6 Habits To Instantly Stop Looking Weak

Tommy Shelby is confident and seemingly fearless Stone Cold, so in this video we're going to break down what you can learn from him to be confident in those high-pressure situations in your own life. Also, the original version of this video was banned by YouTube, which is why you might recognize this reloaded updated version, please don't banish it again. YouTube spoilers throughout season five to follow first. Perhaps the most notable thing about Tommy is that he rarely overreacts in extreme pressure situations. Tell me which one is Tommy. Calm, non-reactive behavior is extremely unsettling for your adversaries, but even more important is that by staying calm you can put into practice all the other strategies we are discussing in this video, so this piece is essential now that Tommy doesn't. was.

We were born calm as a cucumber, none of us developed this trait through repeated exposure to life-threatening situations, first in the war and then again and again over the course of his rise as a gangster. The same principle applies in our lives if we want to remain calm in certain situations. The most reliable way is not to simply concentrate on maintaining a serious face or an expressionless look. In fact, the more you think about your facial expressions when you're nervous, the more likely you are to blush. So while people notice the unwavering face, the best way to get there is through what's called exposure therapy.

Basically, you put yourself through less challenging simulations of whatever difficult scenario you're about to face, so if you're going to interview, do a mock interview. with a friend or even walking around the building where you'll be interviewed can go a long way toward calming your nerves on the big day, or, if you want to feel more comfortable in social situations, saying just one extra sentence to a service person can be a great help. challenge. you without triggering full-blown panic, but Tommy's experience also shows us what happens if he exposes himself to overwhelming situations rather than gradations of slightly more challenging ones.

Now outsmarting people requires more than composure. Tommy often has to persuade people who have every reason to hate him and he exhibits three powerful tools that regularly keep him in control. The first is his use of state-breaking questions. The Odd Fellows want you to know that any deviation from your instructions will have consequences. What is your dog's name? when we are under pressure. The answer is to go with the flow and passively accept the pace of conversation set by someone who is in a position of power over us; However, by doing so, we give up our power during that conversation, which in a negotiation usually leads to an unfavorable agreement.

This groundbreaking question. is a seemingly out-of-place question that breaks the one-sided conversational flow and from there the conversation is much easier to direct in a new direction. In this case, Tommy uses it to assert his power even though he is imprisoned. You visited your sister. Interestingly, when Tommy has power, he doesn't allow others to derail him with their own innovative questions. He simply continues down his original path instead of answering them. Additionally, there is a criminal profile here so that his actions are explainable to the public. police, as it is, when did you care about the police?

Bonnie Thomason is going to kill an MP your life. You probably don't want to use this to introduce threats into a conversation, but it can be an incredibly persuasive tool, especially when someone's emotional state prevents it. prevent them from moving forward productively, for example, if someone is feeling upset, asking a random happy question can alter their state long enough for them to consider more empowering possibilities and we saw this in the video we made about Tony Robbins taking people out of the depression. makes you hate yourself are red shoes what are red shoes? I know, are you sure they are red? his own agendas, so we often see Tommy get what he wants by finding a way to align his needs with those of other people.

Watch here as Tommy tries to convince another faction to join him in a war against the Italians he doesn't appeal to. honor or do what is right, but do what is good for Alfie Solomon, if the Italians win then I plan to leave, not me, it will be him and then you, the mafia, nothing like that. There is still liquor and now it is illegal. To do this effectively, you can't imagine that other people want the same things as you, you must first try to see the world from their perspective. I know this may seem obvious, but very few people follow this advice and instead offer others what they would do.

I never want to get anywhere, so before offering help you have to make sure you understand the other person's world, which is why Tommy comes to these meetings already understanding the position and temperament of the person he is going to talk to. Distillery provides a tenth of your income. protection is another 10 percent of the rest, you can memorize drugs and now you keep a gun in the drawer and now you keep it next to the whiskey. I know you offered a day in our death and if after all your research on someone you're still not clear on what they want, you can always ask them in the course of the conversation.

I want to know what you want. A concrete area that you can use in your own life. It's not connecting with someone you might like. mentor says a CEO an influencer whoever the Internet makes it easier than ever to get in touch with these people, but it also means they get more requests than ever, so instead of the typical chat over coffee, we investigate a problem that they may have and then offer to meet to discuss how specifically you can help. This is a much more effective way to start that relationship, but even beyond this particular scenario, the point is that one of the best ways to get what you want is to seriously consider it. how can you get other people what they want now this brings us to the next point when Tommy really needs something done, not only does he solve someone's problem but he gives both the carrot and the stick which is a much more motivating strong when you try to affect big changes look at the nature of the deal it's explaining my proposal I booked you a sweet at the Midland Hotel if you need anything in this city I just mention my name it's also on the envelope there's a check for £500 for your wife can you Use it to buy a black dress and a Black Horse with black feathers to pull a Black Chariot with your body inside if you break the terms of the White Flag some people are motivated more by the prospect of gaining something others by the fear of losing something and We're all motivated when there's a particular path that satisfies both desires, so Tommy makes sure to achieve both whenever he needs someone to participate in one of his plans.

You can watch it again here this time. he does it in reverse order if we spell those weapons quickly your life on the force will end when I have achieved what I set out to achieve I will let you know where to find the weapons you will be a hero You will probably get a medal. This is a far superior persuasive strategy than simply ordering or threatening people and is incredibly useful when you are trying to inspire any group of people, whether at school or at work, when there is a team of people you are with. trying to move towards a common goal or if it's a business, when you try to explain the value of a product you are selling, don't just talk about what someone can gain by following your vision, but what they could gain. lost if they don't do it now, this brings us to the last piece which is really what makes Tommy Shelby so unique and probably the reason why so many people love him and that is his ability to turn trash into resources, lemons into lemonades, as the phrase commonly goes, but I wouldn't actually use that phrase because it's most often used to describe making the best of a bad situation.

In Tommy's case, he makes a bad situation better than if it never happened, for example when there is a failed assassination attempt. his brother's life, he not only looks at the positive side of things, that his brother, the mother, is alive, he uses that attempt to spread misinformation by telling everyone that Arthur, his brother, is dead, which gives him time to recover and then finally surprise and kill that season. Big Baddie Luka Chandreta Similarly, Tommy is told he needs to kill his friend Danny to avoid an all-out war with the Italian gangsters, clearly a bad situation, but he makes it work better than if he didn't have to by using it as an opportunity. to fake Dany's death, which gives him a man who can operate in London without anyone

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for him and also gives him a hiding place for the weapons he stole at the beginning of the season, his friend's supposed grave, a place. which no one would even think to look at now this might seem like it could only work in your scripted dramas, but this strategy of turning garbage into resources is how some of the most elegant and brilliant solutions are created in the real world , the point is the bad Things in your life may only seem bad in one particular context, if you could put them in a completely new and different context, you can turn something that everyone else overlooked into a valuable resource, so which is an extremely powerful question to ask when you are frustrated or If you wish a circumstance weren't like this, how can the thing I least want become valuable to another of my goals?

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