Die 10 größten Fehler beim Überwinden einer Depression

Hello everyone, it has been two years since I uploaded the first video to your YouTube channel, the ten golden rules for overcoming

depression

, it is now February 2021, it is very cold in Germany and I am sitting again under the beautiful sun of winter and today there is a new video of mine, this time not the ten golden rules but the ten biggest mistakes you can make when overcoming

depression

. Welcome to Soul Tapping. Today there is another nice video of Tischen Wintersonne's 10 rules, that is, the ten biggest mistakes you can make. On the path to healing from depression, the first point means putting pressure on yourself.

I think this automatically happens to a lot of people without you realizing it, so I'd like to point out a little bit if this might be the case. you, who feel like yourself all the time. This puts pressure on you to get it done as quickly as possible, which means you have to get back up and running as quickly as possible. So many people are still stuck in this hamster. wheel and they still think that they have to function in this society in their lives, work and so on, and that's exactly what depression is for, to show them that they have to stop it because this hamster wheel has made me sick, so it's about being really having Patience with yourself and be open to the fact that many things are changing in you now.

Life will change. The point of depression is not so that you can get back to functioning as quickly as possible. Of course, it is understandable that there is a certain amount of change. pressure behind simply because you are suffering. Of course, that's also why you want to get back up and running as quickly as possible, but it's of no use if you want to get rid of the pressure of suffering as quickly as possible. then you have not taken advantage of the opportunity of depression. The pressure is always there, so if you put pressure on yourself it won't work, so it's about you accepting, so to speak, that you're going through a longer period now. -A long term and perhaps somewhat difficult and bumpy healing path in which many things in your life will change and if you accept this understanding then it becomes a little easier because if you try to get out of depression as quickly as possible, so that's all. simply make yourself unhappy because that is not possible, it does not happen as quickly as possible, but you are facing a transformation process that is necessary and that will take you to the next level that will give you a much higher quality of life than you would have ever imagined, yes .

That's why you don't put pressure on yourself, so even if you don't immediately manage to implement the things I tell you or that you learned in therapy, that's completely normal, it's not like that. work right away often there is still this misunderstanding once you understand that something is your problem and if you have understood how you can solve the problem then you think to yourself then you would just have to do it now and now just implement it and then it's good but It's not that easy, the difficult thing is that 95 percent of us also go through life unconsciously and we can only very slowly increase this conscious part with a lot of patience, love and training and that's why don't separate yourself if you don't do it.

Don't implement everything right away. It is a longer process that never puts any pressure on you because it blocks and slows down your healing process. Point two, don't judge yourself for your relapses because that's part of it, that is, if you don't do it. You've been feeling better for a while and you thought it would come out every once in a while, suddenly something happens and you fall back into the hole, maybe it doesn't happen that way, you just like going back in the hole, that doesn't mean you're capable of that you are too stupid to the point of being too lazy so undisciplined that in some way you are bad there is no reason to criticize or judge you for it It is just as I said in the first video, the phases alternate, there are cleaning phases and there are phases of exclamation and when you feel that you are having a relapse, you fall back into the depressed hole and you have the feeling that you have not achieved anything yet and as if you have returned.

At first, it is a totally unpleasant feeling. I know this very well and these thoughts always come to me: what have I done wrong, but that's the wrong thought, that's what it's all about. Finding the right thought: what can I do now. This phase of feeling worse again is simply a challenge for you to pick up the next layer of old things, old beliefs, old patterns, old feelings and clear them completely. neutral perspective, it's just the next phase, yes, so please never ask yourself: what have I done wrong or what's wrong with me? Even worse, it is better to ask yourself questions that are directed to the future, how can things go?

Is there anything I can do to feel better? It can be done very easily. Questions like this don't help. What's wrong with me or what have I done wrong? your healing path because it is your healing path. Your healing path is completely individual and is exactly right for you and relapses are normal. This includes suppressing three feelings that want to arise. Your subconscious knows exactly what it is doing. You are currently going through this phase of transformation and healing and it is sending you old issues so you can clear them up. This is not to avoid being angry, but so that you can move forward in this healing process. situations that carry old feelings so they can arise, that is, one of the biggest mistakes you can make is not letting these feelings arise, for example, quitting smoking or taking pills or doing something else just to avoid having to feel this.

That's totally understandable because it's very unpleasant. Feelings arise, but that is the healing process. I always compare it to cleaning the house. Yes, if you want to clean the whole house, then it is unpleasant because you have to look at very old dirt. You also have to take out the closets and look at what has been behind them for 30 years. It is not pleasant, but only then the house will be clean, so it is always about the issue of acceptance, now you have to do this house cleaning. especially cleaning the basement if your subconscious, if I compare it now, that is the basement, so to speak, in your house and there is probably a lot of garbage there from your childhood in a symbolic subconscious basement, you have to look at the things, each of the things. box no matter how moldy it is and deliver directly what it seems, otherwise the house will not be there, the mold will always be lying there and will reduce your quality of life and steal your strength, so do not suppress your feelings if for any reason reason either because something has happened or because you simply wake up in the morning and bad feelings arise then do not be afraid to devote yourself to them, that is, let them arise, consciously feel how you feel without judging it, the evaluation In your head there is always the problem, proven feelings are bad and that's why we always think that we shouldn't feel them if possible, but that's nonsense.

