How to Upgrade Your Mindset in 46 Minutes | John Assaraf on Impact Theory

to make sure that was the case, but there is a lot of fear, but I understand what the emotion of fear is. It's a subconscious trigger that causes this feeling of no. I don't like it and it's a ghost sign for me, not a stop sign for me, that's interesting, what do you mean by that? Well, fear is an emotion. All emotions are triggered at the subconscious level. They release neurochemicals that cause a feeling. We are aware of feelings. that are triggered at the subconscious level, the feeling is the end point of the human experience in the physical body and therefore when you have something in

your

brain, that neural network says well, what if this book comes out and you fail ?

What happens if not? good enough what is not scientifically correct what if what if what if my brain is going to process that the same way as

your

brain and everyone else's because that's everyone's brain it's the same the mechanism of how the brain works It's Einstein's brain Hitler's brain Genghis Khan's brain Tom Bilyeu's brain, John's acetate, has the same functionality, so if you understand the mechanics of what's supposed to happen, then you say "okay." , great, when I feel this, then what am I going to do? I like to use a car analogy, you're driving a car and you're talking to a friend of yours and a light appears on the dashboard, you don't take a hammer and hit a light, it's a sign that something is happening in the engine, in the trunk, in the tires, something is happening.

Emotions and feelings are neither positive nor negative. They empower you or disempower you to varying degrees if you don't understand them, so if you think about fear, how does a firefighter walk into a burning building when there's a tremendous amount of adrenaline and epinephrine that you know could stop most people? of dead people? their footprints learn here is the feeling is normal do you have the knowledge, skills and preparation to deal with this in a safe way? If you don't do it, now you quit, so we have this phenomenal brain, right, these are cool skills that we can.

I don't know how to replicate it anywhere with billions of dollars, but now we're getting part of the user manual, so when you feel scared, what should you do? I teach the first two internal sizes that I teach each of our students, number one is called take six, calm the circuits, so if you have this unpleasant, anxious, fearful emotional energy in motion and it is unpleasant and the breaks have continued , if you simply take six deep breaths through your nose and out through your mouth as if you were breathing through a Straw, you will deactivate the stress response center, which means blood will return to the left prefrontal cortex.

The Einstein part of the brain can really think about this problem because what happens when the stress response center is activated, the blood moves away from there towards the stress response center. fear response then you have epinephrine cortisol adrenaline to be able to get you out of the situation it is part of our instinctive brain part of the reptilian brain the first part of the brain that developed was then the mammalian brain the limbic system then the neocortex the thinking brain, then when our brain has this signal of oh my gosh, you could get hurt, you could lose this, you could get in trouble, you could feel ashamed, ashamed, ridiculed, judged, etc., that part of the brain will activate, so if you take six deep breaths first calm down calm the circuits first then do the internal size number two called aya aia the first day is for awareness what am I thinking right now what am I feeling right now what am I feeling right now what is my behavior right now? you thoughts feelings sensations behavioral awareness what is my intention right now that is the me well my intention is to move forward I want to do this great what is one small action step you can take now the reason why you want to take one small step of action is a small step of action that your brain can handle, if it is a small step towards it, the response to the threat disappears, but if you focus on the endgame immediately you will get that rush and that instant trigger of the response to fear, the stress response, so the first thing you need to do is learn to manage your way of thinking and what you focus on, learn to manage your emotions because they drive your behavior more than anything else, because we move away from pain and we get closer to pleasure, but we move away from pain. a thousand times faster and the pain wires in the brain faster for survival mechanisms, so purely from a neuroscience perspective, just understand yourself once you understand it, it's okay, this feeling is normal, it's okay, what should I do?

