How to Find Your Purpose | Jay Shetty on Impact Theory

Often the advice I give people today is fast forward. Where are you Look at

your

self in 10, 15 or 20 years and ask

your

self where do I want to be and if the answer is no Then you need to

find

a new path to understand yourself You don't know what they need in their life until they discover who they are. Everyone welcome to

impact

the

theory

. You were here, my friends, because you believe that human potential is almost limitless. But they know that having potential is not the same as doing something with it. So our goal with this program and this company is to introduce you to the people and ideas that will help you execute your dreams.

Alright, today's guest is a former monk whose wisdom has really gone viral after finishing Business School. He turned down lucrative offers from prestigious companies and shaved. He headed and hit the road for three years. He traveled through India, Europe and England living as a monk. He studied, meditated, and created food and shelter programs for those in need. He was definitely in love with what he was doing. But he knew he didn't climb. Driven by a desire to share what he was learning with as many people as possible, he reengaged with the world and dove headfirst into learning about the tools and techniques that could allow knowledge to spread as quickly as entertainment. and to that end he joined Accenture helping.

They built their digital division while learning about the forces shaping the new digital landscape. He learned quickly and quickly became their number one social media influencer in a company of 400,000 people. Along the way, he also helped advise over 150 executives on their personal brands, giving him a very broad base with which to test his theories, and taking advantage of what he learned in 2016, he launched his own Facebook page and it exploded in less than 12 months. His inspiring, entertaining and very helpful videos garnered over 1 billion views and now has over 2.5 million. followers. Globally he creates content not only for his own pages but for places like the Huffington Post and has interviewed luminaries such as Tim Ferriss Simon Sinek dr.

Shefali Deepak Chopra and many others following his ridiculous level of success as a content creator and digital strategist. He was included in the Forbes 30 Under 30 list in 2017, the Asian Media Awards named his blog as the best blog in 2016, and he was added to National Geographics seeks great tips for which he is now helping

find

solutions to some of the biggest challenges of the world. So please help me welcome the urban monk himself, the man who is proving that

impact

can truly be scaled. Jay Shetty. Thanks for inviting me, friend. honor oh man. Thanks it goes both ways, so like I was telling you before, we started digging like normally I would just go look at all the interviews that people had done.

And I've come across you like a million times researching other people, so I thought well. This would be the easiest thing ever. As if this guy has been interviewed hundreds of times. And you didn't like that it's crazy for me, that you're publishing so much content. No one has caught you yet, so this is going to be a lot of fun. really digs deep, your ideas are clearly very well thought out, so there should be a lot of fun. Thanks man. Yes, I am patient, yes, patient, to have the right interview it is the right time to be with the right people.

Have the framework right, so I feel very honored to be a big fan of the show. Thank you. Thank you very much for absolutely inviting me to something. I want to talk obviously about having lived in London and knowing a little bit about what it's like growing up as an Indian kid in England. How on earth did you buck the trend you once said of growing up in an Indian household? A doctor or a lawyer or a failure? Yes, that's right, that's right. So how did you not fall victim to that? Those are my three options, but there wasn't a complete option, so depending on my parents' family or their community, I grew up in I'm a failure.

That's crazy and how could I buck the trend? I was really lucky. That from very early on I began to experiment with what sometimes mattered to me. I got into a lot of trouble. What people don't know about me is that I got suspended from school three times for trying all kinds of things that people would never imagine if someone became a monk. I was X Anything with all the drugs in the world. I had multiple relationships. I was really trying to search for some kind of meaning, fulfillment, and as far as I know, I've been chasing emotion.

I really value excitement and feeling like you might not see it coming. You know, not many people do, it's very different between 14 and 18. I was like this kid who just wanted to discover new things and my parents' rhetoric would always be good, make sure you get good grades. And I used to think well if I can be bad and get good grades, and then everything works out because everyone is happy, so that's what I did and at 18. I was very fortunate when I met a monk and this monk was invited to speak and in a way I went because one of my friends forced me to do so.

At the time I was two CEOs, entrepreneurs, entrepreneurs and marketers that I thought was who I aspired to be and then I heard this monk and he captivated me like no one had captivated me before. It was like staring at the most beautiful woman on the planet. You know I was completely obsessed with him and his message and that's the start without going into too much detail before investigating. That was the beginning of what changed me because I went from being someone who just wanted all those things to being successful and I tried, but I started to listen to my own inner voice.

Much more in all that noise that was around me. I remember one of my parents had a math tutor for me because they wanted to be amazing at math and I was pretty good at numbers and I had this tutor and he was telling me that he goes, the reason you're struggling with the next question is because you're always worried about what your parents think and that really stuck in my head. It's like wow, as long as I'm trapped by what my parents think, I'll never really be able to find the answers to life's real questions, and there are all these little things happening.

