STOP LETTING YOUR FEELINGS CONTROL YOU | Powerful Motivational Speeches

I wrote almost three full pages before I found the prayer or message I was looking for and that message went in there as if God had sent you a message that someone shared with me recently before giving a speech at a conference. I guess it was hanging in my subconscious waiting to be brought back to the surface and explored and I think it's appropriate that it took me so long to get there to realize its value, well to put it bluntly I think it's because life contains more incorrect terms than the correct ones it's just that the correct ones when discovered unlock some of the most beautiful things imaginable and as we watch while we walk through the currents Not Meant For Us the temptation or instinct is to get angry frustrated right what a waste of time screams the pragmatist? brain three pages full of wasted words three months with the wrong person three years doing the wrong things when what we still don't understand is that they weren't wrong at all they got us exactly where we need to be our yeses are very often buried less than 1,000 NOS that's not punishment, it's just life, often referred to as a reminder that in baseball hitting 300 or getting a hit, three out of every tenant batter essentially makes you an All-Star, three hits out of every 10 tries, well I think life is more difficult. that in baseball, sometimes its losses are more numerous, its rules are more complicated, but its victories are incomparable, look, life is not a game of doing it right, life is a game of appearing again and again when you make a mistake when you swing and you miss when you swing. things don't You don't go the way you want them to appear being bold enough to fail spectacularly life is a journey and I'm sure I've been afraid to fail, afraid to try, afraid to risk what I had many times, in fact, I often still have it.

Now I know enough to question that resistance and hesitation in my head, walk up to the mirror and ask Eddie: Aren't you going because you have more important things to do? or you don't go because it's going to be a challenge. Aren't you going because it's going to be difficult? to bring you into a state of vulnerability that makes you uncomfortable and oh how those conversations make you feel exposed, right, nothing is harder than the conversations you have with

your

self, but those are the conversations that hold the answers, the things wrong they become the story, the characters.

Push the hero forward, chaos sharpens his skill and strengthens his resolve, everything is happening for you, the now is always a value, so walk through every door, door that opens as if God sent you, see it for the miracle that they are pieces of a puzzle that come. together the story of a life where the only way to lose is not to go is to dance around the flame that is

your

hopes and dreams until that flame goes out do not pass by where you are you are there because there is value to be extracted There are no wasted moments, only opportunities that have not yet evolved, so when you fall, know that you will be wiser once you rise and when you are lost, know that soon you will know the way to a depth you never thought possible and when you are hurt, you know that soon you'll be in a position to love harder than you've ever loved when you're angry, you know you'll soon be able to empathize like never before when you're unsure, you know you're building trust in real time, peeling back the layers of quote unquote things. wrong to discover with each revelation what it means to truly live see that it is all you, so stay there, walk through the doors while reminding myself that God sent you like you belong there because you do it on the journey that is your life every The second matters Every moment, a rocket taking you to the next iteration, every variable, a part of you coming together, so walk through those doors as if they are taking you exactly where you need to be and you will see over time that that is exactly what happened. .

Whether the water rises, sinks or swims, we pick up certain truths as we move through life. realizations of small patterns of awakenings that allow us to map the things around us so we can navigate this crazy place and here is one such realization for my own journey. When you are looking for the best you can live your best life the best is a north star that guides you a bar line or reference point that is always moving a reminder that you can always do more and be more a reminder that life Tomorrow can always be different from life today In my opinion, seeking the best you can is synonymous with capturing all the good in this world, capitalizing on the potential, is using those resources, you need an architect, that pen, you need a brush of a poet, needs a painter, a story, needs a writer or population that needs a leader, it is a search that not only complements our existence here on Earth now.

I think it is in itself the reason we are here on Earth, but, like all ideal pragmatism, it seems to get in the way of the meaning of life. It's harder to execute than it looks on paper, we can't be, quote, the best every day, sometimes we fall short of that. Mark, our results do not always align with our expectations, the perpetual journey towards one's best is not straight nor without discomfort. more like navigating a new world without a map or a compass, a world that by default we are not equipped to face when we start and I believe that 99% of success depends on the willingness to move forward into that great unknown and allow adversity to shape us. , but that remaining 1% is a little different than that 1% when we see what we have never seen do what we have never done, it is discovering the best of us in those moments when we feel the worst, climbing the highest when we are At our lowest point when the water rises, is finding a way to swim.

