The view on America after living abroad (UK)

It was a great cultural opportunity for me and I thought there was a whole world out there and that the United States might not be the best country in the world. This is Silby, she is from the United States but she has lived in Sweden and the United Kingdom for 7 years. We discuss what is wrong. with American tourists

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why deadlines in Britain are often perceived as flexible and how long does it take for an American to start understanding British English I'm Max come on when I moved out of the US for the first time when I moved to Sweden back then it has different pros and cons, but I was brainwashed as a child, like you know your school like Americans, the biggest country you know, but then when I was exposed to all this, you knew different types of cultures and met different types of people.

I realized there is a whole world out there and I really enjoyed my life

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in Europe at the time and was able to travel so easily after that was over. I came back to the United States and realized that I just don't feel like I belong. I'm not here anymore because I was exposed to the outside world, so I feel like I need to get out of here. You mentioned that growing up you were taught that we are the best country in the world and then you moved to Sweden, to Europe, what was it? the biggest reveal or what was the biggest surprise that, oh, it's not like that, it's what I didn't think right.

The biggest revelation when I first moved to Sweden is how the people were less superficial. I'm from the US, but I'm also I grew up in La so la, you know, Hollywood, everyone cares about celebrities and what they look like, that kind of thing in that world. I mean, I have to say that I don't represent all of America, it's just that I know what I am. I know um on the west coast, especially in Los Angeles and San Francisco, because of that kind of flashy atmosphere that I grew up in and then I go to Sweden where people are a little more relaxed about their appearance, no one has to look perfect.

No one has to be perfect. plastic surgery all the time or, you know, that kind of relaxation, this and then people were actually, I guess being in the industry that I was in, everyone was talking about the latest new technology, the most expensive vacations and the Michelin star restaurant and then When I went to Stockholm, people were completely happy going to pick mushrooms in that rustic environment and that was the first time I realized that being in nature is actually something better than what you imagine buying the newest and trendiest designer bag, you know? What I mean is that people really valued quality family time, whereas in the US, when I worked in marketing, I had to admit that when I was in my twenties I was a bad friend because I was never there for them because work was getting in the way.

I promised them that I would be at their birthday party, however, I couldn't attend because work came at the last minute and that was the biggest thing I had, it's the most important thing in my life. I had to do it, but when I moved to Sweden I realized that the people were very poor and they really cared about keeping their promises when they told them that they would be there for their friend, everyone around them respected them as their friends. Do people at work or colleagues respect how you think Europeans

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Americans, let's say specifically the British, how they

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Americans, do they have any prejudice when they find out you're from the US, what reputation do you think of Americans?

Americans? we're loud. I realized how patriotic Americans are compared to maybe the rest of the world when I was watching the Olympics, it's just that Americans are always the loudest, even when you're like when it's on and I watch it and then everyone says like us, then. I don't hear other countries being that loud, you know? That's when I thought, "Sorry, we're really loud, you're poorly dressed, we're a little bit unpleasant, demanding, I guess, because PE Americans really like customer service." good customer service, that's something that also surprised me when I moved to Sweden. There is no sense of customer service because everyone is individual and you trust yourself, it's a very independent culture, whereas in America you just want to be taken care of because you usually don't care. a tip at the end, so that's what they expect when they leave the country and know that they're just getting normal service in that country, but they're like, oh my gosh, J was here so horrible like you saw that lady.

As rude as that kind of mentality. I can see how Americans come across as a bit annoying typical American tourists when they go out of the country for free time, they think they own the world, maybe because of what a patriotic belief system it is. so instill that when you are growing up in school for me the most important thing in life is not business, it is not even this YouTube channel it is the happiness of myself, my family and my friends, and my current job allows me concentrate on things. What really matters in life for me, this is my full time project, I know this game and I show you all my secrets and strategies in a 3 day online workshop.

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Do you have any difficulty or find it strange how people use words to you as an American? Yes, my God, communication was very difficult for me. I have to say it because we spoke the same language, but the response was very different, so I'm sure it's funny to think that I had a better time communicating with Swedes who spoke English than with Brits who spoke English because when I first came here I knew They spoke English, but I wasn't used to it, so I had no idea what they were saying. At first I felt like it was a completely foreign language, like two years.

I think I absolutely needed the subtitles to watch TV and plus there are so many different accents here, even in C for Blondon, people have different accents, so I just couldn't. I did not realize. I was a little afraid to speak or engage in any kind of deep conversation with British people when I started because it sounded like a foreign language, but now, over time, I've gotten used to it. I have some fear of talking to my clients about their grooming requirements. You know, by having questions. I have no problem communicating with them today, but the first two years it was definitely a big investment.

Scottish accent. I still can't understand it. I'm sorry, but the funny thing is. um someone like American friends tell me that um I've adopted some British ones. I don't think they have accents, but they like the words I use, they find it very funny. um when I say, oh uh, she likes it when I describe a dog. oh, it's so shameless and Americans will never say that word like oh blessed like I thought I never would, you know, use that kind of expression, Americans will say take out the trash, whereas here, take out the bin, you know, but now I use like trash instead of trash, so like America, they make fun of me for that I won British, where do you think people are friendlier and maybe it's okay, that's the first and the second, what do you think is the biggest difference in mentality if I compare Americans, let's say I'm generalizing, but typical Americans versus typical British Americans are very friendly and approachable from the outside, they can talk to a stranger, they can start a conversation with anyone and generally people will be friendly to you, although I think the British are a little more American in the sense that they might think you're very strange, but they might still talk to you, maybe if you find the right person, but I remember when I was in Sweden people were more reserved there, so if you try to start a conversation with a random stranger, be like, what the hell are you doing, like, I don't know, don't interrupt me, don't disturb my room , there will be more shy or, again, reserved about talking to just random people I guess, so in that sense I guess Americans may seem friendlier outside, but that doesn't mean they will always be there for you, for example , if you are a foreigner coming. to us and that you struck up a conversation with an American, they feel like they're completely like your new friend and then they might say we should totally hang out, but then when and they never happened, where is it, whereas if you said that. to a Swede in Sweden they'll show up and do the They'll be there for you, you know, no, they'll make sure you actually get out at some point.