I lost two great friends when I was 16 years old. A girl died. In a car accident, a guy died because he was involved in drugs and violence. That made me rethink everything. I just thought, wait a minute, these were beautiful people, people I loved, people who in my opinion were good people, and I lost them in a moment. And it was like this compilation of little things that made me think, wait. one minute having money having fame this just doesn't seem to add up and then meeting the monk made that change possible and like I said, he was completely captivating and then I found out that he had quit his jobs at Google and Microsoft to be monks And I thought, who does that? ?

He has given up everything I pursue and all my friends, but he seems happier than anyone. I've met before and he talked about this amazing principle where he said we should plant trees under whose shade we don't plan to sit. And he was talking about this principle of selfless sacrifice and that just sank into me right there when he said the words Selfless Sacrifice for the first time in my life. I felt an emotion about something I had never felt before. Wow. Giving up everything you have for the service of others sounds like the best thing you can do. and I don't know why I had that thought because he wasn't a spiritual child growing up.

I wasn't a religious kid growing up. I wasn't even a good kid growing up, I was just a rebel, a misfit trying things and an experiment that I still consider myself to be, so what I started doing was doing internships at companies and corporations thinking I was graduating. work after And then I would spend the rest of my summer vacation doing internships in India living with him as a monk. So I would use all my summer and Christmas vacations to be with the monks. And he introduced me to 200 to 500 other monks who were just like him, just as smart and just as brilliant, they gave up everything they had and used all their abilities to make the world a better place.

I want to go back, yeah, so why did that resonate with you? Which is really amazing, and maybe you know way ahead of where I was at the time. But that would have sounded absurd to me at the time, yes. Did you already have a feeling of unease because I'm a rebel? without cause or how? What happened at that moment and you seem very self-aware? So I hope some of that awareness was present at that moment, what was that? moment I think the moment was that I always had friends older than me and I could see many of them in the most successful careers, successful jobs, beautiful partners, whatever it was, but I saw a sense of lack of fulfillment, meaning and

purpose

in their lives and I've always been an observer and I'd see these people or like five years older than me, seven years older than me, maybe ten years older than me, and I'd be watching them and I'd think, that's life.

I want to, and often the advice I give people today is: Fast forward to where you are, look at yourself in 10, 15, 20 years and ask yourself where I want to be. If you are in a company, look at the person. who is 20 years ahead of you and ask yourself where do I want to be. If you're at a startup, look at what other startups have done in similar roles. And see, it's where I want to be and if the answer is no. Then you need to find a new part and for me the answer at that time from observation was to know the path that my parents followed or the society or the university I went to or the community.

I had that thing that was opening me up, it didn't seem like the path for me, so I was almost looking for an alternative or a new path. I was so lucky that it turned out to be enough to raise powerful paths instead of something that could have actually led me down the wrong path. Because that could have been possible too, so explain to me the first time you get off the plane in India. It's summer and that's why I'm living there. I'm waking up. I'm doing almost every internship as if you were shadowing a CEO.

I'm just following a monk, so I'm just following his lifestyle so that we wake up. He's like one of the most elite monks. , so we woke up around 2:00 a.m. m. Every day after sleeping around 9:00 or 10:00 p.m. m. And then we studied these ancient Vedas that are more than 5000 years old together, and we spent two hours. I'm studying with the best of the best here, so he likes to analyze and assimilate. And I'm learning fast by taking notes and then 4:00 a.m. Let's go to collective meditation. We do those practices with the other monks too. 6:00 am.

We have personal meditation. So I'm literally going through the life of a monk and falling in love with it step by step. I had never had this experience before but I just locked myself in and was practicing until the end. Right, it wasn't like, oh no, my back hurts when I sit on the floor. I can't stay here for long nor can you today. when people say oh, I can't meditate for more than two minutes, I said no, I'll do it for two hours. If that's what they're doing, I'll try it because I can only try.

The hypothesis will only be true if the experiment is carried out to the extent that they are. So, if the hypothesis is that if you live like this, you will be happier and more fulfilled. So I want to get it right, so let's explore this from the perspective of Creating Your Own Perfect Life. Yeah, which is kind of interesting, especially because I think this is so accurate to the way most people are that it's not like there's something important missing from my life. But you took that first action, so code this for me or anyone who wants them to not know what their ideal life is like, they just know that they're not living it yet, so step number one is to take it seriously to find out if the hypothesis is true or not.

You have to do the experiment. You have to do it sincerely. What comes after that, I think even a step before, is opening yourself up to new role models and new experiences. Look, we live in echo chambers. We are surrounded by the same thought: how often do you meet a monk? You know it just doesn't happen. You have no one, he organizes a dinner and leaves. Oh yeah. We've invited the monk, you know, from a city like the local monk, like no one does that and so, do you know people who are like us most of the time? and we talk about this in the business newsletter if you want to be a billionaire spend time with billionaires if you want to be a millionaire spend our millionaires if you want to be a tech startup spend time with you know, that's the common rhetoric that we hear all the time But what What if you want to find a

purpose

and master your mind?

There is no one better than a monk who masters the mind, so for me the first step is just opening yourself up to new experiences and new role models, because most of us can't see ourselves in people, so we try to fit into the world. . boxes that we see and And I mean, there's this beautiful quote that I've been saying everywhere, and I wish I had written it down But I didn't, sois by a philosopher and writer named Cooley, and he said that today "I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am, I am what I think you think I am and I just let that surprise you for now.

