The 110 techniques of communication and public speaking | David JP Phillips | TEDxZagreb

very well ladies and gentlemen welcome to my passion and my love and according to my wife my lover in life seven years ago I embarked on a journey to analyze 5,000

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speakers from around the world, amateur and professional, to distill and understand what what makes a good speaker good what makes a great speaker great and what makes an outstanding speaker stand out 110 basic skills with a bunch of secondary skills so what does it look like? These are the 110 basic skills and the equation is simple. the more you accomplish, the greater you will be now 110 skills that are too many to go over in a TED talk, don't you agree?

So what I've done is selected my absolute favorites and I'd like to show you a demo of what it can look like imagine this chair is something that you want someone else to believe in you want someone else to believe this this is your idea this is your want make your voice heard this gives you two options either you are on this side of the chair and you are a pretty mediocre communicator you shoot from the hip you hope for the best and sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't work option number two is that you are on this side of the chair and you know exactly what you are doing at all times.

You know that by taking a step forward you increase concentration. You know that by tilting your head slightly to the side you increase empathy. You know that by changing the pace of what you do. you're saying that you increase focus and you know that by lowering yourself you increase confidence and you know that by lowering your voice you get anticipation and you know with absolute certainty that you pause and you get absolute, undivided attention. Now the question is: can they all be together? On this side of the chair, can everyone become good at these skills? What do you think is the answer?

Of course, it's why because it's cool. Presentation skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. Skills. You are not born with a particular gene that makes you brilliant on stage, something that is acquired throughout life. Like I said, 110 skills, that's a big number, so what I chose to do is select the five, I would say, most important skills. Whenever someone comes to me and wants training, this is what I focus on and then I'll give you four additional skills at the end. Sounds good, so let's start with two of my body language favorites, which are ability 34 and ability. 69 that's not intentional no 34 what am I doing what could I be doing differently in this case ladies and gentlemen it is an absolute pleasure to have you here today very good of you to come what should I have avoided should have avoided closing my body language because every time a human being approaches his body language is a sign that he feels threatened in one way or another, so he should have continued with an open Lambada language, so let's take a look at the number 69 that looks like this.

I'll have to start here, so when a presenter starts like that, he says, what should I do better now? Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to one of the most influential topics known to mankind. This will be super interesting. We'll go over this. They will be happy to have it. An incredible moment Wow, it will blow your mind, what should I have avoided reversing? Look what a wrong double looks like this, ladies and gentlemen, it's a pleasure to have you here and good of you, well, a right double looks like this, ladies. and gentlemen, it is an absolute pleasure to have you here.

It's good that you come. There is a difference, of course, there is the biggest difference. I can feel the difference while making those two versions. You become what you are now. Let's ask ourselves. Yes, but David. the body language of clothes, things, what should I do with my hands, how safe, like where should I put them and the interesting thing about the body language of clothes is that everywhere I went around the world studying these people, it seems like We have general knowledge. kind of locked body language positions and I'll show you my favorite ones that I found, obviously we have the classic fig leaf position, then we have the double bunny position, you have the right bunny position, the left bunny position, your right, Has killed. and the left tackle, then you have the forklift of course, you have the peacock with flapping elbows, you have the major, Merkel, the prayer and the beggar, one of my personal favorites is the British horseman and the chloride of the coasts British, look, it's a The person who holds his hands like that puts them right above his chest, it's like they're somewhere.

Oh God, Zorro over here and then we found two T-Rexes in the studio too. Something so strange that it presents itself like this or like that, okay? So, you mean David, we need to have open body language? Yeah, that's what I mean and I can't have them in my pockets, I can't have them in my specialty or the double bunny, I won't do with them then. What you should use them for is what are called functional gestures to show that something is getting better, that something is getting worse or that it is one, two, three, four five that we are going to go through.

Use your gestures for what they are supposed to. to be used and the interesting thing about this is that if you imagine the time we have spent on this planet as our race, how much of that time have we spent using gestures and non-verbal

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to communicate what we are saying? more than verbal absolutely give me let me give you a demonstration of how important this is I will say something now and everything I say will be super positive my facial expressions will be super positive and the way I say it will be super positive but my hands I will say the opposite Are you with me ?

This requires some concentration. You all should learn more about

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because if you do you will improve, grow and develop as human beings. People will love hearing your presentations. Your arguments are that, in general, you love whatever you're doing, so do yourself a big favor, learn more about this particular topic because you'll thank yourself for the rest of your life and, in particular, you've been absolutely amazing, so I thank you for listening, yeah. Now the question is: did you hear what he was saying or what he was doing? I think you were completely focused on what he was doing and that's the case with body language and gestures if it doesn't say the same thing as what you do.

