Tameka "Tiny" Harris & T.I. Break Down The Keys Of A Successful Marriage | expediTIously Podc

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Now we all know that it is not easy to talk about

marriage

and relationships, especially when talking about it with the opposite sex. That being said, I've decided to do a topical episode. relationships in

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, however, this is not an attempt to give you the same fair and unicorn approach to marriage, but rather to have an authentic, no-holds-barred discussion about hmm, does everyone want to know? I have not been one to shy away from critical topics I thought what better platform to have this discussion than my new

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ast and who better to have it than my life partner my marital other side Miss Tamika Harris you guys call a little What's going on, what's going on , dear?

Ok, today we are here to give you the juice. You know what I'm saying? We have a lot of guys who want to know why they should bother in the first place and a lot of girls who want to. to know why I didn't get married or someone wouldn't know why they should bother in the first place, well, I think you already know that you get to keep half your sheep, so let's have a nice private conversation just between the two of us. and everyone else listening huh, but you said that like the woman or the woman doesn't make money.

I'm trying to say that but you said this happened to me what a day but the traditions you know now that we are say yeah there's lightning in the bottle now you know lightning in a bottle there's a unicorn you're talking about Wendy's situation Williams when us husband is probably the only one walking? we would do half of anything listen beautiful take your drink okay all I like to drink all this yeah look that's what got you married let there be a lesson for you ladies you know many many ladies. I mean, right now I agree that right now, they even say somewhere that they are the happiest. group of people, a single black professional woman, well, I wanted to talk about that, okay, and I think they said because you know black women are so educated,

successful

, focused and motivated that right now they just don't have time for anymore.

You know what I'm saying, that's what they did, so it's a lot to take and when you're black, single, a man and you're doing your thing, you run, yeah, and we'd like to. to be in charge yes, I like to be in charge, okay, what we do we like a man to take charge to see now you have to make yourself matter no, you can have, you have to be angry no, I think everyone I think the The The goal of marriage is to develop a team, yes, and do more with the team than you could individually, of course, to have a team you must have roles, responsibilities and you know people must have real purposes and understand. purposes and played a position if you had everyone on the team trying to do everything the other person does then that is an ineffective team so yeah I think a lot of men are afraid I must say they are afraid of developing a equipment. with someone who doesn't want to be a team player, play well, that is, if you want that team player to be, take less important paths because sometimes you can find a player who you know is capable of doing some of the mm-hmm things that You know, they're great now, how come he couldn't have been like that for me?

He wanted to do something that the woman was like, what if you know what I'm saying? Yeah, why don't we make it gender specific, okay? think well, but now we are not well and that is another thing, we will not dwell on old issues, people listen, you know, let's deal with it and let's forget it in unison, let's forgive and move towards the future with a better mutual understanding, yes, for evolve appropriately beforehand. especially as a team, I think a lot of people would say hmm, how can I say it now? I want you to remember that this is a no-judgement zone, you know what I'm saying, so don't judge us and we won't judge you now. that's for the listener, okay, so let's kick something real, you know, I mean, is there anything that's off limits to you?

Is there anything that is obvious? A horrible name is, you know, saying anything you think we shouldn't talk about. It's not good for me either, so first question, how about we tell the world how absolutely fabulous it has been to be married to such a small, elegant, wonderful man? Now I'm thinking I'm joking, but I can't tell everyone what my best self is like. spending the last nine years with such a tolerant woman, I will say she is very tolerant, not very patient, but she is very tolerant and accepting that I am in my transition, I will say that and that is important because a lot of women will.

It doesn't mean coming ready, they wanted to come ready in the county. You've got to give a man some time to shake off the rust. Don't you think that's true? But I think a strong woman can also help you. help with that process like help influence by not trying to influence just by being cool are you talking about my running game? Not only has it been great at being great at what you do and making him want to change without forcing him to do it man, you know what they say? None is a betrayal, but the triple betrayal Ness, she said, you know, say I'm making him want to change what you want him to change without telling him you want him to change you, yeah, Jedi mind trick, you should do that to me , OK?

