Is Being Fat a Choice? | Middle Ground

Sorry, there's a big difference between people who tell people to go out and get fat and AO who says "accept me as I am", not only says "accept me as I am", dresses in very little clothes and then saying that if you don't think it's normal for a morbidly obese person to wear a thong in public, then you are the problem,

being

fat or skinny is a

choice

, of course, not all factors are purely one of

choice

, um. I don't think all factors are, but I do think most are and in most cases, for most people,

being

skinny or fat, it's about willpower, it's about the environment in which you live.

That you grow up, sure, but who do you choose to associate with. what kinds of things you choose to listen to, who you choose to have as friends around you and support you, all of those things are decisions you can make that will get you closer to being one or the other. I know what I want. do with my body I know what I put into it day in and day out I choose not to eat some days um I choose You know how I want to look and I don't blame anyone for how they want to look or how they want to be, but I think it's a choice at the end of the day.

I'm very, you know, I always want to wash. I want to be introduced and whether I want to gain weight or not, but I am the only person who is going to gain weight at the end of the day it is me and myself for me it is calories burned calories burned go to the gym you will get better don't go to the gym no you will get better. I understand that there are genetics that could make you want to eat more, but even with genetics that make you want to eat more, the same solution is calories in and calories out.

I think the whole choice is that you're always determined by who they are and it's not going to be something that's just done. Overnight it takes a lot, I think it's like breaking the barrier and breaking a lot of things, not just your body, but also breaking your mental state, for sure, and again, that depends on who you are and what you want to go through. . As a child, I always saw myself as big. I grew up in a very poor home, where my mom couldn't provide the meals that she could in a healthy way, so when we got free meals, even then, they were like canned food and it would be like food that is not so edible, it was food for us, yeah, but then I felt like once it got to a point where I was old enough to try to make my own decisions, I made all the wrong decisions and I wasn't eating. and I only ate grapes and lettuce and that was mainly because I played a sport and that sport exercised me a lot and it got to the point where I was afraid to eat.

I didn't like it, I would just do it. drink water when you ate grapes and lettuce if you were thin I was the thinnest I could be if I was still big although I was still big but that was the skinniest I've ever been in my life and that's coming from someone who only ate a little bit of salads which are just fruit and lettuce and water and maybe ice right before a practice. Do you think that right now you wouldn't be able to become a skinny woman if you wanted to? I would possibly be able to become a thin woman but since I was young I was supposed to get a blood test probably when I was very, very young and I never did and they mentioned that it might have been because of my weight and how that connects to my thyroid.

I never made the connection and never had anything like a father leaning. be like go and get yourself checked go and do this like your weight probably isn't your fault it was always like your weight is your fault so that's your problem I mean, I also struggle with thyroid and my own blood issues. I'm not really sure, but I see an endocrinologist and I'm going to see a doctor. It is an option to follow the necessary steps. It is an option to go grocery shopping instead of going to fast food. When it's easy. It is an option when you are shopping. to the outside aisles and not going to the bread section or the junk food section, these are all options as a disabled woman.

I can't do a lot of the things people say: calories in, calories out, oh, you have to go. exercise and push yourself a lot of the things that are typical oh this is how you lose weight, take me to the hospital, I have to handle the weight differently, I have to look at it differently, my weight is the way it is because of the medications, Because the doctors put me in this position and I had to learn, okay, am I going to hate my own body so much that I'm going to fight back and spend extreme nights at the gym avoiding eating things I should be able to eat?

In order to have a balance, you should be able to go to the junk food aisle like other skinny people do and still not have to worry about gaining 20 pounds, but I don't think skinny people go into this junk food aisle, they certainly eat a a lot of junk food a lot of junk food, I mean my Dash door would tell you the opposite, like there's something called set points, there's a ton of research that your body likes to be at specific weights, it likes to be in a certain way. specific way, so if you are struggling to lose weight by not eating OV exercising and you are very close to killing yourself to be a specific weight your body is not happy it is important not to keep in mind that a choice can be more difficult for people because to the conditions of your life, but at the end of the day it is still a choice.

I could tell he had a food addiction. I reached for food when I was stressed and this and that and this, so it's harder for me to choose than it is for someone who has the perfect lifestyle. Who is someone who has parents who are giving them this and that and this, but I definitely still recognize that it was my choice at the end of the day when I go there and I look and I see H? Should I order a second burger? The one who chooses whether or not I order that second burger I'm the one who makes that decision Hey, okay, I don't know, I've been feeling a little lost lately and how is this helping me?

