When You Just Ain’t Got it All Together

Good morning Dwayne, this is Dry Creek Wrangler School, um, let me ask you a question, at what age should you have it all

together

? At what age should you have it all figured out? I have a lot of men, mostly young, on the channel and they are 17 years old. at 35 36 39 and they lament that they are in a place in their life and they don't have it figured out and they don't have it all

together

and they wonder what's wrong with them because they don't have it figured out they don't have it all together, of course, they don't. you've got it all together, you're not supposed to have it all together, you're not expected to have it all together, someone looks at you at 26, 27, 28 years old and says hey man, what's wrong with you?

How come you don't have it all figured out? They are a fool. Knowledge and experience and wisdom takes time. Wisdom comes from experience and experience takes time. The more experience you have and the more you learn from it. Experience the wisest you can be if you haven't lived long enough to have a broad enough portfolio of experience from which you can expect to have knowledge and wisdom, as today's society tells us and movies and TV shows infer. . you are 26 or 27 years old you should graduate from college you should have a degree you should have a good job you should have a wife and you should have it together we watch these shows in their you know this movie is an hour and a half long and in an hour and a half a person He goes from a dumb teenager to someone who

just

settled in and has everything going and they get the job, they put their childhood bully in his place, they get the Fade to Black girl and we're left to imagine the rest of their life and what we imagine is the last thing we see, man, they got it, of course, we don't consider the fact that if you turn off the TV and watch the news." I'll watch those same actors appear on the news over and over again making stupid mistakes and not getting it together.

A pine tree grows and matures very quickly. An oak tree grows and matures very, very slowly, but which one lasts longer and which one it is. stronger which houses more bugs and more birds which

when

finished and finished and cut which is more valuable to the wood people don't go out I'm going to spend extra money on some pine furniture they want oak furniture um there are a lot of feelings expressed on the channel um boy, Dwayne, I sure wish you had been my father, no, no, um, no, no, um, there's cinnamons expressed there, expressed there, um, that you know that I.

I'm flattered, I'm flattered, but I know better, I don't take it seriously, um, no one emerges from their mother's womb ready for the world, no one emerges from their mother's womb aged, mature and wise, and I'm not Wise, I'm not. Saying I'm wise, I'm

just

saying that happened, that's why it happened, so man, maybe we shouldn't do that, I don't know, to me it's a superficial and easy definition of wisdom, but I'm 55 years old and now I'm starting to realize there's a song that Ian Tyson sings and if you like cowboy music and you're not familiar with Ian Tyson, look him up, but he has a song called Old Double Diamond and it's about an old cowboy that the ranch he He's been working for years he's selling out and there's one and he said he says there

when

I first hired old Double Diamond I was a very poor excuse for a man, yeah, Mom laughs too. there I edited it for you uh it says I never learned to aim when the spirit was docile.

I couldn't see all the cards in my hand, well son, a big part of what your difficulty is right now is that you haven't yet learned to aim while the spirit is docile and you can't see all the cards in your hand, it doesn't want to. To say that the cards are not there, it is just that you have not matured enough to see them and there will come a time when you will go on and on. You learn and you keep growing, uh, that one day you'll look down, the card you needed was there and it's been there all along, but that won't come for a while and I encourage you to stop being so hard on yourself.

I know one of the things I've encouraged my wife over the years and she's a very natural mother and she has a natural tendency to take care of people and worry about things and I've had to tell her that over the years. that is not your burden to carry that is not your burden to carry you have enough burdens at your young age that are rightfully yours for you to worry about carrying that you do not need to worry about carrying the burdens that will come when you are 50, 55 or 60. Nor you can't even start to think about having things figured out and having it together until you're 50, just don't even worry about it, just don't even worry about it. you have to have maturity and maturity comes with time and maturity is not something you can obtain artificially it is not something you can be responsible for not getting trapped artificially you don't want to have to do it you have to live alone you have to live alone you have to live alone you have to act your age if you're 26 b26 stop trying to be 56. it's not expected and it's a burden you don't have to carry you're a young couple and you're going through some things and you're like, man, we must be the worst couple in the world, we must be the worst married people ever, this has to be man, we just don't have it, of course we do.

