what to do when you feel like doing nothing (unmotivated, burnt out, unproductive)

sometimes you just get tired I think I just want to do

nothing

and just read I literally don't want to do anything hello my loves welcome back to lavendaire let's talk about

what

to do

when

you

feel

like

doing

nothing

when

everything

feel

s exhausting and you have no energy or motivation to do anything. I know some of you want to hear advice on how to be productive when you're feeling

unmotivated

, but the truth is that when you're in this low state, the best thing you can do is the opposite of being productive. you need to slow down, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to heal, don't even try to fix your life, just allow yourself to be, if you feel this way you probably have high expectations for yourself and are frustrated because you haven't been able to present yourself the way you wanted or Maybe others have high expectations of you, whether it's your parents or the people around you, or maybe you've been trying too hard, taking on too much on your plate, and just burning yourself out.

Other times we might feel that way because we had expectations about

what

life should be like. world or how our life should be and when all that failed we lost our sense of control and didn't know how to handle it honestly, even the pandemic and Seeing the ugly parts of society can be really discouraging and make many of us feel hungover,

unmotivated

and exhausted in terms of energy. We have been operating too much in our masculine focus on external productivity, achievement, success and control and now our body and our energy are telling us that we must surrender to our feminine to go inward slow down heal and love ourselves surrender is a key word here we have to release our feeling of control release our expectations on ourselves and accept ourselves as we are now it is easy and difficult At the same time it can be very difficult to give up but on the other hand it is very easy because everything you have What to do is let go, no action is needed, just act, so what should you do when you feel like

doing

nothing? rest, remove all pressure to be or do anything, just exist, stop putting expectations on yourself and understand that you are probably feeling drained or drained, so let your body and mind rest and recover.

I think it's so ironic and magical that when you're not feeling well, all you have to do is do nothing, that is, rest because your body is fighting hard for you, your immune system is doing the hard work and your body, You literally know what to do. You don't have to do anything, just sit and allow your body to balance and heal itself, secondly, give yourself love, be kind and gentle with yourself no matter what, practice unconditional love, that is, give yourself love no matter what love accepts, so accept yourself exactly as you are now, don't force anything and practice. self forgiveness if you have been hard on yourself, wherever you are now is okay, also try changing your focus, don't underestimate the power of changing your perspective, we often feel depressed because we have been focusing on the wrong or difficult things.

I learned this while doing the Korean Liberation challenge. When you focus on what is difficult, for example, shoulder pain and shaky arms, in that challenge you feel like giving up because it is such a struggle, but when you focus on what is easy, like breathing, it makes it more difficult. easy. to get through difficult times, so instead of concentrating on what is difficult, try to concentrate on what is easy instead of concentrating on what is going wrong in your life, concentrate on what is still going well, do this as a journal exercise, actively choose where you direct your attention.

Do it because it matters and it makes a big difference to how we feel If you feel like you need more help talk to someone in your life who you trust, we all need a support system in our lives and our mental health suffers if we don't Another option is to personally consider online therapy. I've been using Betterhelp for the last two years, so thank you Betterhelp for sponsoring this video. Betterhelp is professional advice that takes place securely online and is available to clients around the world once you register. Betterhelp will assess your needs. and connect you with your own licensed professional therapist in the app, you can message your counselor or schedule a weekly session via video or phone.

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Just visit Betterhelp.com. Ileane, the next piece of advice I have for you when you're feeling depressed is to stop consuming content that makes you feel worse. This includes any content that makes you feel bad about yourself, content that makes you compare yourself to others, and even positive or inspiring content because it sometimes reminds you of yourself. of what you can't do right now, sometimes it can be difficult to have a positive mindset about something and that's okay, allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling right now, accept yourself as you are if you want to instantly refresh yourself.

You can also enter nature. Being in nature heals you on a spiritual level. It reminds you of the stillness and tranquility of nature and that you are just a small part of this bigger world. When you are in nature you feel small here. can revive your sense of peace it doesn't even have to be a major trip just go for a walk, go to a nearby park, maybe go to the beach or the mountains or even to your local daycare i.e. even your local grocery store. home improvement. where they have that outdoor nursery can make you feel a little better because I feel like the energy of plants and flowers can be very healing.

Next, understand that life happens in cycles, like the cycle of the day, our moon, or our four-season life as well. It happens in cycles Change is the only constant This means that life never stays the same and always goes through cycles or seasons Have you ever heard of the saying This too shall pass Whatever you are going through I know it will pass It is possible what are you going through? going through a difficult time right now, but it won't stay that way forever, your situation and your feelings will change, just be patient and persevere through this season, learn to accept the cycles and seasons of your life, both the ups and downs and the ups and downs, because without the bass. there would be no heights and vice versa it is the depth and the variety that allows you to feel the difference if you only knew the day but never knew the night you would take the sun for granted you would not appreciate it as much it is because you know night that you can appreciate the day and vice versa the same with our emotions it is because you have experienced the lows that you can deeply appreciate the highs once you have given yourself a break and are ready to take some action, start with small steps again release any expectations or pressure you may have on yourself divide your tasks into the smallest and easiest parts you can if you want to start exercising to nourish your health and improve your mood instead of setting a goal like I want to exercise for an hour every day set small goals like putting on workout clothes today putting on my shoes open a workout app or go for a five-minute walk do as much as you feel you can and congratulate yourself for those small actions we tend to want to be ambitious and We set these big goals for ourselves, but when we don't reach them we feel like we've failed and then we feel even worse about ourselves.

The best approach is to start small and give yourself grace. A little effort is still an effort when doing this. You're taking the pressure off and building your stamina so you can do more. Lastly and most importantly, find gratitude in every little thing. Be specific about all the little things in life that you are grateful for. Open your journal or a Word document and start writing a list of sentences that begin with I am grateful or I am blessed. In fact, I did this exercise last night and ended up writing over 900 words in a list that went on and on.

It's funny how once you start focusing more on gratitude. and more things appear. I wrote things like I'm lucky to have experienced music festivals and concerts before the pandemic. I am lucky to have a large family with many cousins. I am lucky to have a great relationship with my brother. I am fortunate to have healed myself from the emotional baggage of my past. I am lucky to be alive and healthy during a pandemic. I hope these ideas have been useful to you. It's a gentle reminder that if you feel like doing nothing, it's okay to do nothing.

To be gentle with yourself, it is okay to give yourself space to breathe and heal, we all need it from time to time, it is part of our cycle, as I said, there are both masculine and feminine energies, our world operates primarily in the masculine and it is expected of we. do, achieve and add value to the world, but we cannot ignore the feminine energy that wants us to go inward to allow being. I am learning more and more the beauty of simply existing with the least effort, without trying to achieve or do. more but do less and allow life to flow more naturally.

I think people worry that if you do nothing your life won't move forward, but that's not true, just as your body knows how to heal itself when you do nothing in your life. you will be guided forward and change will happen because change always happens even if you don't try, all you have to do is follow your intuition and if you don't know what it is telling you, stay silent, maybe it is telling you that you need a rest before telling you what to do next. Thanks so much for watching, please subscribe and leave a comment below with your thoughts.

Can you surrender and flow with ease? Can you release those expectations you have about yourself? Sending you so much love on your journey until next time goodbye