It's so powerful. I am not what I think I am I am not what you think I am I am what I think you think I am So we live in this perception of a perception of ourselves Therefore, my identity is made by what my parents think. What should be my identity is shaped by what my university or? The university thinks I should achieve While you live in that bubble and that echo chamber getting to what you really want to do is impossible because maybe that just doesn't fit. Nowadays many people feel that way and they can't.

They don't fit into the current educational system. They don't fit with the three, four or five careers that they teach you, they exist, so that process of self-excavation and updating first requires being exposed, you can't. be what you can't see if I never saw a monk. I would never have wanted to be a monk. If I never meet a billionaire. I wouldn't want to be because I wouldn't know how it feels. I don't know what it looks like. I don't know. knowing what it takes and I think that's the biggest challenge in our society, that we're not exposed, so that's the first step, being exposed to unique experiences and role models.

The second step is to find that experience or role model that you are passionate about and Exactly like you said, take it seriously. Observe your network with them. Spend time with them. Observe them even from afar. That observation is needed. Be addicted to observing that person's lifestyle. Then the third step is yes or no. That works for me. Not everyone who does. He is going to become a monk. Feel like I did and that's great, but not everyone is going to go on and on and on, a billion anger, that's exactly the lifestyle I want, maybe they want the result, but they want the hard work that goes with it, and so on.

For me, that is the third step. It is to observe, focus, follow, get as close as possible to that individual's process and then say yes or no, I want that process. I don't want the result to want to be that monk who is completely enlightened. You know, he can go through it like an incredible one or the one that people just gravitate toward. But when you realize that he has to wake up at 2:00 a.m. m. Every day and sleep 4-6 hours You like it, you know I don't want to do that, that doesn't sound like me, okay.

So yeah, a couple of things, one of which you said is as powerful as he is, yeah, good power for me. Power is like this from a perceptual perspective, the greatest power is to be self-controlled. To be able to train your mind and energy to focus them exactly where you want. and when you want it. You are completely detached and do not let yourself be intimidated by external ups and downs. You are able to navigate anything that seems difficult, challenging, fun, exciting with the same amount of poise and poise and equanimity without being too excited by pleasure or being too depressed by pain, but knowing how to approach each situation towards me.

That is great strength and great power. I heard it in one of your talks. You were saying that if you look at a literal lifeline, for example, a heartbeat, you know it's up and it's down and people have a feeling that something like enlightenment would be equanimity forever, yes, and only one balanced keel, and you said, but what does that look like? It looks like a flat line when you die, right? So what do I love about you? It's that you entered the desert of being a monk, but you have returned it to the real world.

Because when you talk about a monk, you talk about him being detached and that's for me. It seems like the only real way to have that kind of super-balanced existence, which doesn't appeal to me personally. So if you are recovering that notion of power of having control over yourself, without letting your emotions take you everywhere, but knowing that life. Is it the series of ups and downs? What does that power look like when it returns? Absolutely and in fact, that is the goal of monk training. It's more like a training system than a lifelong commitment. It's taking that mindset into the real world where you can try it now.

I had to do it for real when I stopped being. I was a monk about five years ago and when I left it was like, Oh my God! I'm in the real world now again real world I have to think about how to apply all this I'm going to really try All these things that I learned and I was scared like I was nervous I was she said all those Things that I've been trained not to rush to come back because, for the first time in my life, I really had to put it into practice. And I love that feeling.

I'm so glad I got to do it for myself. In reality, the mindset is completely trainable to take into the real world. That's what I'm trying to do. And what it allows you to do is gain clarity and perspective when you need it. Because you know when you can take an aerial view of something. You know when you need to do it. get closer to something You know when you need to get away from something. There is a beautiful verse in the Bhagavad Gita. That says that detachment is not that you don't own anything. Detachment is that nothing possesses you.

And I love it because to me that sums up detachment in a way that's not usually explained. Generally people see detachment as being away from everything, in reality the greatest detachment is being close. to everything and not let it consume you and possess you and that is real power. That is true strength. How many people do we know who have had fame and then that fame has ruined them? So for me, that definition of detachment is possible to practice even in the real world instead of saying oh, I'm just going to have a really simple one. life I'm just not going to have anything in life What was the best part of being a monk?

The best part of being a monk, is that your? The morning routine and practices are so powerful that you can truly aspire to more incredible values ​​in life because your mind is clear and you have that ability to have more clarity so that you can seek what is higher. So I will give an example of what I am defined. Yes. I'm kind of concerned, yes. What is higher? Yes, exactly like that for me Being able to overcome ego Being able to overcome envy Being able to overcome jealousy Being able to overcome the negative of the competitive state there is a positive competitive state and there is a negative competitive state nowadays when people look on Instagram or Facebook or YouTube all you're seeing is oh She has so many likes or he has so many likes she got engaged or He got married or oh my God Look at her body or look at that, and it's like those things make us They were destroying inside. and jealousy, the greed of the ego.

