It's better to be alone than wish you were

Domains. But it often comes at the expense of our connection to nature, as sought by Taoist sages and philosopher Henry David Thoreau. In short, social interaction has a price. And sometimes this price is very high. But isolation also has a price, especially when it is excessive and unwanted. Depending on the individual, being isolated from other people for a long period of time can be detrimental. Loneliness and isolation are a growing problem. Some people crave social interaction but have difficulty getting it. So, yes, it is

better

to be

alone

than to

wish

you were, but it is also

better

not to be

alone

than to

wish

you were not.

We need to find a balance. In my experience, this balance is not constant. It depends on who I am, my life situation, and my needs at any given time. It requires daily self-reflection, asking myself the question: What do I want and need now? I don't deal with divorcees. My desire for solitude is constantly changing, as is my desire for social interaction. This constant soul-searching helps me balance being alone with being with people. The more true to myself I am, the healthier my relationship with isolation and with others becomes. Being alone is not fun. Being surrounded by people while wanting to be alone isn't great either.

Changing one's situation requires courage. Regarding loneliness, it takes courage to admit your situation and dissatisfaction and leave your comfort zone. When it comes to your desire for isolation, it takes courage to recognize this need and step away from your social life, even for a while, or even to admit that the people you surround yourself with are causing you more harm than good. Especially in cases of abuse, following the call for isolation (or at least separation from your abuser) may be the best thing you can do. The question is, of course, whether you are willing and able to leave.

Unfortunately, many people are afraid of being alone. But what is there to fear if basic needs such as food, shelter and security are met? If you learn to feel comfortable and content in solitude, the less likely you are to cling to others, the less power they will have over you, and the easier it will be to cast out those abusers, narcissists, and other toxic people. It is better to be alone than to want it. In solitude we find the strength we thought we needed from others. Thanks for watching.