance. For some reason, our world of work has changed in the last 20 and for 30 years we have been suffering the side effects of the business theories that are left over from the 80s and 90s and they are bad for people and they are bad for business, let me Give you an example: The concept of shareholder supremacy was a theory proposed in the late 1970s.

It became popular in the 80s and 90s and is now a standard form, today you talk to any public company and ask them their priority. and they tell you to maximize shareholder value, it's really like a coach who prioritizes the needs of the fans over the needs of the Players, how are you going to build a winning team with that model? But that is normal today we do not even perceive it as broken, damaged, incorrect or obsolete. Remember that the 80s and 90s were boom years with relative peace and a kinder cold war, no one. not anymoreThey were practicing hiding under their desks at school we are no longer in those times these are no longer boom years these are no longer peace times and those models cannot work today here is another mass layoff using someone's livelihood to balance the books, It's so normal Today in America we don't even understand how broken and how harmful it is not only to human beings but also to businesses.

You know, companies talk about how they want to build trust and cooperation and announce a round of layoffs. Do you know the fastest way to destroy trust and cooperation in a business? Literally in one day they fire people and everyone freaks out. Can you imagine sending someone home to say honey, I can't? We can no longer support our family because the company missed its arbitrary projections this year and forget about the people who lost their jobs. Think about the people who kept their jobs because every decision a company makes is a piece of communication and the company the company just had.

Communicated to everyone else, this is not a meritocracy, we don't care how hard you work or how long you've worked here if we don't hit our numbers and you happen to land on the wrong side of the spreadsheet. Sorry, we can't guarantee it. employment in other words, we come to work every day afraid, how could any of us stand up and admit I made a mistake, take care of each other? The United States Navy Seals are perhaps the

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elite warriors in the world and one of the Seals. He was asked who passes the selection process and who can become a label, and his response was: I can't tell you the type of person who becomes a label.

I can't tell you the type of person who manages to survive through outbreaks, but. I can tell you the kind of people who don't turn into seals, he says, the guys who show up with huge bulging muscles covered in tattoos who want to show the world how tough they are, none of them make it, he said, the preening leaders. who like to delegate all their responsibility and never do anything for themselves, none of them make it, he said, the star college athletes who have never been tested to the core of their being, none of them make it, he says, some of the boys who manage to get ahead are skinny and skinny, he said that some of the boys who manage to get ahead you will see them trembling with fear, he says, however, all the boys who manage to get ahead when they are physically exhausted, emotionally exhausted when they are not They have nothing more to give. physically or emotionally they are somehow able to find the energy to dig deep within themselves to find the energy to help the boy next to them become seals he said you want to be an elite warrior it's not about what tough you are it's not about how smart you are, it's not about how fast you are, if you want to be an elite warrior you better be really good at helping the person to your left and the person to your right , because that's how people move forward.

In the world, the world is too dangerous and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things only if you find your spark. I congratulate you now, who will you ask for help and when will you accept help when it is offered to you. learn that skill learn by practicing helping each other will be the most valuable thing you will learn in your entire life accepting help when it is offered and asking for it when you know you can't do it the amazing thing is When you learn to ask for help, you will discover that there are people around you who They always wanted to help you, they just didn't think you needed it because you kept pretending you had everything under control and the moment you say I don't know what I'm doing I'm stuck I'm scared I don't think I can do this You will find that many people who love you will rush to take care of you, but that only happens if you learn to take care of them first.

I don't like the term happiness. I like the term satisfaction. I like that. I like the term joy. You know that happiness for me is something fleeting and you can have happiness because you win. the business or you hit your numbers or you go see a movie or and happiness is wonderful and it's great and then it disappears you know it doesn't last um where deep satisfaction I think is a much higher standard, let me compare it is that you like it you don't like them your children every day but you love your children every day you don't have to be happy every day but you can be satisfied every day you don't have to be you don't have to like your job every day but you can love your job every day and I think people confuse the two and look for happiness in their work and do it in all the ways you would think they would do it in a nutshell. terms, so you know it and you see it the way that we also lead young people, which is, we put free food and bean bags and all this fun stuff in the office because we want to make our employees happy and it absolutely works. it just doesn't make them feel satisfied and they are still unhappy and they still quit or they are still not satisfied they still quit and I think this is the problem.