You don't have it all figured out when you get to 30 you still don't have 30 years of marriage you still won't have it all figured out my wife and I are still trying to figure things out and we just take it as it comes and we learn and we mature and we grow and it takes time, but You won't get there if you let it, guys, you won't get there if you let it, if you just say, forget it, you know, I just can't be the man. I wanted to be okay, of course you're not now, you won't be the man you want to be until you grow up, you have to grow up, so the point of this video is just to encourage you to relax. man just calm down guys you're contacting me and saying man not me you know I got a degree and I just lost this job listen and I'm not going to take this lightly okay let me put it into perspective.

Now I have five grandchildren, one of those grandchildren is, let's say, the grandson is 14 months old and they are learning to walk well, so they are in diapers, you have seen it, you know? They're just in diapers and they're walking across the kitchen floor to mommy and they're like knitting a little bit and their little fat feet and their little fat thighs are just kind of Funk, no, no, no. and all of a sudden they're like oh oh and they've got the bubble butt here, the bubble stump's chubby tummy here and they've got the big old diaper on the back so they're not balanced well and they lose their balance and they're like oh oh oh bam and they fall and land on their asses and they look shocked and they look shocked and then their face crumples up and they start crying, damn murder, that's the worst thing that's ever happened to them in their lives.

It's like it's a disaster of apocalyptic proportions because it's all you've ever known and you just went through a breakup and it's the worst thing you've ever been through and it's a disaster of apocalyptic proportions because you haven't had time and experience yet. It's going to get worse and turn around and look at that in relation to the realities of a long life well lived and one day you're going to try to look back and say that it really was that way. It wasn't a disaster, and in fact, that was probably the best thing that happened to me.

Some of you lost your job and you thought that job was the right one and that it was a high-paying job and you went to four years of college to get the degree to get that job, then you got the job and then the greed and/or layoffs happened. and different things and now all of a sudden you lost that job, it's the worst thing you've ever been through in your life and all of a sudden you're sitting there and you're thinking, man, I thought my life was together now it's in ruins at my feet no. , no, no, no, no, no, it's okay, it's okay, you're not supposed to have it all right, everyone who goes to college gets out of college get a job and stay in that job until they retire then retire and buying property in Florida that's an anomaly that's not normal it happens but it's an anomaly uh and uh and most of those people that you know might be really good people, but they don't have interesting stories to tell and you don't get wisdom, I don't know.

You gain wisdom beyond a certain point by living that life, okay, two or three years ago I made a whole series of really, really bad decisions. really bad decisions and that got me to the point of being 50 over 50. over 50 where I was like I didn't make it I'm not mature I'm not growing I'm not the man I'm supposed to be and I started working on it and the man I am today the father I would be today if the children came today that is not the man I was before and that is not the father I could have been before okay, a sword, a sword does not become strong it does not temper itself until it's been through the fire until it's been through the fire several times and this is only the first or second time you're in the fire and there's a lot of hammer work that has to be done and then you're going to have to go back to the Forge again and it's hot and it melts you and you feel uncomfortable and then life will take you out and put you on the Anvil and hit you. a little more and you're going to say what have I finished?

Am I a sword for the ages? oh no, no, you haven't, uh, you're not done yet, okay, so relax, relax, continue having fun now for fun. I don't recommend that you go out drinking your ass off at the bar and do something stupid, but my goodness, go hunting, go fishing, get a mountain bike, go hiking, go to the gym, go out for a barbecue with five. or with friends and acts like a fool and a fool. and I know your age, I know your age and uh and just accept the process and don't look for what you're supposed to be completely polished, sharpened, tempered at 26. or 36. at 46. you have a lot more forged You have a lot of time left , you have many more hammer blows left and it takes time, but if you patiently accept the process, when you wake up in years you can be a man you are proud of, so this is just an encouragement to just relax just relax embrace the process you say that Dwayne wants the process of life life embraces the journey and the process of life you only get stronger by walking uphill no one gets stronger by simply walking downhill okay, okay, uh, I'm I'm going to have trouble here yeah I don't do this.

Eric's actions could be fourth generation and aberrant. This is my first 10 of this and it's actually Rustica, which is a very old tobacco and it's a pretty heavy tobacco mixed with Sweet Virginia and a little bit of Kentucky dark fire, which I really like, it's a very robust blend, very interesting, very tasty, but if you're a, um, if you're a, what's the word, I want an aromatic smoker, it's probably not for you, um. but that's what we have here, so again, boys and girls, hang in there. I support you and we will see you next time.