The Swift Family Full Episode | Season 7 | Supernanny USA

Thanks.Max started with his usual behavior Max, where are you going? Oh yes, really, I'll give it to you mom. I'll give you a warning, don't take your hand off the cart, look at me when I talk. Do you understand that he wasn't listening, he wasn't following instructions? He left again. Do I tell him that he's going to spend some time like I just warned him? Max. I need to talk to you because you dropped the cart after I told you. Don't do it when we get home. You will have a waiting time. Maximum stop right now.

You're not getting a piece of gum today because you didn't listen to him. Max kicked. He was screaming at the top of his lungs and Mom and Dad would be beside themselves with embarrassment at how to deal with this situation. If we had given him the gum, that would let him know that he is okay, that he can drop the card and not follow the instructions. Stop again. stop, stop, stop for a minute right now. I want you to grab that cart and stop playing right now. It's enough. Jen and Tony found what they were looking for, but they still need to move forward with discipline when they get home when we all are.

I got home, it was time to put Max straight into time out. I'm putting you in timeout because you kept dropping the basket and you didn't listen to me and I need you to stay here for four minutes. Get a stopwatch. We saw Jen implement a timeout with Max and he tried it too. He got really ugly for a while, but having Joe there allowed me to keep going and not give in, but eventually thanks to Jen's perseverance he stuck through the timeout and we got it done. The first discipline ever executed. Max Mommy put you in a time out because you didn't hold on to the cart like I asked you when Jenny was doing the time out with Max.

I thought he did a great job. She really stood her ground. I'm sorry, okay? have a hug, I felt really good at the end of the timeout because it's probably one of the first times Tony or I actually served the punishment. I love you with Max's discipline. We take care of baby proofing in the house with the items. that we bought at the store, you want to make some of those, okay, you can also make some of these. Sean and Max helped by covering the outlets. She understood it, yes, well, while dad put casings around the power strips.

Oh, I bought it. Beautiful bumpers on it. side table corners, electrical cord covers, and a protector on the mirror bedroom door to keep those little fingers safe. I made it very clear to Mom and Dad at the

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meeting that small objects on the floor would pose a serious choking hazard for Mia. and now I wanted to make that point very clear to the children, we all know that those little things that go in babies' mouths can suffocate and can be very dangerous and then I had the children put the small toys in baby proof containers, I think we felt a Now it's a lot safer to have Mia crawling around on the floor and then there was the safety in the pool.

I had Mom and Dad turn the pool alarm back on and then gave them a nice little picture to remind the kids to keep the sliding doors closed for Mia's sake. It's the difference between mia crawling around and you remembering to close the door the butterflies separate look at two halves so you want to put them together well, the children immediately responded that they were excited about it and it's very easy to see what wings they need to be together always We have to remember to close the butterfly, there is no doubt that this house will be a much safer environment for me and the children, moving forward with the security of the home moving, it will be important to work on relationships, and Jen and Gloria have There is a lot tension in their relationship and we need to get to the bottom of this.

Let's have a conversation about what creates this friction between the two of you. Do something to say anything. Oh, go for it, couple of you. I feel like not. I'm not living up to your expectations that I don't do a good enough job, so I think that left me in a situation where I felt resentful. I have always been on your side. I always thought you were absolutely wonderful the whole time. years I have heard my daughter say that I am disappointed in her and I have come to the point of saying I think you are disappointed in yourself Gloria what do you think you should do about evaluating yourself?

I need to maybe back off a little bit. I've been very worried about safety and the kids need to come to the front more with you and Tony, they need to be thought of first, so we're not doing a good enough job. Well, let's be honest. I mean that's why I'm here when there are things that you're not taking care of, which are all the things that I've been helping you understand safety discipline for unruly behavior and the parents aren't taking care of. that, then Well, what's going on here? What are these parents doing? But you are recognizing that you need to go back now to know what has been implemented.

Yes, what do you need to do in terms of working on yourself to be more assertive? Make sure that Tony and I set our rules and that we respect them and that you are there to help and support them so that when you are here it is nice and fun and there is not so much pressure of being a third parent. I don't want a better relationship with you I really do what you want you're my make me cry it's been a long time since I told my mom you know I love you and I gave her a hug what this The conversation I did was open the door and that was a mother beginner who mentioned to me that she doesn't find parenting fun, but hasn't done anything to work on our relationships with our kids.

It would be a really good start for you to get involved in doing Some things with them they like to do well, so I thought what we would do is start with Josh, maybe we'll play horseback riding or whatever, you're going to go easy on me, right? Who is yellow and who is green? Oh, I'm yellow, how was he? uh I practiced last night, I recovered, so I like that this mom has the opportunity to hang out with Josh and do what he loves to do, but it also gives him the opportunity to have a daily conversation about whether he's started playing tag yet. football so she understands.

