Kids Meet a Gender Non-Conforming Person | Kids Meet | HiHo Kids

- If a parent offers the choice, you can play with this doll or you can play with this ball, and the child chooses the ball, my theory is that early humans, like men as far as I'm concerned, hunted. - I mean, is there a reason why it was men who hunted? - Probably because they were stronger. (upbeat orchestral music) - Hello, I'm Nanta. - Hello, I'm Willow. - Willow? Nice to

meet

you. - Hello, I'm Brianna. - Hello, Brianna, I'm Nanta. - Nice to

meet

you. - Nice to meet you. - Okay, can I start asking questions? (laughs) - Mom, you said, think of some questions and get ready.

I'm ready. - Do you know why we are here today? - Not precisely. - Not really, it's okay. - Do I think it has something to do with non-binary

gender

? - Or not compliant. - Yes. Yes, both, yes,

gender

non-

conforming

and non-binary. - What is gender nonconformity? - Well, what do you think it is? - Something about gender, because I hear the word "gender" in it. -Do I look like a girl to you? - Yes. - Well, what if I told you that sometimes I feel more like a child? - Alright. - So binary, boy and girl.

So non-binary, that is... that's... The opposite. - Yes, exactly, that's a lot of crocodiles, right? You can be one extreme, the other extreme, or anywhere in between. - It's interesting. - But confusing. - So let's start getting into some questions. Do you wish you had been raised not as a girl but simply as an anta? - Yes, totally, it would have been great to be marked as gender x. You know, neither boy nor girl. Stepping into my own skin later in life would have been much easier. Did you always know you were a girl? - Yes, good.

Has that ever changed for you or...? - No. - No. How did you know you were a girl? - I feel it in my body. - Yes. - I'm a boy, not a girl. - But people think she's a girl. - Oh, so people think you're a girl? - They have called me girl, I think 309 times already. And I like my hair the way it is. (laughs) - What makes a boy a boy? - An X and a Y chromosome. - Oh, wow. So is there anything naming, like on someone's exterior, that makes them a child? - Like um... - Genitals? - That? - Yes. - No, that's genetics too, but...

Well, yes, but that's on the outside, I'm just saying. - Are we talking about... - How to look? - Emotions? - Or something like that, emotional? Or hormonal or genetic? Genetics. - Or like feelings? I don't know where we're going. - Yes. (laughs) - Have you ever heard about how people try to say that pink is a girl thing? And then, blue is like a child's color? - Yes, I have heard of that even though blue is one of my favorite colors. - Yes of course. See how confusing that can seem? When it's like, I want to do this and that. - If a parent offers the nonjudgmental option, hey, you can play with this doll or you can play with this ball.

And the boy chooses the ball, my theory is that early humans, like men as far as I'm concerned, hunted. And it's something like genetically men prefer things that move you. I don't know, that's completely a theory in terms of... I mean, is there a reason why men were the ones who hunted? - Probably because they were stronger. - And I think that's where I'm like, ugh, really? I'm strong, why can't I be a hunter too? - Well, yes, but in terms of muscle mass, men have something like that, and I mean, they probably weren't thinking about that. - MMM. - Does your family ever get angry with you because of what you want to identify? - Oh yeah.

I think it's different now that I'm an adult, but growing up, my mom would make me wear a dress that I really don't want to wear. - I don't really like wearing dresses or skirts either. That's why I feel very uncomfortable when I wear this skirt. - Yes. But were you able to choose your outfit today? - No. (laughing) - Then you know exactly how I feel then. - Yes. - Yuck. - How do you know if someone is gender non-

conforming

? Is it okay to ask someone what their gender is? - So, it's much better to ask about the

person

's pronouns. - That would be like, him or her or them? - Good.

In contrast, if I said: - What is your gender? - Yes, what is your gender? Are you a boy or are you a girl? - It seems that you are very interested in knowing. - (laughing) Yes, yes. So have you ever felt confused when using they as a pronoun for someone? - I mean, it can be confusing sometimes, but I also have to remember that those are the pronouns they have chosen and I have to respect that. I've noticed that someone in my first period class has the pronouns he'd like in his backpack. - Oh really?

Oh! That's great. I have been to the Philippines. - Oh, I like the Philippines. - Oh, have you been there too? - Yes. - Yes, that's where my family is from, and - Where my mom is from. - Well. They use the term "siya." So “siya” encompasses all genres. Know. - That is very beautiful. -Yes. (Laughs)-There's a girl who works at my tutoring center and she stops by them, and then a lot of times I just didn't call her, and then I'm like, "Oh, she waits." , no, sorry." - Yes. Do you ever, sorry, see that even I made that mistake?

Do you ever address it with similar or correct people who can use a different pronoun for them? - No, but someone else I could do it - How does being non-binary affect your daily life? - Looking for a job, there are times when before going to an interview, I just want to wear these pants and a button-down shirt, but I'll be more likely to get it. work if I wear a formal suit or something, you know? - Why is gender so important? - You know, sometimes I wish it wasn't like that. - Is it important to you? , I just wonder why they can't just be one

person

. - Yeah.

Does everyone think gender is a big deal? - No. Well, I mean, if someone wasn't identified as either a boy or a girl, it's not a big deal. thing for me if I was in the middle, but gender is a big part of who you are. - That's real, yes. (laughs) Do you like handshakes? - Yes, good. (sound effects) oh, sorry. (sound effects) And boop. (laughs)