Being able to have enough clarity to purify yourself of those things is going to alleviate the greatest anxieties and depressions of our time and mental health problems. And we know we know this because all the mental health resets today suggest that things like isolation Overexposure we can now have more pain Consumption in a day because of what we were exposed to than the pain we would have had in a lifetime. That's huge. It's ridiculous to think that one day because of media news on social media we consume more negative things than in my entire life so I can have time, energy and clarity to focus on self-purification.

That's the best thing about being a monk because you have that time of reflection and a process and an environment that only allows you to purify yourself more of those things, so if I were the interviewer I wanted to be, I would have asked you this question when we were on the topic. , but not. I'm going back yes. It's pretty important that you've given us the three ways you can actually build your ideal life, but define an ideal life for me mm-hmm, so an ideal life for me is a life and this applies to a company and organization. and the institution for me is An ideal life is when we all have a head, a heart and a hand, the three elements together.

Working aligned without one or the other, we begin to lose something if you only have one head and one heart. You will find that life is stable and defined if. Yes, sure, sure, sure, then a head is clarity of vision. What do you want, what do you want? Knowing what you want, the way you imagine life and being able to navigate, make decisions together, that's a good head, a good heart is being able to understand what your intuition and your heart can connect and tap into that deeper understanding and beyond vision. You may have painted for yourself.

So I often tell people that you get where you want in life but not the way you imagined and that's because the road that is paved up and down is very different from the road that we pave for you. You may have a big head and a big vision and a big mission and you know where you want to go, but if your heart is not capable of having that resilience and being able to adapt and have compassion and care and all that, then you won't go. Being able to make the most difficult decisions without your heart but being able to realize that we need to take care of ourselves and be sustainable and lasting requires a heart and a hand is that service Wanting to transmit what you want to give forward, pay forward The idea of ​​serving with what you You have I often tell people your passion is for you your purpose is for others Your passion makes you happy, but when you use your passion to make a difference in someone else's life.

That's a service That's a purpose and that's the hand So those are my three elements of an ideal life I like that a lot. No, when you first said it, I'm glad you defined it because when you first said it I thought the heart was going to be the part about, as you know, just compassion and caring for others, doing something for others. But I like that hand. Being tied to service, so one thing I think about a lot is deep satisfaction like Really when I think about okay? What is a life? We are living honestly, for me it all comes down to neurochemistry, and it all comes down to Experiencing this world in a way that is optimized for sustainable pleasure.

Which I will differentiate between a bowl of ice cream and a little cocaine, those are pleasurable. So I haven't used cocaine, but I can talk about ice cream. I've done it but well Yes, so how do you maintain it? But they don't bring lasting satisfaction, it's not sustainable, so both. You end up creating this self-destructive loop and the purpose really becomes that which gives you something that is absolutely satisfying on a neurochemical level and how much do you like about this? How did you marry him? Deeply spiritual, the treatise that often comes to light. Many times I hear spiritual speakers speak and feel like they are drifting away into the ether.

How did you get married to that? experimentation neuroscience practicality as always when I read these books that are five thousand years old my greatest fascination was to find a director and find his relevance in modern science And I told myself the day I can't find him, I will leave him, I will do it. I don't believe in this anymore. So I keep doing that and I'm ready to quit if someone shows me a piece of science. And I can't find a beginning in this ancient literature or, for that matter, in what I like to call this eternal literature.

I will give up my faith because for me it has to move on, and today I will give you a brilliant book. We are in the gratitude movement. There are like a million Gratitude journals out there. There are a million scientific studies on gratitude and gratitude has been linked to better mental health. Self-awareness, better relationships. I mean, there are so many scientific studies at the neural level. That just goes to show that gratitude is great for your mind, brain, and satisfaction. return My gratitude is for all eternal wisdom. One of the first things we tried to do when we were monks was pay our respects to the earth for what it gives us, and that's the first thing you do in the morning.

What's that? If not gratitude when you wake up in the morning? You thank the earth for food you thank the earth for water you thank the earth for allowing you to walk You start your day with gratitude Today the biggest advice from Forbes and ink and everything is start your day with gratitude like where does it come from? It's just that these things are old there, so I will be fascinated. I am intrigued by parallels and patterns because they save you time. It's the same as if I say this company invested in this business person and that's why they were successful because they had the right investors, etc.

That's a pattern so I know if I'm building a business in that area. I'm going to look for investors like that. It's the same thing that pattern saves you time instead of trying to figure out if gratitude works. How will I be grateful? creating your own process almost It's really interesting life has taught me to stop believing everything I think mm-hmm ahhh and the way it has taught me that is by relentlessly punishing myself every time I invest too much in being right and I remember when my wife and When we first got together, she used to get chest infections all the time, and she told me it was because of the air conditioning mm-hm.