See, most things. Life requires small adjustments. It's watching, learning and moving forward, but we rarely talk about the darkest moments when we feel like we're up to it. neck in the trials and tribulations of life when the world transmits no messages of hope or prosperity no, the only incoming message is despair, you are essentially David looking at Goliath, maybe a Goliath of your creation, maybe not, but a Goliath after all. Because here? Why are these dark moments different from the 99%? Why is a setting provided at the very moment when the spotlight feels more out of reach than ever?

Because this moment is when you prove to yourself who you are and who you believe you are. You've dug deep into the past you think you've given it your all then no you have no idea what you're capable of the world provides a stage in our darkest moments so you can draw the curtains and illuminate your strength that floods your world with adversity so you can trust yourself to navigate the waters and if you can find a way here when the walls close in the clock ticks and the water rises, what can't you do? Have you ever asked yourself that question that those moments show? we what we can be and that is why the 1% is everything, why does Rock Bottom become a bridge to so many new tomorrows or the losses we fear most become the change we need most?

The answer is simple because in those moments we find within ourselves the keys to transformation. You see, you didn't know you could jump that far and you didn't know it because you had never been pushed so close to the limit running at such a fast speed, but in those moments you learn that you can take flight, you learn that you have the power to rise again, so that while the vast majority of life says yes, when most would say no, it is how we choose to act while immersed in our lowest Lowes that provides the framework and the opportunity.

I think the Tears and the sign of Despair running down your face are a lot like the tears that emerge during our happiest moments. They are the same, they only precede the others. See, despair gives you the opportunity to look at life differently. Look at yourself differently. Look in the mirror. and understand that reflection looking back is capable of leading a revolution in your soul and I understand how difficult it is how detached from reality it may seem but isn't that what tomorrow is a detachment from reality the parameters and the rules from today? It is not until that seed is buried beneath the Earth that it takes root and points to the sky and when you are trapped under the chaos of life, know that this is where you too are transformed, so forget the shore of yesterday, this is where it is. where you build the destiny of tomorrow don't obsess over what's gone when you can dream of all that is to come and don't worry about who you were when you can celebrate all that you will be when the water rises swimming sometimes is what we don't do saying that It echoes loudest what we don't do that has the biggest consequences where we don't go but ultimately it makes us lose I remember when I was a teenager applying to college I was working on the admissions essay I was brainstorming with my grandmother um talking about possible themes and approaches and she read me this quote that is sometimes an Ed from Mark Twain, uh, but that's beside the point.

The quote says that in 20 years you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the things you did. I did it, cast the bow lines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sales, explore the dream, discover, I thought this was the perfect bridge to the next chapter of my life, the last Horizon, the new adventure, I thought it was amazing and it was exactly what I needed and so I went on to the next adventure, but here's the thing as life developed, this equation somehow transformed from exploration, dreams and discovery to the question, Well, what am I supposed to do somehow without me paying attention?

Life changed. on a checklist a question I couldn't get wrong a test I needed to make sure I didn't fail It's amazing how quickly we forget the infinite breath of life because we're focusing on the dotted line before us, the one we're on. We are supposed to walk Sometimes we are so obsessed with what the expectations are that we do not ask ourselves where these expectations come from, who are so important and wise that they know what is best for you to a greater extent than you see what that is like. an important question and also one that you can lose in your periphery as you follow that dotted line in front of you when you have a destination in mind hopes dreams ambitions well that's an adventure when someone else has a destination in mind for you whether This Authority whether imaginary or not, that is obedience and sometimes the greatest disservice we can do to ourselves is not to

stop

and think, not to

stop

and ask ourselves where we are going and why remember when you were a child and you got in trouble .

They sent me to your room and for me this was agony when it was a punishment. I wanted to be anywhere but confined within those walls. I hated being sent to my room and finally the door would open. My parents said Eddie, you can come out now. I would go out and play basketball for a while and then, many times, I would find myself back in my room. Happily, you know, playing with my toys, whatever I was doing, I didn't care in the world and it's like what changed nothing but the context myself same room same toys same whatever I was doing, without However, it was no longer a punishment and I think this understanding is worth exploring, we may not realize that we may not even be able to articulate, but I think we crave

control

over Our Lives.

