THE UNSTOPPABLE POWER OF LETTING GO | Jill Sherer Murray | Best Motivation | Knowledge Central

So

letting

go can make you

unstoppable

. I know this because I let go of a relationship and took my life back and I know that

letting

go can create the

best

change for each and every one of you. Let me tell you a story when I was 41 years old. The death of a relationship showed me how to let go of what wasn't working. Until that moment, I didn't really think about the future. I lived my life like a dog moment by moment. I chased balls. Like whatever. I could find on the floor and life was good, I had a great job, great friends, a great apartment, a great real dog and a great boyfriend, well I see that Hector had nothing to do with the game and I felt like I was dancing around of the same. idea of ​​marriage and after 12 years we didn't even live together, he still gave me hope, well sometimes it's more like living in a situation that had no hope, it just felt normal, now don't get me wrong, I stayed because Hector he was handsome smart, trustworthy, sensitive guy who cared and although our relationship wasn't perfect, it worked in theory until a wake up call from a friend changed everything, so my real estate agent friend called me to tell me about a condo that was for sale in my Chicago neighborhood.

I knew he was looking for Hector to commit and I thought, well, maybe this could inspire a little forward movement, but my first inclination was to say we're not ready yet, not yet, that was Hector's favorite catchphrase, I would say. that I want to marry him. I would say not yet I would say let's live together Not yet Not yet It was a hair that I couldn't get out of my eye and a bad song that I couldn't get out of my head so you can imagine my surprise when he said sure we would meet at the condo at noon, now I arrived early and eager, but Hector, well, that was another story. 12 15 arrived 12 30 12 45 1 o'clock, no, Hector finally called, something came up, so we agreed to meet again at three, but Hector did not show up again, it was at that moment that I decided that after 12 years it was time to let it go.

I had to let go of Hector and the idea of ​​marrying him or anyone because at 41 my options were terrifying. Either I stay with a man who couldn't commit but was great at all the parties and birthdays or I could break up with him and be alone, not that letting go of a good man who I really loved was easy, no no I had than survive the consequences. of my epiphany and that's when the grief stage entered you and Hector won't be together forever, you won't be his person, in fact he'll probably meet someone else quickly, you'll marry her and she'll be his person and then you.

You're going to have to live with the fact that you made a mistake, I cried ugly, I ate a lot of pizza, I listened to a lot of Joni Mitchell and then when I couldn't rub my eyes anymore without hitting the bone, I imagined Hector in a photo of wedding with another woman probably in a size 6 dress I shook myself look I let go of the fear of growing old and dying alone that my friends would use me as a warning that it was too late for me no no at that moment I Finally had to admit it which I really wanted, which was more, you see, Hector didn't show up, that was a gift because it gave me my freedom, because let's face it, I've been chasing that ball for 12 years, no, no, it was time to move on. even if I ran the risk of being rejected, so I made a plan that became clearer with each step, of course Hector had an excuse not to show up, but by then it didn't matter anymore, I told him it was all over, I quit my job , I hugged my friends.

I sold my beautiful condo in the same neighborhood that gave me that life-changing epiphany.