And I was like that doesn't make sense and she was like no, no, my grandmother used to just swear up and down that if you're hot and you stand in front of a fan, you're going to get sick. And I thought that's the biggest load of garbage I've ever heard in my life that doesn't work. I have the feeling that getting sick comes from bacteria or viruses, as if it were that simple. And she said, "I'm just saying that's what my grandmother always said andIt seems true to me and I was like, Oh, that's exhausting, and then one time I went to a doctor and I said yes.

And my wife is crazy and she thinks that when you are hot if you stand in front of the air conditioner. She will make you sick and he will leave. Oh yeah. She is correct. I said, Wait, and he said, "Okay." She has a point. He says: This is what's happening: you have a mucus layer membrane in your throat. That keeps it moist, prevents the germs from being able to break the barrier and, when they get trapped, they go to your stomach. They are killed by the acid or whatever and he said, but if you have a crack in that, then the bacteria or the Viruses can get into your bloodstream and that's how you get sick and your throat just goes dry, and I was like Wow, and it was one of those moments where I thought: how many wives' stories are true, directionally?

They are not precise, but they are true. If so, you don't want to say yes, and that's how I think when you think about a book that has lasted this long and I know you and I have never talked about this, but we share a real fascination with telling stories. Yes, because it's a way of conveying an idea that resonates emotionally and allows people to continue it and pass it on, and obviously this all starts long before we have science and can prove any of this, but we see the patterns. We need a way. to encapsulate the pattern we encapsulate it in a story the story itself is totally false but now in a modern context we are missing out on the fact that the story is false even though the final message is incredibly powerful Yes And just like I mean, it's the classic story, the more you win, the less you realize you know mm-hmm and so as I got older and really started to understand things and read as much as I do and, frankly, live and suffer and go on. through things like my wife has microbiome issues and at first she thinks all the descriptions of her don't make any sense.

And then you stop judging him and start saying what if everything she says is really true? Like what? How would we then treat it correctly? So there's something really fascinating there. Now I feel much more emotionally drawn to science because when I can imagine it it is much easier for me to do something about it. So when you were talking about the things you learned from meditation? I've gotten tremendous value from meditation, but it's nothing like what you've learned, so for me it was once I understood that diaphragm breathing made sense because it activates the parasympathetic nervous system.

Then when I understood it, understanding became a force multiplier absolutely fine. Let's talk about the self-awareness of behavioral science by looking at its content. Have you ever looked at how much content you publish? No, it's very similar to when you search for your name. I like going because normally I would try to look at basically everything and I thought I gave up, it's really amazing and going through that stuff. It seems very clear to me that you have enormous self-awareness and how would you say that there is a process for people to become more self-aware and then what they are from a behavioral level?

You know, just the level of human behavior, what are things? Does that trip trip up the average person? The first answer is that I am a big fan of the book Thinking Fast and Slow. I don't know if you've read it, yeah. It's a great book because for me it has a very close patent connection to what I studied, so I just understand system 1 and system 2 if someone who is looking at it hasn't read it. I highly recommend it. Simply being able to differentiate between System 1 and System 2 as Daniel, Kahneman calls it in Vedic philosophy. We remember to differentiate between the mind and intelligence.

Is knowing how to differentiate the voices in your head the first level of self-awareness? So analyze what system 1 and system 2 are. System one is your initial answer. Whatever happens, it's a stop I can't really say, so if you say something. I don't like it My system one would naturally be a face I put on it You may not agree with that That is the understanding of what system one is in its initial default reaction at the moment which can often be positive e.g. If someone pulls out a knife, you feel fear and run that system.

That's good. It's safe for you, but also system one is that someone says something that hurts your ego and you immediately start defending yourself. That is too. That is a negative aspect of system one that we would refer to as the mind, it is built from conditioning, those responses are conditioned, those predetermined elements are all there due to habit and continuous practice. The system is also more like intelligence, which I would say is more like the parent, if you can, consider system one to be more like a child system. System two is more like a parent.

Look more long term Look more at the bigger picture Process that default reaction through a set of checks and metrics to decide if that's true the child is the one who wants everything immediately impatient responds quickly immediately reacts when he doesn't get what he wants The intelligent parent wants and the good parent knows what the child wants and needs and what is best in the long term. Simply starting there and being able to reflect and observe the different voices within us is a great place to start your self-knowledge. Because the biggest challenge is that most of us don't know it?

What we are hearing and what we don't know, most of us don't even know that there is more than one voice within us. Just getting over that line is a huge victory because now you were at least trying to differentiate yourself in what you hear. You are listening and that will help you make better decisions in the future. So that was the first answer, does that answer your question? Oh yeah, and the second one was what? So that's awareness now, what are the typical things that trip people up? So in your answer now, okay. If you want to be more aware, just knowing that those two things are happening correctly, you will have an initial response.

And then one that is calculated now be aware of these two or three things that are also coming for you mm-hmm The biggest challenge is that there is so much noise? It's like you've ever had someone in your house. Maybe it's your wife or maybe it's a friend or whatever. It just plays a really bad song too often, right? He's playing a song you haven't really heard. My wife laughed because she knows how guilty she is, okay? There you go, right there you go and you just play a song and you think I'm going to turn it off and after a while it's been on for so long that you become immune to it like it's just there and it's still on.

