T.D. Jakes on Powerful Leadership Advice

I'm excited to have this opportunity to spend a little bit of time talking to you, really in my particular session I want to tie into something that I think is very, very important when it comes to success and particularly when it comes to

leadership

that believe. It's going to be beneficial for you, I think my host for the invitation to bring me here and I hope to spend a few good minutes with you challenging you. The funny thing is that I want to talk to you about change and the One thing you can count on is that there will always be change and if you don't plan for change as a leader, that will determine your success, whether it's good or bad change, there will always be change and, In general, there will be. be both throughout longevity, most people never have a straight uphill trip even though their gut says so.

How many of you know that the biography is alive if you didn't have everything in it? The resume only has the good things that if The tastes of pizza do not tell you about the brave achievements that tell you about the failures, but learn as much from your failures as from your successes. I think one of the hardest things that can happen to people in

leadership

is that you didn't grow into leadership and that you didn't grow because you don't know where the problems are. There's something about being on the trajectory yourself and getting on the roller coaster and riding the wave that makes a big difference and When you think about it, this relates to leadership.

Think about it this way. Often when we select leaders or we want to evaluate people or we want to hire staff, we quickly want to know about their IQ, what school they went to, what their background is. We're trying to find out in a nice way if you're smart, okay? you monitor how long it's best for you to do it the bottom line is we found out you know, I'm hiring a mini we just don't want to be so rude but that's actually what we want to know we want to know about your IQ your intellectual ability the intellectualism quotient that you have to handle in many situations depending on your IQ.

The second thing we really need to ask and we don't really know until we get into this is me and your EQ hoodie. I'm not talking about something you do in your music, I'm talking about your emotional quotient, your range of emotions and how you handle stress and pressure because a lot of times you can have people on your team and on your side who have the intellectual capacity to do it. what you're trying to get them to do, but they don't have the emotional wherewithal and you don't know until you get on the ride. It's like me, I look like a man, you know, I think I look like a man quite a bit. strong macho boy and I am until you put me on a ride on six legs I mean I turned into a five year old girl in the right eye I don't go on those rides for anything at any time because I don't want someone to see me act like that and I start to cling to whoever it is.

It's a bad thing when you're hanging out with a girl and you're holding on to the pain that I'm no good. going up is going down that drives me crazy what you want to know is can you handle the going down you become a different person when when things start to go crazy you have the emotional maturity the emotional quotient EQ to go through the ups and downs and the low points of what It takes it to be successful because if you are going to be successful you learn from the lows how to navigate the highs so if you can't go down you can't go up you have to have the emotional wherewithal to take the journey and be comfortable and maintain calmness in a crisis don't lose your head don't get scared even if you want you can do it on the inside you could be like a six year old child who screams old lady on the inside but on the outside you have to stay calm because there is nothing as scary as a scared leader it's scary I don't know anything about flying an airplane but this is how I evaluate problems in the airplane.

I've gotten used to the turbulence. I have flown all over the world. I've been to everything that rises in the air. I rode it and I don't get nervous until people get nervous when they leave campus. cabin like right away I don't even have to get a report I don't have to know what's going on, I just pat if they're cool, you know, and I say there's going to be a little turbulence, buckle your seat, but like Also, it's cool that someone transmits a message to you with panic, fear and terror. You don't even have to know the details, you're just free.

That's what happens when you hire someone who has Accu but doesn't have the ability to do it. drive the ride who goes crazy under pressure who starts yelling at the staff who starts yelling at the employees and they just crumble under pressure so you want to make sure they have a good IQ you want to make sure they have a good signal but here it is what is the most important thing and there is no test for them and we never talk about aq you have heard people talk about IQ and you hear people talk about EQ you don't hear people talk about AQ AQ is your adaptability closer are you adaptable?

How do you respond to change? My class is supposed to deal with the ability to lead people, whether to turn around unprecedented growth or unexpected setbacks, is the most important thing you need to have to be an effective leader today when you hire someone. or you move into a position or you open a company or you start a business, it's a lot like getting married, it comes with this big caveat and I in my other job, that's what I do, dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to join together in the most sacred state of marriage this man and this woman and we start asking them the questions so that they realize the question I should warn you I know that she looks beautiful today and everything is wonderful he is smiling well he just came from the barbershop and he smells like liniment or something like that I did everything very well today, but do you take this woman as your legitimate wife to have and support?

And then we began to have in the hallways good to show the crane that they were shaking to be richer, for better or for worse in sickness and in health and you know what we do we tell you we say you do you and you say I do what you say I tell you I do something you've never seen because if you haven't spent time with them you don't know how to act sick, I can deal with your illness, but I didn't know you became hateful when you got sick. You know, I didn't know that when we go broke, you'll panic and move out and go back to your mom. for better for worse richer for poorer and that's why I say yes in some blank circumstances and I'll spend the next 20 years trying to figure out what I do and that's a lot like starting a business if that looks a lot like this success that is It's Much like hiring people, you get a kind of flow, we say: and they say: I'll do it?

