How To Achieve SUCCESS FASTER Than 99% Of People (START DOING THIS) | Tom Bilyeu

Failure is the most information-rich data stream there is. I can't promise you that you will ever succeed. What you are pursuing in your life is very simple. It is satisfaction. That's all if you really want to make your dreams come true. In fact, I'm not telling you not to chase money, I'm just saying that it won't fuel you emotionally the way you think, so you have to completely divorce yourself from

this

notion of outcome and become completely obsessed with the idea of ​​sincere pursuit. The reason for linking that with the sincere search is that it is the only part you can control and now please put your hands together for a night with Tom Billions.

I'm about to ruin that good mood. Let me tell you right now. We'll see how quickly we can get through it, so we want these gentlemen to have their own unique fingerprint. When we decided to do a live series, we didn't want it to be the same old thing. I did not want to. So that it was just the speech that I do when

people

take me to an event, I wanted it to be something where if you came to ten of them in a row, each one of them would be different and that's why we wanted you to participate we had

people

send we had those videos on the wall what are their hopes and fears i watched every video that was sent i read everything on the wall and that put my team in a bit of a state of anxiety because no one knew what the hell is going to be tonight and, Frankly, I know what my intention is, I know what I want to do, I know what I want to

achieve

, but I don't know the path we are taking.

I'm going to take and that path will be determined solely by the people in

this

room, so this night will only be as good as you participate. I'm going to try to get us into a mental space and then open it up. for questions and questions are really where the magic happens if you can keep the question and keep it short which isn't necessarily everyone's strong suit if they have anxiety and someone shoves a microphone in your face so I get it but if we can do that if we can get to a place where we're really getting past the nonsense and talking about what's really going on, then we can get to the true nature of

success

and that's what I want to talk about tonight.

It's about demystifying

success

because there is a sense that people who

achieve

something great have something innate in them that allows them to do this and if you read that wall you will see certain things over and over again. I'm afraid of not reaching my potential I'm afraid of embarrassing myself I'm afraid of not being good enough I don't have what it takes That's the kind of thing you see over and over and over and over again It's so universal that until you can address it in your own mind until you can understand the hard truth, which is that you are still not good enough, in fact, I want you all now, I want you to look to your left and then I want you to look to your right and see the people sitting around you and I want you to know this about them, their dream is almost certainly not going to come true now that it's a little dark to open an evening like This goes on and, like I said, when you were all standing and applauding, it was very nice and I should come and say some nice things to you, but that's my biggest fear in life, Lisa, and I've already had a lot of financial success.

I don't have to work and yet we are working harder than ever because I believe there is a way for the most average people to make their dreams come true, but I am only interested in the real part, which I spent many years on. my life being an empty dreamer where I had a vision of what I wanted I had all the ambition in the world but I didn't have the drive the strength to do what his shirt says which is do the work now if they had let me do that I would surely redo the work to really get people's attention because that's the truth and for those of you who resonate with David Goggins like then you will get what you must have within you if you want to be successful now in everything.

In these talks I am going to make an assumption and if you are with me on that, then it will be a good night and if not, maybe it will be fun and entertaining, but at the end of the day I don't know that I will be useful to you and the assumption that I will What to do is that you want to be extraordinary, you want to do something great, that the dream you have is worth fighting for, that's why I also say that when you look to your left and to your right, it is almost certain that the people you are looking at will not achieve make your dreams come true unless in these 90 minutes and this is my intention in these 90 minutes we are able to touch the real thing that it takes to be successful, get your head in the place where you need to be and then do the things that you really need to do. do.

All I'm going to talk about tonight is a running game once you realize that success is not a mysterious thing, it's just a relentless running game of falling on your face, embarrassing yourself over and over again, getting up and

doing

a simple question: why did I fail? and if you can ask that question without pointing. Point the finger at someone else, but really look at what you did to cause that situation, then you can

start

down the path of acquiring real skills. A lot of the things I say aren't sexy and I know I could have done it. ten times that number of followers is jeremy mary, by the way, the guy who runs our Instagram page, don't clap for that and I'll tell you why he might be the hardest working Frenchman you could ever find, but it would be real.

I'm happy that he just lies so he can achieve his okr and if I come in and spit fire on the man you could do it your dreams will come true this will be amazing I believe in you everyone here believes in you and then me. I would shoot myself in the face because it wouldn't work and when you like what you really want, like if someone put on the wall that their biggest fear was seeing someone they love suffer in front of them and feel powerless to do it. anything now, I'm going to hazard a guess that many of the people in this room are living that nightmare right now.

How many people here have someone they love who is living a very suboptimal life because they can't get their mind in the right place? That's basically all of us, so that's the human condition, the real human condition, I think the Buddhists are right, the human condition is suffering and what I'm going to talk to you about, like I said, there are two paths, one I go a Assume that you want to do something extraordinary, but it is a path of suffering and when you understand why you are going to have to fight to achieve things, then you can begin to frame things correctly so that you can follow them. get ahead and get where you want to go and not live the cliché that money can't buy happiness and all that you realize you're chasing fulfillment, but satisfaction is often born from suffering, but it has to be suffering with a purpose and so when you

start

to understand that cocktail you can differentiate it from the other side of the coin which is a stress-free life a life that is not an offer tonight because I can't help you with that that is not the life that I have chosen.