She is there in the back of your mind And you couldn't turn it off like this the noise that I describe in life. Whether it's your parents' expectations, whether it's society's expectations, whether it's your partner's expectations, all of those are like background noise and that noise drowns out your ability to understand the mind and intelligence, that's one of the biggest trips I was seeing. A presentation called builds a life, not a resume. It's also one of my popular videos, but it's a very good video. Thanks man. Thank you so much. And when I did the reboot, you don't see this in the video because these reboots didn't appear in the video.

But the research I was doing focused on the most common lies on the resume. The truth is that 40 to 50 percent of us lie on our resumes. Yes, if you don't, you are missing an opportunity. I'll just say yes. There you do it and I started to dig deeper and I was looking at, you know, a lot of people lie about their dates and employment, so instead of three days, now it's three months. You know, whatever it is, now I dug deeper and I wanted to meet some of these people and talk to people, so I talked to people who lie on their resumes and we know that at least 40 to 50 percent tell us yes.

Another thing is that no one was proud of it. Nobody, nobody said: yes. Yes I know. I'm going to really understand what it all came down to. We are really insecure about our own abilities. It really came down to us not being sure what we have to offer when it all came down to a lack of self-awareness. Did it come down to a lack of understanding? What am I good at, what am I passionate about, what am I contributing? That's what really worried people. They were worried about work, but when you drilled down to the surface, the real behavioral trait that came to light was insecurity and lack of confidence in one's potential, that tells us a lot about your behavior. and human nature That the noise from outside makes us want to fit into the container and that prevents us from differentiating between what my mind says and what my intelligence says and what happens is that the noise becomes your voice?

Then that noise becomes what you think is what you're saying and most people don't realize that for 10 20 30 years down there, how the hell would you like to realize that? Your analogy is great. Yes, songs on. You don't even realize that it already becomes total white noise. In fact, you don't realize it. You will only notice it if it is turned off correctly. So how do you identify it? If you have a process for that, how do you listen to it? What you're not here anymore? So you can turn it off Yes, absolutely one of the most important and we say it all the time.

But it mainly applies to this: changing associations, changing associations to what? to the people you hang out with. It's like changing your circle because if you only hear the same thing from that circle, the only way to turn it off without having to do a lot of reflecting is to change your circle where you start hearing us. In the end we all find the things we want to hear. We know that right now, in real time, you and I are going to do some interesting things, okay? Let's do this right, so I created a little piece of content for Alexa where I was like, okay?

What are four questions you can ask to find out why you and I use different words? But I think we're saying the same thing, yeah, so I call them invisible beliefs, beautiful, everyone has invisible beliefs and they're totally screwing you over. Yes, I quote the noise. Yes, so they are controlling your life and the only way to get them to stop controlling your life is to find out what they are, so I gave them four questions and two of them I stole directly from Albert Einstein. The most important decision that each person will make in his life is whether he lives in a friendly or hostile universe.

So just ask a question: do you live in a friendly or hostile universe? So the point I'll go over everything, but the point is that if you ask these four questions, and they're just the tip of the iceberg, but if you ask these four questions, you'll start to identify your framework of Basically, I'm just trying to make the People frame themselves as optimists or pessimists, which I think is kind of the first thing you need to consider, so first, do you live in a hostile or friendly universe? Another Einstein. Is it all a miracle? Or is nothing a miracle because you absolutely have a choice, so neither is objectively real?

But you choose and it will really have color. How you love it. Yes, and then number three. Can you do anything you set your mind to without limitations or are there certain things you can't understand? And then number four, I'm forgetting right now, so it's always time because you understand the yeah, I get it. I love them. They are bright, brilliant questions. So what do you think there? Willie is incomplete, so what could we add to that? Really bring this home for people, if it makes them optimistic and pessimistic. What else at a really high level.

Yes of course. What other things could people do? They change immediately or, in fact, they would change immediately if they change. You know the people they are with. But let's be real about what some of those things are: optimism and pessimism. What else is there for me? There were two questions I asked myself that really changed what I do. One of my big questions is what advice would I give to my younger self? It's huge because I think those are the things we regret, those are the things we wish we were doing, those are the things that have gotten lost in the noise.

When you ask what advice you would give your younger self, the number one answer is Me. Do I wish I had studied this? I wish I had tried this. I wish I had tried this, you know? Those are the things that someone didn't do, yeah, they're all the things that people didn't do, it's always like something that should have been started or not continued, and that's really taking advantage of someone's voice Right, that's really taking advantage of what that someone really wants to do and you go way beyond just saying oh what do you like? What are you so passionate about answering that sometimes, especially if you're drowning, that adds to your questions?

Or so it's really interesting now. I need to know what your answer was. So it used to be. I still talk a lot when I grew up. I read the dictionary and read it to Saurus. I loved the language. That's what fascinated me and for some reason I left it, then I discovered the life of a monk, I became a monk and then almost 10 years later, at 28, I asked myself that question and my answer was: "Me." words are missing. I miss the expressiveness. I miss sharinga message and stories through incredible language and ideas. Potential rhymes, but flow and all that stuff.

