How To Effortlessly Defend Yourself In Any Argument

We've all had conversations that started out friendly and suddenly turned into an

argument

that made us feel attacked, the other person twists your words and uses little tricks to try to make you look stupid, so today we're going to simply break down a conversation. like that one between Andrew Tate and Piers Morgan to show you how to

defend

yourself

in any

argument

, even if the other person is determined to make you look bad. I don't know why you're trying to attack me, that was one of his opinions. and pretend it's something, it was quite a sight, no, but it's a silly trick.

Pierce, this video is not an endorsement of any of these people, it is simply an analysis to teach you the tactics some people use to assert dominance in an argument, the first step in

defend

ing themselves. Differentiating

yourself

from a conversational bully is detecting when they go into fight mode, there are some obvious cues, like if someone starts yelling or interrupts you repeatedly, but there is also a more subtle clue. You can see an example of this in the clip below where Piers shows that he is there. argue with Andrew not understand it I want to play you just a clip from above this is from Joe Rogan, he is someone I absolutely love for sure and I think he explains to me what my problem will be with you. correct, and you have every right to try to persuade me otherwise.

I'm sure there are actually two towels here If someone tags you or an idea you hold as a problem or problem, that's a good indicator that they've switched to fight mode or If they want to argue with you before asking you to explain your point of view, if that happens, you should start being careful with conversational traps. One of the most common traps is misquoting yourself. Misquoting you makes it easier for the other person to feel like they are dominating you because they are attacking a straw man rather than your actual views. This seems like it would be easy to understand, but sometimes it only takes a small adjustment to your words to have a big impact on their meaning if you're not paying.

Be careful, you may not notice the small change, for example, listen to Andrew respond when Piers asks him what your opinion is about Alex Jones after meeting him, he was professional and courteous to me when I meet someone and they show me respect, I show them Respect, that is. What I do while I investigate with you, you respect. If someone shows me respect, I show them respect, so I don't know, I don't know if Hitler says you respect him, you would respect him. There is a big difference between showing Respect to someone by being polite versus respect for them and their ideas.

Andrew even notices this at first, but Piers is persistent in setting up that straw man. Well, I'm not. I'm taking your position that if someone shows you respect, you respect them, I think. What I'm saying is that there are a lot of people in the world that I don't respect. If Vladimir Putin showed me respect, I wouldn't respect him, but that's your opinion, but no, it's my point of view. Okay, that's your point of view. Well, your point of view is: could you? Look, Piers is trying to impose an opinion on Andrew that he doesn't actually believe, so you have to be careful not to let someone misquote you or you may find yourself defending a belief that, upon reflection, you don't even have. a simple solution to this if you are aware of it reset your own point of view before defending it you talk about people not wanting to see men dressed in fancy transgender suits that's not exactly what i said what did you say?

He said that the reason I am so popular and so famous is that there is a large contingent of men who don't want to wear makeup and who still want to make money go to the gym be strong drive a fast car be traditionally masculine and don't want to be embarrassed for that and they don't want to be called toxic for that now. If you start making good points in an argument, you'll have to watch out for the next trick that will derail interruptions. This is when someone tries. to interrupt you before you can establish your strongest points, you are taking these sentences and repeating them so you are weaponizing them against me.

I'm not weaponizing anything, okay, okay, no, the more it's used as a weapon, it doesn't exist. problem, but you told me, come on, go ahead, this can be frustrating. You see in that clip that the interruptions are starting to bother Andrew. Fortunately, there are three ways you can handle the interruption. The first trick is to pause, acknowledge the person and then return to the point you were making, all I have done is literally read out loud all the things that we identified in all the research that I thought were blatantly misogynistic and They gave you a chance to respond, and the only time I've interrupted you is when you've tried. to answer a completely different question understood colleagues, but these things were said Andrew recovers the conversation after he looks appears in the eyes and says understood it seems that you can even see a small smile and pierces his eyes after that it is because most of people in an argument long to feel heard and understood here's another example, you can steal this line word for word if you want to acknowledge someone without agreeing with them this time.

Piers even makes a small positive noise after Andrew recognizes him. I don't think so and I think your point of view is that that view is dangerous. I respect that you think my vision is dangerous and I respect that you have the right to see that. Thinking that line is a good way to stay connected to someone without giving up ground you don't agree with. The other person feels heard and that disarms their need to attack. Now, once someone has established a pattern of interrupting you, the next thing you can do is avoid interrupting them. Here's an example and this is really the interesting thing and please don't interrupt me with this. period, social media has changed in modern times, you can even see the change in Pierce's body language when he backs away to respect Andrew's request.

If the person continues to interrupt you, you can call it out with a stop gesture with one finger. Oh no, let's stop for a second, please. don't interrupt me, here's why you are, I know why you're good at your job, first you interrupt people a lot, which is good, it's a good skill. I believe in marriage more than anyone. I believe in marriage and no, please, I believe. In marriage in the traditional sense now, on the other hand, you should also avoid the trap of being the one who interrupts, especially if someone is responding to a point you've made.

Don't crush concessions. There were a few times where your teammates really made a good point, but he interrupts so much that Andrew can't even agree with him, so what you said at the beginning of this little exchange you said that you know that maybe he wouldn't say the things he said. the same way now as before you were famous and yet you've actually duplicated what you did, it's exactly the same at certain points, so that's what you think, that's my point, yeah, I'm trying to figure it out, look, I don't know you, we just met, right?