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I think I prefer to be skinny. I think it's common in society to want to be skinny. I think the average person normally. wants to be skinny In fact, I'm surprised I haven't seen more people come forward on that question. People treat you better. It is what is considered the standard of beauty. Your life expectancy is longer. You tend to be healthier. I'm also very tall, I'm 6'6, so I would like to be able to choose just one fight because finding clothes and stuff like that when you're bigger either way can make it very difficult, so if I were thinner at least that's one thing less that I have to worry about, but I also have two kids and a wife and I'm taking care of them and as you pointed out, I definitely think I have less risk to my health if I'm a thinner person if I'm a healthier person in that capacity and I would prefer to be so I can be with my children for longer.

Can disagreement please step forward? I'm speaking as someone who was actually a smaller person and I had the most body insecurities when I was little. I was constantly living in fear of gaining weight and having people tell me, "Oh no, don't gain weight, don't do this, make sure your weight stays the same and once you finally gain weight." weight I realized that, first of all, life was not over. I didn't feel any need to not be involved in life the way I was before and the attention I was getting was different, but even as a smaller person you get negative attention and instead of trying to control my body to avoid that negative attention.

I would rather address the situation as a society, make it more accessible to everyone, where we don't feel like I have to be a certain way that is normal to be treated like a human being and respect that if I could counter it because I was a little bit older when I was younger and That was when I was most insecure. I looked at myself in the mirror. I had family members that were skinny, but then I had an M family that was much bigger and the way I perceived myself I hated it and even became anorexic for not wanting to be a slut.

I don't think that being skinny always equates to being healthy exactly absolutely huh. I'm pretty thin. I am 65 years old. Last time I weighed 140 pounds. I checked it out and I am very underweight and I know it on a day to day basis. That said, I don't know where I'd like to lean at an appropriate weight level, but I think it's important to understand for some. skinny people is that we are not living a great life by any means and sometimes I feel like that always gets lost in translation when they see someone who is really skinny.

I guess it depends on what you mean when you think of the term skinny are you? Thinking about a person of average weight, are you thinking about what you are like now? I am the average weight of similar women in the United States, so if we are talking about an average like, I will be the closest if your biggest priority is to be in a smaller body you need to reevaluate your priorities, not focused on health, on immediate link between thinness and health, as you emphasized, there is a big gap between one research and another because the research has a huge fat-phobic bias and there has been research that shows that they are not even particularly fat-phobic during, say, and correlation between obesity, they rushed through those studies so quickly because in society's mind, oh, of course, a fat person is going to equal someone who is going to get sicker faster. getting sick easier was an easy jump so they didn't do all the testing they were supposed to do they didn't check their bias saying the study is biased you're saying the study didn't take into account the variable that obesity can also be a factor, It's just that there are so many variables in humanity that these pharmaceutical companies were only able to take a limited number into account during their trials and that doesn't necessarily mean they are biased;

However, if you want to talk about bias and Actually, in recent studies we have been doing the opposite, so for example, many of our studies have been based on BMI and therefore we have been showing that, oh , fat people are not necessarily extremely unhealthy if we look at people with a certain BMI. Bodybuilders also have a very high BMI, so they are counted in that category, so it wasn't until very recently that they equated that mistake and it shows, oh my goodness, that being fat is actually extremely harmful to the body. health, much more harmful than we ever realized.

You can't measure health by looking at someone like none of my health problems are due to my weight gain but they always take me for granted oh don't you want to be skinny so you don't have a cane anymore and I don't feel As you feel, it's like not, because I have lupus and I will always feel that way. CRPS is going to deteriorate, it is going to continue. America has an obesity problem, let's say next to you, oh, absolutely, I think it's pretty clear. If you look at the weight of the average American, you see how obesity has affected not just children.

I mean the fact that we have more and more young people looking fatter and fatter and you see you know the way weight affects us. as a society and you compare that to how we were in the past, not that we should always, you know, we shouldn't compare ourselves to the Great Depression era, when people just couldn't find food, of course, but people weigh more. now in an unhealthy way and people are eating unhealthy, they are eating it through unhealthy access to food, they are eating diets high in seed oils, they are eating high corn syrup, they are doing all this kind of things that are not good for them that we didn't used to do and it's bad, it's not a good thing, it's an epidemic, it should be, it should be nullified somehow, there's so much access to anything, it's crazy these days and you already know.

