Gender Neutral Family Are Raising Their Child as a 'Theyby' | Good Morning Britain

We've heard of people who identify as non-binary using the pronouns they or

their

instead of he or her, but what about having a baby instead of a baby? It is a new term that some parents use to show that they are

raising

their

child

ren.

gender

neutral

offspring is a very interesting situation just tell us a little about Sparrow, can you even swap now? Was Sparrow, do you know what

gender

Sparrow was born in or is it something you avoid talking about completely, you know the meaning of gender. is that we still don't know the sex of the sparrows and as for what their anatomy is, we choose to keep it private, you know: a short list of caretakers, now this was not the situation, was it with Hazel, who was your first daughter?

Why Hazel? The young states were raised on you, you know, when I was a

child

, well, I assigned binary pronouns to Hazel initially yes and then when they were older they expressed a preference for using they pronouns, then, oh, right, so I understood Randall, it's obviously very complicated. not for you, but it's complicated for me, so let me try to explain your domestic setup, are you married, that's right, yes, I'm in a multi-adult

family

, there are three of us

raising

two children and eight years and my year and you and how would you describe yourself are you were born with baggage claim how would you describe in binary?

I'm non-binary which means you know I don't identify as a man or a woman and I use they/them pronouns okay and your wife or partner is a wife how would you describe your other half well? All adults in my household identify as transgender or non-binary and you are married to one you are married to both legally married the other is in a relationship with another with the other you are legally married to what is his name brenn bright and he has been brain identified how a woman sees her and she was born a woman and she keeps identifying like oh yes, yes, she is a woman, yes, okay, and who is the third, the third member of my partner Luna, who also uses pronouns and Luna is a man or female or non-binary, non-binary and that's fine, but you're not married to Luna no, that's fine and you have two kids in the house, yeah, that's fine, just to clarify again.

Sparrow, we don't know if Sparrow is born male or female because you haven't said that the sparrow is now non-binary. No, Sparrow, I would. say anta gender, which is a term that you know means before gender, like all the kids you know at this age are not able to really understand gender developmentally, but it's something they don't understand, so which is not that. the child is not binary, it's just that the child just doesn't have any gender, but it will still be the bad cut look, let me try to understand well, obviously, they have the correct anatomy, so what does Sumida Sparrow have?

Well, I mean, that's something. which we generally don't discuss unless it's necessary, maybe with a medical professional or you know a caregiver well, so I'm wondering if I can chime in here because I think there are a lot of people who find this very confusing and it's because people think that If you are born with a biological identity and Natta tells me that you are male or female, then you have that gender identity, you are male or female, but can you explain why you think that is not useful? What you're born with biologically shouldn't dictate your identity because I think that's the kind of most important point that your situation is trying to get to isn't it that when you're born with certain genitals society decides how you should act and what I'm trying to get at to understand, that's what you're criticizing, am I right?

Yes, that's a great question. Clarification of what you know, yes, commonly people born with one type of anatomy identify with one gender, people with a different anatomy will identify with another, but that totally negates the fact that there are legitimately thousands of people around the world for whom that is not the case. I would say we're just in, you know from that point of view you're not necessarily dictated. By society, I mean, if you have a little girl and you know that she is biologically a girl, she can decide and still be herself. So let's talk about a different girl, okay, another person, she or he, no, that's true, so I'm talking about a girl whose parents call her after her, she doesn't necessarily need, for example, to play with dolls, does she?

You know? do cooking lessons gender expression yes, gender expression is totally different from gender identity, someone can identify as a boy and you know, like any color, any toy, sports, dancing, pink, blue, whatever , and the same with identifying as a girl or the interests, hobbies or preferences of non-binary people. don't dictate what their gender is having a preference it wasn't hazel decided she wasn't going to be a girl anymore hazel decided they weren't binary when they were about four years old they had been exploring a gender before, you know trying out different pronouns experimenting with different names but they chose they/them pronouns and chose the name hazel when they saw the most respect.

I have a seven year old daughter right when she was four years old, her main decision of the day. It was whether to watch Peppa Pig or Frozen, she had no idea what happens with gender identity or non-binary or any of those things and I'm telling you, this wasn't Hazel's idea, it was your idea. She decided that Hazel had gender issues that she needed to address and you convinced her daughter that she would no longer be a girl, right? I mean, I personally don't agree with that statement, but I can see how it could be misinterpreted.

I know I think every

family

environment is unique and I say a child becomes a concert pianist at a very young age of six, they are playing Beethoven, maybe it's because their father is a pianist and they had a piano at home and they explored music. before. have a unique upbringing due to their LGBT life and family, they have met people of different gender expressions and have had the confidence to explore their own gender which has led them to personal discovery, it is completely exhausting trying to keep up day with all this, I mean, For the most part, you know that I have no problem with you leading the life you want, honestly, right?

