The Divorce Rules for Men

Hello, I'm Attorney Frank Morris. I have been trying and winning

divorce

and family law cases for over 35 years. Over those 35 years, I have developed several

rules

that help my clients win. Rule number one of

divorce

, if you will, keep it that way. is my favorite rule if you want the family home don't move out voluntarily if you want custody stay with the kids if you want a particular item like my Harley take it with you when you leave the family home or if she leaves the family home her treasures in a safe place where she cannot grab them on the way out, it is much easier for your attorney to argue that you keep the items that are in your possession than it is for your attorney to argue that you take them from her and give them to her.

For him, early temporary possession has a habit of turning into permanent possession, so if you want it, keep it from day one, rule number two of divorce, don't waste time when you are with your lawyer, the talk costs the same per minute than good legal advice. You are not there to make a new friend or tell your life story, you are there to get quality legal advice on how to survive this divorce and how to control your losses whether your first visit with the divorce lawyer is for general information or to learn. your rights or to learn the procedure be prepared and be concise don't just ramble make a list of your questions and concerns before you go and when you feel ready to begin the divorce or respond to the divorce your wife has initiated you should consider everything the problems you will face during the divorce make a list of your questions your problems your concerns make a list of what is most important to you and carry a list of your assets and debts prepare for a productive business conference concisely state the problems in your divorce and clearly state what you want to tell the lawyer your priorities and concerns make sure the lawyers listen to you and make sure you are listening to the lawyer this is a business meeting take notes lawyers are expensive we charge by the minute , so don't waste those minutes and make the most of every dollar you spend.

Don't waste time when meeting with your attorney. It costs too much. Be prepared. Be concise and stay on topic. It will save you money. and get the best results, rule number three of divorce, think and plan both to get married and get divorced or get divorced or think expensive before doing it, whether when you think about starting your divorce or when you respond to your wife taking care of you, make a plan, act, don't react, think about all the aspects that will be involved in your divorce where you will live who should have custody of the children what is a reasonable visitation plan what support is fair research your retirement prepare a property and debt division list think and plan decide what is most important important to you and prioritize you can't win everything you want on each issue decide which issues are non-negotiable for you but also decide what you want but would be willing to compromise think about your spouse's priorities, What will he commit to but what will he fight for? sit down and write out your position on each issue make a detailed list of all your property and assets and all your debts be thorough then make what you think is a fair division, not absolutely everything you want, but a reasonable division with the which a fair person would agree.

Usually that is the most you will get, so start from there, the better prepared you are, the better result you will get. Divorce rule number four. Introduce the person initiating the divorce first by filing the petition with the court and having the document. given to your spouse is called a petitioner Many people are reluctant to pursue a divorce, but there are advantages to being the petitioner Your divorce petition and your motion for temporary orders frame the issues for your divorce You state your position on each issue first the court reads your documents first your lawyer speaks first you tell your side first and set the schedule for hearings your wife is stuck catching up on the issues you fear and on her schedule filing first is not a piece of cake but it does give you the upper hand it costs up divorce rule number five temporary orders become permanent do not believe anyone who tells you that the initial temporary orders in your divorce are only temporary and are not important temporary orders have a habit of becoming permanent orders if you lose in the first round Why are you going to win in the second round?

If you lose in the first round, then you have to convince the judge that he made a mistake in the first round. He must change his mind and now give you what you want. That's not a good position to be in, it's smarter. prepare thoroughly for the initial hearing and accomplish everything you can in those initial temporary orders prepare for the temporary hearing as if it were the final hearing because it may be the end result it is easier to defend a victory than to recover from a loss divorce rule number six Don Don't tell your wife what you don't want repeated to the judge.

Anything you say to your soon-to-be ex-spouse during the divorce can be used against you as evidence during and after the divorce. Think before you talk. just walk away or hang up words taken out of context can look very bad when repeated in court never write an email or letter to your wife that you don't want the judge to read think about what you post on Facebook and other social media, it's all evidence that can be used against you during your divorce or during the modification, so do not give them hostile evidence to use against you. Divorce rule number seven lead the life you say you lead, your actions and conduct during the divorce must match what your attorney is telling the court what he is doing and what he wants.

Don't tell the court one thing and then do another if you want custody or equal time with your children. Commit to spending that time with your children. Now available. Do not miss. visits don't even be late for visits and then ask the court for custody or more visits if you say you can't pay all the claims your wife wants don't buy a new car or go on vacation to Las Vegas during the divorce your style of Your life and conduct should match your divorce allegations Your wife will be more than happy to show the judge how what you say in court doesn't match what you actually do Your lifestyle is your best evidence during divorce Your rule number Divorce Eight Don't Lie Now It sounds simple enough but it can be difficult when pressures, money and custody are at stake.

It's tempting to bend the truth, but don't do it. Do not lie. The lies come back to bite you. The truth is out there. The truth will come out once. the court knows you lied about one fact, they won't believe you when you tell the truth about other facts, by trying to twist the truth a little in your favor you will give your wife absolute credibility in the courtroom, don't help her. defeat yourself face the truth and face the situation head on, in the end it will turn out better for you rule number nine of divorce let it go once the divorce is final move on leave the divorce behind let it go you have lost what you have lost and you have gained what you want.

You're not going to change the outcome by beating him to death. You have a great life to live, so live divorce rule number 10. Keep it to yourself after the divorce. Your mouth is the best source of information on why your ex-wife should receive more child support or increase and extend her alimony if she gets a raise a promotion a gift and an inheritance or wins the lottery keep that information to yourself brag about your good fortune will result in you By sharing that good fortune with your ex-wife during the divorce process, you had to truthfully disclose data about your income and employment.

Now that you are divorced, there is no rule that tells you that you have to keep your ex-wife updated on her successes and good fortune. She will want to share that good fortune, so keep it to yourself and you may be able to keep it. Divorce rule number 11. Think before remarrying. This rule may not be popular with some of my fellow divorce attorneys, but it is a good rule for you. You just paid a huge emotional and financial price to get divorced. Don't jump into another marriage without giving it a lot of thought. Most quick rebound marriages fail.

Think about why your last marriage failed. Think about why this new relationship will work when the old one didn't. Wait to remarry until you are sure you are the right partner for the entire time, believe it or not, most good divorce lawyers don't want to see you for another divorce, we would rather you move on with a happy and prosperous life .