The KEY SIGNS You're Going To Become SUCCESSFUL & WEALTHY | Patrick Bet-David & Lewis Howe

what you're about to take next whether it's marriage having children business partnership a joint venture if all you did you walked away from the world your girl your mom your dad your colleagues your family you went to a restaurant You sat there with a piece of paper saying : "Okay, I'm thinking about getting married", what should I do next? What is the next step I should do? So you leave. I don't know if that's number one. I think he's number three. playing that game is fascinating it's fascinating it's like playing chess it's like you know these master chess players they know their next 10 to 50 moves, the fans were like, uh, here we go, this is what I'm

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to do, you know, and these guys say: yeah, yeah, what are you doing?

Yes, you see it in the future sequencing, but it takes the steps to get to the future you can't just jump to the future I mean, it's the story of bob iger it's the story of uh ted turner the story of kirkakorian you know how Kirk Accordion happened from being a normal guy in Bakersfield who didn't graduate past the eighth grade, you know, he goes and pays a guy a dollar to let him fly a plane and finally he

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s Bugsy's pilot with the mafia and finally he goes and he

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s a pilot, buys two, turns it into a big company and sells it for a few hundred million. dollars then decides to go to Las Vegas then decides to buy a couple of hotels then buys 80 acres of property across from Tropicana then buys mgm is not the founder of mgm makes it what it is dies at 98 as a billionaire gives a billion dollars to Armenia after the 1988 earthquake, this is all sequencing, man, this is all sequencing, when you look at it, it's all sequencing, yeah, and when you look at it that way, you tend to make better decisions, what was the moment? of your life in which you tried to sequence but it was wrong sequencing and you got bad results and what was the moment when you had the best sequencing in which you really plotted it in your mind this is the sequence in which you did it and I created those results, yes, so there are two answers that I will give you, I will give you both.

One that I tried to sequence to get married at 23 years old. Did you try. It would have been catastrophic. Now I love the girl. Great girl. We have a friendship until today my wife sold him a policy wow I mean we met when we met me and my girl would have a double date with my wife and her boyfriend a very strange story changed changing to changing they should have changed this one but we changed well five Years and a half later, she's single, I'm single, I thought about dating, but at the time I was forcing marriage because you know you're looking at everyone, somehow, everyone's getting married and I think it's my time. and my family. and I'm Armenian, I'm Syrian, someday this might not happen, I'm like, dude, you're not ready, I asked the question, I said would you let your daughter marry you?

I was like, hell no, you asked the question. yourself, I did the I wondered if you would let your daughter marry 24-year-old Pat right now. I said no. I said you're not ready to get married. And we got married with the ring. Everything was planned. You married. You were preparing. I'm getting ready to get married and she wasn't ready. I wasn't ready. It would have been catastrophic for both of us, but that journey of

going

in that direction that set me back three years completely set me back because I was determined to want to. To live a life of other people, I was determined to make the decision that would please the people who want me to get married, but I don't even know what marriage means.

I don't even know the intricacies of marriage. I don't even know if I'm done being single, I don't even know the fear of if I get married, so I still think it's a lot of challenging things and it set me back, like I said, three years, the other part is Lewis, when you say when you did, I did it too where I said this is what I'm going to do, that was maybe a premature decision, but then in that moment, it's fight, flight or freeze, you rise, the occasion rises to the occasion. , yeah, so like when I started a company, I shouldn't have known at the time, ready, I wasn't ready, there's no way I was ready, I had half a million dollars in a bank, I'd been around for seven and a year and average I don't know what it's like to get insurance contracts I don't know what it's like to get eno I don't know what kind of things insurance companies want I don't know what I'm going to face I started it and I went in without knowing anything, no website or product or anything It wasn't the smartest decision one night I came home my wife had a miscarriage it's 1:30 in the morning my bank accounts at 13,000 I have no idea what to do when I say you have no idea I have no idea what to do I came back I said listen you put yourself in this position now it's too late yeah so some people may be watching they are saying well I have to start over my marriage or my business or this and this and that and let me close up shop well no that one either is the case, the case is maybe what is the best thing you can do with the current situation that you have and at that moment you have to make the decision.

