Finding the Right One to Love Me - The R Spot Episode 24

welcome to our place here is a question for you or should I say a question that comes to me very often why can't I find the

right

person, the

right

person who will

love

me the way I want to be

love

d now that I think about it? I've asked myself that question many times and it was usually related to a disappointment in a current relationship or some level of pain and anguish I experienced when I realized this is the same as that, so here's the real question. Why do I keep attracting or falling in love with the same person with a different name and a different pair of pants or dress depending on your preference?

That's today's topic,

finding

the right person to love me, so let's get into it, one of my strongest spiritual teachings comes from A Course in Miracles, a text written by Helen Schucman and William Beckford in 1977 and without Going into a lot of detail about the history of A Course in Miracles, let me say that the course offers a series of principles and premises designed to support the reprogramming of the mind and the reshaping of your heart so that you can experience the fullness of unconditional love and a One of the premises of the course that I love is that you can't solve the problem because you don't know what the problem is.

I think that applies to the question of why I can't find the right one, so here are a few things I want to share with you and ask you to consider the way we build relationships and a trial practice is often not based on what What we want is based on what we learned as children and experiences it is based on how we were conceived the mmm energy that we marinated in when we were in the womb is based on what we heard, witnessed and experienced in our first five years of life and what what we were taught and what we invented about love and relationships the way we create relationships all relationships and the people we attract into those relationships all relationships are a function of DNA and subconscious mental and emotional patterns and programming let me say it again the way we create relationships all relationships and couples and people we attract all people all couples is a function of our DNA and subconscious, that means we are not aware of them, mental and emotional programming and patterns.

Now let me say that in simple language in all the mentioned situations. In all circumstances we will attract what we believe about ourselves and about love and what we attract is a function of who we believe we are, what we have learned about ourselves and what we have experienced in every relationship, furthermore, we cannot and will not attract love. we want and desire until we recognize and change those beliefs, okay breathe, we can't solve the problem of attracting the right person because we don't know what the problem is, we see when a relationship goes bad most of the time we believe that the problem It is the other person who has done or has not done what he has given or has not been able to or has not wanted to give as a result.

We begin to look for and long for a person who can give more, do differently and, in general, be the right one and in that process Miss overlooked or misunderstood that we created the relationship and attracted the person because of our unconscious beliefs and feelings about ourselves and about love in response to who we believe we are, what we have learned about ourselves and what that we experienced in our earliest relationship. I know that's a lot and here is the problem that we can't find the solution, we can't find the right solution because we think it's someone else and you screw it up into a problem and you, my beloved, the whole solution, you are the correct, not me.

I'm going to give you another motivating catcher myself, you know, you are the one you are looking for, you should love, you see, blah, blah, blah, what I will say is that this clean, clear and complete, we cannot solve the problem of attracting the right person because we create relationships and attract people based on our unconscious beliefs and feelings about ourselves based on who we believe we are and what we have learned about ourselves this is what we experience it is not based on how much you have it is not based on quantity of money you can spend is not based on how much we give or do it is not based on how little we ask except our relationships all relationships are a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself who you attract what what you attract is a reflection of what We have learned look at what we have been taught and what we believe we deserve, therefore, if we believe that we cannot have what we want, we cannot keep what we want, we do not deserve what we want and here is the big one that we do.

What we want in the relationship must come from the outside, that is the problem and we will never be able to solve it because we think the problem is something else, ok, take another deep breath because I can feel your racing mind and a negative ego. You're entering a new business, so before you hit the dislike button, listen to this, let's take me as an example. I have been very open in the world about the fact that I marinated in a toxic womb that my mother was in. an alcoholic and my father was a married man I was born in an atmosphere of poverty dishonesty shame guilt and anger the way people go my brother was a severe asthmatic so I was taught that his illness made him more important than me and my grandmother who He raised me, he worked long hours and often left my brother and I alone at home and from that I learned that love is sleeping and to be loved you have to do exactly what you are told and never disappoint the person who tells you what you should. do.

To get love and approval from them you had to silence yourself. I was born to poor people of color in the 1950s and I learned that I was less than other people but I couldn't have what other people had and a whole host of things I learned. at five years old. I believe in those things, in the absolute truth about myself and life. I never saw a loving relationship between a man and a woman except on TV and when I saw white people with money doing things. that I had never seen God experience personally now that's not so much about race as it is about who I thought I was and when I came to believe and when I experienced in my own world so I moved so quickly when I started creating relationships of all kinds.