More about Josh as he gets older we talk about how school is going and how my basketball games have been going yeah she's on fire and then it was Jack's turn he's very creative so I bought some clay to ignite your imagination. What should we do? I think we should have a plan. You are the architect. Let's be free. Let's do what we want. Without direction. Without any direction. The best thing about spending time alone with the boys is that it's starting to open the lines of communication between us. I like your cartoon character and you made them three different ways, normal, old and polished, what I realized is that It's been a long time since I played with them and really had a chance to talk about them. things that are important to them that are cool as clouds to sit on now good idea I hope to spend time alone with my mom more often it's funny that I broke a house rule so I was being punished which meant it became Max's turn with Mom and I had a little project for the two of them.

Max was going to learn to ride a bike without his training wheels and Mom was going to teach him how to put his feet up there. Well, now let's go straight. Look at the handlebars, you're just going to hold this, you go, you go, you go, you push the pedal, the pedal, the pedal, okay, you know Jen has it going really fast and if she keeps doing it with him really, really fast, it's going to end. being capable. ride this bike alone well done, do it again, yeah you want to do it again now because you fought alone, here we go, are you ready, pedal?

Although I have four children, I don't think I have ever taught one. Anyway, riding a bike meant a lot to me to be able to teach him that skill and I know I will never forget it and I don't think he will forget it either. Mom is starting to realize that. By doing these activities with her children, her relationship is growing more and more so that she can continue to bond. I know how to wind my bike. Now let's talk about what you all are going to do while I'm gone. It's a labor of love. It's going to be very important for the three of you because it will keep your relationships healthy.

Sean, I hope we can spend that time with you. Yeah, I'm nervous about Jo leaving. I'm not going to have her there to ask. your questions and I'll have to figure them out on my own, please work hard and enjoy, I'll see you in a few days, okay, this

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has really had to absorb a lot since I got there, but you know, I'm going to wait for them to step up to the plate. forehead. They want a change. They may have to work for it. I've been away for three days and I'm curious to see exactly how this family has fared while I've been away. away i don't want to have any mistakes on the dvd session i want to get 100 percent i want a plus hi hi i really don't think joe is going to have a big problem with anything i did personally now tony that's another story who's ready to have a look?

We're ready We're ready if you want to help dress Max and Sean. Yes, you're not dressed yet. Can you get dressed? Please, Katie will come over tonight because Dad and I are going to dinner. You don't listen to Katie or you don't follow our rules. I will do that. You will have a waiting time. I will do that. Tomorrow you will waste time outside. Jack, you're going to lose playing time tomorrow. Hello, come here, let me show you this. your concern is the consequences of the movie and the bed, you're going to give them that warning and then if it happens again then it's a consequence, okay, feel good about seeing that, yeah, probably the first time I talked to Katie specifically, What were my expectations in general. the trust in communication was absolutely excellent I mean everyone had clarity everyone knew where they were and even the kids and how they responded was absolutely fantastic it was wonderful to see great observation for me please note your sister just below of you, Sean jumps. butterfly, thanks, what we are seeing is a complete change from what we had at the beginning and a little sanctuary of safety for me to no doubt walk around very soon, yes yes fools, well it really is good to see Sean, you and I are leaving. to watercolor, did you know that your grandfather, my dad was an artist, Grandma Jack, he painted with watercolor all the time, so do you think you'll be ready for second grade?

Well I thought first grade was going to be like a push up, yes it was. It wasn't that hard, it wasn't as hard as you thought, yeah, it's a great day to go for a bike ride so I can let you go, you have to give me a kiss, the kiss is a big thing, yeah, he doesn't give them. Very easily what I understand from that is also that you enjoy motherhood, that you enjoy your fatherhood now, that is the most important thing here because the children feel that and that allows you to have more emotional intimacy with them, which is part of their bonds and their experiences together. which was very necessary, okay, Tony, let's move on to yourself, boy, you have allergies because I only have a teaspoon, okay, totally necessary, maximum, come up here now, quickly, I'll go like this and don't try it.