I think it's more similar here in the UK. people will, if they set a date, they will try to show up. I guess more in that sense, unlike Americans, but I don't know, I want to sound like Americans are horrible, no they're not, we're just too friendly. when we don't mean that sometimes being Asian makes you feel more comfortable in the US or Britain. I was very lucky to not feel difficult for being an Asian person

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in the United States. I would say I don't feel bad. I feel uncomfortable being an Asian person in this country or at least in this city because this city is very international, but I think when I moved to Stockholm there was a little culture shock, but that was like 2012 or something, so yeah It was like that, you know.

More than 10 years ago, right, and I would still say that Sweden was even more homogeneous than, for example, London, when they saw me as a single woman again walking down the street to look like a tourist, so they asked me as if I I felt a little uncomfortable, I could say that I experienced like some drunk children on their public transport, you know, telling me to go back to my country, do you miss something from your life? Yes, there are certain things I miss about America. When I was opening this business, how difficult it is to do things in this country, for example, you know when you have a plan to build a store, for example, you know with your contractors, you know your construction workers or whatever, like The companies that will work with them will have a set schedule and deadlines and will try to comply with those States no matter what, because in the United States, if things go wrong, people will sue you or at least threaten to sue you and it is possible, so, People generally get things done on time because they don't want repercussions if they don't meet deadlines, whereas in this country the laws are a little bit different, so it takes a lot of patience, so there are certain things.

I opened this store in June and I am supposed to have a part of the daycare business in a basement like unit, however my Lor has to fix certain things that he hasn't done yet so it's been almost over 10 months because he She was supposed to fix this place before I even opened. this salon in June, so I just take these things as legal advice, but there's no way around it, as long as she's willing to fix it for me, it's just taking a lot of time because people aren't showing up, people aren't complying. deadlines. or they just don't have deadlines, they don't want to give you deadlines, it's like a complacent feeling of doing your job that exists in this country a little bit and it's really challenging for me and I think for a lot of other people, but people just put up with it, the mentality It's about keeping calm and moving forward.

In terms of safety, where do you feel safest because the Los Angeles and San Francisco area has a reputation for having a lot of crime, but so does London? well, like stubbing and stuff, they exist there too, what do you think of this? One good thing about this country or any other European country that I know of is that you are not allowed to have guns like civilians are not allowed to have them. guns, so I really appreciate that something that I really don't like about America is that we still have this gun violence problem when I moved here.

I feel like it's a little bit safer, so to speak, than San Francisco because unfortunately, when I went back there, I was seeing sad situations where it was almost like a third world country in the sense that I always see used needles or human feces everywhere. parts because you know that the government was not really taking care of the people who are on the streets and that there are mentally ill people who cannot take care of themselves and the number of these people increases. I don't know, as the city gets richer and richer, they're moving around like normal people and people are losing their homes and they're on the streets.

So it was a little sad and I guess it was a little. I guess if I think about it, maybe it's safe because you know you use needles on the street and you're walking your dog and you don't want your dog to step on you. So I guess I was in that sense whenI moved here. I didn't see any of that, so I thought, oh, it's better than San Francisco, but I also heard that there are people who stab children, usually younger people who do that, yeah. It would be unsafe I don't really feel threatened for my life to be honest with you in my shot um this neighborhood is central London I am located at 112 Cleveland Street um in Fitz roia um you can come to our store um we I am very interested in making this business to be as sustainable and eco-friendly as possible, so you know, sometimes it's so crowded and during the Christmas seasons I know thefts happen like Amazon packages are stolen very decently, it happens to be work, but other than that, I think I feel pretty good.

I worked too much in America, the work culture was so horrible, I mean compared to Asia, maybe it's not that bad from what I heard, but after living in Sweden and seeing how good the life/work balance was job and then watching as I left out these multi-million dollar companies I was just making more money and I was working 18 hours a day and my life wasn't being compensated enough. Because of the amount of work I was doing, I was working 18 hours a day and it wasn't a healthy environment for me. I fell into depression. I simply had a nervous breakdown towards the end of my corporate marketing career in the US.

I just couldn't stay in the US anymore either because I felt like all my peers were going through the same thing, but they were stuck because that's what they know, but then my dog, um, I had an MTI that she actually recently. She passed away last November, she was almost 17 and she traveled all over the world with me, she is the greatest love of my life, but I used to brush her hair all the time and she was always in good shape and people complimented her. The way she looked so I thought maybe I could try real grooming and I found a school in London with dog grooming so I decided to sign up and start this journey here.

I have had my own salon since last June and the client. the base is growing and I'm happy yeah oh you're so sweet thank you for watching the next video yeah right here this one thanks again and see you there.