Rolling equipment concessions prevent you from doing so. From reaching common ground with the person you're talking to if there's someone else listening, it's also harder for them to realize that you've made a good point. Here's one more example so you can see what you shouldn't do right. I think my my sister is owned by her husband yes because fundamentally I don't believe a man owns a woman, you do it right. I do not believe that a man owns any sovereign individual. I don't believe we live in a world of slavery. I am not the owner. any man or any woman, no one owns it when you use phrases like ownership, that's what you're implying, so my point again is that you're a smart guy, we start interrupting people when we're the ones that go into fight mode, If you can stay calm.

In an argument, you're much less likely to interrupt people with sweeping concessions. A great trick to staying cool in an argument is to physically relax during the argument, deliberately releasing any tense muscles and breathing deeply into your abdomen, this will signal to your brain that you are safe and don't need to go into fight or flight. Staying calm also allows you to think more clearly, so you're more likely to spot any logical gaps the person is trying to overlook, as the name suggests. This is a moment where there is a gap in the logic of your argument here is the most obvious example from this conversation what is your opinion on Alex Jones?

I believe Alex Jones is a sovereign individual who, like the rabid left, deserves a chance to speak about his views. I think the truth about problems tends to be somewhere in between two extremes, and I think, do you think Sandy Hook was staged? The logical leap from the truth is somewhere in the middle until then you think Sandy Hook was staged is obvious, but not all the logic. The application is very easy to learn in real time. The key is to remember the premise of someone's argument. This is easy to do if we break things down a bit, for example, listen.

Appears here. I also think it was a pretty disturbing piece. BuzzFeed did and talked about the negative impact on young, impressionable male minds when they read or watched some of the more incendiary things. You said what the premise of Piers' argument is: that Andrew is dangerous because of his impact on the impressionable. Young minds now listen to what Pierce says immediately after that and they cited, for example, Sandy, uh, 22, from Washington, my father left a man who did women's studies at the university, it was Kind and in touch with his emotions, he treated all the people, men and women, around him. him and kindness toward a man who says that every time he sees an effeminate stranger he feels an overwhelming urge to murder.

Did you understand Gap in the discussion? Did you say my father went? She said my father has my father who is an adult. man first, so we are talking about my impact on children, you just talked about the adult man, so far we have discussed how to relate to someone who is being combative, but sometimes an argument reaches into an area that we don't Do you feel comfortable. and you don't want to interact with them at all when that happens you have every right to draw a conversational boundary eg watch Piers try to get Andrew to talk about his personal life if you've ever been in love yeah how many times ? oh, very much, I believe in love between men and women.

I'm a real love, you know, yeah, I think, how many times would you say enough is enough? Andrew tries to move on, but Pierce returns a few seconds later, how many women have you loved? I don't know Pierce, some give me a Bullpup 5 10 20. Let's say you don't forget how many people you've been in love with. It's a strange line of questioning and your classmates just won't give up, so you finally listen to Andrew. draw a line I believe in family I believe in children I believe in if you believe in family and children and love yes why are you single?

I'm not single, well you're not married, that's what I mean, well, I was married last time. What I would do is announce it to the savage psychopaths on the Internet. Most people don't feel comfortable being so direct, so they try to change the subject indirectly. It is much more effective to simply draw the line and let someone know that a topic is off-limits. That doesn't mean you have to yell or be confrontational, it can be as simple as saying: I don't feel comfortable talking about that, so now you know how to see and avoid some common conversational pitfalls when things get heated, but how to change things? around and return to a friendly and positive conversation.

One way is to intentionally recognize any commonalities, for example, there was a moment in the conversation where Andrew was talking about getting the social media platform and he starts to lose his cool. Listen to how Piers gets He got it out of fighting mode by establishing common ground when they attacked me, they lumped a bunch of things together, they say misogynist, racist, transphobic, they just lumped them all together around an unmixed race, by the way, I don't know where did they get this from? just listen to these buzzwords. I completely agree, it's crazy and they've done the same thing to me, it's okay, and I'm not calling you out in any way.

I'm asking you what you personally think you are. The important thing here is that you are genuine and that comes not only in your words but in your tone of voice. Listen, a lot of what you say appears here as a good example. I agree with you, yes, of course, I do it genuinely. I have read a lot. I have done a lot of things. A lot of the things you talk about, I think you have a good point, right, I agree with a lot of things, but when I read that kind of thing I wonder: how much of that is you?

How much of that is ACT stuff? Do you regret saying things like this? Our last tip today is actually something you won't see in the conversation with Piers and Andrew, and its absence is one of the main reasons why the conversation was so combative and so unproductive. Give yourself permission to change. In your opinion, this is something that Andrew seems to see as a bad thing. You can hear him talk about it here. That's why I haverepeatedly asked about that line to see if you have changed your position, but the reality is that you have. It's not about changing position.

I am an adult and I stand by the things I say and I am responsible for them. If you think changing your mind is a bad thing, a sign of weakness, or being a flip-flop, then. Of course you will never change your mind or even when you do you will do what Andrew does and try to make all the things you have said in the past fit your new beliefs to build online fame, maybe that is what it takes . Andrew certainly is. world classic become famous but in your own life give yourself the gift of permission to change your mind to say you don't agree with everything your past self thought freedom will allow you to be happier and grow now publicly changing your mind is more easy said fact it takes confidence to change your opinion in front of other people if confidence is something you struggle with, you might like our course Charisma University is a 30-day step-by-step video series that comes with a guide to daily action to show you know exactly what to do each day to take your charisma and confidence to the next level and, if for any reason you don't do it, you can get a full refund with the press of a button within the course.

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