I'm driven and if you've read Tim Grover's book Relentless you know exactly what I'm talking about, for whatever reason, a little bit of wiring, a little bit of reinforcement as a kid, a lot of obsessive beliefs and value shifts like An Adult It's gotten me to the point where the only thing that turns me on, the only thing that wakes me up and makes me feel alive is believing that I can do anything that doesn't violate the laws of physics and now I'm just racing against the clock to do it, but now the reason Lisa and I have had the kind of success that we've had is that it was never right for us that it was an idea that we pushed and pushed and pushed out. into the future like we did with having kids because we had planned it two years after we got married, sure, baby, that was 17 years ago, but in making our dreams come true we always had it after the initial period that you guys have heard about and I .

I'll explain a little bit, but once I got over it, it was about relentless execution and constantly judging myself based on metrics like whether I was really making progress or not, so if you want to make your dreams come true, man, and if I can. Explain this, this is like one of those defining moments for someone, like when you really understand what I'm going to say. Alright, my friend, I have a big announcement. My amazing and talented wife Lisa is about to release her new book. I have radical confidence in him. She has managed to perfectly capture the process of how to go from feeling lost and insecure to taking control of your life and

doing

incredible things despite feeling afraid, sometimes very afraid.

Now let me tell you, no one knows Lisa better than me, but when I read. radical confidence for the first time and listened to her describe what it was like for her to go from having these big, exciting dreams as a child to then, as an adult, scheduling her life around the TV shows she wanted to watch or how lonely and isolated she was. it felt. I felt that instead of pursuing her dreams it was brutal for me. I would never say that it was worth it for her to go through all that just to be able to write something that would allow others to avoid it, but I will say that at least she was able to capture the strategies she used to get out of that rut, find her voice, and start doing incredible things despite her insecurities and fears that she wasn't going to be good enough to achieve great things, so even though it hurts to know.

The dark place Lisa went through. I'm really excited for people who are going through something similar right now to read this book. Radical Confidence is an instruction manual on how to become the hero of your own life, even when you're scared to death. I know better than anyone how easy it is to get off track in life or simply not have found your calling yet and it's even easier for people to feel so insecure and unprepared that they don't even want to pursue the things they want, but what Lisa shows people with radical confidence is that the radical part is that you can achieve extraordinary things even when you feel afraid.

That's what radical confidence means: being afraid and insecure and having a set of tools that still allows you to make massive progress sooner. -Order your copy today because if you act now you can claim the bonuses Lisa has created for you at radicalconfidence.com. They are only available if she pre-orders, so act now and once she has done so, we will contact you. For today's episode, okay guys, read the book and prepare to be the hero of your own life. Peace, in fact, right now we are all going to make a promise to each other. They can do it silently.

We have to have everyone shouting it. but you are going to make a promise to yourself right now because if you follow through with what we are going to say, everything will be different, if you don't, you will come back in a year and you will be I'm going to write the same thing on the wall, I promise because this is the part you have to get out of. Make a promise to yourself right now that you will disconnect your sense of self, your sense of self-worth, from achievement and you will marry that. to pursue once you are holy focused on the sincere pursuit everything changes when you focus on the result when you say to yourself I want to get rich I want to win the academy award ah those are my dreams it's an end state right?

It doesn't work like this is one of those things that gets trite because it's so true, so for the love of God, don't make people repeat the obvious thing like money can't buy happiness, okay, the money can't buy happiness. I can buy a lot of cool things, he bought me a really nice house, in fact, honey, show the photo, yes, we actually own part of that airplane company, I'm not kidding, how crazy is it that we know the CEO, there was one time when I was trying to get on the flight and they were giving me, I don't remember why, and I called the CEO and said, "You have to talk to your gate agent like that's money, it's crazy." .

Money is better than you think, it is more powerful than you think, but it is not at all what you have been told, money solves money problems and that is amazing and there are many interesting things you can do with money, no. It's no joke, so we came up with the impact theory of our house, our house is like Balconies with a 10,000 square foot pool, all that crazy, one of our rooms is actually called that when we bought the house, they called it that, it was It's called the big room and that thing is big, I'm not kidding, we once played um nerf with nerf. weapons, we liked a whole game of hide and seek, capture the flag in the house, it was crazy, so money does really extraordinary things, people will chase money forever because money actually has utility, so I'm not the one type that says oh money doesn't matter or money isn't a thing or it's not worth pursuing what I'm saying, even though money really can't buy happiness, what you're chasing in your life is very simple, it's the satisfaction, that's all.

Now I summarize satisfaction very simply, how is it done? How do you feel about yourself when you are alone? You feel good? Do you feel like you are making the most of your life? Are you taking advantage of what the Greeks call techne? Are you working hard and that's a key component? It's hard? You are working hard? Sad but true. Are you working hard to get a setof skills. This is oh you, this is the angry face, this is, it's about harnessing anger, we talked about Elizabeth not being angry yet. We'll get there, but here we go, so you really have to work hard to acquire a skill set. that matters to you.

Now skills have to matter. That's a key part of the equation once skills matter to you and allow you to serve. not just yourself but other people and then you go and serve those people, it becomes a really potent cocktail of neurochemistry, but I want to make sure that everyone understands that the game you're playing is a game of neurochemistry right down to the wire. year in at least two billionaires committed suicide, so it's heartbreaking when someone commits suicide, but when billionaires start committing suicide, the answer is simply not obvious beyond all imagining that money is not going to solve the problems that exist among your ears as if there is nothing more that anyone can tell you a fool never learns an intelligent man learns from his mistakes a wise man learns from the mistakes of others in this case I beg you to be wise I am not telling you not to chase after money.

