How to Never Run out of Things to Say - Keep a Conversation Flowing!

Hey guys, Practical Psychology here, and I'm so excited to bring back a previous contributor because of some amazing feedback. I hope you guys have fun! - Hey, here's the enhancement pill. And for those of you who don't know who I am, I have a channel very similar to Practical Psychology. And today we're going to talk about something that I'm sure many of you have problems with. Let me ask you a question: Have you ever found it difficult to think of

things

to talk about? Does your brain ever freeze and you end up with a long, awkward silence?

Well, today I'm going to share with you four extremely powerful topics that you can talk about with almost anyone. Learning and using these four themes will allow you to build a great relationship with almost anyone and will also allow you to create lasting friendships. An easy way to remember these four is through an acronym I like to call "FORD." So let's get right into it. F means Family. Everyone has some kind of family. They are an integral part of our lives. They are the first people we meet and that is why we

keep

a special place in our hearts for them.

Studies have found time and time again that when people share family-related matters with strangers, they feel much closer to them afterward. Now, the main problem with talking about family is that sometimes it can be very strong if you ask someone about their family from the beginning. Instead, what you should do is branch the

conversation

so that the topic of family comes up naturally. Here are two ways to do it: The first is to talk about your family first. Say, for example, you're at a party and you're talking to a girl and you notice that there's a very loud and excited guy on the dance floor.

You could say something like this: "See that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who is always energetic and not afraid to let loose. I feel like older brothers are always like that. Do you have siblings?" something like this, you direct the

conversation

towards the family and also take the initiative to open up first. This gives him the opportunity to talk about his siblings without having to be on guard. If he doesn't have siblings, you could say something like, "Oh, did you ever know you had one?" Again, the conversation is redirected toward family and the transition seems seamless.

Now, the second way to get someone to talk about their family is by using what is called "non sequiturs." Basically, assumptions you make about someone. For example, let's say you meet someone new at the bar. You can say something like, "You know, it seems like you come from a big family." Non-sequiturs like this do two

things

: They create a sense of curiosity, which leads to questions like, "Uhm...why do you think I come from a big family?" Sometimes they also have the listener correct their statement. Maybe they don't come from a big family and they start talking about it.

Maybe they come from a big family and go into detail about it. The second theme is O, which means "occupation." They say that 45% of our life is dedicated to our occupation. Whether it's school or work, it's definitely a big part of our lives. Talking about someone's occupation is actually very common. It is considered superficial conversation. You've probably heard phrases like "What's your specialty?" dozens of times before. The key to talking about occupation is not to dwell on these superficial issues and instead quickly jump into a deeper conversation. For example, let's say you're on a date and you ask him what he does for a living.

She says, "I'm a school teacher." Many people make the following mistake; They say, "Okay, what subject do you teach?" "Okay, what school do you teach at?" "Okay, how old are the kids you teach?" When you ask question after question, you enter what is called "interview mode" and it is very uncomfortable for the listener. Instead, what you want to do is add a comment before asking another question. For example, let's say she says, "Oh, I'm a teacher." You could say something like, "Wow, you know, when I was younger, I always wanted to be a teacher. There's something about inspiring others that is very rewarding." By saying something like this, you are adding a little bit of how YOU feel about her occupation before asking the next question.

This leads to significantly deeper topics than, "Oh, what school do you work at?" When meeting a stranger, talking about her occupation first is usually the best option. This is because of the four topics, occupation is the one that is talked about the most. They feel very comfortable talking about it. The next topic is R, which stands for "recreation." Everyone has some type of recreational activity. It can be an interest or a hobby, sometimes it's even something they are very passionate about. Similar to talking about occupation, you want to ask superficial questions while adding comments in between.

An easy way to steer a conversation toward recreation is to simply ask, "What do you like to do?" Yes, I know it's cliché, but it works very well. Sometimes it can be a little more difficult to talk about recreation than occupation, because often you will meet someone who likes to do something you know nothing about. Don't worry, because in these cases all you have to do is approach the conversation with the following mindset: Why is this activity so exciting to you? Say, for example, you meet someone who tells you they like rock climbing and you've

never

done it before, you might say something like, "Oh, that's cool, I always thought rock climbing was an interesting sport." .

Why do you like it so much?" Questions like these really make the other person feel heard. They also allow the other person to really dig in and explain why they enjoy their recreational activity so much. The last theme is D, which means "dreams." Without a doubt, this is the most powerful topic you can talk to someone about. Everyone has a dream they are pursuing or wishes they could pursue, and this topic is especially powerful today because the average person cannot pursue their dream. Often it is because there is very little support in our society. Most people are told by everyone around them, including their parents and friends, to just get conventional jobs instead of pursuing their passions.

So if you step in and show that you support their dreams, they will start to think very fondly of you. Dreams are often the hardest things to get people to open up to, and that's why it's the last of the four topics I like to talk about with someone. You want to make sure you have established enough rapport before directing the conversation toward dreams to get truly meaningful answers. So I'm going to share with you two tricks that I personally use to redirect the conversation towards dreams. Number 1: Sometimes you will get an idea of ​​what a person's dream is by talking about their recreational activity.

If they mention that they like to draw, their dream could be to become an artist one day. So the first trick is to use this information and make an educated guess. So, to the person who likes to draw, you might ask, "Have you ever thought about becoming an artist for a living?" And as you can see, this can easily lead to a deeper conversation. Now, the second way, my favorite way, to get someone to open up about their dreams is to talk about the bigger picture. Now, what does that mean? Well, sometimes I'm on a date and I'm walking with a girl in a park and I just look at the night sky and I'm like, "Look up, the universe is so vast.

It's so big. I feel like our lives have more meaning than just working 9 hours." a 5. Have you ever dreamed of achieving something bigger than what you're doing now? Yes, it's super cheesy, but again, it works. I also like to ask questions like, "What do you want to do. before I die?" I like to make the question relevant to the things that are happening around me. Maybe I'll be in a bookstore with someone and I'll see a biography of someone who passed away. Or maybe I'll be on the bus with someone and we'll pass by a cemetery.

And there you have it, these are the four topics that you can talk to anyone about. These are the same four topics that I used when I was a door-to-door salesman In those days, I was forced to generate. a huge amount of trust with absolute strangers in less than an hour and convincing them to give me their social security number for credit checks and their credit card information for the actual purchase. So I can swear by these four issues. If you enjoyed this video, check out my Improvement Pill channel for more similar concepts and ideas. - Leave a comment below if you want more Improvement Pill content on this channel.

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