That was the answer to my question. One of the most important responses was: I wish I would never stop. When did you ask that? ask? I was with you 28 two years ago. Here's the thing, man. I'll tell you right now that your content. Your content is like the modern version of the spoken word, so I don't know if it's on purpose or an accident, but it's like there was an accident watching it. I was like fuck, like he's doing this spontaneously, I have to hate myself a little bit, yeah, and if he's writing it, he does it so well that it feels improvised, but the response is very impressiveThanks, okay.

I'm really touched coming from now Here's the thing like look and I love giving compliments when they're real But the most important thing is that you compliment what you want to reinforce in someone, so you have a mission. I find it very interesting. What can we do? Knowledge my word I don't remember where this perfect wisdom is used so that we can make wisdom spread as far and as fast as entertainment, which is very similar to what I am trying to change people's beliefs through entertainment mm -hmm So I recognize the soulmate right away, and then just looking at the content I think: wow!

I'm not surprised by the amount of views you've gotten because his songs work because they make you feel an emotion, but they also make you touch. in whatever it is about humans. Whatever we conveyed through the beat, and before the cameras were rolling, we were talking about it, so the only thing that makes me feel very uncomfortable. I do the same thing called impact quotes and impact quotes, it's the first time I allowed myself to act where I know I wouldn't say it like that if you and I were next to each other. This is for the camera.

I know how it's going to be edited. I know we'll add music to it. So it's a performance, but it's also some of our best performing content, so it's like what you said before about Mira, I just accept that not everyone is a neuroscience expert. I have to understand who my audiences are and give them something in a way that will then resonate and go absolutely viral, so I think recognizing that is really interesting. Anyway, I'm just responding to what you were saying. Oh, your life seems to be an echo. That answer is fine, so there are a few more things you have to communicate to a friend.

I'm here. I'm here. I love this and if you love it. That's even yes, 100%, so there are three questions you get asked frequently. Which are? Who is the most important? How can I find my passion? And you can tell me look what you get. I need you to answer each one of them. Yes, but if you want to go over what each of the questions are and then we'll come back. But. I just make them because they are perfect, so how do I find my passion? Simple model which is the model of Dharma, also dharma means eternal duty in the Vedic tradition.

It is very similar to what we talk about today about an Ikigai, what is the Japanese version of the reason for being? Why do we live where the meaning comes from and speaks of a crossing of four areas? What am I good at and what do I love? What does the world need and how do I get paid for it? Those four help you unlock your passion when you find the intersection between those four. You are making your passion your purpose. You will unlock your passion. You will find your purpose. This is path one. There are two paths.

Way one. I find my skill set and use them to help other people and get better at it, so I'm getting better at what I'm good at and using it to help other people. because I'm aware of what I'm pretty good at and I know what more knowledge I have, what skills I have. I have some self-awareness. The other path that people often overlook is, I actually just start serving people. I just start helping people. and I start to notice what I enjoy about it and what I'm good at helping people, so that's the Gandhi part.

Gandhi said you find yourself when you lose yourself in the service of others, so for me those are the two parts of how I find my passion and how I find the intersection between those four areas. And the second is Jay, my relationships are falling apart. I get asked that all the time, so the answer is much more difficult. Well, it's harder to summarize, but I always start with the self-realization that the problem is that we have a list. for what we want and we don't have a list of what we need to become and I don't mean to be too much, I mean to be simply to come to understand yourself You don't know what you need in your life until you discover who you are and So I find that many people rush into relationships without really recognizing and being fully aware of what they need from a relationship.

So it all comes down to how aware are you and how much understanding? Do you have yourself and what you need and what you want? That's my best relationship advice in a minute. And then the third question I get asked the most is Jay. How do you read? What are your favorite books because you seem to read a lot? What are your three favorite books? They're not innovative in the sense that people don't say, "Oh my God." That is the best book I have ever read for me. They changed my life. So that's where I'm coming from, at a point where I love Simon Sinek's Start with Why and not because I applied it to business, but because I applied it to my life and even today, I'm constantly refining My Why. that.

That's all I do every day my deepest morning routine and practice is to refine why I do what I do. Now it is very easy for me to do it for money. It's very easy for me to do it now for my followers, it's very easy for me to do it now for the fame and every day I have to perfect it because I know that I have lived as a monk and what I practiced, if that becomes what I want then. I will forget who I need to be, so my daily practice and my daily routine is to refine my intention, which in modern language is Y.

So for me, Simon's book helped me do the Bhagavad Gita, which I would love to do to get Vedic knowledge, what Ryan's. made by Stoicism and The 5000+ year old Bhagwad Gita and that book really exemplifies the human challenge. Third book. I would say this is going to be it. Be difficult because it's the last one. Let me think I'm going to try to add something else. So I have done something like self-development, more spiritual enlightenment. Let me include a business book for you, as I am sure you will have a lot of business in a few years.