I think we've confused the terms because they're not, they're not the same, so I'm more interested in people finding deep satisfaction in their work and I'm sure they'll find happiness in all of that. Plus, we're constantly told that you have to be vulnerable. Leaders are vulnerable. What does that mean? It doesn't mean you walk around crying. I'm vulnerable, right. No, what vulnerability means is creating an environment where someone feels safe enough to raise their hand and say: I don't know what I'm doing. You have given me a job. and I haven't been trained to do it I need help I made a mistake I messed up something I'm afraid I'm worried about all these things that no one would admit inside a company because it puts a target on your head In case there's another round, we keep it to ourselves And how can a company perform well if no one is willing to admit that they made a mistake, that they are scared, or that they don't know what they are doing, and because of that, we have literally created cultures? where every day everyone comes to work and exaggerates lies, lies, lies and falsifications and we ask our younger generation to work and succeed and find themselves and develop their confidence and overcome their addiction to technology and Build strong relationships at work. to do this and these the environments that we have created we keep telling them you are the future leaders we are the leaders now we are in control what we are doing this is what empathy means if there is an entire generation struggling maybe it's not them it's like you know the only thing I have, that the common factor in all my failed relationships is the same, well, we just can't get the performance right or you know the performance right from our people, maybe you're right, it's not. a generation is not them, they are not difficult to understand, they are human beings like the rest of us, trying to find their way, trying to work in a place where, by the way, they feel that someone cares about them as human beings. that's what we all want, in other words, it's not even generational, it's all of us, this is the practice of empathy, if we are struggling to communicate with someone, if we are struggling to help someone be at their natural

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, I'm tired of people saying.

For me, how can I get the best out of my people? That's really what you want. They are like a towel, you just call them. How can I get the most out of them? No. How can I help my people be at their natural best? We're not asking these questions, we're not practicing empathy, we have to start practicing empathy and relating to what they may be going through and that will profoundly change the decisions we make, profoundly change the way we see the world. You're driving to work and someone wants to cut into your lane. What are you doing?

Do you stop your car? Would you let them in? Most of us stop our cars and leave like that. Wait your turn now. Let's practice empathy. I don't. I don't know, maybe they've been out of work for six months, maybe they had trouble getting the kids to school this morning and now they're late for a really important interview and they just have to get to this interview and let's get into our lane or maybe they are just bastards, I don't know, but that's the point we don't know, we don't know, and the practice of empathy will say: I will let them come in and get to work with a long car, Nelson Mandela is a particularly special case study in the world of leadership because he is universally regarded as a great leader, you can take other personalities and depending on which nation you go to, we have different opinions about other personalities, but Nelson Mandela around the world is universally regarded as a great leader;

He was actually the son of a tribal chief and one day they asked him how one learns to be a great leader and he responded that he would go with his father to tribal meetings and he remembers two things when his father met with other elders: one, he always They sat in a circle and two, their father was always the last to speak. All your life you will be told that you must learn to listen. I would say you should do it. He learns to be the last to speak. I see it in boardrooms every day of the week, even people who consider themselves good leaders and who can actually be decent leaders will walk into a room and say, “here's the problem.” This is what I think, but I'm interested. in your opinion let's go around the room it's too late the ability to keep your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken two things ago one gives everyone else the feeling that they have been heard gives everyone else the ability to feel that have contributed and two, you get the benefit of hearing what everyone else has to think before you give your opinion.

The skill is to really keep your opinions to yourself. If you agree with someone, don't nod your head. If you disagree with someone. I just don't know. sit there, take it all in and all you can do is ask questions so you can understand what they mean and why they have the opinion they do. You must understand where they speak from why they have the opinion they have. don't just listen to what they are saying and at the end you will have your turn it sounds easy it's not practicing being the last to speak that's what nelson mandela did it's seeking happiness true true it's not it's not a treasure hunt don't be it like looking under a rock be how I found happiness I found the job I love you you know it's like not even you can't find love either like you find someone who cares about you you care you fall in love I'm not sure exactly what day happened and then you work tirelessly every day to stay in love because if you stop working love goes away and it's the same at work you don't find a job that you love you find a place where you share the values ​​that you fit, they care about you as a human being, you fall in love from your job and you work tirelessly every day to take care of the people around you and you feel fulfilled, so I think the whole concept of finding happiness or looking for a job you love or looking for love is completely wrong, it's finding an area where you can work hard and then you have to work hard to keep it and the worst part is that they do too and if one of you quits then things go crazy and that goes for employees and management which is They have to work hard, but in this and so do we, so I think our language doesn't help us, right?