A lot of time to walk our own path and in this situation the path took me back to where I was sometimes, although the path takes us in the opposite direction, very far from Distant Worlds, the final destination is not as important as the fact of that we chose it that way. We ask why and believe the answer and immerse ourselves in its execution, so when Mark Twain talks about the things we don't do that hold the most weight in our hearts it's because those things we tend to skip are often the same. things that give life to our souls we will go to school to get good grades to get a 9 to 5 to get a promotion to get a mortgage on a house, but the audacity to open that photography studio the nerve to think you could rent a van and traveling around the country the excitement of thinking that you could start that routine that will put you in the physical shape that you have always dreamed of seeing that we are lucky and blessed to have the things that we have the quality of life that we lead now far exceeds the that came before us life is convenient incredibly convenient but what is convenience if it comes at the expense of the purpose of meaning in life because that is what steers the ship a crisis of meaning ultimately mitigates everything else there is no exploration without meaning and without the exploration of tomorrow it becomes a repetition of today, not an evolution of today and what is incredible, truly incredible, is that our purpose can be rediscovered, our paths, redefined,how when having a long conversation with you, you guessed it yourself, putting the phone in another room, disconnecting the Wi. -Fi and spending time with you, kind of like dear me, what matters to me in this world, where I'm going right now, is where I'm going now, aligned with what matters to me in this world and sometimes the answer is yes .

Sometimes it's not great, but what we have now is a foundation to work from a consciousness that should be celebrated that you created. It's so easy to walk through life and never have that conversation. It's so easy to sleepwalk to someone else's song. of other people's drums but when you open your eyes you see the correlation between your thoughts and your actions your actions and your reality you realize that when you awaken that tendency to ask yourself what you have to do today to reflect on your problems those questions you assumed that you were normal and never you thought a lot about that, well now you will see, you can dismantle that notion, now you will see that if you can ask yourself what you have to do, you can just as easily ask yourself what you want to do. do what you can do what life invites you to do if you can reflect on your problems you are just as capable of reflecting on the opportunity that is within your reach if you can take the time to think about whether you are walking the obligatory dotted line that is has drawn in front of you, you are equally capable of redrawing that line and allowing it to take you to a new dimension.

Listen to it again in 20 years you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do, so throw away the bow lines sail away from the safe harbor catch the trade winds in your sales explore dreams discover explore, but for you wander those paths that for so long have taken away your curiosity try things you once felt other people had a right to but that you had never given yourself permission, know that for yourself because no one will approach you and randomly give you that green light dream because without building your Castles in the Air as you call them meticulously you live your entire life on the ground you will never achieve goals that you don't believe and there will surely be a moment when only you will see the Destiny is great, that's life, but with each step forward, as it becomes more real for you, it will also make sense for others.

Trust each step as if it were a miracle in itself and in time you will discover that that is exactly what each step was. and finally discover discover who you are, what you are capable of becoming, as Emerson said, being yourself in a world that constantly tries to turn you into something else, is the greatest achievement, forging your own path, building your own life, staying true to yourself. The heart is courage, so navigate because you have the ability, because you are strong enough and because the story you are about to write does not continue until you turn the page.

In today's chapter there is a quote from George Elliot that says there is never too much. late to be what you could have been and see that the ability to separate the stories of yesterday from the stories of now will always be what determines your tomorrow. I'm still looking for the best way to really articulate this message to emphasize how precious it is. This moment right now could be if only we chose to do so, if only we recognized the power of choosing to start over. Now I understand the power of habits, how they define us and how, in practice, change is not as easy as saying "you." You are going to be something and then you will become that, no, you have to develop habits, your actions become your life and there are many resources to develop habits.

James Clear is one of my favorites and someone I often point to as one of my best quotes. He says that the task of developing a good habit is like growing a delicate flower one day at a time, meaning that small actions over time create big results, but before all that, before any step, before of any habit, before any action, we must know that once a day. the page is turned, it's gone, it's turned into data to guide your next decision and that's it, it's understanding that yesterday is not just a resource for you to look back on as you reflect on what worked and what didn't, what you loved. and what not.