Take six with the circuits, ayah, and now you can start to be progressive and progress towards what you want now while you're in the you know in the uh, what am I thinking? Feeling like it's an opportunity to be conscious and the greatest gift we have as human beings is our consciousness because consciousness is what gives you choice and choice. It's what gives you freedom most people live their lives in a reactive state, automatic reactive state because of these set points that we talk about and start talking about, so we're in this repetitive cycle over and over again we react. to the same things. we behave the same way we eat the same foods we dress the same way just to maintain homeostasis and comfort zones and we have never been taught like we were taught as children, here are your six main emotions, this is how you you deactivate know your stress or fear center so this is how you activate your imagination center this is how you have more concentration this is how you develop a new belief this is how you develop a new habit this is how you release one that we have not been taught to do They've taught me that they're important things, but they haven't given us the tools and then we haven't practiced them enough to be able to make them part of our unconscious competence brain, so how do you do some of those things?

I mean, that was a pretty extraordinary list and I will say beliefs that release beliefs habits that release habits like that is really interesting, so what is a belief, I mean, think about what a belief is and let's get back to that. I just like to go into the fields of neuroscience because just my passion now is a belief, it's nothing more than a group of cells that have been connected and then reinforced and we have two types of beliefs, we have beliefs that whatever Well, I'm going to stop you there because that is very important, yes, and very different from me.

I would have expected it, I think that when people hear belief, it is believing in something that is true and that does not fall into their definition. No, we believe that everything we believe is true for us, but it's not the truth that's really interesting, right, but we've been conditioned, uh, yeah Go back a little bit to what we talked about before about you know when you were a baby, when you were born, what belief did you have? Did you have zero chicken eggs, zero or one? Then you learned what to believe and even how to formulate your beliefs.

They are from parents, teachers, brothers, sisters, television, perhaps when you read some books well and we behave based on what we believe, so we could be behaving in our lives based on false, inaccurate or beliefs that take away from us. power, so if a belief is a neural pattern in the brain, then we probably have some good, empowering, useful ones, and we probably have some that are not useful, not empowering, and not worthy of the geniuses we all are, So the question is whether it is possible for me to develop new beliefs that I don't have.

If you believe right now, the answer is yes, yes, what does that process look like? So the process is that you can read new beliefs into life, and if you hear empowering beliefs over and over again, you emotionalize them and visualize yourself in reality. Putting those beliefs into practice and you learn to pay attention to that little inner critic that says that's not true, that's never going to come true, that's not you if you learn and remember that little voice is there to keep you consistently in this homeostasis. place and is there to protect the beliefs that exist now.

The latest research shows that to develop, you know, a new pattern takes between 66 and 365 days. How do you help people be consistent long enough to form that, like when people talk about that. It takes 28 days to form a new habit, okay, I can understand that, but when you start talking about 100 days, 365 days, it becomes quite daunting for adults, yes it does, then you have to use intrinsic and extrinsic motivation to Have To get off to a good start, why is it important for you to develop these new beliefs? What would your life be like if you had them now?

What would your family life be like? It has to give them a benefit that is greater than the The cost of change is interesting, so the cost of change is something that our brain resists. The only human being who likes change is a wet baby. All other human beings resist it because safety comes first, homeostasis and energy conservation, so we are biologically programmed to not want to do it. change, so we have to deliberately persuade the brain to adopt motivational reasons, emotional reasons, it must have an intrinsic reason why it should do this and therefore it can also use pain as a framework, so if it doesn't ago, are you okay with what your life is like?

So at this age in five years, 10 years and 20 years and if you agree with that then you are not a candidate for change, but if you are committed to leaving the old behind to be able to create the new and you create motivations every day, that's where the power is, remember previous progress, not perfection, so anyone can do it in a minute or 10 seconds, so if you can start formulating a habit, a daily habit, a weekly habit, it doesn't matter how long . It's if you can create that space in your brain that on this day at this time this is what I do and you do it repeatedly, that becomes a habit and it takes those 66 days or so for a simple habit that you have to do consciously. then habit makes you and that's why they say we are all creatures of habit because habits run themselves your subconscious programs just run themselves most people don't take the time to become aware what are my empowering habits what are they my disempowering habits and then The next question is: how do I release this one and how do I strengthen it or create a completely new one?