I'm so surprised that we're actually supporting a lot of this, you know? and there are always people like you who know that it's okay that we have three McDonald's on the same street and it's like we didn't think that this was Adding to the problem is what I think is really sad: so manyPeople in America simply see the profits. I don't want to say that I know these people know the problem, but it's like they don't see the problem. They have to see it and they just don't care, they have to say: well, we are making a profit, see how much? this McDonald's is putting another one across the street that's right that's what corporations are like it's the medical industry having a fat country we It doesn't help that our cities are not walkable either.

The United States is a country of not walkable that That's why I hesitated a little because I think we have a problem with how to treat obesity. I think we have a problem with how to make it not an epidemic. This is a systemic thing where we are in a society and an environment that creates this and we are doing it to ourselves, we are doing it to our children and our corporations and our industries are doing it to us and they don't have to take the blame. responsibility, they are promoting it with the media and mukbangs.

I was literally going to mention that about mukbangs and like all those videos that just show up on Trends, not just mukbangs but also lizo videos and other big media. Sorry, there is a big difference between the people they are. telling people to go out and get fat versus AO who says "accept me as I am" she not only says "accept me as I am" she dresses in very little clothing and then says "if you don't think it's normal for a person morbidly obese" to be wearing a thong in the

middle

of the public then you are the problem and they are trying to normalize society to this obese culture that is extremely unhealthy and what is an obese culture, a culture that is normalized, I have not even heard that obesity is already normal so I don't think it should be normalized and it has been and it wasn't normal just what's the difference between an obese person walking around in a G ring or a bathing suit like I do?

I. almost every day and a skinny person says: is it okay for the skinny person to be doing that? I don't think so, but that's Reas. I understand that the entire public says that when Lizo does it, it is the same as a Victoria Secret angel. It's not the same yeah, what's the difference? What do you mean, are you telling me that they look like each other? You're telling me no. I'm not saying they look the same. I mean involvement, so if I walk down the street I'm a catwalk model. I am a print and runway model.

I've walked down a runway in a thong, so doing that is embarrassing, but a skinny model is fine. I don't know if I use the phrase embarrassing. I don't think we as a society should be modeling obesity but I'm not modeling obesity, I'm modeling the lingerie that obese people need to be able to have the availability to buy, so they have always had the ability to buy, we don't have you not a single underwear. almost $20 and you like every other goal and since all these undergarments are on special for about 5 to $20 and all that, well, it takes more fabric to make it, it takes more fabric to excuse it, but make yards of fabric . for the dresses you like it is small, a different price than extra large or large for three Exel shirts.

I have to pay more money. I think people see models and Instagram people and all of us who have big eyes and are proud as we are. By pushing this obese lifestyle, no, I'm pushing the fact that this is what I live, this is my life and I need other people who feel this way to say, "Hey, I want to be able to wear clothes that look nice too. I think that there is a problem with obesity in the United States, but I think it is a problem in a first world country because it has spread all over the world and I don't see it as a problem either.

I feel that people in good health should try to be healthy. , but there is no such thing as a perfect body, there is no such thing as a perfect person, there is no such thing as a perfect size and there are people who are underweight, there are many and then there are many people who are overweight, so I don't really see it as a problem, but just to touch on what you were saying. saying because I'm in the fashion industry. I wanted to be a fashion designer. My father was one and they buy 10 rolls of fabric for one price, so it doesn't really cost much to make underwear, but you don't have to worry about distribution.

I mean, if the average person is, let's say, between small, medium and large and you're sending clothes for those you know, you could send 10,000 of these 10,000 of those 10,000 of those, you can't always send 10,000 3XLs because we're not going to have that many people that fits size 3XL, not because there is someone who works in marketing and researches that area, there is a census, so we have a database of what kind of people are there, now we don't know who will go. there but we know the type of people who live in that area and the type of people who come and visit the area so that person is doing their job accordingly and usually the large sizes sell out so Someone mentioned the food desert before.

