How to Look Confident

Do you know how to be

confident

or how to feel powerful and capable in your professional, social, and romantic interactions today? I want to break a great myth of trust. Watch to find out more. Here's the myth I was told over and over again. Whether you do it or you don't and no one knows how to get it if you don't this myth is pervasive and harmful, it destroys tiny, fragile, beautiful buds of confidence before they can grow and I want your confidence to grow and flourish and I know that confidence is not something that comes at birth, it's a skill that can be developed through intentional and purposeful practice, here's how, number one, how to

look

confident

for this video.

I'm going to do something a little different, let's get started. With the outside in when it comes to confidence sometimes it's a faster route, let's start with your confident appearance and no, I'm not talking about your clothes or your hair, this tip is all about your body language, let me give you a ask when you enter. At a networking event, in an office or in a restaurant, do you

look

like a winner? This may seem like a strange question, but research from the University of British Columbia makes it clear that our bodies innately grow when we feel pride, but we get smaller when we feel pride. defeated or embarrassed why does this matter without realizing it when we look at someone we are trying to decide if they look more like a winner or a loser if someone is taking up space do they have their head up and shoulders low and relaxed or do they look like a loser with their shoulders rolled up from chin to chest and a hunched position?

Without realizing it, we make snap judgments about people the moment we see them and then put them in one of two buckets for body confidence. The language must show it first. The easiest way to look like a winner is to claim our territory. Own your body and the space around you by standing or sitting upright. Keep your arms loose at your sides. Relax your shoulders toward your back and open your chest. Expansive postures will show others that you have confidence and self-assurance. Be careful with low-power postures, such as crossing your arms or bringing your shoulders up to your ears, as this can indicate defeat number two.

How to Speak with Confidence Now that you've learned how to look confident, let's talk about how to sound confident when you answer the phone and when you start a new conversation. It's crucial that your voice projects confidence, but how do we make our first impression in our greeting when answering the phone? The question is Whether your voice is helping or hurting your confidence here at Science of People we did a fascinating experiment on vocal power and we have some amazing tips for you on how you can make your voice sound better and how to benefit from every phone conversation.

We asked participants to record themselves saying hello. six different shapes normal hello happy hello sad hello angry hello power posing hello and normal hello again we added these recordings to our website and asked our readers to tell us how much they liked or didn't like the person in the recording just based on the hello they heard Readers listened to each clip and selected one of the following responses: I like this person a lot I like this person a little or I don't like this person at all Which version of hello do you think was the nicest?

The winner was the happy greeting, of course, the data revealed that the happy recordings received significantly higher approval ratings than any other greeting. This is a great find as it shows that people can hear your mood. Which variation do you think was worse? The angry greeting action step your mood affects your voice, never answer the phone in a bad mood and if you have an important call, watch some funny YouTube videos to put some natural smiles on your face. Number three, does happiness equal confidence? Happiness and confidence go hand in hand if Are you curious about how to be more confident at work?

One of the best ways to feel professionally confident is to have meaning in your work. Do you know your company's mission? Do you know the impact of your work when we don't know how our daily lives work? Responsibilities contribute to a broader mission. We may feel disconnected or hopeless in our workplace. There is nothing worse than feeling like what you do doesn't matter. Here are some ideas to give meaning to your day. First, find out your company's mission statement or if it's your company create a mission statement, if your company doesn't have one write down the mission statement you think your company should have, maybe you can even communicate it to your bosses Secondly, write your own personal mission statement, why you do what you do beyond just a paycheck who you are helping this could be your colleagues your team or your clients place this mission statement somewhere easy to see on your desk or hang it on your cubicle wall lastly make a success folder on your computer this is a folder that contains records of achievements testimonials and any other examples of your rock star status at work if you are having a bad day open your success folder to remember what your action step is worth see the 10 ways to be happier at work to increase your daily satisfaction number 4 how to walk with confidence did you know that your walk can project your confidence? the biomotion laboratory analyzes and synthesizes biological movement patterns a fancy way of saying that they study gait and movement in search of patterns biological movement analyzes how emotions and intentions can change our walking the human visual system is very sensitive to our movement and without realizing it we are able to decode things about people from their walking.

We investigate the question of how this information is encoded in biological movement and how it can be recovered. They apply linear methods from statistics to patterns for recognition to analysis. They use several variants. to show different types of walks from gender to weight to nervousness to happiness see the differences interesting correct action step how you walk record yourself walking and see if you can slide further towards relaxed and happy see how that changes how you feel five find a confident role model Confidence is easier to develop when we can observe and emulate someone in action Do you have someone in your life who exudes confidence professionally or personally perhaps a partner, colleague or close friend assign them as your confidence?