We don't always have it. to be right we don't always have to be in charge we don't have to be the one who succeeds it's not about winning or losing and that's where I go to the second point after empathy comes the perspective where it's not about winning or losing In theory games there are two types of games, there are finite games and there are infinite games and this is how you are going to change your perspective. A finite game is defined as known players, fixed rules, and an agreed upon goal. We know the rules We all agree with the rules And whoever has the most runs at the end of nine innings is the winner and the game ends Nobody says we can play two more innings I know we can come back, it doesn't work That way, the game ends, It's a finite game, so you have an infinite game.

Infinite games are defined as known and unknown players, the rules are modifiable and the goal is to keep the game in play to perpetuate it when facing a finite player. versus a finite player, the system is stable baseball is stable when you face a baby, an infinite player versus an infinite player, the system is also stable like the cold war, for example, because there cannot be a winner and a loser, there are no winners or losers. In an infinite game, there is no such thing, and since there are no winners or losers, what ends up happening in the infinite contest is that players quit when they run out of will or resources to play, but there are no winners or losers, problems arise. . when you pit a finite player against an infinite player because then a finite player plays to win and an infinite player plays to keep the game right, this is what happened to us in Vietnam, we were playing to win andThe Vietnamese were fighting. for their lives it was we who got caught in the quagmire this is the soviet union in afghanistan they were trying to defeat the mujahideen and the mujahideen would fight as long as necessary quagmire now let's look at business the game of business has pre-existed or it has existed long before every comedy that exists on this planet today and it will last longer than every company that exists on this planet today you cannot win the game of business and the reason is that we have not agreed The rules I have a lot of fun with this .

You realize how many companies don't really know the game they're in. Listen to the language companies use. We are trying to beat our competition. We're trying to be the number. Did you know we are ranked number one? Look at the list based on what criteria revenue profits market share square feet number of employees based on what time period one quarter a year five years 10 years 20 years 50 years 100 years I have not accepted those standards how can you declare yourself a winner? how can you declare yourself number? one where no one else in the game has accepted the rules it is arbitrary there is no profit because there is no end in other words companies are playing finite games listen to your language they are trying to beat their competition what does that mean? the leaders and companies that understand the game they are in and organize their resources and decision making around the infinite competition that outlasts their competition and frustrates all the companies we refer to as the Southwest exceptions Airlines Apple Computers Harley-Davidson.

They are the exception, no, they are playing the infinite contest, they frustrate their competition, that is what happens because they are not playing to beat Jim Senegal, the founder of Costco, which is the competition, the only real company that gives Walmart a opportunity for your money, he says public companies are looking to be successful during the quarter, he says we are looking for the next 50 years, you can hear him, he is playing the infinite contest, I spoke at a leadership summit for Microsoft, I also spoke at a leadership summit leadership for Apple now. at the microsoft summit, I would say 70 percent of the executives and this was in the Steve Ballmer days, I would say about 70 of the executives spent about 70 percent of their presentations talking about how to beat Apple.

At the Apple Summit, one hundred percent of the executives spent one hundred percent of their presentations talking about how to help teachers teach and how to help students learn. One was obsessed with their competition and the other was obsessed with where they were going, so at the end of my presentation at Microsoft they gave me as a gift they gave me the new Zune, which was the competitor to the iPod touch when it was a good thing and I have to tell you that this piece of technology was spectacular, it was beautiful, the user interface was incredible, the design was incredible, it was intuitive.

It was one of the most beautiful and elegant pieces of technology I had ever seen. It didn't work with iTunes, which is a completely different problem. I couldn't use it, but that's another thing. I'm sitting in the back of a taxi. with a top executive at Apple, sort of employee number 12, and I decided to stir the pot and converted him. I mean, you know, I spoke at a Microsoft summit and they gave me their new Zune and I have to tell you that's how it is. much better than your ipod touch and he turned to me and said: I have no doubt that the conversation will end because the infinite player is not playing to be number one every day with every product he is playing to survive the competition If I had told Microsoft Oh, I have the new iPod Touch.

It's much better than your new Zune. They would say: Can we see it? What are you doing? We have to see it because one is obsessed with their competition and the other is obsessed with why they do what they do. The other one is obsessed with where it's going and the reason Apple frustrates its competition is because secretly they're not even competing against them, they're competing against themselves and they get it, but sometimes you're a little bit ahead and sometimes You're a little behind and sometimes your product is better and sometimes it's not, but if you wake up every morning and compete against yourself, how can I make our products better than yesterday?

