Escape your misery - Billionaire Tony Robbins

If my mom had been the mother I wanted her to be, yes, I probably wouldn't be the man I'm proud to be. I think the ability to manage

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own mind and emotions is probably one of the most important and maybe second. It's the ability to influence others, that's what makes you a leader and hopefully you do it for the greater good because as you know there are all kinds of leaders, but I think I don't think most people are very good at emotional fitness. people just aren't as happy as they could be and I wrote a book about money.

Master the game. It's more or less like this. If only. And what I did in that case was I interviewed 50 of the smartest financial people in the world. Ray Dalio Carl Icon. Warren Buffett and out of 50 of them, and you know again, in my opinion, I could be completely wrong and I spent a lot of time with them, some have become very good friends, there are probably four or five who are really happy people. Well, money makes. unhappy people money has nothing to do with money money makes you more than you are just magnificent if you are bad you have more to be bad with you are kind you have more to give you know but I think most people are just They haven't learned to manage what's going on inside no matter how much abundance they have they're still on Apple everyone has seen people that great comedians have committed suicide uh Anthony Bourdain beautiful man traveled the world committed suicide you know, you know, fashion designers who have In fact, we've all seen all these different people, Kate Spade, and it's like they have everything except they haven't mastered what's going on here and here and you know this is the reason you lived

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life. the way you have us too, so I think that skill set is the most important, that's why even in the book my last two chapters are the most important because it's really about the power of the mind, because like everything The world knows about placebos, right?

They were only discovered in World War II and it was discovered by accident. This doctor is out of morphine and he's treating these people who are seriously injured and you know you need the morphine to not only make them not feel pain, but they don't. he went into shock and the person who discovered this didn't get any credit was a nurse because the nurse gave him a syringe and told him we have more morphine so he believed it and said he will stop feeling pain in just under a minute He injected them and in all cases none of them went into shock. 90 of them stopped feeling pain and they didn't use anything, it was saline, so after World War II he returned to Harvard and was the person who created what are now considered double bind studies that are always compared to a placebo, but most people don't, the greater the placebo intervention, the more powerful the Mind believes in it, so what I try to do is show people even in this book. the things you can do to take control of your mind because if you take care of your body and then you don't take care of your mind and your emotions, you will be miserable unless you can overcome the discomfort and those things that are I'm going to give you the greatest reward, requires discomfort initially, yeah, right, and the discomfort is like you know my original teacher, Jim Rohn, used to say, you know there are two pains in life, the pain of discipline or the pain of regret, he says that the Discipline weighs ounces of regret. it weighs tons, you know, so I've trained myself to do that and then I meditate, then I always make a quick acknowledgement call or leave a voicemail for someone just to light up the day and then I do the first thing I do is always what I do. be. is the hardest yes because then you have momentum for your day and when you train your brain to do what is difficult first, then emotional aptitude comes naturally and, more importantly, so does achievement and your ability to contribute to other people because I have 105 companies.

Now to give you an idea, I manage 13 of them directly on an ongoing basis and you know there are all kinds of different industries, some AI, you know, my resorts in Fiji and the sports teams that I have and I mean, it's crazy that just the dichotomy we're making. seven billion dollars in business, so I'm going to do that while being a good father to five kids within the band while taking care of my body while living my normal mission, so if I don't take care of my body, my energy and my mind. I mean, you'd be overwhelmed by all the demands because listen, all I have to do is pick up my phone and you'll have all kinds.

Oh, that's it, that's it, that's all there is. The chances with thousands of employees on three four different continents now that someone is making a mistake, if making a mistake is not what I think I should do, is 100, so I would always be reacting until I trained my brain to say no. , you know, the problems are. a sign of life and they are all challenges to be solved and what makes you a great leader is your ability to solve problems or teach teams to build a culture where they can solve problems and that gives me this tremendous creativity and flexibility, but I I have the power base to make it work.

Dealing with the loss of someone you care about is probably the hardest thing of all. I would say that maybe, as a child, I saw a level of frustration between my parents. You know, I had four different fathers. and watching them accept whatever life has given them, that's why a lot of my drive came from is watching my dad get berated by my mom, who I love dearly, and just watching them break down like you know that probably the event. most painful of my life, but it also shaped me in such a beautiful way, it was when I was 11 years old, we had no money for food and it was Thanksgiving, which in the United States is a big Christmas holiday, that's why we have been without food before we have crackers and butter and you know we survived but we weren't going to have a Thanksgiving feast and there's a knock on the door and I go to the door and there's a giant guy there with groceries in each hand and he had a pot next to him in the floor with a raw turkey and I just said uh, who are you here for?

He goes. I'd like to talk to your dad and my mom and dad were yelling at each other saying things you can never take back and I'm trying to make sure my younger siblings, who are five and seven years younger, don't hear any of this and that day changed my life because I thought it was going to be the most exciting day. Dad, dad, go to the front. What's that? Is for you? You answered no, it's for you. I remember opening the door and being so excited to see my father being happy as if we were going to have a banquet.