I can't even think of an area that has a so-called food desert. Sorry, can someone explain to me? Maybe just because of my ignorance. I guess a food desert is just that there is no food anywhere, no, they are healthy food options so you can. go to certain low-income areas and you'll see a Starbucks, a McDonald's, a Chick-fil-A, but there's no Trader Joe's, a food desert, actually, there's none like during a long drive, there's a gas station. and a liquor store. then you have to drive two more miles to get to the next grocery store, but with the food desert it's not just that there might be a grocery store there, it's that if I make minimum wage I'm not going to spend all my money on What's going to last me two meals versus what's going to last me a whole week or if I'm on EBT and I have specific things I have to choose to buy versus what I can't buy?

I'm a barn burner and grew up in Colorado, in the suburbs, there are so many small towns you don't even know they're there; most of them you won't see on a map, but if you're from there, you will know and everyone has to do it. You drive a decent amount to get to a grocery store, but how often do you go shopping? Maybe once every two weeks would normally be normal, so you have to drive once a week. once a week once every two weeks not many people access the If I don't have a car, I don't have it and if you don't, usually these food desserts also have very bad public transportation options, so you're left with people who They are stranded, yes, but then what are they eating?

Yes, unhealthy garbage, but how do they survive going through the drive-thru? They don't have a car to go to, exactly, they're usually what I see when I go to those rural towns. There are places where they have chickens and animals, and guess what, you can get healthy food from that, I mean, have eggs and protein and things like that. I think I would be healthier if I lived properly, in fact my wife and I are trying to get out of state so we are not close to all the Uber Eats and all the places I grew up.

I grew up in a city of 500 inhabitants, the obesity problem there was not as significant as, for example, in Los Angeles and we talk about food deserts. and stuff, the closest Walmart where I grew up was 45 minutes in any direction, the closest McDonald's wasn't close to being seen for a long time, so when I heard these things like and I, there might be some evidence there, since the obesity problem is very low elevation Were there grocery stores in your small town? Yeah, like I'm a little baffled by maybe I just need to go out and experience food deserts, but there were grocery stores where I grew up.

Just because we lived in the

middle

of nowhere doesn't mean we didn't have access to food and in fact, and I have to agree, we had access to healthy food, very healthy food all the time. I don't think this is a big problem. In my personal opinion, fat shaming is worse than skinny shaming, so I agree that fat shaming is worse than skinny shaming, in general, because of the way people like to comment about people's weight compared to someone's flab, they usually don't comment on someone's weight. skinny guys they don't think there's anything wrong with them they don't like it maybe they say like oh you're really skinny and um you want to eat a cheeseburger but that's not as bad as telling someone you eat 10 for and you don't even know they're eating 10 fat , shame is a systemic problem, you're not going to get a job because you're too skinny, skinny bodies are praised in our society while fat bodies like me don't understand I do it as often as other people, but I get a lot of comments on my Instagram that they say you're really beautiful but you'd look so much better if you lost 50-60 pounds, something I always get a lot of comments about is my masculinity as a man because of how skinny I am, it's always something I deal with.

I have always struggled. My favorite comment is that I always look like a sick Victorian child and that's horrible. Sorry, I don't want to laugh at that, no, no, no. No, it doesn't bother me that much, but this idea that thin people can't feel like they're getting this kind of feedback is kind of mind-blowing, that doesn't mean they know one side is getting it. worse than the other, I think both sides are building up to different degrees. I think we're also conflating two things, so there's a difference between fat shaming and fat discrimination. Fat shaming is one aspect of fat discrimination, but some of the things you were touching on are specifically the societal and systemic fat discrimination that goes to our medical system, goes to employment, goes to all of our civil rights. like fat people, skinny people, they don't necessarily have the same problem and I come from cultures where they directly called people skinny you look like bones, oh Flaka, everything like that, so I saw my cousins ​​go through that.

I went through that when I was getting too skinny as people, we're just too scrutinized when it comes to our bodies we don't let people live, but I think it's a good point, you said they called you Skin and Bones when you got to my cousin, I that you're sorry, not what it is, but your cousin, so people use shame as a motivator to get your cousin, not to be too skinny, shame as a motivator is a powerful tool, so the reason I feel there it is for shaming the fat, worse than shaming the skinny. Well, you could argue that shaming someone to motivate them toward a healthy lifestyle is actually a good thing now.

