Wife Swap UK | Season 9 Episode 9 | Nadine Vs Red | 2009

taking advantage of Red's indulgent bedtimes. So what do you do? What we do with him now that you've obviously made a decision, he has to make his own decision and now he's there. At least we're probably asleep and just pick him up if it were my rules he'd already be in bed and asleep. so yeah it's not ideal to call this evil the principle that it applies with your child it doesn't apply with all other children yeah I'm not defeated in the slightest it's just um it's the way it happened it's not that it's not I can't be bothered to put him to bed I'm so sorry cough c I'm giving her a choice, it's proven that maybe her methods aren't the best, you know, maybe she needs to realize that she has to find a middle ground, which we all know , she has an American red who has insisted that Darren take his first day off in months to take on Nadine's daily routine.

That is what I want. Well, you can't have everything right away. We have bacon. Well, we'll make some bacon in a minute. Go and do what you were doing. 10 10 minutes D can you fix the PlayStation? I will, yes, you can do this from time to time, you can write down a lot like Pips that I do and things like this, oh, I know that books, oh yes, I know that to do all the things. she does it and cleans the self and runs around and cooks yes, it's not easy. I appreciate more what she does now last night.

Harry had to be put to bed after falling asleep downstairs and Darren is now dealing with the consequences. Yes, he weeded the bed. last night and that's another unusual pattern of his, yeah, to be fair, and he's usually very, very good, yeah, he's upset, yeah, so he's upset and he's been in my bed. I think your rules work for when they're a little older, but I think when they're younger, if they're not used to it, if they're not used to it, they understand that yeah, he's not, he's just not. I think it doesn't work for my son, the work is such, I feel like it does, so that's my opinion.

I agree, no, no, he's not used to it, he doesn't know what he's doing. Darren lives by the rules, that's how they run his house and we run ours without having any rules. Harry doesn't usually wet the bed, so Um, that tells me that Harry is really upset. Um, I don't think it's the rule change that he's upset about, I just think that now he really misses his mom to take off her shirt and help improve their relationship. Nadine wants Dan and Zany to spend some time. together I feel like I quite like these I like the fact that the print goes on the um yeah on the side it was very peculiar yesterday when you came in and didn't say anything every time I say Something happened to me no one cares so no See why this week should be different.

I think it's become this because we both think you have no respect for the house. You don't care about the house. You don't care about us. I'll sit in the living room. room and they will just ignore me. I was sitting there, the only person that was talking to me is Spike and he was like, "shut up," and what I'm saying is I think what happened is, yeah, I shut you down because I was so sick of your behavior in the house. and I think I'm becoming a bit like that again because you don't help around the house but then you think I don't help but they don't care and then see, you shouldn't care about us, you don't care about me, you don't care about me, we both should get over it and accept each other a little, no, he's nice to me, my mom gets up every morning. get up she'll yell at me then she'll yell at you and then you'll yell at me because she yelled at you generally your room is a tip you haven't done about 10 things she's asked you to do that's why she's mad at you how many it would be really nice if we could get together at least once a the week for one hour?

But? Because I know I'm sure that even though it's been pretty difficult to talk about this stuff, it's still out there. Now you don't excuse people, things you can say, okay, there's a reason for that. You're doing something for a reason, um, and you can basically hear the other side, whereas a lot of times we're the only information we have. appears in red. I think dad and I forgot to communicate because mom is usually the one who communicates for us most of the time at home, so I think this whole experience has been good for me and him to build a relationship, I guess later . clearing the air they come home to tidy up Zan's room together.

Can you do something for me? Did you clean those windows? Yeah, great, wait, you'll have to pick it up for a minute. I just want to see myself in the reflection to let myself. Back at the heads of the family, learn to get along a little. It's not just Dan and Zany who benefit from Nadine's rule changes. Spike is responding well to having structure and routine. Yes, did you brush your teeth? Spike, um, he's been great, I mean, he's used stickers, you know, rewards for doing good things, but at this age and the way he is, it's kind of classic, they need a little bit of structure and he's really responded very positively.