Of relationships I created with people who I thought were more important than me, like my brother, people who came and went in my life, like my grandmother, my father and my mother, who died when I was two years old. I created relationships with people who supported my beliefs. that there was something I needed to do to get their love and keep them as sweet people who came and went and in my life people who are not shy about promoting their beliefs and their needs over my beliefs and my needs. I created relationships based on what I knew and when I saw it I was desperately trying to create the relationships that I had seen on television those were things that I believed I could have things that I had never seen up close things that I believed that all the people who had to give myself to be able to for me I couldn't give myself those things because I wasn't enough I couldn't take care of myself I couldn't improve myself and I didn't set my values ​​because I wasn't important enough and I couldn't I don't do enough in the right way to be okay with myself , we can't solve the problem because we don't know what the problem is and we can't find the right one because somewhere deep inside us, in a place that many of us have not recognized. or recognized we do not believe we have not been taught and we do not feel and we are the right ones you are the right one loved you are the right one for you to love yourself you are the right one to take care of you you are the right one to nourish it, nourish it, encourage it, inspire it, comfort it and take care of it, and even That we believe that, feel that, think that and live that, we will continue to attract people who walk around talking, demonstrating what we believe deep down in our good, all good in front of you.

Press the island like this again. Let me take an example from my third serious long-term romantic relationship. I attracted a partner who beat me badly every day. He said he loved me just like my grandmother told me, but he hit me. I, like my grandmother and father, accepted it from my husband because it's what I learned as a child at home, but wait, it gets deeper, it wasn't just that the men I attracted and built relationships with also They were women he attracted. and I created relationships with women I call friends who lied to me, betrayed me, abandoned me, and treated me badly.

I attracted women who also did to me in my outside world the same things that I did to myself inside myself moment by moment hour after hour on a daily basis I thought it was them, I blame them, I was angry at them until I realized that I was attracting all kinds of people and I created relationships, all kinds of relationships that reflected back to me who I think I was, what I had been taught and what I had learned about. me and what I had experienced in the first five years of my life and I couldn't solve the problem because in my search for the right one I thought it was them who were doing what they had done what they gave and they couldn't not give me when the truth was that I attracted and created what I had not been able to be before or I gave myself I thought I could get it I had to get it I would only get it from the outside I know this was a lot to take in so let me Be clear when we can and do not attract the right one it is because We don't believe that everything is okay with ourselves within ourselves and no matter what your mind and ego tell you, look at your life and your relationship history. where you will find the truth and if you really want to see it, be alone for a while and just watch what you do now, does this mean that people aren't crazy as hell and that they aren't freaking horrible? things now some people are bad, nasty, crazy as hell, they are liars and behave very badly the question is why in your world I have many friends who never saw domestic violence and attracted it into their lives, then there are those who saw it living and have never experienced it the problem is what they believe and what they were taught about themselves it is very true that some of us, some really good and loving people, have experienced things that we did not deserve the problem is why we attracted it and what We learned as a result so that we know that those people who hurt us abandoned us, rejected us, or otherwise behaved badly in our lives when they were not the right people, but the point we often overlook is what did they reflect? what need do they feel which guy they came in and what lesson they taught me as long as you're looking for the right one you're going to keep attracting the wrong one because there's a problem you don't have I recognize that bad things happen to good people and another course of miraculous lesson is This: All things are lessons that God wants us to learn, so here is a lesson that may be loving, but then you are the right one and at the moment you look complete perfect adorable and loving just as you are the people who are ordained to share that love your self-love with you will appear the right one is the one who will reflect to you what you think you feel and believe to be true about yourself the right one is the one who sees you and holds you as an equal who deserves to be loved just because he is the right one is the one who accepts you as you are and is willing to hang you until you get better the right one is the one who gives you more of what you already are what you already have and what you already think you are worthy of receiving you cannot solve the problem until you understand what the problem is, you my beloved are the one for you unfortunately as long as you wait and long for something or someone to give you what you don't believe you are what you don't believe you have you will continue immersed in the problem with no way to find the solution of course in miracles lessons 79 let me recognize the problem so you can solve a problem you can't solve if you don't know what it is and everyone in this world seems to have their own special problems but they are all the same and you should recognize this if the solution that sold them all is to be accepted no one could solve all the problems the world seems to be a whole there seem to be so many on so many levels and very informed subs that confront you with an impossible situation dismay and depression are inevitable as you consider them some arise unexpectedly just While you think you have developed the above, others remain unresolved under a cloud of denial and rise to haunt you from time to time only to hide again but still unresolved, today we will try to free our minds from all different types of problems that we think we have, we will try to realize that we have a single problem that we have not recognized, that we will ask what it is and we will wait for the answer because they will tell us that we will ask for the solution to the problem and To start with this project, we will say that the only problem that I have had It is the belief that I am separate from God and therefore separate from now until next time.