I have a lot of empathy because I heard your story about how you've been struggling with this since you were a kid, since I was like a newborn baby, like Cheers, everything's just been at that extreme where I never knew anything about being Skinny or being fit or being athletic I've never known anything about that, probably your situation I don't think shame necessarily motivates you, but for someone where it's an option, so, for example, if you watch TLC, you watch my life 600b, uh, thousand. The Libra sisters family by the ton, they all can do it, they've all had this systemic problem, that's the thing, although I've seen them when I was a younger person and they made me feel disgusted with myself as a kid, so that would make me worse. and it made my mental health worse because then I think everyone automatically sees me as someone who is too big and could never possibly reach it because it's so common that I don't think we should be ashamed. anyone who does anything, no, I think everyone deserves to like themselves enough to enjoy life and if you do that as a fat person, that's fine, if you do that as a skinny person, relax too, it's no big deal. mine, it's a broad category, I think it's a shame.

It works in some cases. I think there has been a good shame towards me and a bad shame. Bad shaming is just someone just saying you're fat like that, that doesn't really work, but what does work is having someone look. Me and saying, don't you want to be around for your kids and that worked like IED? Do you consider that a shame? I think that's shameful. I think they were telling me that you should lose weight to be around your kids. I think it's a shame. like an attempt to try to say something bad about me they're personalizing you and your kids of course yeah yeah but I think and I think it worked I think it worked that really encouraged me to go go go to the gym and start to try to lose weight, that's you, although of course, I think you have to be specific to the person.

I think one thing is it depends on the person and if someone wants to embarrass me and as you know it depends on the person. Person, I've been shamed a couple of times and I've gotten a kick out of trying to gain weight, but it's still really hard and you know, it depends on who you are, I think when you were making a comment about people questioning your masculinity. I get asked if I really look like a woman all the time and it's always up for grabs. I'm always compared to male characters, especially when I don't wear makeup and that's because I don't have breasts and I can't help it. but it's definitely very, very hard to like people constantly telling youthat this is the standard of what a woman should look like and that you don't look like that without even saying it, they don't say it, they're categorizing me, they're making it funny that I say I look like a football player or something, and you know, I think it's funny, but also shame can also be difficult because I can understand what you mean, sometimes it can motivate you a lot when it's not out of love, but when it's not out of love. of and when it's like not knowing someone and just saying, yeah, the people who told me that about my kids weren't, yeah, I'm just a random guy online, they were people who were close to me and I knew they cared about me . who I had a conversation with, so I think it matters who says it, but I would still consider it to some extent a shame and I'm okay with that.

I think it's a good shame. I think it's one. I think sometimes it helps motivate people to follow the right path. The body positivity movement promotes childhood obesity. Diet culture has something positive. I guess for me diet culture is something that's important to people in the world. What I realized after we're about to finish this is that there wasn't much talk about thin culture, C people as a whole, maybe. That's because of what the message is, but I think it's important if we're going to bring positivity to obese kids. I think it's important to give them options to say if they want to lose weight, they can do it and I can't.

I don't see a problem with that in any real sense. I think diet culture is one of the reasons many people struggle with weight issues in the first place. I've even struggled with my own weight issues in the past and I was like I was struggling. with depriving myself too much because I had a trainer um and then I started binge eating and as soon as I had a mental break where I was physically unable to stop myself from putting food in my mouth, I immediately went to see a doctor and that doctor told me to read a book called intuitive eating and it radically changed my life and it was about how to overcome diet culture and how so many people ruin their lives with diet culture and you look at it like someone talks about eating grapes and lettuce and it's grapes and lettuce and it's like it's this end and then you go from one end and then you break and then you go to the other end and like that, like I'm at my end, I broke, that's why I'm against diet culture, yeah, I tried the ketogenic diet for a while um and that's what I realized is like that F, that kind of fad diet and yeah, I lost weight.

I absolutely lost weight, sure, uh, I didn't keep it off. and the reason I didn't leave it at that is because diet culture is about turning the word diet from your general diet to an activity that takes place over a period of time, a diet, it shouldn't be something that whatever you do from January to May of next year, diet is what you continually eat, it's what you continually put into yourself, yeah, lifestyle, yeah, so my problem with diet culture is this idea of, oh I have this perfect solution for you man all you have to do is this this this and this and that and it's like no the reality is yes there are good correct and objective ways I think a lot of people eat and yeah , they all have to have some variations here and there, there is no one bag. fix everything and diet culture is largely about trying to say that all you have to do is eat cheese puffs every day for the rest of your life and it's easy, yeah, yeah, and that's why I think that diet culture doesn't. help you know that you will always find those people who have the perfect answer, have the perfect solution to lose weight or to lose weight.

