Dysfunction to Dynasty - Ch. 2 Kay Robertson: WORTH FIGHTING FOR?

If you've heard our father's story, now experience it through the eyes of our mother, who had to ask herself daily if this marriage is

worth

fighting

for. This is our mother, K. Robertson, and this is the beginning of our journey from

dysfunction

to

dynasty

when My grandmother and I talked about when I grew up married, I said we were going to be like all the books say, well, I'm going to I will get married, I will have four children and I will live happily ever after. and my grandmother says I know you feel that way now but I promise you that somewhere in life you will have to fight for your marriage when I was 14 my father passed away suddenly I was 49 he had a huge heart attack and he died my mother I was only 42 at the time of course what he did to her was devastating, I turned 15 and my mother and I were dating at the same time, she would go out, I would go out, I would come home, she would be gone.

It's not a good situation, I want to tell you that I was a teenager when I first saw Phil Roberson. I liked what I saw and it didn't hurt that he was a star quarterback on the football team, that was just added stuff, but yeah. I liked it when I saw it. Phil was at the funeral and I loved that he cared enough about me to come to my dad's funeral. From that moment, when I saw him that day, it was like we were history together since then, I think in many things. In many ways he just took my dad's place as my protector, my man, my pioneer, well my grandmother and I were very close, but she is from a very different generation.

You know, when Phil and I were probably doing things we shouldn't be touching and stuff like that. I thought, well, I don't want to talk to her because my grandmother never talks about sex, she was never a taboo word, what happened was I got pregnant, so we went and got married, and the first year was real. fight number one we were so poor so in love but so poor he had never been poor phil had been poor his whole life so it was nothing new to him it was different to me we learned to live on fish ducks deer squirrels all the time things he killed and then I tried to cook them, that was my process of learning to cook, I began to see the change and feel it.

Phil, who had never drank before, began to drink well. I was born, I was 17 and Phil was 18. and we were like two kids with a kid. I feel sorry for Alan because bless him. I know he probably wishes he had a real mom and dad, but he had who he had, at least I didn't kill him. I did my best Jason was born very excited about another guy Phil was happier than ever unfortunately the drinking got worse he was mean he ran on me he smoked dope he got drunk we got pregnant again with Willie Jess Phil I have another guy he will slow down the party and get He'll drink it, he'll get better, no, what I would tell my kids all the time is that that's not your dad, that's the devil in your dad.

I was exhausted, I picked up the kids. I came home and he was there. drunk on the couch he said why are you so late and I said the car broke down blah blah blah I was telling him everything he said I know why you're late you're having an affair and of course I started to laugh because I said when would I have time to do that? Job. I drive from one place to another. I cook, I do laundry, I take care of the house and I would never do that because it's not right. I wasn't raised that way and I wouldn't.

So that night was when I hit my lowest point in my entire life because I suddenly realized that I've been

fighting

for this marriage for a long time and it's not working, I went into the bathroom and started crying. and crying and I really thought I just wanted to die, I really did, I just wanted peace and that was the only way I could think about it. I wish I could take pills and go to sleep and never wake up. I heard the tapping. of little house shoes on the floor I will never forget that sound as long as I live and Alan said mom mom please don't cry don't cry everything is going to be okay and his next word he said God is going to take care of us and I said what and he said God is going to take care of us of us, all of a sudden it's like a light went off and I said, wait a minute, who's going to take care of these three little kids?

A drunk sitting on the couch or me, uh, I'm all. My God, I knelt down and prayed. I said God, please help me find some peace. Please help me find some hope and please help me save my marriage. That's what I said. I stood in line to go talk to a preacher and he shared the gospel of Jesus Christ who came to earth for me who died on the cross for me who was buried for me who did not remain buried came back to show me that I can return after death and I repented of my sins and then was baptized.

It was the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and the nicest thing that man said to me that day was this: "You will have help, you will have the holy spirit living in you." You have Jesus Christ in you, it is an anchor that will never leave you, but when you return home, your husband will still be controlled by the devil. Still, you'll have to say your names, be mean to yourself, go out and get drunk. He's not going to change just because of what happened to you today, you have to understand that, but keep praying for him, just love him and it will happen.

What happened one day was the shock of the world when I came home in my little Volkswagen and he said. For me, I'm sick of you, well, I just can't stand your holy life, everyone reads their Bibles and their Bible story books and all that's just you're running my life, that's what he said and I said, well, I'm sorry, we run your life, but this is our life now and we're not going to change and he said, well what I've decided is that I want all of you out of my life, I said, so this is what you're saying. . you're kicking us out, yeah, I want you and the three boys to leave and me, and that's it, I can't take it anymore, I mean, go live with your friends from church, you like them better anyway, so that continues, only me.

I can't take this anymore, so I said, "Okay, I want it to be noticed." I didn't leave you, you cheated on us and I was thinking to myself, I'll have to tell my grandma in heaven that I tried to fight this marriage but he just kicked us out so what can I do? The kids would say I miss dad and I say I miss him too, but maybe one turn will make him think about what's wrong in his life and maybe he'll find a need for God, so we prayed for him every day, One day at work we came back for lunch and there was an old gray van in the parking lot where I worked.

Oh, there's no Phil here, well, his head was leaning over the steering wheel, so when I arrived. To the truck, I opened the door and when he looked at me it was like nothing I ever thought would happen. He had big tears falling down his eyes and said: I can't eat, I can't sleep, I want my family to come back. Of course my heart started beating and I thought oh God this is just what I want here this is what I prayed for and I said I know who can help you he said who are you going to say God and I said the only one. someone who can help you said well I don't know how to find him and I said well yeah I went in, called the guy I had talked to, told him the situation, he said let me check my calendar and I will never forget what I said to an old man in my church.

I told her to check his calendar. I told him what's more important than a lost soul. And he said: You're right. You're right. Well, there is nothing more important. He said I'll be at your apartment, me and my wife at 5 30. I said, "Okay, I'll meet you there," Phil said, what do you think the gospel is? and I told him I don't know gospel music on the radio or anything like that. I was impressed. when i heard that jesus died for me he was buried and rose from the dead, something so simple but profound that happened there almost 2000 years ago, i had never heard it, i came away thinking that i will be as open forever and for god and for my neighbors as I was by the evil one and living this sinful lifestyle, I said, I'm getting ready to hang up another gear and I'm turning away from my sinful past and I'm getting ready to make a brave attempt to be good.

I said I've never tried it before I told the guy when he studied with me he said just love God and love your neighbor and try to be good, I'm like I never tried that before we got back to being family and the kids were so excited, oh mom, what if the devil is really going to leave daddy this time and what if he's going to be different and what if he's going to go to church with us and be nice again? And I said, well, we pray enough for I think God is answering this prayer.

There he was in the baptistery. I heard Phil say: I want to make Jesus the Lord of my life. I want to follow him from this day forward and the next thing I knew he was baptized and I went up. and the boy started shouting and singing jumping all over the place and they said my dad my dad saved my dad he saved my dad's safe they were so happy those growing up years weren't always easy because that kind of behavior you had before always got you. Go on, it takes a long time to learn the fruits of the spirit and to learn the ways to be kind and kind and faithful, and you know all those things that come with growing up as a Christian, but we did it, and most importantly, I looked up at the sky and I told my grandmother I said well, I fought for my marriage and guess what I still had, my name is Miss K and I'm second.