I don't love where you went and why it was important, but you are not yesterday's losses, mistakes or tragedies, just as today's weather is ultimately independent of yesterday's, surely they can follow the same pattern , same rules, same guidelines and that's great, that's how we get the data. that allows us to look back and calculate what is best for us, but ultimately today is a new day with the IAL potential, the ability to become something extraordinarily beautiful and we can think okay, I get it, sure I can become something new. The question is: do you really believe it?

Do you really understand how malleable you are? How you can bend, fold and mold yourself into something new because in a second you get that quick burst of motivation, that little bit of courage and you dip your toe in the water what happens life says not so fast your mind presses play on a projector giant that shows the movie of who you used to be right and not who you want to be social media shows a seemingly perfect collage of everyone around you pretending to live problem-free lives and prompts you to think, oh this must mean I'm doing something bad, right?

TV news media politicians tell you that life is too hard and you are too downtrodden to find your way out, of course, not without their help, so why try? I think friends can disappear or, worse yet, criticize the fact that you have changed as if that is not the goal of life as a whole and my message is that yes, change comes from habits and yes, habits are small daily decisions, but they also create that mental space. welcoming those new habits understanding that you are worthy of more understanding right now is a beginning that is both the greatest challenge and the greatest achievement giving yourself permission in the midst of an endless variety of adversaries that is what makes or breaks you , not how close you keep your running shoes to the door so you can see them and trigger those morning training sessions.

No, those things are important, but does it matter if you don't see yourself as someone who is going to use those shoes as a tool to change into something new? Put them on when you don't want to, when you feel tired, when you are busy, who will you choose to be? Can you hold on to that idea? Look, I obviously enjoy motivation, right? I consume a video or audio almost every day. In the morning I feel like it gets me into the right headspace and then I get on with my work fine and for the most part it does a great job of communicating to us what we need for that moment.

It's like believing in yourself, working hard. Don't you dare give up amen, but in my opinion sometimes the ball falls flat is why why believe in myself why work hard why not give up and the answer is because we are incredibly gifted beings with the ability to change and adapt and they grow but they face the world that wants to tell them that there is no change they immediately meet with resistance as if they prefer life in rest they pray for stagnation and you even thinking that you can reorganize the order of things shakes life to its foundations and when I feel that there is a default uncertainty, a mini panic, how can anything be right when it feels like every forward movement is a right hook to the face, like we are constantly pushing against the headwind?

I will never forget that it was almost 2 years into my journey as a speechwriter, YouTuber, content creator, just 2 years since I quit my job and I felt guilty about going for an afternoon run, it felt like a luxury, I didn't have entitled to something so minimal, it took me a while to stop thinking about it. and enjoy it that crazy it was something so small and insignificant now imagine the weight of big things with the change the hard thing is the right thing that is a difficult idea to put our hands around to hold to embrace what we least want to do is to often what we need, but as Campbell says, the cave we fear contains the treasure we seek, as Peterson says, the dragon protects the gold, Jim ran, the winters of life give way to springs and summers and he said no there is beauty.

The surface without terrible depth to becoming who we could be hurts and I'm not sure why it has to be that way maybe a test to weed out those who don't really want it or maybe it's what we learn when we leave the pieces of us We no longer want ourselves behind or perhaps it is because without that struggle without that suffering the evolution simply would not mean as much, but the climb creates the view regardless of the reason. I hope the point comes when it comes loud and clear and not just now, when the alarm goes off and you're looking for that extra push to get up, but tomorrow, the next morning, when things get a little harder and the finish line it feels a little less real, a little less visible.

The person you hope to become is as real as the present moment, it is as real when you are excited and motivated as it is when you are discouraged and depressed, but look around you and understand that, as counterintuitive, as crazy, as frustrating as it may be, The Discomfort and uncertainty does not mean that you are lost or that you have gone too far, it means that you are right where you need to be, it is the small price you must pay every day for a monumental change, so when you look out the door of your house, You will know that more exists, know that it will demand more of you than you have ever given and know that you are capable of not only meeting but exceeding those demands and that it will be the most rewarding and incredible journey of your life.