Best of all and we made some right moves and we got some, you know, we got some luck and we worked hard and the next thing you know things grew, yeah, from having a few hundred agents to now 15 16,000 agents in 49 state. We didn't expect that, we didn't expect that and I'm not talking about being in a company that has sales people, this is having to hire financial directors to raise money, found, it's very complex without a four-year degree without a two-year degree Finance is very complicated, but somehow it happens, so yes, I would say that sometimes there are many times when the sequence was not correct, but there are times when it was also not correct, but you had to make the best of it.

You did it, yes. I have to make it work and what is the difference between an entrepreneur and an entrepreneur and how do you know if you should be an entrepreneur and an entrepreneur or if you should be an entrepreneur, yes, with a team and a mission that has funds and resources and not everything falls on your shoulders. Yeah, that's a great question, so you know one of the things we talk about in this book, your next five moves, is knowing when you decide how you want to build your wealth and who you want to be.

Okay, so who do you want? I want to be an entrepreneur, I want to be an entrepreneur, I want to be a solopreneur, I want to be a content creator, I want to be an influencer, I want to be an inventor, I want to be an investor, so you, you, figure out what angle you want go and who you want to be and then figure out what you want to do next. You may want to be an entrepreneur, but the next entrepreneur may make sense. So this entrepreneurship movement got a lot of people to become entrepreneurs who should never have become entrepreneurs.

Okay, they should never have become entrepreneurs because they didn't experience the element of being an entrepreneur. An entrepreneur thinks that work is connected. Look at the money. People. Recruit talent. sell sell the dream everything an entrepreneur does is identical to the entrepreneur the only difference between the entrepreneur and the entrepreneurs the entrepreneur puts up the money that's all yes, which means there is nothing else that is different there the same amount of sacrifices what this guy is willing to do this guy is willing to do, he just didn't put the money right, which is a whole different level of sacrifice, a whole different level of pressure, stress, you got it, yeah, and that's one of The reasons why the businessman respects the businessman is like the hidden code.

Listen man, I'm willing to do everything you're doing, but I didn't put any money in at all. I respect you. That's why you're number one. I'm number two. But I salute you. What do we have to do well? there is that element of mutual respect, now the entrepreneur has to be willing to allow an entrepreneur to exist, so for example, the story of bob iger, bob iger starts with abc years ago, a young man coming out doesn't know what what you want to do accidentally. he gets a job, he starts working at abc, then he works his way up and his dream is to be CEO of Disney, then he eventually becomes CEO of Disney, he's CEO of Disney for 15 16 years and he ends up shutting down George Lucas and per star. wars ends up buying marvel ends up buying pixar from steve jobs and ends up buying fox you do these four trends his salary was 67 million dollars a year wow it's not a net salary he was never an entrepreneur right bob eicher was never an entrepreneur clippers Right here, Balmer Balmer is worth 56 57 billion dollars.

He is not a businessman. Wow, he was employee number five or six. Yes, he never was. He was a Microsoft employee. Wow, and finally Paul Allen didn't want to do it anymore. Like he wanted to quit Bill Gates comes and gets the ball, plus bomber takes it to the next level. Bulma now owns the Clippers, so there are a lot of entrepreneurs who started the company and own 100 percent of their business, but they're making 80 grand a year, right? They're making 600 grand a year because they wanted 100 from Control Palmer. Listen, I'm good. Gate started, but I'm worth 58 billion.

Yeah, so the path to what you're solving you don't have to say I have. to be an entrepreneur no, maybe the best option for you is to go looking if you can find a murderer on the way up if you can find a murderer on the way up so you know if you looked at everyone as a stock, let's just Let's say we start looking at everyone as stocks, okay, so you have small cap, mid cap, large cap, what's the difference between small cap, mid cap, large cap? It's a dollar amount, you know, 5 billion minus 5 billion with another and then you have the big cap, you know, all these Disney Walmarts, these are large cap, right, but the key is if you can figure out when They are small cap.

