How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes | Adam Leipzig | TEDxMalibu

thank you, on the last night of my 25th college reunion there was a party in a tent, there was dancing, music and noise, so much noise that many of us started leaving the tent so we could hear each other talk and catch up. classmates we hadn't seen in over two decades while talking to my friends I made a surprising discovery eighty percent of them weren't happy with their lives I feel like I've wasted my

life

and I'm halfway there they said I don't

know

about what my

life

is about now. I had the privilege of going to Yale and we were standing on a summer afternoon in the middle of the old Yale campus and the people I was talking to were privileged, highly educated and financially well-off. out and in positions of power and they had the first house and the second house and they had the first spouse and the second spouse and 80 percent of them were not happy with their lives, who was happy?

The good 20 percent, we had studied Renaissance literature and rhetoric. and we were the theater people and the history geeks, we had studied classes for the joy of learning, not because we thought they were going to direct us to a specific job, we still had jobs, we lived our lives expansively with the ups and downs of life and I didn't feel like we had wasted a single minute and as I talked to the happiest 20 percent of the 20 percent I discovered that each of them knew something about the

purpose

of their life because they knew five things who they were what they did who they did it I did what those people wanted or needed and what they got out of it how they changed as a result It sounds difficult it is not actually it is very simple in fact it is so simple that you can learn the

purpose

of

your

life now that you go to

know

the purpose of Your life now in the next five

minutes

Would you like to know the purpose of

your

knife in the next five

minutes

?

Can you speak a little louder because they're making a lot of noise in the store and there's just a dumb little microphone? next to my cheek to listen to you. Would you like to know your next life purpose in the next five minutes? thank you in fact, it won't even take five minutes. Can I share something else with you if you are like many of us? You have wondered and worried about your life purpose for a long time and there are books, magazines, workshops and seminars about it. In fact, Amazon lists 151,928 books that address how you can learn your life purpose well.

I know some people who have spent their entire lives trying to learn their life purpose and what they look like, we can all agree that an unexamined life is not worth living, but if all you are doing is examining, you are not living, so let's discover together the purpose of life right now, who you are what. you do it because of what those people want and need and how they change as a result, shall we? okay everyone on the count of five shout your name one two three four five fabulous that was the first just four to go that's who you are now what do you do what do you love to do you love writing cooking designing creating iOS apps writing code numbers talking teach what you love to do and if there are a lot of things that come up you focus by asking yourself this one question, what is the one thing that right now you feel extremely qualified to teach other people?

Think about it in a word, hold it, don't let go yet on the count of five, what do you do? two great, that's what you do now think about who you're doing it for imagine them in your mind get ready to say it on the count of five wait, don't let it go yet one two okay, who you're doing it for, let's look at it one louder a little more loud please about the people in the store for whom you do it together thank you that's the spirit we need okay now what do those people want or need what do they want or need you have to them' I have come to you so that you can give them this, what do they want or they need in just one or two words, wait, don't let go yet and on the count of five, one, two, three, four, five, fantastic, now, this is the best.

Do they change how do they change or transform as a result of what you give them to the count of five how do they change or transform as a result of what you give them one two three four five fantastic now let's put all this together? together in a kind of sentence, okay, all together, stronger than the people in the store, who are you, what do you do, who do you do it, what do they want or need, how do they change as a result, fantastic, everyone just did something that people who went to Yale couldn't understand for 25 years.

Congratulations, give yourselves a hand now. Why is that formulation so powerful because of all those five things you need to know to know what your life's purpose is? Only two are about yourself and the other three. Many of them are about other people, who they are, what they want or need, and how they change as a result of that formulation forcing you to look outside, and all the happiest people I met outside the store on that warm New Haven night were looking outwards. They weren't looking inward, they knew very clearly who they served, what those people needed and how those people changed as a result and you may have already intuited that the most successful people in any field are always more focused on the people they serve. than in humming. how they serve themselves the happiest people strive to make other people happy and do things that make them feel well cared for and safe if you make other people happy life teaches us that we will be taken care of too, so now that you all did Well, we have time for a little extra credit.

One of the hardest things that happens when you meet people for the first time is that they ask you this question. Then what do you do? And if you're like some of us, that is. It's a really challenging question at some point, especially if you're in these moments where you're in between things or you feel vulnerable or it's undefined or what you seem to do is not what you actually do or what you're paid to do. what you need to do is how you define yourself, so when people ask you this question, then what do you do? and you also have this monologue like why does he ask me and what do I do, is it because it's that transactional thing where it's like he wants to know if he should really spend time talking to me or is it that other thing so he can tell me what he does because he's I'm sure it's much better than what I do well, so when someone asks you that question, this is what you do. just say the last thing you mentioned: how what you do changes the people you do it for, so for example you could say I give children fantastic dreams if your life's purpose is to write books for children so they can fall asleep at night and you can have wonderful dreams or you could say I help people look and feel better if your life's purpose is to design clothes for men and women who need affordable options so they can look and feel better or you could say I help people to get great work into the world if your purpose in life is to empower entrepreneurs and creative people to take decisive action so they can bring their best work to the world and then that little fragment you just said becomes your speech of personal elevator and will always start the conversation because The person you were talking to has to ask you a question: How do you give children big dreams?

