The Unstoppable Force - The Real Difference Between Success and Failure | Dan Lok | TEDxSFU

I want you to imagine a person you like to respect and admire someone you consider very

success

ful. Go ahead and do it in your mind. Now raise your hand if you have that person in mind. The question we could explore today. It is what makes that person succeed while others fail. I want you to imagine what life would be like if you could do your best in every area of ​​your life, your relationship, your finances, your business, your career, your family, your health, your hobby, your passion, what would you do? It would be as if you could give your best in every area of ​​your life.

You will see. I've been studying

success

for the better part of 17 or eight years of my life. I have been asked hundreds of times in talks and interviews. What is the quality, action, or mindset that will ensure a person truly creates extraordinary success? I discovered and although there are many factors that lead to success, goal setting, focus, perseverance, time management, people skills, I have never been clear on that. It

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when I look at my old life and wonder what made me successful. It wasn't because of my intelligence when I first came to Canada.

He couldn't speak a word of English when he wasn't. I was a C student in school, it wasn't because I had a great education because actually my mom and dad got divorced when I was 16 and shortly after that my dad went bankrupt, so I wasn't born with a silver spoon. my mouth and it definitely wasn't because I was connected to the right people because when I first immigrated to Canada I didn't know anyone and it wasn't because of my personality because at one point when I was young I was very, very shy. It wasn't social at all.

I didn't have many friends and back then I couldn't even speak a word of English and it was definitely not by luck because I had failed. I started and failed in 13 businesses before. Having my first success, I lost millions of dollars in business, so I wouldn't call it luck when I look at the deliberate success I had over the years. a highly paid speaker that impacts hundreds of thousands of people and I just live life on my own terms, that I could get up every morning and do what I love, have that sense of purpose, have that sense of peace, something that very few people achieve, I know.

I

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ized that there was a factor in each of those successes, in each of the small successes, in fact, it was present in everything that significantly happened in my life. Let's imagine for a moment that we all have one hundred IQs. It's okay for some people in this room. I'm giving you a little for some people in this room. I'm marking it. We're going to pretend that we're going to get your IQ and we're going to pretend that I have to have your IQ. I'm getting a little lost now let me ask you a question. Is it possible for someone to have an IQ 10 times higher than ours?

No, I mean, I've heard of an IQ of 150, maybe an IQ of 200, but not an IQ of 1000. Can we all agree that someone can't be 10 times smarter than you? we? Yes, okay, can anyone work? 10 times harder than us, so you work eight hours a day, they work 80 hours a day. No, then the question is why are there people ten times more successful than us, why are there people who help and impact 10 times more people than us, why are there people? earning 10 times more money than us, why are there people ten times healthier than us? Why are there people ten times happier than us?

Why do you remind me of a story about a young man who wanted to be successful and heard about this millionaire? in the city he has a great reputation, he alone runs a very successful business, he is a family man, a man of integrity and also a very generous donor to his local charities. This young man approached this millionaire and said: how can I be as successful as you? millionaire said well young man if you want to be as successful as me meet me at 6:00 a.m. in this gym here is the address a gym I want to learn how to make money not much how to exercise like what why go to a gym young Men, if you are going to learn how to make money, meet me at 6 a.m. m. at this gym, okay, the young man showed up at the gym at 6 a.m. m. o'clock, he brought his laptop ready to get dressed in business clothes, ready to take notes, he walked into this big gym and There was a huge boxing ring right in the middle of the gym and the millionaire was standing in it and the milliner asked the young man It's a young man how hungry are you for success and a young man said: I'm very hungry.

Well, he grabbed. a pair of gloves he said put on these gloves for these gloves I came to learn how to be successful now how to fight if you want to be successful put on these gloves okay ok he mused gloves walking through the ring without telling the puncher Amilia poom Yama in the face and the young girl Miss didn't start bleeding and the Yama was like what the hell are you crazy? That hurts and while he was distracted by the old familiar thought of him BAM with another punch and knocks him to the ground and this young me. for this million he is crazy this guy is crazy what is happening and Amelia said to the young man I ask you again how hungry are you for success now get up keep fighting this young man this time this time the young man is angry he is like me 'I'm going to understand well and he really really tried to hit Amelia, he really tried to turn back, but the mill just moved there gracefully, very quickly, he could even touch, the guy couldn't touch there and he knocked him to the ground again and again time. and over and over again and the young man finally said this is, I quit this is stupid this is not fair I didn't come here to be your punching bag I thought you were going to teach me how to be successful I don't look this has something to do with it with success maybe you are not who they say you are maybe it was a mistake they asked us in the first place mainly you look at a very serious young man and say child, the fair of lamentations and life with fear is going to push you is going to push you hit and it's going to hit you let me tell you something and you listen to me and you listen to me carefully success does not come to the smartest or the most talented success comes to TWO to reach those who are hungriest so let me ask you how hungry are you for success now rise up so that's my question to you how hungry are you for success what are you willing to give up?