Simply saying that is not going to feed you emotionally the way you think, so you have to completely divorce yourself from this notion of outcome and become completely obsessed with the idea of ​​sincere seeking. Now, why sincere seeking is the reason to tie your sense of self your self-esteem your pride your ego your identity all of that the reason to tie that to sincere seeking is that it's the only part you can control I can't promise you that any Maybe you will succeed I can't promise you that you will succeed but you can promise and know if you really did to show up every day and really go after it you control your way of thinking you control how you feel about yourself no one can really make you feel any way about yourself you allow it, that's right as the cheesiest self-help you've ever heard, but it became cheesy because it's so true that people repeated it a lot and if you lose sight of that, if you lose sight of what you allow yourself to think it will control you on a neurochemical level. and at the neurochemical level that's going to once again influence how you feel and how you think and then you go into this death spiral where you think negative, you believe negative, which makes you feel bad about yourself and then you stay. stuck in it and you can't get out and you see a lot of that in the hopes and fears that people are afraid of never being able to break free.

People in this room who took the time to write it. They were never going to get out of that negative loop and that negative loop is actually real, but this is what the negative loop is based on biology and once you start to understand what exactly biology is, then you can start to take control of it. your life. and the first step on the biological train is to break the link you have between outcome and value, once you start breaking it, then you can strip raw and say, "Okay, this is just practice and once you're in that way." After practicing you're in skill acquisition mode and the name of the game is skill acquisition, like it's really that dull and boring, it's just about being so good at something that you can't be denied and that's one of those things like I'm going to say that phrase so often that I worry it'll become trite, but that's one of the most impressive notions on the planet, the idea that you can become so good at something that you leave people in awe and when you can leave people in awe you can do almost anything you want with your life the easiest way to talk about awe is to think about sports figures right, you have sports figures you see someone like michael jordan or kobe bryant you see what you do and you think, oh my god, like they were given a human body like me, but look what they can do with theirs, it's absolutely extraordinary and whenever you talk to the best of the best, they always always put in the work. and that's the obsession that anyone who wants to be great and achieve something has to have, ultimately it has to come down to skill set.

Now here is the problem, the reality and this is where I think most people go off the rails if you are not able to separate yourself from the result you are able to start thinking in this new way it is a sincere search that idea of ​​sincere search you puts in the way of acquiring skills the next thing that kills dreams very quickly is the reality of what we are trying to build to understand reality, who knows what the second law of thermodynamics is, entropy, now entropy is a fancy word for chaos, what it says is that this is a law of physics, everything moves towards chaos, a system with no additional energy added. always move towards chaos think about your bedroom think about the dining room table think about anything leave that alone for 30 seconds she's already pushing it like i'm going to send her pictures because damn that's chaos that's certainly my wife, she is literally laughing right now because I am an agent of chaos when it comes to that kind of thing, anything left to its own devices is sure to move towards chaos, okay, if we stick with it physics, how do we create things that have order and structure? pour energy into the system and I'm not saying this in a courting way and everyone in this room has permission, if you ever hear me use the word quantum mind, just punch me in the mouth if Einstein didn't understand quantum physics, I assure you.

The self-help movement doesn't understand quantum physics, so I want to keep this good, real foundation that drives me crazy. The reason it drives me crazy is that I think it diverts people from what you really need to do. What really starts to encourage people is that they have this idea that they want to achieve something with their life, that they are able to overcome, they start to think practically, it is a quest, they judge themselves based on So, are they sincerely pursuing him? or not and then they get in the middle of it and it's so incredibly boring, in fact, I think we have some photos of Elise, if you haven't shown them yet, what are the realities of what the search was like to build it, because what people see, they see the sexy side, they see us at the inc 500 gala, they see Lisa wearing her Louboutins showing the red sole, she was very proud of them, but they don't see this, which is where it started when no one knew who we were.

This was before my man Dave Barum, who's hiding in this audience somewhere, this was when no one knew who we were, no one gave people that actually saying things like I don't need protein bars, man, no, Thanks, I don't want any, we were giving. They took them away for free people wouldn't accept them, we called a distributor and he said, quote, I need another protein bar like I need another hole in the head, we got into a category that had 1600 other bars and flavors and had been declining. four years in sales no one wanted the product we were making but we believed we had what peter thiel calls zero to one we had a secret that no one else understood meant we had to become our own manufacturers and that's how I went from making software all day to make protein bars all day, so this is me, literally making protein bars like this is the grind, this is the boredom, this is the sincere pursuit, this is the appearance every day, we had to assemble our own team, which I really believe We also have a photo, so that's us, this team showed up one day with a big problem, like it backed up and we were all like, how are we supposed to get it out?

I'm not kidding and we're Are we really that dumb and that's why we're fighting and we're okay? The neighbor in the building has a forklift but no one knows how to drive a forklift and I say that I actually know and my partner says: And when I was a child, in my family you had to work in dead-end jobs. My dad had me in a paint factory. I worked in a paint warehouse. I worked in a paint factory and a paint store. I am a certified forklift. driver, so we actually had a video of me, I turned to the cameras that we were filming and I was like dad, wax on wax, I thought you want to talk about a skill that I never thought I would need, there it was, so I literally drove an El forklift left all this and now here we don't know literally there's a manual here somewhere and we're opening the manual trying to figure out how to put this thing back together it was crazy but this is like this moment right here. what's on my face I'm smiling man I'm smiling because I believe in what I'm doing I have a mission I'm not just trying to get rich there's something I believe in there are people I love that were suffering that I wanted to do something about it, I had them in mind and then a really advanced class and I hope we get into this later when it really goes wrong, man, this is promise number two to yourself, promise yourself number two when it really goes wrong, that's the time. laugh, that's the time to be okay, if I get frisky right now, it will change the dynamic of everyone in the room.