Role Model This can be a secret role model that you observe and take notes of how they interact or you can talk to your role model and ask them to be your mentor. There is no better compliment than telling someone that their natural confidence is attractive. This can lead to multiple benefits including you bonding with them on a deeper level. They share ideas on how you can increase your individual confidence and maybe even some insider tips on how they arrived at their own confidence levels. They're not sure who to choose. Look for a role model in the workplace. embodies the following qualities shows confidence in his leadership is not afraid to be unique communicates interacts with everyone shows respect and concern for everyone he meets is knowledgeable and well-rounded has humility and is willing to admit mistakes does good things outside of work I What I love about this list of qualities is that many are unexpected.

Confidence comes in multiple flavors. It's not about being the most outgoing and cheerful person in the room. Sometimes it's about empathy, humility, competence number six, boost your confidence. Are you depressed when we experiment? exhaustion or exhaustion our confidence tends to decrease. A fun option to boost your confidence is to create different types of confidence playlists. This can be a Spotify playlist that puts you in a good mood or a YouTube playlist that inspires you to listen to or watch when you're brushing your teeth, getting ready, or commuting to work—any time you need a refresher. impulse, you want to listen to our free audio training.

I would love to encourage you, learn how to stand out among your peers with our free praiseworthy performance audio training, listen to it right now on science at people.com praiseworthy slash number seven overcoming imposter syndrome for many high achievers success comes at a price and This price is known as imposter syndrome. This is a psychological phenomenon that makes intelligent and talented people feel like frauds and feel undeserving of their achievements. Studies have found that 70 percent of all people feel like impostors at one time or another. This is a big problem. This is the most important thing to keep in mind.

This is not a defect. Imposter syndrome is not a personality trait. It is a reaction to an event. Do you ever think that your achievements are not enough or just luck? Do you ever worry that people will find out that you are not worthy? This is imposter syndrome at work and it is temporary and can be overcome when our mind and thoughts work against us, their confidence withers. Get up and hide One way to combat imposter syndrome is with motivational self-talk Stop feeling like a fraud with this video on a more serious note If you get stressed in social settings, you may be suffering from social anxiety Social anxiety is when You feel nervous, tense, or uncomfortable in social situations because you are worried that other people will judge you.

Almost everyone has experienced social anxiety at one time or another. Life is full of moments of shyness, from job interviews to first dates. We all occasionally feel nervous. Unfortunately, with other people, social anxiety can become, at worst, debilitating, and at the very least, affect our inner confidence and make it seem impossible to be sociable in an authentic way. The good news is that there are ways to overcome social anxiety with a treatment known as cognitive. Behavioral therapy or CBT. I mentioned this here because if you have a more serious issue with trust, I highly recommend seeking professional help.

CBT is recognized as one of the most effective treatment options for social anxiety. Consider getting more help and learning more about social relationships. anxiety and how to deal with it in our complete video number 8 how to awaken confidence in your brain our thoughts dictate almost every aspect of our existence and if our thoughts are insecure or unmotivated it is almost impossible to think and feel confident in ourselves shad Helmstetter author of what to say when you talk to yourself he argues that we are programmed by our thoughts our way of thinking and our personal truths are the epicenter of our confidence own truths the ideas we tell ourselves the beliefs we carry with us whether they are true or not what are the stories we Tell yourself what your truths are and whether they are factual truths or assumed truths that many people tell themselves: I will never be good at sports or I am not creative enough or I could never own my own business.

I want you to delve deeper into these truths. Do you believe this a little more because someone told you that you would never be able to fill in the blank? Is there a deeper insecurity contributing to this limiting belief? Review three of your biggest limiting beliefs and do some fact-checking. Where do they come from? why and you want to keep them bouncing around in your head take ownership of the thoughts that only serve you number nine limit social media consumption we all love a good dog photo on Instagram well, surpassing research shows that social media is harming us The endless comparison we subject ourselves to because of this technological vehicle can have long-lasting and damaging effects.

Researcher Clarissa Silva interviewed men and women between the ages of 28 and 73 and found these crazy results. 60 percent of people who use social media reported that it has impacted their self-esteem in a negative way. 50 percent reported that social media has negative effects on their relationships. 80 percent reported that it is easier to be deceived by others when sharing on social media. This insecurity is especially rampant in the online dating space. According to Silva, it seems that social networks are creating. a paradox effect that creates the illusion of many options and at the same time makes it more difficult to find viable options.

The paradox effect in dating creates the illusion of having more social engagement, social capital, and popularity, but masking one's true personality. Remember that there is a big bright world happening around you. Your social networks help you stay connected and informed, but it's also important to find a balance between reality and fantasy. You want to conquer your social networks. For every hour you spend on social media over the next month, spend the equivalent time with friends or family in person to balance it out here's the bottom line the path to greater confidence is in your hands confidence doesn't grow without waterfertilizer and a little TLC take steps, even the smallest ones, to boost your confidence and launch the life you always wanted hey, I want I tell you one more thing, you are amazing, the question is: do you know how to share it?

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