Do you know how to get what you want What sacrifices are you willing to make What excuses are you willing to let go Are you willing to experience humiliation Shame rejection as part of the price Are you truly committed to success or do you just like the idea? the problem they just want it they talk about it they think about it they complain but they really don't want it for some people in this room you don't want success as much as you want pokemons go you don't you don't want the value of success on Netflix you don't want success as much as you want to party.

Most people like the idea of ​​having a great relationship. Guess what, if you are really committed, you will have a more real date like the song I love you, let everyone be my own boss if you are really committed, you will be a business. Most of you like the idea of ​​losing 20 pounds. Guess what happens if they really get engaged? They will appear in a gym. They will appear in the gym. and that's the problem, we really don't want it that much, we don't want it that much, so the rampage of the

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hunger is the

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hunger is what will make you unstoppable hunger is what will keep you going when things they get difficult hunger drives success hunger destroys or fear or

failure

hunger is your greatest competitive advantage is York the ultimate when you want something bad enough and you, when you know what you want and you want it bad enough, you will find the way to get it you will find a way to get it.

I interrupt people when I say that you make me extraordinary because it takes you off the hook. You see, when I started my business career for the first five years in business, I was working 12 to 15 hours a day every day. I didn't take a single day off for five years, not a single day was I working while my friends were drinking, partying and watching sports games because he was hungry for success. He was willing to sacrifice today's pleasures for two. more rewards I was willing to pay the price today to buy the possibility of a better future for my family.

Now I'm not the smartest. I'm not the brightest. I don't have the most resources, but I'm hungry. I will die climbing the mountain, not sliding down. I will die chasing my dream before I give up. I can tell you, start to tell you how many times during my career people tell me slow down, slow down, take it easy, don't stand out, don't wear yourself out. a red suit you know don't work too hard don't stress live an easy life you know success isn't everything have you ever noticed the person who says success isn't everything like the men a woman has none none me?

I've been labeled a workaholic, weird, weird, selfish, greedy, egotistical, you name it, I've heard it all, I've heard it all, and I can't begin to tell you how many times in my life people try to persuade me to give up my dreams that it's okay to settle, it's okay to settle for Less, that's life and later I realize that the people trying to persuade me to give up on my dreams are not trying to help me. They are trying to understand why they have given up. They are trying to understand why they have given up. See, the problem is that you can't download it on Google.

Hungry, someone was trying to do it. You can't download it on Google. it has to come from within you can't download it on Google it's like people follow me on Facebook you can follow me on Facebook you can watch me on YouTube and get to where I am today you're just going to see where I am there is no glory in that if you look at me look at me for inspiration just to fight a little more if you look at me look at me you want to live your own potential instead of copying someone else's if you look at me look at me to get back up and fight one more time to fight one more time it's like when you want to take the leap and when you arrive On the edge your brain will always tell you to stop and back away because you will bring a survival mechanism.

It's designed to protect you, but your intuition, your higher self, is designed to turn you into a sword and when you get to that edge and you want to jump and you see others fly, it's like you're looking at the people on Instagram that you're looking at. people on Facebook and you watch others fly, they're taking that dream vacation, they're buying that new house, they're getting their dream job, they find that ideal soulmate and you're watching others and wondering what life would be like. jump without jumping never look, sometimes you have to listen to your own intuition, sometimes you just have to listen to that voice and say you know what I'm going to jump and guess what, when you're hungry, you jump off that cliff and you'll jump, you'll jump and when jump, only one of three things could happen: one, you would jump, spread your wings and soar to new heights, second, you would jump and land on something soft, or you would jump and land on something hard it's okay you don't die what you don't kills makes you stronger have you heard of the song what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I see you and I know that your greatest fear is not that you would jump and fall your greatest fear is reaching the end of your life and you would never jump and you would never jump you are not afraid to die you are afraid to die before this world sees who you are and what you are capable of before they receive your gifts based on whether they fought before they feel your breath before they receive your contribution before they feel you no you want that to happen you don't want to leave this planet without someone knowing that you were here you see this recipe for extraordinary success is hunger the most important element of any human being that separates the level of success from the rest is hunger if you are going to where you've never been do what you've never done say we've never said you'll become the man or the woman if you always know what you are so please I'm not extraordinary I'm not going to set you free you won't be left off the hook I'm just a ordinary man who chooses every day to make an extra extraordinary decision.

I would like to offer you the opportunity to make that decision today. The most important decision you can make in your life is to decide if you are truly committed to success and happiness no matter what. It's the greatest gift you can give yourself, decide what you're willing to push to the limit and jump and take that jump and take that jump and take that jump when you want something bad enough and you work for it long enough. and you think it's strong enough, you'll get it, you'll get it, so I'll ask you the question one more time and it's the last question, then I'll get out of here.

I'm looking for a one word answer. and only a one word answer and it's Laos, you'd better blow the roof off of this. One would answer that it is a question. Ah, you're really hungry for success, thank you, that's all I have. Thank you very much, thank you very much, thank you. Stay hungry, stay hungry. thank you