Dieting is not just about losing weight, it's about gaining weight, you know, and I think for a lot of people maybe it's just For me, but when I diet, it's actually not the opposite of fasting. I'm trying to eat more, I'm trying to gain more and I think people forget that when it comes to diet, when people instantly hear the word diet, they think about losing weight. and I don't think that should always be the case. I have been on many diets. I have been on diets for myself. I've been on diets and my trainers put me on diets.

So when I was young, I felt like it was more like fasting, fasting, fasting, not eating, but exercising and maybe, if you're lucky, eating once you get home as a reward, and then when I was like, oh, like if you were a good person on the team. like being the big person being the defender being a fan so it was like now we have to gain all this weight and we have to hit you so it was like I had to eat like five meals a day and I felt so disgusting because I was like I never had had to like like take out a bar or something and eat it during class and be like I have to eat this because it's part of my diet when we're talking about diet culture, we're talking.

It's not about your diet as a whole, it's usually a fad diet, it's what we're talking about when we talk about diet culture and I personally know I've seen a lot of women in my life, especially, go on fad diets. fats. that they're just not sustainable and that's the whole point of diet culture is that it's not a sustainable thing, but we're all talking about mainstream things like keto or gluten free and I think everyone is polarized into these certain ones I think. that you should eat gluten I think if you cut it out of your diet you're really going to get sick unless you're unless you're not, again I like what she said, which is you know how to eat intuitively, so what's the benefit?

I think you've seen it in diet culture people, which I think, and I guess, what do you consider diet culture? I guess to me diet culture is the resources you need to get to where you want to be in your life, in your body, that is. How have I always seen diet by diet? Do you mean keeping a diary of what you're eating? Yes, if you want, write a journal if you want. You know, talk to a therapist if you want to exercise. If you want to see a doctor. you want to take medication like everyone always does, it's not super like when you diet, you're not being like I'm completely cutting out carbs or I'm doing this completely right.

Dr. water, I just like to look at your macros and your micros and you. I'm calculating, I guess if you ask me do I know how many calories I have to eat, yeah, I have to eat about 4000 a day, when most people talk about diet culture, they've done some kind of extremely restrictive thing and when You do something really restrictive, it changes your brain chemistry and the way you think about food and it makes you obsessive about food and then you like it, but it seems like the way you do it is extremely healthy because you're not depriving your body of something, but that just goes back to you guys are talking about the extremes of diet culture, diet culture is one thing and then a kind of healthy lifestyle are two different things.

I personally don't think of living a healthy lifestyle as a diet you've been on as a sphere model, do you see diet culture and how it has impacted the space? There was a time in my life like when I was a junior in high school where the person I was with at the time Like 6'6 and super tall, so you know the mom was like, Hey, my son is going to an audition. for this big agency that is still big to this day and you know you should come so I went and I was 115 pounds. and he had a decup and they told me I was too heavy and seeing that really struck me at first with the negative part of the diet and it just went into the spiral of well, well if I'm too big then what?

What are people doing to not be this size? How can I do what I want to do? Yes this is my limitation. It took me years later to realize that he was actually disciplining me for no apparent reason except for this. underlying underlying feeling from years ago that I could never get rid of when you talk about discipline. I think it can be very positive to diet and consume calories, but for me personally and I am a very specific case when looking at those numbers. and knowing that I couldn't achieve it because I had no appetite was also very sad for me because when I read the bare minimum of what a woman needs 5 five at my age I thought it's not much and I still couldn't eat it at that moment and I think : What's happening to me?

There are different ways to motivate people and one of them is through pain and anger and I feel like a lot of diet culture, whether positive or negative, is just I'm trying to focus on that and you know, just I mean more about being healthy. I listen to diet and I think of something that is positive and has been positive for me and you know it's something that I'm always trying to achieve. I guess if we had to. Ask this exact same question. I can hesitate and not cross the line. I guess I'll never know, but hearing these perspectives was really good because I probably didn't know that much about the extremes.

I want to thank you all. sharing your opinions with us and for challenging us and I really want to thank you, I thank you for the back and forth. It's something I came here for and I wanted to talk to someone who thinks differently and I've learned a few things. I appreciate it all of you, yes, thank you, this was great, it was RI cre.