If we are verbally saying that there is a discrepancy and a disturbance in

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, let's move from body language to a couple of tips about voice and the first one I'm going to give you is about rhythm, so listen to this, ladies and gentlemen, it What am i going to say. We're going to guide you now is incredibly important now and for the rest of your future life, we're going to go through the cortex, we're going to go through the limbic in the reptilian system, we're going to go through an advanced psychological profile where we're going to tell you to take.

Then, through all the steps of the structure, you'll see how that relates to Aristotle as ethos, logos, and pathos, and I'll continue at this pace, compare it to this, ladies and gentlemen. Now I'm going to walk you through something that is totally and completely boring, something you won't use in your entire life, every second you spend listening to me every once in a while will be a waste of time and now look at your faces, you're like the last thing I want anymore. . that was super interesting the useless things another brain I want the second part why because your brains react when a person has a low rhythm you think that what I am saying is more important than when he has a high rhythm because that illustrates that I really don't want being there, there are exceptions to this rule, but that's the basics, so keep an easy pace.

My next tip continues: pauses, the pause is the absolutely important pause, so let me give you a classic. rhetorical proverb now without pauses and goes like this, did you know that every decision you have made in your entire life and will make for the rest of your life is based on one thing and one thing only if you give it to people? listening to you that is the feeling that is what will move them now pauses allowed and it sounds like this did you know that every decision that you have made in your entire life and that you will make for the rest of your life is based on one? thing and one thing only and that is an emotion now, if you give that emotion to the people who listen to you, they will make the decisions that you want them to make.

Is there an absolute difference? But you know some people are afraid of the pause, so Tell me, wow, I'm going to do one of those. I won't do it. I refuse. I prefer to commit and you know what the commitment of a break is. How it sounds? Yes, it's like a sheep when you listen to certain lectures, but now. There is nothing among these 110 skills that lowers your spirit and your credibility more than English because they are signs that you don't know what you are saying or where you are going in your talk, so let me give you a demonstration.

Did you know that every The only decision you have made in your entire life and will make for the rest of your life is based on one thing and one thing only and that is a feeling. I think you prefer the one with silence. Those were the five main skills he wanted. to guide you and if you haven't used them before and start using them as a public speaker, they will make a difference in your speech. I would like to invite you two also for your small skills, just to give you an appreciation of how A skill can be small but will still have a big impact.

It looks like this and those were the four skills. Did you follow them first when I looked up, illustrating what I'm thinking, increasing your sense of presence for me on stage? The second thing I did was an audible inhalation that makes your brain think I'm going to say something exciting. Then I combine it with a Duquesne smile, which means I smile with my mouth and with my eyes. That's why, because what I did was also this: I laughed to myself and also that increases the anticipation of what I'm going to say, so the little skills executed in five seconds change the state of your mind that I would like to select. one of those and just be done with it and that's the Duquesne smile that has the King smile.

Studies have shown that you are more likely to be married, less likely to be divorced, happier, more content with life, and in fact, you are. I feel more relaxed in situations like this, so I asked myself if I'm a smiling person and to realize that, I walked over to my computer, logged in and looked at all my 60,000 Google Photos. Not all mine, but from family members and others I looked at mine and it seemed like my brain needed nothing short of a miracle to make a Duquesne smile, you know where you smile with your whole face.

I thought that's not fair and considering the psychological benefits, I better learn this, so I spend not four but six. months learning how to make a dean smile and suddenly my brain was throwing dean smiles in everyday happiness, it's beautiful and I felt happier as a human being. I want to show you what it looks like every time I go on summer vacation. I take a photo of myself and this was the last year of those photos this was 2014 there is no deterioration in the smile 2015 there is definitely no deterioration in the smile 2016 there is still no deterioration in the smile 2017 there is no deterioration in the smile this year The smile Duchaine's makes a difference absolutely brings you joy and stability for me now that we have reached the end of this talk and I would like to end with something that relates to boxing, you know Muhammad Ali and the lights, they have combinations for when they are going to hit someone by knockout and the same guy.

There are also many combinations in public

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, so what I would like to show you is this combination. I'm going to start with number 34, go to number 8 and then we'll continue with six to nine and nine to eight for six to seven and 18 22 and 101 and 21 are you ready for the combination? Well, it looks like this ladies and gentlemen. I hope you had fun and learned, but most of all I hope you feel inspired to become better. public speaker because anyone can become good, anyone can become excellent and everyone can become outstanding because it all comes down to one thing.