What we seek to do is develop empowering habits that then run their course. I love it. Okay, one thing. I would be remiss not to ask you before we go about the three boards, the vision boards, the achieved boards and the one I don't know about the junk boards, so the junk board, the vision board to see what you want, the board of achievements to remember yourself. that you have a lot to do, that you have achieved, so you feel good and shit, do you really put pictures of the things you have achieved?, aha, yes, yes, I have them in the closet in my house, locked up, on the floor like on the floor so you don't look at them I don't look at them no so I look at them just because I sit down and put on my shoes I want to look at them every day interesting yes in my um I have I also have this ritual.

I do something called brush and prime, so on my bathroom mirror I have my goals that are on my mirror, so while I'm brushing my teeth I prepare my brain to see my goals in front of me. every morning and every night I love that, so that's preparing your brain, which is a whole other topic we can have and then the achievement boards remind me every time I look at the things I've achieved, I say it wasn't easy, there were a lot of ups and downs, ups and downs, failures, you know, times where I thought about quitting and I didn't, so it's to remind me to go through the times where I don't think I can achieve those things and then trash board It means conflict resistance, achievement and procrastination, so what conflicts are happening right now that I need to resolve?

What resistance is in my way? What are my resistances? What is in front of me resisting now and then? The achievement is also to remind you that you can get through things and then procrastination is what makes me procrastinate so if you also create a junk board you will have it in front of you and then you can create a game plan on what to do. I'm going to do about it. What am I going to do with conflicts? What would you put on a conflict board? Is it a photo of a person? Oh, it could be a person you're having conflicts with.

It could be something you're trying to figure out. If you're having conflicting thoughts about whether you should do it, shouldn't you do it? and there is uncertainty, any conflict that you are experiencing is going to create neural dissonance in your brain, it is just going to create chaos in your brain and if you get it out of your head and put it on a piece of paper you can look at it and now you are one step away from what what is happening in your brainand so, the more you can be in coherence is the equivalent of being part of a band that is in harmony where every musician says oh man, this sounds so good the more coherence you can have, the more you will flow and the more you're going to take action as soon as possible.

The more chaos there is in the brain, neuronal chaos, whether it's because of emotions, you're missing something, there's conflict, like resistance, the more you can get it out in front of you and open up and say well what it's causing. It's easier for Einstein's brain to say, "Okay, "Maybe I can do this, maybe I can do that, but I can also call a friend or a mentor or a coach, or I can do my research, it makes a lot of sense, before I ask the last thing." question, yeah, tell these guys where they can find you online, you can find me online at myneurogym.com,

john

asaraf.com, on my Facebook fan page, on Instagram, on Twitter, those are good, those are the main ones, and then my final question, what is the

impact

? what do you want to have in the world oh um in my epitaphs he lived loved gave had fun I always thought if there was a way that I could somehow use my life in a way that I could make someone else's life a little It's a little more easy to live whether through knowledge, understanding, love or a process, then my life has been worth it and that is why I just want to make a difference and I am one of the people who does not believe that anything exists. wrong in the world everything is developing exactly as it should uh there are many things that I don't like uh that I don't understand but I just want to make the trip the best I can for as many people as possible that's beautiful, yes, John Many thank you for being on the show it was really amazing guys guys when I say dive in, I mean dive in with someone really taking the kind of time and care that it takes to understand how the brain works to be able to achieve that. digestible for people so you can use it in your own life, I think it's really extraordinary that so much of this was born out of a moment of kindness between him and someone who was there and then made him promise to do the same in the same way. way and the fact that he has dedicated a large part of his life to doing that. to understand how things work, how habits work, how beliefs work and there's even more that you'll find in it talking about those beliefs, which I think is really extraordinary, I think it's one of the most fundamental things about experience human being in terms of trying to be successful is understanding what the beliefs are that operate in your brain and the fact that at first, when I heard that he was in on the secret, I thought, oh god, the law of attraction scares me, so that the fact that he has Goya's law and that at the end of the day you have to get off your butt and do something was then when I knew that we were spiritual twins and that I was going to really like this guy, so I tell you there is a lot power in what he talks about how the brain works, how you can rewire it, how you can prepare yourself to do truly extraordinary things, so dive in, I think you'll find some surprising takeaways that you can put into practice.

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