5 Social Mistakes That Make You Extremely Unlikeable

Some recent Brie Larson interviews have caught the attention of Marvel fans, people have asked if the cast doesn't get along with Brie and even as an audience member it's hard to sit through some of these interviews without cringing, so today I want to talk about what you can learn from these situations and how to avoid committing specific patterns of behavior that can

make

people not like you without you trying or even realizing it, and I want to

make

this clear, there are interviews that I can show you in which Brie is

extremely

likable. You'll see some clips of them in this video.

I'm addressing these two most recent interviews because they are topical and because they provide great insight into the charisma

mistakes

I see many people making. The first problem you want to avoid. is reading negative intent in an ambiguous situation brie's cable interview has this repeatedly going to college it's not good to exercise brie larson like she hypothetically would at some point it's like a personal attack or something it's a request do you think What should I do? Yes, I exercise? Thank you very much for asking, we'll come back to this idea of ​​interpreting negative intent because it's possible that she wasn't doing that at all and was actually going for sarcasm in these situations.

The problem is that sarcasm requires a prompt. You must go. exaggerated, whether in your choice of words, body language or tone, or people won't recognize the sarcasm where you might have intended it without that breeze, the defensiveness seems sincere, lefty, why do you need to know if Captain Marvel can beat Superman? I can not believe you. I even have to Google it. I mean, to be clear, you can add sarcasm to this type of joke, for example, Brie Plaza gives similar answers in her cable interview, but people responded much better and it's because she is communicating what she doesn't mean. what she says in this case by narrowing her eyes and changing her tone slightly.

Does Aubree Plaza have a sister? I have two sisters oh that's none of your business it's my family as it's so subtle that many people will miss this level of sarcasm and I know the British are going to hate this recommendation but at least in America the general rule is that When you are ironic, don't be flat in your speech, especially if a literal interpretation of what you are saying would make you sound like an idiot, exaggerate and change your tone, your gestures or your facial expressions, this helps people distinguish between a conversation normal and a character you are playing for the purpose of joking.

The following clip is a great example of how Bree plays off how she's upset while she makes it clear that that's not really how she feels, she's not really offended. Now notice the change in her tone of voice and her exaggerated gesticulation, that's a problem, well, I feel inferior, but that's okay, do it. First of all, I have nothing, but going back to the first point, it's possible that Bree is sincere in her frustration with these questions. Now, obviously, we can't read minds, but there's nothing absurd, no smile to release tension, just flat statements. like she was interpreting what they were asking her as an attack, it's like a personal attack or something, regardless of what's going on in Bree's head in her own life, she would benefit greatly from reading positive intent in ambiguous situations How are you, in fact, even when Without a doubt, people are being rude to you.

Reading positive intentions can be a great way to control the situation. It's part of what made Russell Brand so admirable in his MSNBC interview several years ago, that the whole interaction deserves a meltdown on its own, but just watch. Here we are, the host points to Russell's accent. He might get flustered in response, but instead he assumes a positive intention and responds with a friendly joke. Satellite radio in the car. I can't understand a single joke because you can't understand it, yeah. but I say it when I drive the car and it doesn't all laugh in the radio audience.

I think I have no idea what is best for him. You focus on driving your mind and don't want to be distracted. humor, you might be clashing with Pradesh, that's a good thing. I think it's probably for the best jokes like these that they interpret that positive intent can go a long way in winning over the person who is being rude to you, although it didn't really work in this particular one. situation and if you like a breakdown of this entire interaction, let us know in the comments. Only you know because of his overwhelming response. We are working now on a video covering attachment theory, but we are moving this video on to the third point.