I'll ask one person in this room. I want to hear you when I say your name. You better be there. this room too casey elliot makes some noise that woman is so tough you can't imagine but she really feels it when she gets up so casey when you get up what's my attitude I'm mad I'm optimistic she's like you're not optimistic understanding What you give Whenever possible, I make it a point to bounce in the opposite direction and change the dynamic of the way you think so that you don't get caught up in your own neurochemistry, because when you have an emotion you most likely believe in that emotion, but The brain has this weird, crazy mechanism where no matter how big you react, it says, "Oh, that was a big deal," so if you get scared and you scream and scream, then your brain says, "Yeah, man, It really matters as much as if I said no. cheese on this burger this cheese on this burger that's crazy you can't do that you can't put get the newspaper says there's no cheese and when you end up like this then it literally just becomes programmed that yes, this really is that catastrophic but the opposite is true, something horrible happens, something terrible goes wrong and if you can, in your mind, just turn it around and say, yeah, let's figure this out and I remember in the early days when we got the team, everyone told us, guys , bar, what you want to do can't be done and I can't tell you how many times we heard that's a bit of a boring story as to why, but people kept telling us over and over again that it can't be done, it can't be done.

In fact we never planned to be our own manufacturer we thought about outsourcing that every time we were going to do it somewhere they said you would have to add liquid sugar to this otherwise there would be no way to do it and we said well that would defeat the purpose of the whole company, so we're not going to do that so we're going to go buy our own equipment they say you can buy it it's not going to work and we were like no no man this is definitely people are just being too lazy and we have the will to carry this out, so we're okay, let's buy, let's ship, we put it together, we're like you know, forklift driving the whole nine.

Yes, we got this and then we ran the first attempt and it didn't work. Yeah, again you can't do that bar on that equipment. I'll save you some time if anyone wants to buy some old equipment. by the way, let me know, so we had this area that we called our crazy things and then we would take the things that didn't work and we would put them in there and when we first put these things together and it didn't work and we were trying and trying and trying and trying and It was hours and by the way, no, no, this is a thank you to the guy from earlier who told me he burned the boats to be here.

I'm not a burner. Boat boy, I don't think you need to burn boats. I'm a gentlemen and weekends guy. I think you need to work harder that way. You don't have a gun to your head financially because that puts you in a position to make money. long-term decisions instead of long-term decisions, you always want to be in a place where long-term decisions are made, so we ran a software company during the day and then in the evenings and weekends we built missions and at first we made the bars. by hand, then we got the machines and tried to figure it out and then when it didn't work, one of my partners was literally a farmer from Iowa and had worked on tractors his whole life and one day he was watching the line while everything was going to hell. and he says, "I think I can fix this" and we were fine and he said "no, no, but you're going to have to let me cut it out and if it doesn't work, then we're leaving." It was like all our money and we were like, now you have to keep in mind that I went to Lisa and said, hey, we're going to have to put up our house as collateral for this company and if we fail, we'll lose everything. and she literally, without missing a beat, says, I bet you that was one of those things where literally in the moment I thought about saying it again, which she has saidso many times that woman has every right or die, but at that moment where he said, "Hey, I want to cut this thing and then put it back together, but if it doesn't work, then we'll be out of money.

I'm thinking I'd leave about my house and the one conversation I don't want to have with my wife. Hey, you know, we had literally. I think we just walked into the house like six or eight months before, so I thought I don't want to have that conversation and that's it. where it came from. The burn-the-ships mentality becomes important, but tie it to something that's already real, it's already there, there's no way around it, you're not going to get out. Your way of creating more problems for yourself, so I wasn't going to lose. that house and that became what he had in mind, okay, we're going to try this, but we're going to make it work, so he literally got a cut it with a blowtorch, took it apart, put it back together and it actually worked and that was one of those moments where you say, "Man, you really have to have some appetite for risk and that's the third thing." I am going to say that you have to do it, you have to give yourself permission to be kings because if you are afraid of being kings, if you are afraid of losing the house, it is okay to say that I will not do it.

Man, I'm going to fight and push and do everything I can to stop it, but if you're not willing to accept those kinds of consequences, you're going to have to play less, so you have to give yourself permission. To be real now, why am I not afraid to be real? because I know one thing is very important: failure is the most information-rich data stream that exists. You will never learn

faster

from anything than you will learn from failure. A psychic pain. Pain triggers all kinds of things in your brain. The hippocampus becomes more active. Your amygdala becomes more active.

You write the memories more strongly. reaching a sporting result the great thing about sports and part of the reason why they become like that gladiator thing that we obsess over and think about is because you know who won and who lost, you know who is the best, you know who is The worst thing is that you can see the statistics, you see it happening before your eyes. It is very difficult in life. We don't understand it often. Does my boss like me? Don't you like me? Am I going to get the promotion? Am I doing what I want? being in this job like you have no idea and then you make a decision and you don't know if it would have worked better otherwise, who knows, you never get around to trying, so when life slaps you in the mouth and you realize that you really have made a catastrophic mistake, so if you can approach it helplessly, it means that you are not trying to protect your ego because you have wisely already promised yourself that you will not tie your ego to the outcome you are aiming for. to link it to sincere seeking, so you only need to ask yourself one question when trying that.

