The Real Risk of Forgiveness–And Why It’s Worth It | Sarah Montana | TEDxLincolnSquare

center stage, in the center of attention, with infinite possibilities. True

forgiveness

has to let go of all expectations. You cannot expect a certain result. You can't accept them answering. You can't even hope to know who you'll be on the other side. Forgiveness is

real

ly complicated. It is one of those tools that is only handled correctly when we have healed enough to have nothing to lose. If you are still hemorrhaging pain, it is too early to forgive. If you can't roll up your sleeves and show me your scars and tell me exactly what happened to you, it's still too early to forgive.

But it's never too late to let your villains go and recover. And if you are willing to let it all go, the grief, the pain, the anger, the trauma - and you are open to discovering who you are instead of always trying to prove yourself - I have to be honest with you - all this hype of

forgiveness

is! legit! (Laughs) Ten out of ten, five stars, I would highly recommend it. Thank you. (Applause)