How do you help people look and feel better? Can people really do their best work in the world and then you can tell them and you? Share your life's purpose and share how they can learn theirs too. Okay, who are you doing it for? Let's look at it one more time out loud, a little louder please, about the people in the store, who are you doing it together for? thank you that's the spirit we need okay now what those people want or need what they want or need that you have that they have come to you so you can give them this what they want or need in just one or two words wait, don't let go yet and on to the count of five one two three four five fantastic now this is the best how do they change?

How do they change or transform as a result of what you put into the account? out of five, how do they change or transform as a result of what you give them? one, two, three, four, five fantastic, now let's put this all together in some kind of sentence, okay, all together, louder than the people in the store, who are you? What are you doing? Who do you do it? What do they want or need for? How do they change as a result? Great, you all just did something that people who went to Yale couldn't understand for 25 years.

Congratulations, lend a hand now. Because? Is that formulation so powerful because of all those five things you need to know to know what your life's purpose is? Only two are about you, the other three are about other people, who they are, what they want or need and how they change as a result of that formulation forcing you to look outside and all the happiest people I met outside the store. On that warm New Haven night they were looking outward, not inward, they knew very clearly who they served, what those people needed, and how those people needed them.

People changed as a result, and you may have already sensed that the most successful people in any field always focus more on the people they serve than on how they themselves are served. The happiest people strive to make other people happy and do things. That makes them feel well cared for and safe. If you make other people happy, life teaches us that we will be taken care of too, so since all of you did so well we have time for a little extra credit, one of the most difficult things. That happens when you meet people for the first time.

They ask you this question. Then what do you do? If you're like some of us, that's a really challenging question at some point, especially if you're in those moments where you're between things. or you feel vulnerable or it's not defined or what you seem to do is not what you actually do or what you get paid to do is how you define yourself so when people ask you this question, what do you do? and you also have this monologue like why does he ask me what I do? It's because it's that transactional thing where it's like he wants to know if he should really spend time talking to me or is it that other thing so he can tell me what he does because he's sure it's way better than what I do well, so when someone ask you that question, this is what you will do if you say the last thing you said: what is the last night of my 25th?

College reunion there was a party in a tent there is dancing and music and noise, so much noise that many of us began to leave the tent so we could hear each other talk and catch up with classmates we hadn't seen in over two decades while I was talking With my friends I made a surprising discovery Eighty percent of them were not happy with their lives I feel like I wasted my life and I'm halfway there They said I don't know what my life is At all times I had the privilege of going to Yale and we were standing on a summer afternoon in the middle of the old Yale campus and the people I was talking to were privileged and highly educated and financially well-off and in positions of power and they had first homes and second homes and they had books, magazines , workshops and seminars on the first spouse and the second spouse.

In fact, Amazon lists 151,928 books that address how you can learn your life's purpose well. I know some people who have spent their entire lives trying to learn their life's purpose and look, we can all agree that an unexamined life is not worth living, but if all you are doing is examining, you are not living. , so let's discover together the purpose of life right now. They're what you do, who you do it for, what those people want and need, and how they change as a result. Shall we? okay, everyone on the count of five shout your name one two three four five fabulous that was the first only four left, that's what you are now, what do you do, what do you love to do, do you love writing, cooking, designing, creating iOS apps, writing code, crunching numbers, speaking, teaching, what do you love to do and if there are a lot of things that come up for you focus by asking yourself this one question what is the one thing that right now you feel extremely qualified to teach other people ?

Think about it in a word, wait, don't let go yet on the count of five, what do you do? you do one two great, that's what you do now think about who you do it for imagine them in your mind get ready to say it on the count of five wait don't let go yet one two and 80 of them were not happy with their live who was happy the Well 20 percent we had studied Renaissance literature and rhetoric and we were theater people and history geeks we had studied classes for the joy of learning not because we thought we were going to be directed to a specific job we still got jobs we lived our lives in a expansive with the ups and downs of life and we didn't feel like we had wasted a single minute and as I talked to the happiest 20 percent of the 20 percent I discovered that each of them knew something about their life purpose.because they knew five things who they were what they did who they did it what those people wanted or needed for and what they got out of it how they changed as a result that sounds difficult it isn't it's actually very simple in fact it's so simple that you can learn the purpose of your life now you are going to know the purpose of your life now in the next five minutes you would like to know the purpose of your knife in the next five minutes can you speak a little louder because they are making a There is a lot of noise in the store and there is only one Silly little microphone next to my cheek to listen to you.

Would you like to know your next life purpose in the next five minutes? Thanks, actually, it won't even take me five minutes, can I? share something else with you if you are like many of us, you have wondered and worried about your life purpose for a long time and there are