Man, that was a really trick question, you know? So I wanted to see how eager you would be to share the truth with people, obviously you want to keep it to yourself, so let's start with a basic question, tell me your understanding because you grew up. You know with your mom and your dad and how they got married, you know what I'm saying and then you grew up around marriage around marriage and you have first hand examples for her to tell me and the rest of the people that they listen. your opinion, why did people used to get married?

I mean, I think people got married because they were just in love, you know, I think it was more about love in the past, you know, because they had a lot of fighting game stuff going on, you know? talking about my mother and father, they would increase the fight against racial issues, you know, racial issues, yes, being an interracial couple, yes, and you know he was a black man, she, a white woman, you know they took into the '60s, they had difficulties, you know, he was becoming closeted because he travels with a white woman, yes, he did, mr.

Speed ​​to me is like a guy too cool to go to jail yeah yeah you're right he didn't stay there for long so in your opinion I'm sorry you want to

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up no and that's what that was coming. That's what I was getting at because from then until now, why do you think people get married today? Well, I don't know, but I'll tell you that I would never forget, you know, when he was about 16 or 15 years old. No, Joyce Candy's mother told me not to marry her for love. Mary, what did she say? Oh, security, security, yeah, and I didn't understand that at the time, but I think she, you see, no one had that conversation with me, look at me and this is.

The first thing to do is to see that women are being trained and conditioned since they were children, you understand what I'm saying, said this young girl at 15 years old. Oh, like an old G, you understand that Oh G gave her the game and you say, listen here, young lady, you're going to fall in love, but forget that you know you marry for security and lifestyle and your will and your way of life never did it for you now, you know, I was lucky enough to be able to have both mm oh, you're a word wizard, okay? so you say you were able to do both, yeah, okay man, I'm happy that I was able to provide a diverse marriage platform for you now.

Do you want to marry with money? Do you think I have never married without money? Okay, no, no, but you know, going back to what you were starting to say about black women. I was told that women are more

successful

than their men. I am happier. Okay, you say you heard, yeah. I could see how it is possible. It was the same article I mentioned before. Yeah, they said they're women who are getting married now, you know, because of their success and they don't want anything or anyone to impede their progress, you know, you understand, so you know, very successful women.

Usually a very successful woman. would take the time to try to find somewhere as successful or more successful than her, so you know, I'm saying she wouldn't be the breadwinner, but now it's like women feel a lot more comfortable being the breadwinner. the family. and you know, and carrying the load and, like me, you know, you know, trying to please women, we're trying a kind of role reversal now, we're not trying anything, we're just doing what we do best, ya You know, what is it about improving, choose one and you will see. You know, by showing them I tell them that we give our stuff, I'm telling you, you know the world and let everyone see how talented we are.

I mean, that's wonderful because you know, of course, that we're both creative and you know that we both have talents and ambitions. that's great, but let's talk about when it's like you wouldn't like you wouldn't sacrifice like a great opportunity or a great job or occupation but but like for love what this is what I was saying you know women who get married It seems like it's for love because no, It's for convenience, no, it could be for love, because friends, I have friends who want to be with and who have no influence so I can destroy them, damn it, when I tell you to take it. take out the trash take out the damn trash that's that's an advantage they also intend to put them in position to be very powerful what you mean put women to put bad women who get married sometimes they put their man in position to be so powerful he dominated that woman, right, but they were powerful, so yeah, okay, I got it, but that's speaking from that man's perspective, like why would he enjoy it, he enjoys it because she gives him a certain level of power and influence that he hadn't had before, but what does she enjoy?