The key is if you are in the PayPal mafia group and you see someone who says that guy is going to start yelling I'm going to make a mistake with that guy that guy is going to start you know tesla uber uber that guy peter thiel I want to go do something with him I don't care if I miss number two or number three I want to go with This guy, you put half a million dollars into Facebook and he's worth a couple billion dollars. This guy is emerging. I want to go like Maverick Carter is someone in the next 20 years.

If you can find a way to run with them, because you're one contact away from Lebron, so if a guy wants to get into the media and let's say he wants to do something in the African American community right away, he figures to go work for Maverick Carter, Your stock will be high in 20 years. right, I mean today is big, but I'm talking very loudly, so if you can make a list of people that you can keep an eye on, it's almost like choosing a husband or a wife, you know, because choosing a husband or a wife there is a risk. factor you go to dinner and you say baby I love you so much you are so beautiful you make my day when I see you I'm like I'm in heaven it's like I don't see anyone else there are only clouds around me and angels, you know, and I see birds when we're together and then the conversation about marriage comes up and your brain turns into a mathematician, all of a sudden like I don't know, I say there's a 72 percent chance we're going to get divorced, but I wanted to take that 28 chance risk. , so there is an element where we are judged by our friends, we are judged by who we marry, we are judged by our girlfriend, our boyfriend, we are judged by our career in the industry, we are also judged by who you decide to lock yourself up with. and run away. as your right hand man or as the person you want to be your right hand man, but if you can't look at people as stocks and you see someone who has a big lead saying to lock them in early, it's going to be a wild ride, right?

When did you find out that your wife was going to be your wife and what did you see in her that made you say this will be my next step in this area of ​​my life? That's a great question, so, for the five and a half years that we weren't together all the friends I had I set her up on a double date each friend I would say friend go ask her out wow she's a wife you said you wanted a wife see to ask her out, do you think? so you think she would be interested in calling her call her go talk to her everyone I would say go talk to her why tag hello good calm temperament very tolerant accommodating but disciplined hardworking has his own identity not easy to convince strong but at the same time She's so gentle to be around her now so I originally thought I wanted to marry myself so I ended up dating someone who was me we were both pounds okay she was my ex boss and we almost killed each other I mean I would do.

If she had been one of us she would have been dead because she was like fire against fire and she is very competitive and we were going crazy and then one day I sat down and read this book 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged. and this book that I read I went through all these things and I was like wait a minute who I thought I wanted as a wife isn't really a wife who I wanted as a wife these are the 18 things I can'twe're having a debate about sports I'm mad you're mad at me we can go six weeks without talking that's cool you can't do that you'll see her that night yeah and you're lying in the same bed you don't end up in the same bed with your best friend , you know, with your ass, well, like, hey bro, how you doing? bro, you're good, that's not how it works, it's very difficult, yes, very complex, so you know, this is what I say, man, just don't marry numbers that start with two, take your time and let when do the married things, do it. with the number three especially men more than women look when I never did the number two or three don't do it 28 years 27 years oh I started with a 3 33 38 39 34 not two and the other part is also like I have never been, I have never been single on Tinder, I have no idea what it's like to have access to Tinder, you know, or it would have been bad news for me, that's what I'm saying, terrible, that's the point, but that's what's available today, Yeah.