What I just failed catastrophically at, was I honestly looking for the right outcome? and if the answer was yes, you can feel good about yourself and then you take a step towards that. The moment I say I tried and failed, I know that failure is the richest flow of information and data that exists, so what's the lesson here and being good at unraveling that and facing even more of what I'll say , figure it out versus what you're doing? I have done wrong by owning it, accepting it allows you not to make that mistake next time and I encourage you to never judge yourself through the lens of a moment in which you are going to ruin, you are going to ruin a lot and If you analyze negatively that mistake, it's just not effective and I always tell people to do and believe that thing that takes you towards your goals, like if you just repeat it obsessively in your head, then one day you will reach a Point where you do something that really you dislike it Hey friend, you know I think success requires you to see failure as the ultimate learning tool.

Success requires you to be disciplined and brave and never give up on your dreams. I say it all. that because one thing is for sure, the road to achieving your goal is not smooth or linear, I wish it were but it's not, it's going to be bumpy, sometimes it's scary, some days you take two steps forward and 10 steps back and that's why success also requires you to know how to get out of the rut and get unstuck quickly. Life is short. You can't waste time with your goals. You have to progress every day, so I took a University class on Impact Theory. called how to get unstuck, which you can watch for free with the link on your screen or by clicking below when you join me for that free preview of that impact theory university workshop.

I'll teach you my strategy on how to understand exactly. where you should be heading, how to identify the obstacle that is blocking you, and the best way to make the most progress toward that goal and keep the momentum going, right click on that link and let's get to work, I'll see you inside and you'll have to ask if the Whether I don't like it moves me forward or not, if it moves me forward then I will do it, but most likely not, you might want to feel the sting that can really propel you forward. but you don't want to exist in that state where you just allow yourself to punish yourself because nothing good ever comes of that, at that point it's just a punishment, so you have to ask yourself the value of that punishment. of the duration of the punishment and so I began to be able to convince myself to let go of these self-limiting ideas, these beliefs about how I couldn't do it simply because I said I was willing to live even if I didn't believe it.

I am willing to live by the edict that I should only do and believe that which takes me towards my goals and I had this in me. He wanted to punish me. I want to punish myself when I did something stupid. I love you. I certainly started to think less and less about myself and it became more and more clear that it wasn't serving me, it wasn't driving me forward, so building on these beliefs, the rules in your life become the foundation on which you're going to build and so this notion of building something brick by brick, of looking at your life on a long timeline, of not judging yourself in a moment, but I like to look at myself in increments of 10 years if you ever want to feel good about yourself. in your life in an increment of 10 years because maybe in one month you didn't do anything very interesting, you can't really identify what you've learned or who you've met or if you've really made any progress, maybe you had a bad year and at the end look at that year, you're like damn and I really went back and asked this question one time to a guy who came through his residency and told him he was about to become a full-fledged doctor. and to anyone in this place, this literally happened last week and I said, think back 10 years and what you knew about human biology at that time, imagine you were going to go out and operate on someone or be a GP and make recommendations. for someone with the knowledge that you had then, how would he feel, it would be scary, it would be terrible and I said now imagine how much you have learned in those 10 years and he said yes and he is smiling and I said Now I want you to realize that if you play well the game 10 years from now you will think about who you are today the same way you thought about yourself 10 years ago and that's when this gets fun because next thing you know, I stumble here. failure falls on your face, whatever it is, none of that is really going to matter if you're just learning and learning and learning and learning and learning and learning and learning and learning and if you're doing that and if you stay focused then you're going to be. start stacking these bricks and building what you want to build, but to build that you will need clarity.

I'm just curious what's on the screen behind me. The bad news is that if I sat down. with you and push you on it, chances are you still lack that clarity, now clarity is one of those things I talk about a lot, so I'm not going to beat it to death tonight, but I just want to say that no matter how clear I think you are, you're still not clear enough and the reason I can say that beyond a doubt is because when you know something from 10,000 angles, you just know it from every sense, you know exactly like quadrants. on a map, you know precisely the latitude, the longitude, everything down to a grain of sand of where you're trying to go.

When you have it, you can really get to it from any angle, you can deviate for a moment because you know where you are. If you go back to when you don't have that clarity, you're always lost and that's where most entrepreneurs spend their time because remember, if I were the person I wanted to be, I would have gone out tonight and said the only thing that stands between us. . You and your dreams are a set of skills, put down the microphone, but I know that doesn't break through, it doesn't reach people the way I wanted it to, but once you, if you can, come back to it again and again time.

Every time something goes wrong in my life I ask myself a simple question: what is wrong with me? I'm bad at something there's something I'm doing wrong by definition if I were doing it right then I'd be getting the result I want I'm not getting the result I want therefore I'm doing something wrong it's all my fault I'm not trying to feel bad about myself myself because I'm divorced from the outcome I'm just valuing myself for being a learner sincerely pursuing that's all, so I'm not saying all those things to kick myself out of myself to feel bad about myself to hold back.

I say this because reality is busting your ass making you feel good by the way this is me at an airport we had a delay in fact someone watched the Tony Robbins episode. It's me stuck at the airport on my way to interview Tony Robbins and I thought this is going to know, I know who he is. The introduction was divided into chapters and verses. that down, I actually don't remember if he made it to the final cut, but he said, "I'm sorry, you had to read all that." I was like Tony, I needed you to know, I know who you are, Tony, but I'd really like to go. with your head down, just believe this, this is my new obsession, the human animal, we don't have big fangs, we don't have sharp claws, what we have is the ability to change, we are very adaptable and I'm sure you guys I've heard the quote: It is not the strongest species that survives nor the most intelligent but the most adaptable to change.