She enjoys love and attention to affection. You know, they serve her because she's making things happen by making things happen as a result of good sex. You know, whatever it is, it can be something secondary. mmm, I'm not saying that the woman who has the fallen mare doesn't do anything because she still runs, she still likes the breadwinner of the family that she runs, she can come home, he cooks for you, he has sex with you and he does everything here , you six, make sure you see that's the thing, make sure you please when you are, you know, you can't ration it, still tell me what you're going to give anyone because you know what your sex box is, guys, and then I, The rest is mine, you know? saying that we could divide in the middle little what they called it the one that is the one that you see look at the uvula, yes, yes, that is the life well, so we have the clitoris the labia and it is the UV that is the uvula you you have, I can't remember damn anatomy, but what I'm saying is that it's half a mass, yes, but a woman, don't let you know about my habits inside, I don't even have sex anymore, a lot Shh, well. that's a bad deal they make and that's crazy to me, that's what I'm talking about, you know, because those are one of the things you should always want to do for your man, we can't just talk about your man and yourself . what I'm saying many times the man you know they wake up like this they go to sleep you know willing you didn't sign a verbal contract we've had a verbal commitment now so you have witnesses it's a priest here we and we have a verbal commitment that how about a bourbon , get engaged, is it still standing when you left town and I won't and I can't get it?

Which brings us to the next topic. Your speech is too clear and concise, please, thank you. being very drunk is imminent, I mean, I've always heard this as an idea, you know, people always tell me this, especially, you know, I'm saying that young guys who are considering getting married are in relationships and girls want to get married. and you know, they always asked me how we do it, you know, I'm specifically saying how I do it, you know, they might want the male perspective and think that now it's easier for the rich to get married when the money barrier is removed and success you can move without however you will not steal I know it's not true for me you know I like to believe that when both parties can move freely they are only together because they want to be it is that true that is true if you could do anything you wanted, where I could do anything I would like in the world, but we choose to be together.

It's not because you need me because I'm providing you with a certain lifestyle. I need you because you provide me with a certain lifestyle. It's because we make a conscious decision that this is where I want to be and what I want to do. I agree with that, I think those are the healthiest relationships, but I think you also know that in relationships they don't have a lot of money, but they probablyherself, first of all, if he put her in a position, herself, me, she said no, no, no, see how it works if you know he put her in a position.

I don't know whose man it is, but I'm just saying at the same time, I don't know if I don't see them together at the same time, I know she's doing her thing, shouts the future, the chief captain of the city boys, yeah, and he's definitely leading the town boys to a It's a miraculous victory. I want you to tell me what I should do to find the right man. What's happening? Damn, God, take off the jumpsuit, I have no idea, look at this, yeah, it has the right look. She was denied makeup. She really she would.

I'm really going to be with you, man, just because it's fun to do something so simple for comedy, but I will say that I think you can have any man you want, but I will draw your attention to the fact that I know it's true, you find what you're looking for. You're looking for it as soon as you stop looking ahead I believe it, okay, I accept that I'm approachable too, thank you secondly mmm-hmm, you squeeze the soap to squeeze the shower slider in your hand, so you're right, don't squeeze him too much.because love is about freedom, like you should be able to feel it's freedom, is it possible that he came to you and you overlooked him and you just didn't like the guy for a long time?

What I saw was weird, what I saw, is there a Many women have the right standards, they make friends with people like you, you have to have that chemistry with that person, it's like the chemistry is that special part because you can be compatible with a lot people and being friends with a lot of people, but it's that chemistry that keeps that spark if your friends are anyone that means you don't have that, whatever makes you go, you know how many women I've met that will marry me in four decades to say you know what when he first approached.

I didn't like him at all I didn't feel anything I didn't think he would be the one who would be mayor for 30 years but they didn't know they didn't know them so you play in the friendzone um you never get to know them sometimes you can be friends and turn them into lovers you know what I say sometimes you know you become friends no, we start you have to do it why don't we tell each other how we met? you at the Mouser, yes, you met me at the mother, guess what, but guess what?, I had been you for quite a while, please, I saw you once, I was a child, no, I don't see, what you think, what you think, I was a no, now I'll probably do it wrong.