I don't know what the biggest challenge is. I have been the majority. I have been a base and have almost been homeless. I know what it takes to stay in penthouse suites and caviar, which is disgusting and I guess because I grew up on poor people's food. I never developed an appetite for rich people's food, but it wasn't unpleasant to me, so I've been a basic guy. I've lived on both sides of the track and let me tell you, I'm not sure which is the bigger challenge, the rodeo or the downhill, because success can be just as discouraging as failure, it can throw you off balance if you can't adapt quickly enough, it you will lose, you may have more opportunities than you have. having infrastructure a blessing is not a blessing if you can't handle it so do you have the adaptability in your plan for what you are preparing to do next?

Do you have the ability to adapt to being better, worse, rich or poor? I'm getting ready to come here and get dressed. I'm upstairs in my closet, getting dressed, you know, and they're spearheading this. One of those infomercials came out this morning and they were talking about these new belts and they said that the belts are designed that you had 36 options as far as the hole every inch and they said that if you eat too much and you gain weight, you lose weight, the belt just fits and I start laughing because if I could have done it right, then I want to bring it. with me because you ever ate one of those bills that made you wish you had another hole in here so you could breathe, you know that's one way to go up, it will go up if you don't have the expansion joint in your strategy that fits to win you might be praying to earn something you can't handle if you get it if you hire people for where you are, you wasted money if they can't go where you're going, are you following what I'm saying? having that adaptability to be able to move from one state to another and when things get tough, what you need as a leader and as a thinker is not just success to get there, but success. to stay there sustainability most people in a session like this lack sustainability so like dogs chasing cars how many of you have ever seen the dog take on a car? flying down the road, the car is going to talk to you about dogs like that and maybe I'll get lucky and get caught by a car at a red light or something, but there's one thing the dog never considered.

Can't. get dressed, you may be chasing something that you can't execute, it's not just about achieving its sustainability, after you get there, get here, get invited, get invigorated and motivated, I'm going to go out and get it. I don't care what color blue is until you listen, so you try to make faces in the mirror, get things ready, go get it, get it, get it, but can you execute it after you get it? What gives people comfort in leadership is when there is a commitment to stability in the midst of fluctuations, then the only thing that needs to be stable on your path to success is you and if you are not a person who can be stable in the road, you shouldn't get in the car stability amidst fluctuations is quite important in essence, that's what I'm trying to convey to you, so what do you do when there's bad news?

The best thing to do with bad news is to convey a clear, precise and concise message. a clear, precise and concise message hello AT&T I can't pay you I'll pay you next month next year six months clear messages create clear expectations that avoid disappointment people can handle bad news if they can trust your message this is what happened this is it how we are We're going to handle it and we're sorry, bada boom, bada bang, but if you don't give a clear message, United said if you don't give a clear message, you have to do damage control over and over again as people lose their minds . and go crazy, it's not what happens to you that matters, but how you handle it, are you understanding what I'm saying?

So, I want to understand, I want to go to the positive and I'm trying to listen to it because I have a lot to tell you the bell here must have I want to tell you about success train success chain success creates train it challenges your ability to grow it to evolve that very thing that you are here to get is precisely what will drive you nuts and tension the tension of winning the tension of getting more response and you expected the tension and getting the deal I got them, they're going to be I have the date can you handle it? can you handle the deal excuse me that's five people in a row your hit when you win it extraneous stress is an indicator it's a benefit it's a favor unless you know you're at your limits it doesn't mean you can't do it but it doesn't mean you have to changing something anytime there is stress, you have to change structure or strategy every time I am stressed it is an indication that I don't have the strategy or structure for where I am and that stress is a warning email that you need to reset, recalibrate and you need to change your structure or your strategy for what is about to happen in your life.

I'll spend my last few minutes helping you look at that strategy. That structure in West Virginia. We had a silver breed in West Virginia. The bridge collapsed. People died. It was a horrible experience and when they investigated they said the collapse of the bridge turned into stress which means whoever designed the bridge did not plan for the weight of gain and I want you to take the weight of gain seriously because otherwise Once you get there , simply apply the pressure of winning the unit you didn't build into the structure and strategy to handle it, and stress will be your warning bell ringing at two in the morning while you're looking out the window in the middle of the night that you need change, you can't have seven kids in a car, even if you can have them, you may not have the structure to handle the trip, so now you have to add that. type of infrastructure and I want you to think, given that you're probably going to work with limited people, you have big dreams, a limited budget and you have a lot of people, a small number of people to manage, are they tough enough? having the structure to handle the stress of winning is your strategy like my belt that I figured out before I left to come here doesn't have enough not only to handle the stress of winning add and change and the adaptability of that structure and strategy is very important flexibility incorporated for the best and worst case scenarios is very, very important so I'm looking at my life and I'm looking at my life I'm going to deal with my life your life in two categories one of I'm going to call them a whirlwind the whirlwind is all the madness that you have in your life that demands your attention and is consistent your whirlwind is all that because you are good at it you create a whirlwind in your life and then sit backBayside talking about I'm tired you did it to yourself because you're a winner you have a whirlwind with every winner has a whirlwind managing that whirlwind is important but if you spend one hundred percent of your time managing your whirlwind you don't have time to growing the whirlwind is a problem for a reason it's like a football game you know what the most important feature of a football game is it's not the linebackers or the coach it's not how long it's not the uniform colors it's not the quarterback it's a clock the clock is the most important feature of the football game because what makes the football game exciting is the clock the clock says you only have a certain amount of time to do this you know what the whirlwind doesn't have no it has a clock these are the endless tasks in your life that rotate all the time all the time you know when you get there you have this to do you know?