It's just unpleasant, look at it a little more neutrally. Your feelings are unpleasant, yes. because in part they have the intensity of the little child you once were, but that doesn't make these feelings bad, they are just what they are, so don't spend all day worrying about them as you distract yourself from your bad feelings. but sit down and feel them, no matter how unpleasant they are, that's how healing works, healing is not pleasant. Cleaning the house isn't always fun, but what the house looks like afterward is fun when you look at it. That way, then maybe it will be easier to go through this process.

OK, point 4. Immediately give up everything that doesn't work. It's also a very typical depressive phenomenon that I know very well, so try a variety. Of all things, there are a few tools and techniques on your healing path, whether it's meditation or even tapping or gratitude lists, or there are so many options for what you can do and a lot of people make the mistake of giving up too quickly. even when I tap over and over, yeah, at first, when you try something new and it works and he thinks, wow, I do that work more often once in a while and then you do it for a few days, maybe two or three weeks, but then you find out that sometimes it doesn't help much, so you have to do it once a week.

The therapy session somehow used this technique and you have had good experience with it and then at some point a few days later somehow a panic attack when the technology is on and not working then you think it is not working , leave me alone, I don't need to be warm, that's the problem. But that doesn't happen so quickly. There are always days or. intermediate situations in which this technique does not work. That's completely normal, but that doesn't mean it can't help you in the long run. If you start all over again right away, you will never reach your goal.

Yes, learn to endure the frustration that arises when you are disappointed again with this new method or something, but rather give everything another chance. You can imagine this healing path as a 1000-piece puzzle if you find a match for each one. if you have more than 1000 pieces. If you left the piece, you won't see it right away, but I'm done. It has the whole puzzle. Find it finished. No, this part won't be much help. Here only a thousandth will help is not much, but if you don't leave this part and the next and the next and the next the puzzle will never be finished this is about patience and trust, trust that a gratitude list will help you in the long run and then change your way of thinking. and change empathy and it will be that thousandth part that takes you to your goal even if you cannot immediately recognize the big change in your life, that is normal, that does not usually happen.

Yes, I'm making mine. video about this key because many people believe that there is a key to overcoming depression and when you find it, says Bohm, then everything disappears, but that is not the case, so in my experience, at least maybe there is, if you say that maybe there is a physical cause of the depression or something, then it could be that there is a key, say thyroid problems or something, and after that the depression suddenly gets better, but if what you are facing is a depression that basically It has been building up very slowly over the years through negative thinking and worrying too much about others and too little about yourself, if all these forms of depressive thinking and behavior have led to this, then there will not be this key, but it's a long-term thing where each thing you do is only one thousandth of the puzzle and it's important.

Leave some part to make a gratitude list or whatever, or your Klopp sessions continue. Keep going, even if you don't feel like you're making a breakthrough, the breakthrough comes later, it comes then, well, it comes when the time comes, it's hard to predict, just think about these pieces of the puzzle if you don't. Leave them, then it will be one piece and the puzzle will not be finished. Well, point 5. Pushing yourself too hard in everyday life. There are many depressed people who want to have that feeling for as long as possible or show it to the outside world. feel like they are still functioning and that leads to total overwhelm, then there are a lot of depressed people who help a lot, always support others and I could do that little thing too, oh and yes, that's just a little thing, yes that.

I could still do it and then of course the other people come with their, let's say, well, I don't want to say demands, but maybe it's a little bit like a demand because people finally know that you like the super mom who always helps. Brilliant. , yeah, and then you think, yeah, come on, do that, I can do that, I wrote that too and you don't even realize that it's not completely overwhelming that you're talking to yourself all the time. you have to do something now. No, you don't have to do that, you have depression and that's why you have to rest.

Stop overloading yourself in everyday life. I'll start involving other people sometimes. You don't always have to do everything alone. Reasons that lead you to depression, among other things, and that's why you can really take some time, so if you're sitting on the couch, let's say, and you have to do something and you just don't have the urge, then you can feel it. in you, if it is really now, if it is really possible for her to get up now and accomplish this task, and if you are happy with that, you really cannot, then. Sit there, sit there until you have some momentum again because if you force yourself to do something, use force against yourself, that does not lead to healing, but to complete exhaustion and frustration.