You were 15 16 when I first saw AJ's face in the studio, yes 17 18 no, you were growing hair that wasn't even rounded at the time. I didn't get into the game until I was 18 19. So when he dresses me, how about 18 19? No, yes, yes, like there wasn't even a known time at the time you were talking to you. He was 15 years old. Oh, you could have worked with him, but not in the building where I saw him? you the building I saw you at Kings plow okay when Jazze PHA noni yo zi mace y'all had Louisville audio rated at noon yeah Hicks that was in 2000 2000 yeah by 99 2000 I had 19 18 something like that and I tried to be with you.

They were really paying me, no, never, man, I don't know if it was my '85 suburban or you know the feeling with the big Desert Eagle that I had hanging on my backpack, you know, it's not that easy. I went to the mall with the eagle that in the car when I was in the mountain, my studio, okay, I was definitely in a relationship, you're definitely in a relationship, man, I mean, this is the thing, okay, now which one? It's the best time you remember having around me and you were hoping that maybe I would be honest with you, you know my memories are selective and moving.

I don't remember there being many good times. I will say there have been a lot of good times for me, I'll just pick one. I don't know, yeah. Can you think about that, I mean, when one time at the dentist's office dinner that was a great time, hey man, in life gone D, I was corn and then I was going to clean your teeth and get you real clean I'll say goodbye to all of you, man? It's been lovely to have my life and kiss partner, you guys by the way love y'all's relationship, love to see y'all appreciate and from time to time cuz you came in quickly Deena yes you guys are rooting for y'all man thank you , you understand, I hope today. that everyone has good advice about being married, you know no, it's not about being married, about finding the person you intended to be married to, but that's the end goal, once you get married, like you're over the most. of the hardest part, actually, getting into the mindset and mentality, developing the mindset of "I'm going to get married and be with the person," done once you've gotten over, come, once, go, yeah, you know, say that's like once you locked yourself in. above, you are not, yes, yes, they are the most difficult part, you have to surrender, yes, yes, I mean, it is very easy to reach their age, so I think if any of our experiences can be useful for you. guys and can help you out to dinner or other people who are single and long for company, like you're doing, you know I haven't been married since you, right, you know you're people who stay married to Stanbury, it's very difficult stay there It's very difficult, but look man, just look at what your Instagram is Deena, it's Miss Marta M is SMA RTO and only serious consultations will do what they really say they are going to do well, that was a call to all the fools who all They need to pick their own, yeah, absolutely so you can live or die with your decision, so y'all, man, they're phenomenal.

I appreciate you coming back sometime. I'll do it, we can have you, okay, I'll have you in the back seat of his car, so yeah, that's been it. been lovely, I like to thank my house where Ace Man represents Memphis, it's always a pleasure to see them because I know we could have such a safe father, I always feel so safe, AJ, when I go to the hotel room, a new area , okay, me and they support them love them you know you don't come around enough was that the word oh you mean the word of the week we did before you even got here what was it let us know okay next to adidas that's in love with love in love being in love madly in love with hopelessly in love obsessed with passionate consumed by the desire for well you understand I want the mistakes the lowest point of your relationship you must feel a certain sensation of next door you had to reach into something people say says They say go deeper into the good we talk about the definition of it's not okay in your marriage vows don't do this the branches come out to the Bible, right man, here's the guts, they take out the Bible correctly and they say the vows come with respect the vows come out to the Bible, okay?, are you a Christian, yes, Christian, yes, are you a Christian?, yes, okay, so in Christianity we have been taught that the Word of God is eternal, it is like that, no, yes , no, today, no, and yesterday.

Okay, so if the Word of God is getting less and less high, can you look in this Bible and change the words in this Bible that are supposed to be words of God so that they fit the branches that are on the bow? No, it doesn't disappear, but that's not the case. my point my point is that the woman must obey my point is that if we go by the Bible and the Bible says that the Word of God is eternal and Christians and all of us as Christians are supposed to believe that, how can you go and change the eternal Word of God and hope that you feel that that is true.

Yes, you feel it every time you see it. Thank you. We're about to leave the building before they quickly turn off the lights.