Our ability to change is incomparable. There is no other animal you can find in the number of places you can find us. famous before and after hey, nothing like standing in front of a group of people in your underwear twice. I would like to point out that my wife put these together. Well, first let's talk about the one on the left. This is one of my favorite stories. So I had been lifting, believe it or not, for a long time in the uh, I guess your guys left, yeah, so on the left, my heavy picture, I've been lifting and lifting and lifting and lifting and I went to see to this friend who I hadn't seen in years and he was wearing my Titus t-shirt and I thought, "Oh man, she's going to say something" and my wife knew how excited I was.

I thought she would look at me and say, "Oh my God, you're so amateur, what did you do?" You do it and I sat down and spent the whole night with her and she didn't say a damn thing like she didn't even bring it up. I was like what and then my wife and I are going to leave that beautiful, charming woman who introduced me and she said. When I asked her, I said, "Can you believe Sophie didn't say anything and she said, oh, maybe she just thought you'd gotten fat, what did you say, that's a possibility?

I was what I was, literally beside myself, that's it." actually the night that it told me it was okay, we're taking that before photo right now, this very second, and then it's an endless amount of work, there's two years between these photos, two grueling years of fighting with my wife because she was telling me that I was on the wrong diet and that I was so hungry that I couldn't listen that you can't try to eat a man's fat burger when he does two hours of cardio a day, okay, that's ice cream, but when you try hard, you and The body is a really tangible example of how much change the human body is capable of making, and so when you see what you can do to your body, it's an incredibly powerful reminder of how much adaptation you are capable of making. and of that game. of adaptation like once you accept it I am an average human being the average human being is capable of extraordinary adaptation adaptation follows certain rules all I have to do to become extraordinary and get where I want to go is follow the rules of adaptation that It's the gospel truth that's it, that's the name of this game, that's how you acquire skills, you do what's called deliberate practice, read the book, the talent code, read the book, the talent code, it's on my list, so everyone in this room, of course, has already read all the books on my list, read the book, man, that book makes it very clear.

Hey, there are three levels in the brain that you learn on kind of the surface, the middle and then deep down, like in your brain, and that's where it comes into the autonomic nervous system. system where things happen automatically where you are just good and where you look effortless like right now I know one of you, even though you know me, you knowmy story, you know when Lisa said we were in a room with four people, they were her family. She had known him for a decade. They asked me for her to tell a story. She literally couldn't speak.

I had become so anxious that I had let my mind wander so much that I couldn't let people talk to me. I couldn't get them to look at me if there was any expectation that I was going to speak, my heart would start racing, so none of what you're seeing now is a result of oh, he's got natural talent, but I know that's where the story goes. people because you do something so like none of you are thinking about I'm not kidding when I was a kid I wanted to be a comedian so I spent hours with a brush in front of the mirror making faces and the fact that I only have two faces now really pisses me off. , I have a big smile and I'm neutral and I look angry, literally.

We had this conversation yesterday on Impact Theory and someone said, You know? Have you ever thought about standing in front of the mirror? If I. I already did it, I did it when I was 12, damn it didn't help, here we are, but you spent so many hours doing something over and over again that really if you do it deliberately and daniel coyle in the book, the talent code breaks down exactly what deliberate practice is, it's not just repeating something, it's repeating what you're bad at, so you'll often hear people say, hey, just figure out what you're good at and do that thing I've never done. made.

I once came across something where they could pay me to just masturbate, so if that's the deal then I'm in trouble, but I did it so fast, I won't lie about it, I didn't train, nothing, I just knew what to do. amazing, but getting good at other things that I could actually monetize and do something with has been a very different story which has been about deliberate practice, it's been about figuring out how the brain works, really understanding the brain science of all of this and get into that and structure. Things like that, so what am I weak at?

Where am I not good? What should I focus on? Because once you start doing that, once you get into Ah, this is what I need to get where. I want to go, this is the gap between where I am and where I want to be and that gap is made entirely of skills, then fear sets in and you're not going to believe in your ability to cross that chasm. Okay, now this is what I want you to do, crossing the chasm of fear is actually very simple, it's the easiest thing you're going to do, but it requires you to undo some of your beliefs because right now, in fact, this looks a lot like to the money that people are going to say.

You, ah, money can't buy happiness and they're going to tell you, so no, don't chase it and you're going to think, but damn, I have to pay the rent. I want to drive a car that I need. I need some gas to eat and part of that is when people say you say, yeah, yeah, yeah, money can't buy you happiness, but it covers the car payment and lets my kids go to school and all that, and you can. You never succeed and the fear is the same because when you fail it will hurt, you will go through a momentary crisis.

I still do it every time I fail. I go on that roller coaster. The key is how fast you can do it. that roller coaster, can you go from three days to one day? can you go from a day to an hour? can you go from an hour to a minute? from a minute to a second can you get it to the point where no? It didn't even register on your face and that became my goal. I wanted to see how quickly I could change my emotional state, and I could change my emotional state so quickly that people wouldn't even realize that I had had a big internal reaction.

I fell on my face and it sucked and I felt embarrassed and horrified and when you start to have that kind of emotional control over things then you'll be able to move on, so the key to doing that is one that you have to practice. shorten the amount of time it hurts, but the only way you'll be able to do that is to free yourself and stop thinking that the negative voice is going to go away, it almost certainly won't, I've never done that. I knew someone who didn't have a negative voice. I have seen monks speak who have been meditating for 40 years and they have a negative voice.