You can imagine your energy budget as a savings account, so imagine your life energy as a currency. certain amount of strength that you have available for your life and every time you get up despite your lack of motivation to do something that does not necessarily have to be done, then you have to be clear that you are taking on new debts. and that you are losing your strengths strengths home with this you withdraw something from your account and then it disappears and so it is about feeling exactly if it really has to be now or maybe it doesn't have to be or how big the catastrophe is.

It would be the perceived catastrophe that would occur if you did. Don't do it now if you sit back and give in to your lack of motivation and ours without a bad conscience that will ruin everything again if you have a bad conscience if you stay. sitting on the couch you can call the bad conscience it doesn't havewhy be like this When you call, take the time off you need and be a little more economical with your life energy with a budget account, so you overload yourself on a day-to-day basis. life is one of the biggest mistakes you can make because then you will never get to point 6 is the exact opposite i.e. completely disappointing yourself so when I say give yourself a break, if you become apathetic and just stay there , I don't mean that you should go to the other extreme and do nothing at all, just hang out, ideally in the morning.

Don't get up anymore, just say, I'm so listless now, I won. Doing nothing else, that's the other extreme and it's not healthy either. That would also be a mistake, then perhaps you would completely sink into depression and then it would be total. I miss exercise and fresh air and that's why everything is important and. also the feeling of having a normal and structured daily life or maybe of being needed a little, but in moderation it's about finding your happy medium in the sense that you don't get completely overwhelmed or disappointed, so you could, for example, planning to do something. at least once a day, no matter what it is, so I start with the most important things, for example cooking a healthy meal or going out into the woods, going for a walk or things like that, depending on the energy level you have. , the most important thing is that you be careful and feel how high my energy level is right now.

You can, for example, check it yourself with the small diagnostic instrument, the speedometer technology that closes your eyes, and then imagine a speedometer in front of you. You who have a screen between 0 and 100 is life energy and if you now imagine this speedometer, imagine where the pointer is with your eyes closed, where does the pointer point to how much life energy is available here? Sometimes it can also help yes. divide this speedometer into a green, yellow and red area. The pointer shows you where you are now. Is everything still in the green area or is it already in the yellow area or is it already working in the red area? area where you really only have a very small amount of vital energy available and so be careful, say what you spend it on, we take on a small task every day, something that is good for you, that is good for your soul or something that it's good for your body it feels good and otherwise the lack of drive subsides because you've been pushing yourself too hard for too many years which means you now need a phase where you go to the other extreme and a little more out of yourself same as you normally do and if then you come up with such strange beliefs from your inner driver that tells you how great you are and how worthless and anything else that you don't believe a word of it, that has nothing to do with being disgusting and worthless because if you say you have the flu or something like that then you have to make an effort, don't force yourself to start life fully, I hope that you are at least involved, that's why you just cook very carefully. where is your golden mean means blaming others for your suffering, for your feelings, for your depression, for how you feel today, this is a very common mistake that people with depression make because many people have had situations in the past in which others.

People may have done something wrong or your parents may have made mistakes because of that point of view or whatever happened and if you keep this feeling of victimhood then you won't be able to get out of it because other people are not responsible for your suffering because they are. I am not responsible for what you think in your head and how you feel as a result and if you decide to continue suffering or if you decide to get out of it, that responsibility lies entirely with you and the point is how the victim really feels. it's something you definitely have to do when you have something you definitely have to deal with and let go Feelings I recently did something about responsibility other people are not responsible for your feelings no matter what they say no matter what they do you're the one who decides what you do with it, you want to accept it and you want to feel bad about it or if you're learning.

Changing your automatic emotional patterns, your reaction patterns, that's totally up to you and as long as you blame others for the depression. Whether it's your ex or your parents or whoever, you're going to be stuck there, so that's what you really give, you give the power over your life and where do you get all that power? Do you give him your precious life? energy to people you are still angry with or who you think are to blame. Free yourself from it. No one but you is responsible for whether you are on the healing path to get out of there or it is not as difficult as it may seem.

It is a very important step point 8 do not believe everything you think, it is a very common mistake that people take everything that goes through their heads literally. Thoughts often tend to dramatize, to overvalue everything, to see everything in black. and white, condemn everything and only see the negative and exaggerate everything until it becomes a big drama and if you believe in these thoughts then you have no chance, so let's put it that way. For me, this principle applies: negative thoughts I think about. I myself are generally not true. Positive thoughts, why not? I don't know if the principle is true and you don't have to accept it, so everything I say here is just that.

The way I handle it I've fixed it. This way simply because it seems good to me and because it is good for me. There is a lot of carelessness here for you to learn to observe your thoughts and find out what kind of thoughts they are, where the voices are coming from. First of all, because thoughts often come from the back of our minds, from the inner driver, the inner critic, the sabotage monster, whatever you want to call it, who always wants to tell you how bad everything is and that you will do it. never get out of this anyway and all that.