Don't take every opportunity to get attention or praise yourself now in the clip below, Chris Hemsworth is badmouthing his doppelgänger and putting himself down to do it. This is a good common move for someone who is at the top and in this. Hemsworth is clearly athletic, powerful and famous, so it's nice of him to take that coach and put him above him, even if it means denigrating himself to do it and just getting injured, you know, he does all the odds, responding to me, it looks great and So you know, I told you that if you're in a situation like this, sitting next to someone who just did this, it's a great opportunity to spread the praise even further;

In this case, you may want to spread them to other stuntmen. visual effects team to make the impossible look real or just your co-stars in general, is perhaps the worst opportunity to insist on your own specialty because it contrasts starkly with Chris's humility and also puts him on the defensive as he he was belittling himself. and now we're taking that seriously, unfortunately that's the route Bri took again. This is another situation where tone of voice matters enormously. If Bri had said something like wait a second, you guys have doubles. I thought we were supposed to do all that crazy stuff.

Things on their own, people probably would have laughed at that, but without anything over the top without playing a character, she seems sincere in her attempt to draw positive attention to herself and that doesn't work well and now, defensively, Chris tells her. He hits his back in hesitation. that she does her own stunts and he mentions Tom Cruise as a contrast. I did my stunts because I thought everyone didn't do cruise oven and again, instead of taking this opportunity to praise Tom Cruise's legendary status in the industry as one of the a- listeners who actually do their own stunts and take risks Bree insists in distinguishing yourself even more if you are in a situation like this the charismatic move the safe move is to spread the praise don't worry so much if you are receiving yours, when you give it freely it comes back to you freely watch Chris Pratt illustrate this point perfectly.

She asks the Avengers cast who the most charming Chris is. Look how he handles it. It was the most charming dress. It is exactly his own willingness to compete with someone. otherwise, that's what makes other people vote for him in droves. All of this brings us to the fourth point of the video, which is that you shouldn't try to win every joking moment, this makes it harder to feel comfortable joking with you because things always get harder. Take competitive example when Bri says she's the strongest character in the movie, which, while dry, could be considered a playful jab at her co-stars, Chris unsurprisingly punches her back and high-pitched his voice.

It is an indication that he is being playful just like the others. Moments of extreme success and finally the people around him laugh among the different. It's just a fact, it's not a personal opinion, it's not a reflection on what you can't do, but it also reflects that my mother is with that now. Chris laughs, in quotes, he won this round of jokes, but for the sake of the brief, she adds that his character is very intelligent. Bri shakes her head, doesn't bother with her earring, and then when Chris says we should fight, she doesn't. She doesn't take it positively or as a joke, she seems to feel like she's being laughed at, so instead of saying "OMG, we should have a fight in the next Avengers" or making some other joke, she says she feels like she's been fighting with him. all day and you get the feeling that she is being honest so we have a fight, if she can I feel like a real representation of her feelings, she probably feels like these exchanges are fights and that can be exhausting if you ever meet her. have you felt like this here is a way out, sometimes it is better to stop fighting, don't try to earn all the laughter from the audience, instead, follow the joke even if you feel like you are the butt of the joke and then amplify it by not accepting this kind of joke .

Insulting joke, seriously, you spread its power and make the crowd stop laughing at you and laugh with you. Here's Bri doing it in another interview with Craig Ferguson when she makes fun of her name. I get confused all the time I walk into rooms and people like oh and Here's another example of Chris Pratt taking a hit on the chin in good spirits. Chris Pratt is the worst Chris, it should be that way. This is all much easier if you interpret the positive intention according to the first point, so now the last thing I want to touch on. is how to handle a compliment, you should avoid responding to compliments with jokes that are disparaging in nature, even if you are joking like that, I am still stronger than you, instead you can thank us at Sears, perhaps emphasize with sustain . eye contact or a touch I like the jeweled epaulettes by the way that's very cute it's like you're some kind of commander of the fabulous alternatively you can turn the tables on the other person and playfully find a way to return a touch even bigger compliment, Well, I think you should accept a lot.

I'm Q fee, yeah, and I had respected the carpenter and he said you should too, so I'm trying to say that trying to get credit is fine, either way, whatever you do, don't punish people when they give you . compliments otherwise they won't be as direct when in doubt a sincere thank you and a smile or just a response a compliment will take you a lot further so I hope you enjoy this video if you are a fan of the channel it is they may wish to do so. Check out our Charisma University course, in my opinion it is hands down the best thing I have ever created when it comes to developing your own charisma.

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