You're an adult and you want to call yourself them and non-binary, whatever that is. I have total respect for your rights. Frankly, whatever you want to do, my problem is what's going on with the kids in your house and whether everything is actually being driven by the adults in the house and not these kids. I mean the little sparrow, we don't even know if the little sparrow is a girl or a boy and you say we know what to call Sparrow, them and Hazel, what does Hazel call Sparrow, her baby brother, her baby says she literally says

good

morning

, little brother, well, usually by name, like

good

morning

, sparrow, but when someone asks you, do you know who? is that you say my little brother yes, does she call hazelnut the day of the sparrow?

Yeah, so she says they can have, you know, can I have a? I played a game with you not when they were talking to them, you know, when they were talking to them they said would you like would you like to share a cookie with me sparrow and sparrow of course because they are a baby but if I am but if I am there but if I am in the room and I want to eat a cookie and I asked Hazel if I can have a cookie and she says yes I'll just ask them right sparrow yeah you would say Hazel could say all the morons if they want to share because they and they are plural words and I.

I have always struggled with this. I don't understand why in this non-binary world you would take a plural word like they or them to describe a singular entity. He doesn't do any. I am a grammar purist. Now they would understand why you. I would call people by plural titles, well actually they have a history of use as a singular pronoun and as a plural pronoun hundreds of years ago, 14th century, 1700s, you know people also used them in the singular, but yeah, in usage common. has a plural connotation we are simply working within the limited framework of the pronouns available to us in English there are people who use made up pronouns but sometimes they can be difficult for people to understand oh yes I wonder if when you know it because it is complicated for a adult like me understand and I'm doing my best, you know it's better to be sensitive and understanding about it because, you know, I think a lot of people find it hard to understand when it comes to children because you know if you have a four year old who is growing up, it must be hard for them to try to express that to other adults who don't understand your setup and don't understand the situation and when other adults say if you have a little brother or a little sister, you know, how does a little child explain Maybe you know other children who are in daycare?

That's a great question, Hazel is very confident, she is very detailed and very well spoken and they like to advocate for the visibility of their family and they like to engage in conversations with their peers and adults. Obviously, I've never forced them to be the center of attention and I've never told them, you know they always have a choice. to tune out when they don't want to explain too much but for them it's pretty simple to say we don't know the gender of the sparrows but they will tell us when they are older right now and then pronouns what happens if you decide how old the parish is for now the days correct.

Sparrow is one year old, Sparrow, so I'm sorry, Hazel is full and Sparrow is one. He was eight. Okay, it's been non-binary because Hazel changed her gender at four, but she's now eight and Sparrow is one, yeah, what. What happens if Hazel decides tomorrow that she would now like to be a girl or a boy. I don't know, so I would support that Hazel, you know, is totally allowed to continue to explore her gender and have it evolve. You know, if gender is not always. something static for some people, what's wearing them is what they want right now, okay, and it's Sparrow when he says three or even two, when they can start talking for the first time, if their first words are I want to be non-binary .

Or I want to be a boy or I want to be a girl, would you respect anything a two-year-old would say? you accepted a four-year-old's insistence on changing genders you would accept a two-year-old I would accept that child was exploring, you know, I think at that age I'm sorry, I'm sorry for being the stick in the mud here, a two-year-old years doesn't have a Scooby-Doo about any of these things. The idea that you, as a parent, would even approve of the idea of ​​a two-year-old having the capacity to form a serious perception of gender. I think, frankly, I respectfully put it to you, it's absolutely ridiculous and, in fact, harmful to that child.

In that case, if a two-year-old child, as you say, genuinely has no capacity to conceptualize gender, it is not toxic and strange that at two years old we are telling someone that they are a boy because of their anatomy. If that two-year-old child genuinely cannot conceptualizing what a child is, doesn't it make more sense than if a two-year-old really doesn't have the ability to process what a gender is, like you said, I don't know, you tell them what their gender is? and I don't emphasize gender constantly. I let them be what they are, which is a little boy.

Hey, you offer structure. What could be more structure than telling your child this is your name and that is your name and if when you become an adult you want to change your name then you become your own adult your own responsibility you make your own decisions part of being a parent It is not until the child reaches adulthood that the parent actually makes these decisions. I feel like what you are expressing is a bit of childishness in assuming that someone has to be a legal adult to have the ability to know them and explore their identity.

I've listened to almost every ISM imaginable. I have never been accused of all ISM and I am struggling with them. This new world of isms, it's true that it is infantilism. You are against children's decisions. I believe that infantilism is the normalization of mistreatment of children just because they are small. Do you know how to assume that they cannot have opinions or ideas? I know they can't, obviously they need guidance and structure, but mistreat them or treat them like property or deny their identity and autonomy, so give them a child's agenda because if it's Anatomy, assume that your boy or girl or give them a name, everything That would be infantilism from their point of view, not giving them but forcing them to use them no matter what the child wanted, so if a three-year-old child decides I'm no longer a boy or a girl, I'm not going to be one anymore.

My name is Bob, I want you to call me Doris. , anyway, the three year old decides to do that and I object and say no, your name is Bob and not Doris and you're a boy, not a girl at three, so I. I'm potentially guilty of childishness if you