Overcoming Negative Self Talk-How You Think Changes How You Feel - With Nick Wignall

You will treat a friend if it doesn't work or leads you to become a completely terrible and irresponsible person, don't give up, you don't have to keep doing it well, just try it for a week and see what happens, yes I'm just encouraging people to try to treat themselves the same way they would treat a good friend. And it ends up being a really powerful long-term antidote to this problem of overly

negative

self

-critical

self

-

talk

and that brings us back to the beginning, you're

talk

ing about this a lot like a relationship where you talk to your guys in a way.

You talk to your grandmother differently. The way we talk to ourselves

changes

the way we

feel

. It really affects our

feel

ings. and if we can be a little flexible and a little curious and maybe try some different ways of talking to ourselves, try it for a week, try to be kind to yourself as if you were a friend and knowing that you know influences how you feel. influence the way you act, make your life a little better yeah it really is about relationships you're just doing what you would do with any important relationship in your life like why not foster the same kind of relationship with yourself I

think

Which is one way of looking at this that I

think

ends up being more beneficial in the long run.

I would agree with you. I would be okay with you if there's anything else you want to share, like we're wrapping this up. Actually, it's something you mentioned and I think maybe. it is a place. Well, to conclude, this idea is that if you tend to be very harsh and critical of yourself, another option is that you can be curious about yourself when you notice that you are feeling very angry or that you can personalize something too much. that you can step back and instead be like oh yeah, I must be bad or I can't believe I'm thinking this way, what a terrible way to think that there's a middle ground, like, oh, that's interesting, that will be my first answer and when you can approach things with an attitude of curiosity it will almost always open many more doors and a more meaningful path forward.

In my experience, it's like "create space, just like just being curious about what you're doing creates space and when we have that space like change, suddenly we have appropriate options, we have an option Change yes, I love it, I love it, a lot thank you I really appreciate you taking time out of your busy day schedule um I think I think my audience would love to learn about this whole self talk thing that's great thanks for having me Yeah I really appreciate it.