That's why I think truly understanding the truth of human biology is so important to not do. be fooled by your brain because you know how it works you know there are literal parts of your brain their job their job their evolutionary function is to worry there is a region of your brain called the deep limbic system if you really want to get up This is crazy. Read vs Ramachandran's book Phantoms in the Brain and he talks about syndromes where people suffer damage to certain parts of their brain and there is a part of your brain, the deep limbic system, that you no longer experience. emotion, then your brain has a region that tells you not what is happening, but how to feel about what is happening, if it doesn't tell you that right there, living in the womb, your brain has no intention of simply giving you data objectives, it is not like that. about that it's not just about saying there's a thing with fur, a face, a heartbeat, claws six inches away, you're dead, right, it's like something has moved, it's a little orange, it runs like hell and that's it, then you have these things, that's their job. to keep you alive to keep you safe, but now that you put yourself in a modern context, you have to know what's going on so you can reduce that because more people or should I say people are more afraid to speak at a funeral giving the eulogy than being in the coffin like the moment you're so afraid of what other people think you'd rather be dead than be ashamed, that's when you know your mind isn't always working for you once you start to realize oh my mind doesn't always work in my favor doesn't have the same agenda as me so you can start saying: okay, how does it work for me? how does it work against me? which are the rules? how can i fold some of these? why I'm obsessed with the movie The Matrix is ​​the perfect metaphor for the human condition.

I don't think we really live in a simulation except the one created in our own minds. Your brain is literally locked in total darkness, and yet, right now, don't you feel like you are perceiving light? It feels like light is entering your brain, but it's not. It's being translated into electrical chemical signals that your brain then translates and creates a virtual representation of what it sees and it's good enough that you don't run into too much, but it's all painted with what the brain thinks you need to stay alive. and one of the things he thinks you need to stay alive. it's a really negative voice telling you not to do that, man, you're really going to do it.

No, real people will be very embarrassed when you do that. You're probably going to lose your house because of the way you barely got this job. You leave this job and go to another job, who knows how long you've been hearing that the economy is going to change, what are you going to do, then, oh, you're going to get laid while broke, huh, very sexy from behind. of a minivan and that just plays and plays and plays and plays and plays and if you know it's coming then you can interrupt it and you can insert other beliefs that really make sense because they lead you towards your right goal, and that's why we have to have clarity like that that once you have clarity you know what your goal is you only believe in what moves you towards your goal you hear the negative voice that does not move you towards your goal you interrupt it because you understand the way the brain works you hit it with this mantra phrase , any rule, belief, whatever it is, and now you are changing your neurochemical state so that you don't actually feel that oppression, but that's what I want people to understand, is all this, you are living this life in this neurochemical.

If a soup is going to happen, you're going to feel some way all the time and that feeling is only as real as you let it be or you can say no, I don't choose to feel that and then change the narrative and feel something. more and that sounds like self-help words that is real that is the truth of the human condition there is a book called the brain that changes itself thinks that you have an organ between your ears it is considered the most complex thing in the universe it is more complex than the stars, more complex than plants and if you know anything about photosynthesis, those are nothing to play with, I mean we can go into all the plants like crazy, that's like a whole, but there are many, many really complicated things.

There are things in this universe and nothing comes close to the complexity of the human brain, so start understanding how to harness that thing so you're not beholden to it and really start harnessing its power so you can move wherever you want to go. take control of that process and push yourself forward, but it all comes down to really understanding how it works and when you understand that you're living in this neurochemical soup, that all of that is modifiable and that it changes only through thought, that's crazy. just thinking you can change, you can change the physical wiring of your brain, the most complicated thing in the universe, thinking about changing it, and if there's anyone in this room, I'm not an expert in this, but I find I'm deeply deeply fascinated by it.

If there's someone here suffering from major trauma, something has happened to you and just a room this size I can guarantee that a huge percentage of you owe it to yourself to explore medically supervised mdma or something. now why I've never done it but why I think if I had a trauma I guarantee you that's the first thing I would do why because what he's doing you know who Roger Bannister is four minute mile okay the notion that the four One mile minute was beyond human capacity and remained for decades, so imagine that for decades we have professional people in athletics and athletics going for it.

I will do it, no, no, it's not possible, the lungs, the heart, can't take it, people kept. coming close but no one could break it and everyone just said look it's medically impossible humans can't run a four minute mile just accept it and move on and then one guy said no I refuse to believe he was a med student and I wasn't I don't know if part of that really came from understanding the body and he said there's nothing in the physiology of the human body that tells you that you can't run a second

faster

, so for decades this goes on and then people start to say well, maybe.

Someone could break it, but it would have to be in perfect conditions, it would have to be a day with no wind, dry conditions and it would have to be in front of a big crowd cheering him on to do his best Roger Bannister performance and shows. on a rainy, cold, wet, windy day in front of 26 people and he breaks the record now that's not the mind-blowing part, the mind-blowing part is 19 days later, someone else broke the beat, his record stood for decades imagine something standing for 40 years and then in 19 days it breaks again in one year in one year three people break it in the same race once you believe something is possible once you try that thing that other thing like Tony Hawk when he was trying to make the 900.

He honestly said I didn't know if it could be done, so once he got it, everyone started doing it and he just became Dave Roger: yeah, yeah, of course, if you can't do the 900, you can't even compete. , but it remained. for so long until you could see, oh, it can be done, so what happens with mdma is that it puts you in such an altered brain state that you realize that you can love yourself again and when you feel that intense acceptance and you're looking at trauma you're looking at trauma do this with someone who knows what they're doing don't say go to vegas and get medical treatment with ecstasy mdma find a studio they're out there but you can try that other thing , the other state of loving and accepting yourself totally even though the neurochemistry is going to change radically as you come out of it, now you've tried it, you've run the 4-minute mile, you know it's possible, you've experienced it, you lived it , you were.