How do I best take care of our clients? that yesterday how we advanced our cause more efficiently and more productively than yesterday how we found new solutions to advance our calling our cause our purpose our belief our why every day what you will find is over time you will probably be ahead more often those who play the infinite game understand that it is not about the battle but the war and they do not play to win every day and frustrate their competition until their competition exits the game every bankruptcy, almost every merger and acquisition is basically a company that says we no longer have the will or resources to continue playing and that we have no option to leave the game or merge our resources with another player in order to stay in the game, that's what it is. and if you think about the number of bankruptcies, mergers and acquisitions, it's kind of proof that most companies don't even know what game they're in. you want to be a great leader, start with empathy, you want to be a great leader, change your perspective and play the game you are really playing, it's not about being in charge, it's about caring for those in your charge and we know that I know many people who sit at the highest levels of the organizations we all have who are not leaders. authority and we do what they tell us because they have authority over us, but we wouldn't follow them and we all know people who are very young in organizations that have no authority but have made the decision to take care of the person on the left. of them and they have made the decision to care for the person on their right and that is why we call them leaders leaders are not necessarily the ones in charge they are the ones who have the courage to go first into the unknown first into danger first be humiliated because it is the right thing to do and the surprising thing is that the reason we call them leaders is because when they do it others follow them and it really is a matter of courage, then the question arises where does courage come from spending time with people? in the military that, what I've learned, is that courage is not a deep internal strength, like you don't dig deep and find courage, it's actually something external, so when I got to I met people who had risked their lives.

I asked them why you did it. You have a family. Do you have any children. No one would have blamed you if you hadn't done it. No one would have ordered you to do what you did. Because? Do it, everyone gives the same answer because they would have done it for me, that is, when we have the belief that someone has our back, when we have the absolute certainty that someone cares about us and is there by our side and believes in us. We, in reality, We are capable of doing extraordinary things, but without those relationships it is very difficult to muster courage.

Is something. A world-famous trapeze artist isn't going to try a new death-defying act for the first time without a net. Is the network. Something external that gives us the courage to do difficult things, in other words, goes back again to human relationships, so when we foster those relationships, when we foster love in the community, we actually have the courage to do what you're doing. doing. saying we have to do it, but when we don't, when politicians and business people, when we all feel alone in our positions of rank, um, I think that actually hurts the ability to leave.

There was a former deputy secretary of defense who was invited to give a

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at a big conference for about a thousand people and he was standing on stage with his coffee cup and a Styrofoam cup giving his prepared remarks with his PowerPoint behind him and He took a sip of his coffee and smiled and looked at the coffee and then he went off script and said, you know, last year I spoke at this exact same conference last year I was still the undersecretary and when I spoke here last year they flew me out. all the way here in business class and when I arrived at the airport there was someone waiting to take me to my hotel and they took me to my hotel and they had already checked me in and they just took me to my room and the next morning I came down and there was someone waiting in the lobby to greet me and they took me to this very place, took me through the back entrance, took me to the green room and handed me a cup of coffee in a beautiful ceramic mug.

He says I'm not the assistant secretary anymore, I flew here coach, I took a taxi to my hotel and I checked in when I came down to the lobby this morning, I took another taxi to this place, I entered through the front door and found my way behind the stage and when I asked someone, have coffee, he pointed to the coffee machine in the corner and I poured myself a cup of coffee in this styrofoam cup. He says the lesson is that the ceramic mug was never for me, but for the position I held. I deserve a styrofoam. mug remember this as you gain fame as you gain fortune as you gain position and seniority people will treat you better they will keep their doors open for you they will bring you a cup of tea and coffee without you even asking they will call you sir and mummy I am and They will give you things.

None of those things are meant for you. Those things are meant for the position you occupy. They are meant for the level you have reached of leader or success or whatever you want to call it, but you always will. You deserve a Styrofoam cup, remember that, remember that lesson in humility and gratitude. You can accept all the free stuff. You can accept all the advantages. You can enjoy them, but be grateful for them and remember that they are not for you. I remember getting off. the acela i took the acela from new york to washington dc and i got off the train like everyone else and i was walking down the platform like everyone else and i passed general nordie schwartz who used to be the chief of staff of the united states force airline the head of the air force and here I saw a guy in a suit dragging his own suitcase across the platform like me and just a couple of months ago he was flying on private jets and had an entourage and other people carrying his luggage, but it no longer took up the position, so now he had to drag his own suitcase and never again reminded me that none of us deserve the benefits we receive, we all deserve a Styrofoam cup.