Is the end. The day of the exchange and the wives are preparing to return home. My biggest achievement while I was here was just singing Darren and them, Harry on the fun days because his face said it all. I think Dad learned that he should help more. Mom and stuff because when he did Mom's Ro he found it quite difficult, so I think he understands how much Mom does. Thanks Chloe, oh you are a good girl, having my mom as my mom is really different because she is more like a calm mom. I think the relationship between D and me will probably improve, not that he would ever have authority over me or be a father figure, but I could be his friend, be a good guy, wouldn't you wear a lot of stickers?

Yeah, surprisingly I had no problems with Darren, I thought he was going to do it when I read the manual. I have had more problems with children. The biggest problem I've had is that they are fighting. I can not stand it. They fight all the time. It is continuous in our house. they just argue a lot yeah I feel like discipline and routine is what kids need that was my problem disciplining kids and then as soon as they saw I was a light touch they were like woohoo when I was around. in the house I was very surprised not to see a young girl's room and that's why I wanted to give her some time, so my rule change was to make Dan and Anthy spend time together often. she can throw up a lot of stuff and you think that's old garbage, but actually there were two or three things in there that were actually pretty important to her, yeah, I basically listen to her and Spike I've put a routine in the house. which made me very proud of him peaks peaks peaks it's been amazing, so how Spike changed then he gets up in the morning, he sits down, he has breakfast, we have the reward chart, you know, classic, you're St, what a sticker removed CH.

You kind of tried, didn't you, didn't you, when he came out and it's really surprising that this morning he came and asked me to clean his teeth. Have I ever heard him say no? It was pretty impressive if I had to get up earlier in the morning I'll have to cut back on time at night, which means I'll have less time for myself. Isn't your son more important? What is my time? Know? I am selfish. I know I'm selfish, you admitted that you're selfish, we're selfish people, basically, I'm selfish, yes, but I wouldn't be the least bit selfish for the sake of my son, you know I'm quite selfish.

I spend time with him. I guess, but no, but it would compromise the end of the day, yeah, I'm not coming home, but I'm working. You know, I've been saying it all week that I need to get my life together, I need to get home. a little earlier it was brilliant, it was brilliant, yes I know it was brilliant and I just didn't realize that I didn't spend enough time with it. If you really want to come home, then you'll be home living Red's life. I've never felt alone, it's been weird because when I left I thought I'd miss you more than anything in the world and I didn't miss you as much as I thought I would.

I would miss I'm not there after no. I made him a meal, I never heard the last of it, honestly that was like, hey, Dan made me have lots of teas too and a Sunday roast, you're laughing, there's no full Sunday roast, he knew how to make everything you knew. how to do it he said he didn't want to cook that was his problem he could cook he didn't want to cook I think if I don't bother at the end of the day you might get mad at the kids and they're not there, you know, I really wouldn't want them to know that when someone's gone It's too late to go back, you know it's never the same, it was said before that they would make an effort and we haven't done it?

We both have to change the way we are, you know, and I have to try really hard to do better, you know, in Dar's defense, he's really tried this week in a very adequate, life-changing way. It's been like he's been oh I'm so happy I want to go home and you can do it for S you're right yeah you missed me yeah are you sure what I missed about being home was hugs and kisses and love you said what were you leaving? miss my kisses, did you miss them a lot, a lot and a lot? Lo and behold, I don't like the Star truck, so that's what made him eat it.

I think if we really tried, we could have come up with an idea of ​​our own. Mommy says it's so easy. I don't know why it became such a big problem. I just don't know because we're on a professional TV show talking about changes she made that might have worked. That one worked and you. You're just saying: I don't like it. I don't understand why you don't like it. He likes. You do not like it. Why don't you do it for him? He comes home red a few months after Curtis's move. The family has lost the decal board, but some changes have survived.

I think the main rule that we stick to is just spend more time together with Spike and Zany comes and joins us from time to time, and from the beginning we really went. Just me and Sany, which was great, but since then we're all so busy, that's what they're getting along with best. I can see that they are getting along better. I think the main thing I got from the exchange was that we can. It's not as strictly regulated and organized as NAD, but a little of that would help and there have been even bigger changes for the pinion.

Dad was working, working, working. He used to always be at work, but now he is home more and spends more time. with us well down has definitely changed 100% for the better um just things like coming home early he's been doing the laundry he's doing some cooking and the kids the kids love it I feel like I have a new husband the

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experience well overall , I think it saved our marriage because we've been together 20 years and that's a long time to be together, you know? And I think spending some time together has been great, so we're finding our old selves again.