Consequences of Over Protected Children- Jordan Peterson

most

children

now have older parents, because people don't have

children

until they are 30 years old and there is a big difference between having a father who is 30 years old and having a father who is 20 years old, yes, 20 year olds. They still like children and are going to be more helpful and negligent. I would say well, look at one of the things we used to do with my daughter when she was very little. You know, she was about a year and a half old. If we had her alone in a room and normally she would complain about it for a few minutes and then she would find a way to have fun, you know, she liked to take books off the shelves and put them back and kind of let her go through that initial moment of misery, then she would learn to regulate herself and became very good at it, um, and that's a good example of how minor deprivation has a positive influence, but you know, children used to do it. having several brothers and sisters strengthens you because there is tremendous competition in families between siblings and they had younger parents who had fewer resources and you know that now the parents are older first of all and second of all, they are richer in resources and therefore Therefore, it is more likely to program the death of their children in a certain sense to provide them with all the opportunities that they consider useful and that is understandable and also, because they have fewer children, each child is in a certain sense more valuable.

You don't know, if you have 10 children, I don't love all of them, but you know that there are 10, there is an excess of attention that can circulate and they socialize a lot among themselves instead of being socialized by the parents, but if you only have one child, already do you know him. You're going to dedicate all of your resources to giving them absolutely everything you can give them and one of the dangers of that is that you're going to overprotect them and give them too much and we don't understand that. dynamic, right, we don't understand how much you have to keep children away and let them go out and make their own mistakes and find their own path and that's complicated and we're ignorant about it and so I think one of the

consequences

of this is that we have a reasonable percentage of young people, maybe young teenagers of the kind you hear about in college, who have been over

protected

and programmed and underchallenged in some sense, so they're not very resilient and that's, and then, for Of course, what's happening in universities, safe spaces and trigger warnings and all that, and there's good recent research on these trigger warnings, they clearly make things worse rather than better, we extend that to protection for much more time that is useful, you know that it is difficult because, as I said, when you have resources you can use them to make the life of your children, let's say, easier, but the question is: do you really want to make the life of someone you love easier and That's incredibly difficult? ask