Okay, I'll have to hold you down and make you take it unless you do it now. I'm going to count to three and I'm going to pin you down and make you drink. Getting angry. Now I'm starting to get frustrated with you. Okay, if you don't take your medicine, I'll put you on time-out. You understand? No, that's your warning, look at me, that's your warning, look me in the eyes, one two. three in a nutshell you don't know what you're doing and since you didn't know what you were doing you sabotaged the situation with max what you're looking at there was necessary I thought about it at that moment take this now I wasn't going to immobilize you and you won't have a choice and then you'll do this, so I mean, yeah, like you didn't do anything to be able to make him feel like taking the medication would be good for him. that after I gave him the warning about the time because he didn't want to sit in the timeout the time that is not to control although the stopwatch is to teach them limits it is to teach them rules it is not correct to use a timeout to control that So , what are you doing?

Because I have told you before that when you take medicine you change your own attitude. I mean, there's a huge lack of tolerance here. There is a lack of patience, so you have to change your entire behavior in the way you behave. and then you will get a better response from the kids. I've seen some great stuff here from Mom. However, if you don't agree, you will sabotage everything I saw on the DVD where dad was giving Max his medication in a very forceful way I need to teach dad how to have better focus max, you know you're on medication for your eyes, suitable for your allergies, look at dad, those are for later, that's right, I know, I know those aren't gross, but we I have to accept this, I can't, you're having a conversation with yourself, he doesn't even hasn't even spoken and you're like, I know you're thinking this and yeah, and you know you're having a conversation with yourself, you're having a conversation with Max Maxie.

If you take this medicine, baby, because it doesn't taste good, I know, but we have to take it so that you feel better and so that your eye stops stinging. We can drink the mineral water immediately afterwards. Look, it's there, ready to go. You have alittle syringe that you can put it in so he can apply it himself. Yes, we have one of those. Why don't you do it yourself? Do you want to use the spoon or do you want to use the juicer? I want to use the juicer, okay, do it, it was just being more empathetic with how he felt and how scared he was until the end and once we empowered him, you saw a different result, different kid, you did it, good job, good job, maximum.

We're done, I just need to exercise my patience with Max, especially when it comes to involving him and letting him do things on his own. What do we do? We just let him do it himself. We gave him the option. I think Dad certainly learned more. Patience, I think he is recognizing when and when not to give discipline and I think he feels more confident in himself, which means he is making progress. I think mom has done a really fantastic job building those relationships with her kids through the one-on-one time that I have. Another little idea I want to present to get the whole family together, okay follow me we have a surprise place to go so we went to the trampoline center but before we jumped I had a little gift I wanted. to give to the family as you can see this is the quick and fun photo album for the whole family so with this instant camera we can take photos and put them in your photo album which is great and who is ready to have fun, bye, okay, it's you.

I really enjoy playing dodgeball and just jumping around like a family cat. Get this one. I think the kids loved having Jenny and the trampolines. I think we've been to that trampoline center probably 20 times. She has never been on the trampolines. I believe i do it. Always remember that I have the worst aim. My mom usually doesn't play with us. It was very nice to spend time with my mom. It was incredible. Everyone was playing. The children were having a great time. It's okay, Tony, you'll get it. Definitely. She has one arm, I mean, she's very athletic, one right in the back before we left, Mom and Grandma started putting pictures in the album.

Now it's nice. I feel like the photo album is something we can continue to create as a family. What I have learned from Joe is that the activity doesn't matter, what is important is that you can play together and really enjoy each other's company. I am becoming more confident and feeling more fulfilled and happy in my day before I arrive, not mom. She didn't even enjoy motherhood and she didn't know how to connect with her older children, now she does and she's enjoying it and that's really what it's all about. Glory has done a lot for this family and I really don't think it's been appreciated that much.

Before I go I want to change that I notice that grandma does a lot of things with you and sometimes it is very good that the person knows who does what that we appreciate the things that they do for us, I thought it would be a great idea if the children did some drawings and that Jen and Tony wrote a thoughtful letter, so I brought Grandma to their presentation. This is what I worked very hard on. I did, thank you for being so kind to me. Oh my gosh, so cute, let me see, oh Max, it was absolutely wonderful, every single little boy with the photo and the story of him behind it.

I made this for you, okay, my God, it was just wonderful, thank you so much, you're great. boy and then it was time for dad to read his letter and jen a gloria glo. It's very hard to put into words how much Jenny and I appreciate everything you do for our family, the kids love you so much and now with all of us on the same page I think we will all start to have a lot more fun with the kids and between us we both love them a lot and I can't thank you enough for all your love and support I love Tony and Jenny very kind very kind thank you very much the letter was probably one of the best things that has happened to me in a long time it was very rewarding guys it's time for me Go Tony, take care, thank you for everything, Joe, thank you very much.

I already know what I have to do. We have a plan to do it and we have the tools to carry it out. I am going to subject you to the same actions. I hope you have realized that you are capable of much more. what you thought they were capable of I agree