It's not someone telling you what's real for you. They know it's possible and that's what happens with success. That's what I want you to try. I want you to know that this was broken by someone as stupid as you. I'm not kidding, you look at me like an after photo, I look at me like a before photo, like you show me this is one of our first offices, but if you show me and I don't know if you already rolled them up, honey, but um , show me the pictures of me when I was a kid, so cool, sure, obviously, you can tell that kid is brilliant, he goes places, uh, he used to wear that all the time and yeah, there's another one, this was a hat that I I especially liked her, so she didn't take me very seriously, so when I always tell the story that my own mother, who was my biggest cheerleader, silently assumed that I was going to fail when I went to college, there she is, moms , so I had reasons to believe that.

She was going to fail. I didn't take myself seriously. I didn't take anything seriously. I cheated all through high school and it wasn't until the shame, frankly, started to get me out of bed. I got engaged to the charming and beautiful one. Mrs. Elizabeth Bill you and yes and she would come home this is that by the way we were living in her mother's house and that is not sexy living in theher mother's house she was working I wasn't and my only job was to make her a sandwich when she came home for lunch because she was coming home for lunch and I was lying in bed saying I'll get up in five minutes five minutes okay, I'm I'll be up in five minutes and I would lie in bed for three four sometimes five hours in the morning and the only thing that got me up was knowing that if I didn't get up right then I wasn't going to have her sandwich ready when she came over and that was like shame too deep to bear, so she would ruffle my hair into a mess in just sweatpants, the same sweatpants I wore every day, which she didn't think were very sexy, and I would make her a sandwich and get a little mad. little if seemed a little out of place, you know, I had done. the sandwich, yeah, you know, if you could comb your hair, maybe it would be good, I was like Jesus asks, asks, asks and finally I realized that I told her I was going to make her rich and when I proposed to her, when I went to see her father to ask for his blessing to propose marriage, he told me no, he was not going to give me his blessing. and he asked me a super powerful question and said: how are you going to take care of my daughter?

I was broke, I didn't have a job and I said sir, look, I know what you see is a broke kid who doesn't have enough education from Tacoma Washington and What you don't see is that I'm the most ambitious person you'll ever meet and I thought I would would move and I thought he would say: you know what boy? Well, you're marrying my daughter and she didn't. he said look you can have sex with her but for the love of god don't marry my daughter and I'm not kidding he didn't use those words in his defense but he made it very clear that I'm not old fashioned.

Tom, I'm not old-fashioned and they have a Greek phrase sepasiga which means slowly, slowly, so it became the whole family's mantra because everyone knew that Andreas had this whole thing where he wanted me to take it easy and I would go. too fast for him and I said look I'm sorry respect what you're saying but I'm going to propose to your daughter and there I am she said yes I gave her the whole speech I'm going to make you rich this is going to Be amazing, I have all this ambition, I'm going to make it happen, and as I'm lying in bed, I realize there's a huge chasm between ambition and drive, and I had the ambition and I had it.

I didn't have the drive to move forward, but I was so ashamed of myself that that shame actually propelled me forward because now I essentially had people staring at me. He had a father-in-law. I wanted to know what I was going to do. my fiancee who wanted to know if I was really going to be the man I promised her I was going to be and that got me moving and led me in the right direction and that got me into all the things that you see now, but it was this incredibly long journey of being disappointed in myself and being ashamed and not knowing what I was doing and being lost and spending so much time lost that I end up developing crushing anxiety because I'm failing. a lot and I'm failing very often, but I haven't divorced myself from the result yet, so because I'm so tied to the result, every hit is a hit to who I am, so I start to look inward and think less. of myself even though I'm moving up and moving forward, I spent a lot of time beating myself up in the face doing something stupid saying something stupid actually something and costing a lot of money over and over again and so on because I thought that meant I was bad, I wasn't worthy, I never I was going to be able to accomplish something, it was sending me into this death spiral and it wasn't until I really started having to learn about the brain to get out from under the anxiety that I started to put a lot of the pieces in place, the rules, the beliefs and everything that ended up allowing me to catapult forward and that's what impact theory is all about for Lisa and me, it's just making people realize that you're an average human being, an average.

Being human is enough, you can change a lot more than you think, but it's going to be very, very difficult, so I can't promise you that it will be easy because the dreams that you guys want to make are big and some of you have specific dreams that are gigantic. and I love that and although I believe that the most powerful thing you can give to any human being is doubt, I am not going to give it to you tonight. What I want to give you tonight is a very simple idea that you can have done and become whatever you want, whatever you want, if it doesn't violate the laws of physics, you can do it, no matter your age, gender, ethnicity. , sexual orientation, literally none of that matters, but what does matter is that you did it. become extraordinary so the first step in this incredibly arduous journey that you are going to undertake if you want to be extraordinary is to simply believe that you can become extraordinary it will be difficult you will fail you will be afraid you will be ashamed you will make mistakes there will be the dark night of the soul and at that moment In that dark night of the soul the only thing that is going to rescue you are your beliefs about the way the world works because you are not going to feel good about yourself, but if you can rebuild that mentality in which it is about the search for that you're a learner, that's your identity, so you can start improvising all this, get back on your feet and get moving, so I just said the idea that I want. leave you with that it doesn't matter who you are today it only matters who you want to become and the price you are willing to pay to get there thank you okay the first thing you should know about me is that I am not a born entrepreneur now there are many people who They consider themselves natural entrepreneurs.

I'm not one of them. I know there were kids out there who had lemonade stands. When they were about six months old, they couldn't hold their heads but they could sell. That was me. No, I was.