This is going to be amazing. He got angry and it's like he doesn't accept charity, he went to close the door in a man's face and the man's foot was there so it bounced off his foot, you can still open the groceries, he said sir I'm just the one deliveryman, he said, is not charity for everyone. It was bad someone bought this and they're going to send it to you as a gift my dad said we don't accept charity he's going to close the door again this time the guy's shoulder was there too so he bounced again and then I just stood there and there's a moment I will never get to where this man looked at him, my father and he looked at me and said sir, don't let your ego make your family suffer and the veins on my father's face on the side. from his neck I will never forget that they bulged when his face turned I thought I was going to punch him in the face and then there is this moment My father's shoulders slumped he grabbed the groceries he slammed the door he didn't say thank you and he stormed off and I always remember thinking how come he's not happy, you know, you talk about pain, it's like I love my dad so much and him, there's basically three decisions that I think everyone makes in their life, whether they're aware of it or not. .

At that time I realized this afterwards because I was so obsessed with what was wrong because he finally left our family and that was the most painful thing I've ever had, so it's like feeling like I've failed, you know, I blame myself. himself, like why couldn't he understand it? Through my father, you know he was 11 years old, but then he helped me understand the three decisions: First, you are going to decide what to focus on in each moment of your life, there is something that catches you and you do not experience life. experience the part of life that you focus on, the right, the wrong, it's always available, so it's the right, the right, and there are different types of focus, and my father's focus that day was really on what which I hadn't done and I know it because I kept murmuring it. and I hadn't taken care of his family it's not funny because on Thanksgiving someone had to give us charity and then the second decision you make once you focus on something is what does it mean is this the end or the beginning do you think is?

At the end of a relationship you are going to behave differently than at the beginning. My dad's meaning was that I was worthless, so the third decision is what do I do? Whatever meaning you come up with creates the emotions that affect what you do and what you said is leaving your family, but to me it was like this is incredible. I mean, you know we're going to have thanksgiving, you know this isn't amazing, we have food, what concept and then the meaning is what. It changed my whole life, which was amazing, the attention from strangers completely changed my life, that painful experience.

I couldn't deny that someone who didn't want credit delivered this food to my family, so what I decided to do is that one day I will do it. this for another family so when I was 17 I had two families and it was a euphoric experience I went in jeans and a t-shirt I wasn't like the delivery guy but I wanted to see people's faces and then the next year there were four people and then there were eight and literally mine was doubling and I had a small business and then I got to a million people a year and I got to four million people a year and then when I was making money Master the game I mean, they're being these

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s, Jay and I are watching Congress cut food stamps.

It's not called a quick program. I think it was six billion dollars, so every family that really needs food and my family was one of those back then, everyone had to get food for one week out of every month, so I called my team and said How many people have I fed throughout my life? I didn't know there were 42 million meals. I thought this is cool. and I thought: What would happen if I fed 50 million people for my entire life in one year? And I said: What would happen if I made 100 men? What would happen if you fed a billion people in 10 years?

So seven years ago we were at 850 million. meals well, I'm going to reach the billion sooner than I promised and my goal and then I have a sustainable approach, but I tell you that because my worst day was my best day, my most painful day of the day I felt like I would do the minimum where I found that infinity led me to have new knowledge, new skills, new capabilities, new impulses, new hungers. I mean, would you really be feeding 100 billion people a year, 100 million meals a year if you were well fed as a kid, probably?

No, and I would love to believe that I'm such a perfect person, but no, I just know what suffering feels like, so I don't want anyone else to suffer, you know, so I think sometimes our life experiences suffering. if we don't let them crush us, we let them drive us, they actually become the best day of your life and taking your worst day and making it your best day is a beautiful goal for anyone, that's just magical, even listening to it. magical experience, yes, you see, there is also Grace in life, it's like you like it.

I used to think in the early days because my mom was beautiful, she was the most influential person in my life and yet so was she when she drank alcohol and drank, you know. prescription meds she went crazy yeah so she slammed my head into my multiple bladder she fed me liquid soap and I never told anyone else when she was alive but she had a bunch of little kids she could see to a tall white man who seems to be pretty successful, you know what he knows, so I told him the whole story, but outside of all that, it's like my mom had been the mother I wanted her to be, yeah, she probably wouldn't be The man I'm proud to be, yes.

I had to grow up, I had to become a practical psychologist at 11 years old to handle it so that my brother and sister weren't ruined and it's like there's grace in everything and I always think that it's our job to realize what happens to us in life. life. not to us and find out how it is happening to us, that is our job, if we do it, then we will have a magical life, if we don't, but if your energy is low and you are exhausted, then no, you don't find it. Those empowering meanings, yeah, you know, that's why for me you can't separate the mind and the body.

You have to feed the mind and strengthen the body daily in some way and if you do, life can be quite miraculous.