Parents watch how children react when approached by a stranger | Parental Guidance | Channel 9

Some parenting skills are hard to try, like teaching your

children

to think critically and make the best decisions

when

you're not around. Every parent wonders if their kids know how to behave around

stranger

s, that's why we send their kids to the park with a babysitter and hire an actor to get close to them. This test is important. It will reveal which

parents

have had difficult but vital conversations with their

children

and which

parents

have taught their children critical thinking skills. Parents, you haven't seen this video before and I need to. I warn you, this is about confronting Jan and Donna.

Let's see how your daughter did. Ready. Go Go. Part of our French style of parenting is definitely ensuring that Harper has the ability to create situations and have a level of independence and decision making. ability and to trust your own ability, I have told you to be aware of your surroundings, make sure you are not alone somewhere, I tell you, listen, there are some adults who will come and take you away because they are not feeling well, so you just have to protect yourself i'm 100% sure harper will never follow a person ever hello you also have a dog what's your dog's name i know i don't know that's an unusual name this is percy he loves these treats do you want? feed him a treat desire to taste like treats um I don't know the purpose I just had even smaller puppies I don't know six of them this size have you ever seen a puppy?

Uh, yeah, my uncle has one, do you want to meet him? my puppies, we have three, they are at a friend's house there, yes, right outside, do you want to meet them? Uh, I think I might need to ask my babysitter, your babysitter, oh yeah, of course, you can ask him. he's on the phone later right now he's on the phone he's busy come on, percy, let's go see the babies, let's go see the puppies, come on, surely you don't want to come, yeah, sure, that's it. Okay, so have a good day. I said I was 100 sure, Donna.

Are you okay? It's confronting it, yes, treating it as an adult analogy that you use, did it flow? she had strong conversations, she had eye contact, she made her own decision, she made her own decisions, yeah, just Absolutely amazing, yeah, we're very lucky to have managed to get into a situation where we were able to try it. I said there are people who are not well. They could take you, they could blackmail us. We've had those conversations, but no. I don't think it's going to happen to you. I was wondering if you really have any strategies to help us because I would love to have that conversation with our kids that we invite Harper into so she can have a critical eye on everything, including the parents.

You know there's nothing you should blindly follow no law no authority no nothing ask always ask Andrew Miriam here are two of your children in the park could you help me get up there? No, you have to be honest. I've been up there before. Yes, I know, but right now mom is not here. Part of our upbringing is that we teach our children to distrust

stranger

s. Hello, they would be courteous and polite. How's it going? Yes, but if they started to feel uncomfortable with the situation, what would we do? What they expect you to do with a stranger is retreat fairly quickly to a safe place.

Could you give him a bat? Yes, you can pat that Timothy. Careful. You want to give him a gift. See if he can sit up. Sit down. Say sit down. Charlie Sit down. Oh there you go, good job, guess what Charlie just had? Puppies, puppies, they're right there, if you want to take a look at them, where are they, right behind the chair, puppies, do you want to go? Okay, where are they? Let's take a look at them. It's right over here, right behind the barbecue. Yes, you want to give him another gift. Yes Yes Yes.

I arrived. We knew this was going to be a confrontational challenge. I think that's why we're here to talk about it because it's a very important conversation that makes me very angry because someone would ever do that to a child and I know he's an actor but I'm like he's a parent doing things for me. I refer to that scenario, um, yes, Lara, not to my children, but just the idea of ​​that happening to your child. When we designed this challenge, we made sure that the children's well-being and their psychological well-being were fine, but it is really important in a situation.

So, we don't blame the children, we want to talk about parenting styles. I think maybe being too authoritarian could cause your kids to have some kind of misunderstanding, they might think that all the adults are in charge and they might trust more than they should, yeah. our children interact with many adults we encourage them to be polite and friendly and to respect authority we mention respect for authority obedience is very difficult for a child, let alone a five year old, to distinguish it I know it is authority, but I have a feeling , so a bigger picture of the evolution of our strict parenting approach is teaching children to be responsible for a set of values, it's not just about obedience, our ultimate goal is responsibility for a set of values ​​that they own and develop. in your life internalized internalized no no obedience to what someone tells you to do every family at home

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ing is going to rethink the conversation they have about stranger danger because we're all wondering right now what kids will do in a situation like that. an incredibly incredibly difficult one, brett and tony, let's see how their four kids did.

We've had a lot of conversations with the kids about if a stranger approaches them, they really need to not get involved, but I think in a lot of ways because we're in a regional community we're in a bit of a cocoon of love hey guys, how are you doing? well, do you like dogs? I think we've felt that because there are four, there's a little bit of safety in numbers, someone isn't going to take all four of them. You're going to pet your dog, of course you can, little one, yes, you're so soft. She is, isn't she?

