Why Change Is So Scary — and How to Unlock Its Potential | Maya Shankar | TED

I don't know what I'm doing, but why I'm doing it. Look, unexpected things happen to all of us, whether we like the

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s or not. When that happens, it can be really annoying. But I hope that if we can stay open to how we can

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internally and how we can expand, that can help us weather the storm. Life recently gave me a new small change of plans. I always wanted to be a mother, but becoming a mother has become difficult. My husband and I have had to overcome pregnancy losses and other heart attacks over the years.

Now I'm not sure what could happen. But I use the three questions to get through this difficult time. I wonder how this unexpected challenge could change my capabilities, what my values ​​are and how I define myself. I'm still discovering these answers. But what I can tell you now is that I can imagine a father-to-be expanding his definition of what that means for fathers. Who could find what they long for in motherhood elsewhere? At least this exploration allowed me to loosen up my mother's personality a little. I found out that she was released. I began to see changes with more possibilities.

I hope you see it too. thank you so much. (applause)