When you wake up on Friday, you have to do the whirlwind of issues and problems that are needed to create you. If you spend one hundred percent of your time on war, you will never get to where you are trying to get. the most 80% no more than that 80% goes to the world where 20% goes to wigs I'm not talking about what you're wearing here I call them leeks your goals are tremendously inspiring you're tremendously inspiring it's going to happen if you don't take time to think , plan and strategize, you are tremendously inspiring, don't get Pinner, then there are too many, don't become fabulous, there are too many at most, and make sure your goal is worthy. where it is worthy of your 20% a tremendously inspiring goal is something that if you achieved it would change the way you deal with the world with a tremendously inspiring goal it is worthy of you committing to setting aside your time and energy to focus on it and it is not a goal if you don't have a watch, for example, if you say that our goal is to provide better service to our customers, that will be sneaky and cursed, it will also be an unattainable goal because it is so abstract that you never know when you have achieved it, but if you take the same goal and say we're getting report cards from our customers and our goal is to get 70% positive report cards by the end of the year, now we have a date. and we have an indicator that is measurable and quantifiable and will give you what you need to continue being creative: the certainty of winning if you build a life that never says that you want everything that you are going to end up with.

You're tired of these tremendously inspiring goals that we've accomplished, you'll walk more than two of them, we want them to have a date and we want them to be indicators to us that we've completed this so we can have the celebratory feeling of having a lot of time again when you start to develop these things, some people below you need to have them, here's the challenge, make sure their wigs fit yours because if they have a tremendously inspiring goal that doesn't relate to your tremendously inspiring goals, did you have division and the division does it lead to destruction?

I'll close with this little story. I was in South Africa and took my son on a safari too. No, I wasn't really going to talk about anything like this. One of the added benefits of speaking there on behalf of a group of billionaires was that they let me stay at Jay Paul Getty's house in central South Africa and I took my son on a safari, knowing that none of us really knew what was. Safari was what we had seen on TV, so it looks good. I bought this outfit, you know, I thought you'd wear it. I'm a safari and a Maison thing, then I took the photos of this, really nice, I took my son, my wife didn't.

Come on, she stayed at the house and prayed for us, and we go out and I'm there with the zoologist and the zoologist is sitting next to me, you know, and he's telling me all the deep things about the lions and the eagles and us. We are seeing the gazelles running, we are seeing the zebras going, we were saying that everything moves, it is incredible and if you give me all kinds of information, I will notice it in the front of the Jeep sitting in a chair that had been bolted to the Jeep he was a Zulu and the Zulu had a rifle and he was quiet, he didn't say anything the whole time, they told me that the elephants were somewhere around, we couldn't find them, there were footprints of them and the zoologist was telling us a footprint it's a female it's a female , I say he's about five years older, so he's five years older, so it looks like he's a lady mating, look, that's how you can know something, say incredible things, all kinds of information, but he couldn't.

I don't find that the elephant is getting darker and the extras make me look because I said to Dexter, my son, let's go see the elephants and you said dad, we haven't seen the elephants yet. I looked, I said we still don't see. He doesn't see the elephant and he is explaining and describing it but he can't find it. He's smart but he can't find it. Finally the Zulu, who didn't say anything the whole time, got up and the elephant is there, he is there. My head exploded because he had everything you need to win. I was inspired to make the trip and then I had the intelligence of the zoologist to explain the trip he was on and in the Zulu it gave me the instinct to know. what intelligence could explain we could not find inspiration could inspire it but could not find it intelligence can describe it but cannot find it ultimately it is always instinct that tries to win and says the elephant is there if you take inspiration from the intelligence and instinct in every strategy you will follow no matter the obstacle, trials to stop trial with tribulation, no matter how many people there are, you are the ones who hate and said you can't do it, you also can't become what you can.

It doesn't matter what your ex has been saying about you if you take these three soldiers with you intellect Oh instinct and inspiration you will always achieve the tensioner of your dreams maybe or say you are close you are close as I close today I want to say this This is for you and I want you to remember it and I want you to hold on to it no matter if things are better or worse, richer or poorer, up or down, always remember that you wouldn't get stressed or frustrated if you weren't around. to what you were trying to achieve if you were not close to it you would not have that feeling in your gut and in your spirit that something is about to happen in your life and if you forget everything else that I told you today always always well the elephant is there thank you