They just want to be these gatekeepers that don't want you to get better because that means change and the potential for change is dangerous and if you know that and you learn to deal with it, then you just have gatekeeping functions in you, so you can deal with it, so you don't need that. More to believe everything and as you go through life you unconsciously believe everything simply because you are so used to it and because we don't notice it. Our thoughts have been there for a long time and we have thought them a hundred thousand times and that is why we save them for the truth, but that is a big mistake and that is why I am watching you, a monster of sabotage. he's watching to see if that might stop you from making the change again and then you can distance yourself from him and then you can say hello, thank you, dear monster informant, you want me when and that you want me again to whoever he's talking to.

He tells me negative things again, but I don't want to hear them anymore and I'm not willing to believe all that anymore, that's why mindfulness is a very important keyword, so don't believe everything you think Point 9 means. complain, constantly and over and over again throughout the day. Every once in a while, complaining is okay, a little self-pity is perfectly fine and just complaining to others about your suffering and having an open ear and just telling others how bad it is. , it's okay sometimes, sometimes it has to be that way, but be careful not to do too much and too often and always and only and constantly a habit and it becomes something so natural that you always and always complain because for so long life external or even then your internal condition has not improved, you have a reason to complain and if that felt good, then a pleasant pity.

So it might be that it encourages you to complain even more to gain even warmer, more comforting sympathy. Only then you will not be able to leave this number. You should always keep in mind that this law of attraction exists. Cosmic laws that always apply and that means everything you think, say and do all day long is. Like a seed that you plant for your future, what you see is what you will reap and if you complain all day about what is bad in your life then you will attract more and more into your life and then nothing can change for you. better.

Yes, if you get fat, I'll call it that now. But do it consciously and with love and do it in a controlled way. Do it a little from time to time, but always keep in mind that you see what you see. Look for your future. Ideally, you don't even talk about what is going wrong right now, you only talk about what you want to experience in the future because then you will attract that into your life. That is one. of the most important principles that we have to internalize as much as possible so that we realize what is happening very carefully in our lives.

So what do I see? You are like a farmer in behavior and if you make everything fat. Day by day, life will give you more and more reasons to complain, so try to face it very consciously and with love and recover from time to time, not all the time, but there is always good advice from outside people. They say, I know, that you worry just so it doesn't happen. You can't overcome depression by recovering. What I mean by this is that you learn to accept control of your thoughts, this is very important because then you will. be the master of the house up there again so to speak then it will be you again who will become the conscious creator of your reality if you are clear that your thoughts and your feelings are creative and bring things to your life and finally point 10 be careful with identifying with your depression, that means that this happens very quickly if you have been in it for a long time, if you barely know anything else then you can't take it anymore, I really imagine that it is possible without depression, so that is a feeling.

I'm the depressed one here. Yeah, that doesn't apply to me. With you everything is always more you cement it and then you consider yourself a depressed person and it is difficult to achieve it. We get out of that because then our survival and protection mechanisms come into action that want to protect our identity and our integrity, that is, if oneself creates a depressive identity, then a subconscious will make sure that it remains that way and that is the danger that exists. . That is to say, be aware that you have a feeling but you are not your feeling.

You have guessed a depressive state but you are not your depression. That makes a big difference if you say I am depressed or I am having a depressive phase right now, that is what is happening to you. Your subconscious always listens to it, it programs you that way. If you say I am depressed, then your subconscious accepts it as the truth and will defend it. So these two words I have a program, su. character, everything you attribute to these words becomes your reality and your identification, so to speak. So 8 explains a little about how you formulate your words when you think and talk about yourself and try very slowly to free yourself from this identification. always making it clear to you that I am actually a, well, a healthy person who is going through a difficult phase, you still have your healthy parts, they are not gone, that is what the approach to directing your healthy parts too is all about. parts you are a healthy person who is currently going through a difficult phase and you can always choose how you want to describe yourself what you want to attach to your I'm in it you can also say, for example, I am a person with great self-healing powers and if your subconsciousListen, then activate your self-healing powers, but if you say that I am a person with depression or I am depressed, then it activates in your subconscious that now you feel depressed, so yes, you can make a big difference with your words, with your formulations and it puts it on you easy It is always clear that you are not depressed, you are a person who is currently going through a difficult stage in your life and if you take advantage of this stage you will go to the next level. depression for me, okay dears, those were my golden toes, not gold and silver, my ten biggest mistakes you can make on the path to healing from depression, feel free to write to me in the comments if that helps us. helped or if maybe they have a supplement There are definitely more things you can do wrong.

I can't do anything I haven't thought of right now. I'm looking forward to hearing about your experiences and if you want to work with me, please contact me. me, go to my website www, watch, touch, from or join my Facebook group title love yourself because you are wonderful and now I wish you a wonderful cold and cozy winter day, take care of yourself