She actually just had some puppies. I have some of them in the car. Do you want to come see them. You're so cute incredibly cute Do you want to come see the other guys? Do you want to come see the puppies? Okay, Tony, she has a puppy. Do you want to come see the puppies? Some puppies are all fine. They are over here. I like it. Do you have a favorite type of dog? Oh yeah, I have my favorite kind of dog, fidget, fidget, oh cool, how big is he? He's small, maybe he's a little bigger than your dog, oh yeah, okay, that's so cute , how many years? because you have about two yeah cool you should see the size of these little ones they're like half the size of her they're so cute one it's hard I can't talk she cries brett and I'm really scared probably because a social worker is a teacher we hear about these stories all the time sorry guys we knew this was going to be very difficult but I really think it is very important that we talk about it and analyze each of the thoughts.

Great, I actually only need two minutes, Rachel, are you okay as a survivor? Watching the challenge was so challenging because it was a small representation of a part of my childhood, it became overwhelming and quite intense, we all questioned ourselves. At this point it doesn't matter whether or not you've had the conversation about what kids will do in a situation like that. We've had a lot of conversations about stranger danger, but we've probably had that sense of security because there are four of them. lyrin and richard here are two of your children in the park never catch me part of natural parenting is that we really don't want our children to be afraid of everyone in the world that they don't know personally I'm the but at the same time, there are some adults who think it's fun to scare children.

Come on, let's review and that's what I told you. It doesn't make the world a scary place for them, but it also warns them that not everyone is going to do it. be friendly, i think jojo wants the part, do you love jojo? Hello camera, yes she is beautiful, yes yes she is three years old, the little one is little, she just had some puppies, in fact I have the puppies in the car, do you think she is cute? They are cuter, they are incredible, would you like to come see the puppies? okay, yeah, we're on this road, I'm just telling you now oh, okay, if you just want to come see, it's just this car here, okay, come on, it's this way We're just going to see the puppies in that different color.

Oh, we could leave it. What do you think? Yes, yes, a big sigh of relief. Your son, which is interesting

when

we look at your parenting style, sought the babysitter's approval before leaving. to be close to nature is to listen to your instincts and our children go instinctively here is someone who is older and is here to take care of me it is definitely worth it to help our children develop and listen to their instincts teach children to develop their own skills of Critical thinking is invaluable, it helps them face the challenges that life throws at them, especially when parents are not around.

You can encourage critical thinking in your children through pretend play and role-playing or simply by giving them real-life situations and telling them what you would do. If you were in this situation, okay, let's see how our attached parents, Lara and Andrew, are doing. I have taught children about stranger danger from a very young age. I've played out scenarios where someone wants to invite you into their car because they have all your favorite chocolates, would you? You do not like? It's my turn to do it, so they've been very well trained, but you never really know how they're going to respond in a real situation.

Hello how are you? Do you like dogs? This one's name is Chrissy. oh come on raffy there's someone I don't know hello flip how are you? I'm Ben, I'm Christy, do you like dogs? um, yeah, did you want to come see some of the puppies? They are very small, very cute. caboodles yes, yes, you wanted to come see them, they're right over there, do you want to see them? Are you sure he doesn't, oh well, okay, have a good time guys, come on Chrissy, now I'm going to tell you something, Andrew, I

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ed you when the kids said no, your whole body relaxed, this is triggering all this, all these situations. a reality that right now anything can happen, so in the back row, the things that you've brought up regarding attachment parenting, seeing that challenge, has that changed your views at all?

Yeah, Lauren Andrew, I mean I'm really glad we got to see that and I would really love to see more challenges from your kids without you guys seeing what they're like at school, seeing how they are on the playground, and seeing how they interact because That has completely changed my opinion. Thank you so much. I've heard, you know, with your style, you know, it's almost like you're wrapping them in cotton wool and putting them in a receptive place so that we can then get them to think and play, not through fear, and that's my principle, that is what I wanted to share with you and for me that is a victory because it confirms that they are not insecure without me, they can manage in school without me, they can think for themselves without me, as soft as me, I am very proud of them. a beautiful demonstration, thank you, one more important point when it comes to the stranger danger conversation, it is true that there are some dangerous strangers and we need to teach our children that in whatever way suits our style, but it is necessary that they be taught how We have seen in this challenge that this goes to the core of what matters most to us: the safety and security of our children and in that sense, I can say that I truly believe that we all need to stand up and give each other a hug.

Honestly, it has been so intense, so important.