So if that is available today, it is a waste of time, not only a waste of time, but even bigger than that. You know that you are really going to go through a lot and today you know that sex is not what it used to be because sex is very easy. today is not intimate it's not bad you know you feel like we have to go and say hey what's your name hey do you know this hey can I buy you this message someone let me yes dm hey you put an emoji that you don't even need Say anything, the emoji describes everything everything else correctly and then it's like, oh, you have a girl here, a girl here, a boy here, a boy there and it's on both sides, so now the value of that goes, so you almost have to get it out of your system and then you say you know what I'm so exhausted I'm sober I'm fine my dad said this and this may be bad advice but this is my dad he said he said go out and be with all kinds of women you want in every place to do all the crazy things that want to do get it out of your system and then think about marriage again don't blame me for this send a message to my dad gabriel 42 is his username on instagram but he said this but his point was that temptation never goes away and if you win in life you will have more opportunities, more things will come up, you have a chance to be wrong, but he is just trying to say no Did you ever want to be the person you were a geek in high school, you were a nobody, you only dated one girl and then you meet this girl, you marry her and then at 38 you're a hotshot lawyer making 600 grand here. and everyone knows youI know you have a million options, but you got married at 25, you couldn't have waited until you were 34 to experience what it's like to be an attractive guy and then you get married, wait until the attractiveness phase, so it's there, I think someone said, uh. a mutual friend of ours that you know, I won't say his name here, but he said that you are only as loyal as your level of options.

He says if your options are low then you will be quite loyal to that person but then when the options become wow look at all these options you have to be very loyal and committed it's not easy very hard today yeah everyone can act tough and say, well, you know you have to be, you have to do this and you have to do that, no, we. I have one of our guys who went through a bad marriage, okay, a really bad breakup they had. I got calls and everyone said, did you hear what about what he did and what he did?

I can't believe he did this. Know? I did that part and the whole story was that there was another girl in the picture but he was married, okay, so the guys who were talking a lot, I said, I want you to come to my house, they said, well, I want to talk to you. today come to my house right now you came to my house okay come on squash guys we are going to do a project together so we went outside I said everyone lined up by the pool everyone lined up by the pool so you all lined up ready let's go play a game and I'm going to see who wins this one, so okay, we're ready, we're a very competitive environment, are you ready, are you ready, are you, I'm ready, come on, okay, so here's the game, what is it Let's see who can cross the water the fastest?

Come on, go ahead, ready, at three, everyone cross, walk on the water, crossing the pool to the other side, but at three, you, ready, one, two, go ahead, I said what happened, oh, you can. Don't walk on water, I got it, so if you can't walk on water, don't judge someone else's mistake, yeah, learn from it, try to find a way to respect them and move on, yeah, if they decide not to. they can continue. because a mistake is so painful for them, that's their business, you do everything you can to support them, because one day when it's your turn to make a mistake, you'll make sure the world doesn't want to judge you that way. you judge everyone else, so be patient with what you are doing.

I want to ask you the final question. This has been really inspiring and powerful. Before we ask you, where can we follow you and on social media? I have an amazing YouTube, an amazing Instagram, where do you like to spend the most time? Yeah, probably if you message me on Twitter, I'll most likely respond on Twitter. Uh, YouTube, if you go to Valuetainment you'll see the content that's there and then. The website you should go to is yournextfivemoves.com and if you buy one copy right now, we'll send you a chapter to read from the book and if you buy three copies, we'll send you a one hour strategy that I put together on four different uh. strategies on what to do in 2020 after the pandemic, but yes, you can go to Amazon and buy the book, you can go to Barnes and Noble, buy the book, your next five moves and once you read it, I can't wait to listen to your opinion. what will be your next five moves absolutely yes, this question is called the three truths.

I ask everyone at the end imagine that you have achieved all the dreams you can imagine and that it is your last day on earth many years from now and that's it. It comes true, but you have to take all your work with you, all your words, your videos, your audios, it will go to the next place wherever you go, hopefully you will reach that heavenly place and you will be able to share three things with the world, just three things . these three things that you know are true in the world that you have learned these three lessons what would be your three truths that you would share three truths truths to share for me to share with the world like these lessons but they would have nothing else from you there is no other content nothing more number one learn to process problems learn to process problems not only to solve problems learn to process problems because if you learn to process problems you will make better decisions as a husband and as a wife father as a business owner, as a leader and any processing problems.