I love the book Exponential Organizations. I don't know if you read it by Saleem Ishmael and the Singularity University and that book to me is an incredible analysis of the success of all the organizations that we see ruling our phone today by the way it breaks down their business models and how they were created to me is fascinating, so if someone really wants to start an exponential business today, and that's where you have to go, and that's when Peter Diamandis said that if you want to be a billionaire by redefining, it's someone who impacted the lives of a thousand million people and that's what that business book is really about: How do you create an exponential organization that positively impacts a billion people?

So those are my three for today, okay? Yes, I have one more. Yes. Yes, I want to listen to you. Talk about your three E's. Oh, what are they and why are they so important? For me, my three e's are elements, environment and energy. Each one has an element that they thrive on if you take someone out of it, their element. They will not be the same, the modern example would be Michael Jordan. He was amazing at basketball. take him out of basketball put him in baseball no one remembers his career We are talking about one of the best athletes of all time Your environment is the environment that surrounds you can you take a fish out of water?

And give him a beautiful mansion and a Bentley and all the money in the world But he would die and that's who we are as our environment. We are all an environment that we thrive in and that we have to create? The boss, if you are at work, will never ask you in what environment you are successful. That never happens. So we have to create an environment where we thrive and ultimately it is energy. Some of us love high energy, high pressure environments, some of us succeed in low energy, low pressure environments. Discovering your energy and the frequency at which you operate best will help you thrive as well, so to me those are the three E's to truly creating a thriving environment.

Know your element. Know your environment and know your energy, etc., all the time, if I see something going wrong, is my element out of alignment, is my environment out of alignment, or is my energy out of alignment? That's a great three question test you can ask yourself when you think things are going wrong and all you have to do is get them back in line. I love it, before I ask my last question, working, these guys find you online. You can absolutely find me, my favorite place for you to find me if we look at most of your Facebook.

I'm Jay Shetty on Instagram. I'm also Jay Shetty. There are my two bases, my two best places, YouTube and Jay Shetty Twitter Jay Shetty, so yeah, Jay Shetty on whatever platform you're on. I'm probably there, cool, what's the impact you want to have on the world? I think you've said it so beautifully so many times and shared my vision, which is wonderful and it's wonderful to know that we share the same thing. It's making wisdom go viral. There is an incredible study in 2017 that says that the most successful people in the world, healthy, rich and wise, choose education over entertainment.

The impact I want to have on the world is that I want to transform and revolutionize the entertainment industry so that it becomes educational without anyone knowing. So it's still completely entertaining. It's still like watching Netflix. But you're learning about human behavior, mental neuroscience, and everything without even knowing it. For me, that is the greatest victory we can have for our society. How many people are going to stop watching Netflix? I'm reading a book every night. I don't know, but if we can make that book come to life on Netflix, that will change the world because that's what people are going to consume for so long.

The media has been used to numb people and tune them out if we can. Use it to excite, uplift, enlighten people, not just Not in the cheesy way of "well", let's follow someone through their journey of enlightenment, not like that kind of thing, I mean really entertaining programming where you can learning entertaining at the same time if I can do it by changing the most powerful industry in the world. Then I will feel like I have had some impact. Because that way I think I will reach the world without having to move around to change its habits too much.

My thing. is how do we know people where they are and? And to really deliver a message and a powerful expression of love and to me that is the highest form of compassion, the highest form of empathy, love and compassion is meeting people where they already are instead of expecting them to change and Yes, that's the impact it would have. I would like to see this happen all over the world, so let's cross our fingers with your help, with the help of everyone who is watching, you know it will be a team effort. I can't do it alone, I don't expect to, but yeah, that's the same factor as how in the world.

That's amazing, thank you, thank you, you're amazing. Thank you, thank you, guys, I tell you that when you look at a tribe of people, they all have different roles, and there is always someone whose job it is to go out and experience the world to bring back wisdom in a form that no longer exists. It's been digested and made easy for other people to take away Jay Shetty is that guy, go check this out, he's someone who's gone out into the world, who's been a monk who's worked at Accenture and everywhere in between and who He comes back with a real ability to explain what's going on and does so from a position of not trying to seem smarter or better than you.

But that's his role. Some people are musicians, some are doctors, and some break down information. I really believe that he has a unique access to the wisdom, as he calls it, to understand what people try to summarize in books. Modern or vintage and his ability to articulate that in a way that feels like the spoken word of modern rap, whatever you want to think about it as it is in and of itself. An artistic creation, so you can't go wrong. Dive into it and it's not a It's a mistake that it's had over a billion views in less than 12 months, which is crazy.

So go look at his stuff, contact him and ask him questions. Stay tuned because I think he's going to be one of the greats to really digest that information and really help the wisdom flow. viral, okay guys, if you haven't already, make sure to subscribe. And until next time, my friends will be legendary, take care. Everyone, thank you so much for watching and being part of this community. If you haven't already, be sure to subscribe. We will receive weekly videos on how to develop a growth mindset, cultivate determination, and unlock your full potential.