The second thing I would say is find a spiritual way for myself. You know, I have a unique relationship with the man above and he has played a very, very important role. In my life, you have to realize that I'm not the guy that is uh uh, I'm the skeptical believer, but I'm someone who's had too many miracles happen in my life to know that without God and a man above, I would. I won't be where I am today and I'm not just saying that I'm not someone who talks a lot about God. You don't see me talk much about my faith, but you ask me what's the last thing I can say. would be number two would be whatever you believe in, find your own truth when it comes to your faith and then practice it, practice it because it will give you a different kind of strength that all the money in the world can't give you, it's very It is important that when you make decisions you are at peace with many of your decisions because the moment you feel anxiety and panic you will not enjoy life too much and then you will know the last thing. you go make money any way you can set the money aside for yourself, set the money aside for your husband, your wife, your children and then find a way to contribute to public service, whether it's through charity or politics, but do it.

Last part, if you have no desire to be involved in politics like your father, it sounds like you would have been great at politics, by the way, go into public service mayor congress senate governor participation advisor or meet the clergy at a non-profit clergy church profit find a way to pay it back after you've prepared yourself financially so you don't have to worry about it, yeah, that's powerful. I want to recognize you, Patrick, for the way you've shown up your whole life and how you're constantly growing, constantly improving. and caring about people first, that's what I see most in you just before we start, you made a little video, you remind me a lot of myself because you made a little video, send it to Robert Greene, just say, hey, we're thinking about you.

That's what I do all day and just know that your GPA does not determine your self-esteem and your worth, and what it takes for you to grow does not determine what I recognize in you and how you present yourself to other people. and how you think deeply about how other people can grow and be better human beings, so I give you credit for that and you have no ego, you have a little bit of ego, but you don't really have much of an ego because you're always willing to learn. And see if there's a better way to improve, which I think is the way we should all be.

It's like how can I always learn? Even if I think I know, I'll still ask people you know who are better than me. Yeah. what I have to do to get to the next place, so I really recognize that in you I appreciate that I think everyone should get this book. It will be really powerful for people to read it. My last question is what is your definition of greatness? alignment is pure alignment uh if I'm aligned with my values ​​and principles and my goals and dreams and those two are aligned I'm the happiest and most fulfilled person alive it's when you're not aligned when you're miserable yeah when once we We're in Hawaii, uh , my wife and I went back to the room and then I said, baby, we have to decide what values ​​and principles we want to build a life on, this is before we have kids, so we went through, we made a list of 43 of them, that's it well of these 43, you can't have all of these 43 right, you have it, you have to choose some of them, so you have to eliminate some and you know our family, the David family, which we lead in every possible situation.

We respect people because you can learn something from everyone, we improve because it is the only thing that will give you peace of mind knowing that as long as you improve, everything will be fine and then we love it because everyone has a problem. dealing with the four things we pray for is courage wisdom tolerance understanding then courage because if you are ever going to do something great you will face enemies that you will be afraid of, you will have to have courage wisdom if you are going to lead people greater than you need have wisdom to be able to lead them tolerance to be able to deal with annoying people and understanding to know that everyone has a different story and then we don't bully them, but they don't harass us either, so once you have your values ​​and principles and they are aligned with your way of life live, you are good if you don't panic, anxiety, depression, repent of misery and everything is an act, everything is an Act so the most important thing when it comes to greatness is alignment and that is why in the book, when you ask me what the first step is, who do you want to be once you are aligned with who you want to be in the life you want? to live you start to enjoy this when you don't like it just like time has passed you're not enjoying it relationships are fake a lot of things are fake so alignment is number one on my list yeah that's my man

patrick

thank you Man, yeah, I appreciate it, if you want to learn how to make more money and master money in your life, watch this video here.

It was when I made the biggest mistakes in my life, when I was desperate and the few times that happened. I was greedy and I thought, Oh, I'm going to get in there and that will be easy money. What was that easy money? Can you share a story of one of those greedy moments when you tried to jump and yes?