How I found out my parents were siblings, and my life changed forever

our relationship with you as a brother and when I told my

parents

they were really very distraught because they thought the idea of ​​me carrying that and not being able to tell them and not being able to talk to them about it when that wouldn't change anything between us. um, I was quite distraught then to think that one of his children had lived like this for, you know, 20-odd years and hadn't felt able to say anything. Things were just completely reassuring and you know, I just wish they had known and that or even told them. He wouldn't know anything about my background either.

I was going to ask that. They didn't actually know your adoptive

parents

. No, and in those days I don't think people would reveal much even if they did know. I think you just already know that. not like today where you know everything about the child and everything about the child's parents and all the genetics and mental physical challenges they may have had, all of that is passed down, but not then, well, we have someone listening who says it's a Social worker Teresa and they say that they see things like this every day and they just want you to know that they think you are amazing for telling your story and that you are so strong for doing all this on your own and I think that will work.

Don't be a lonely voice, that person who is full of admiration for you, Teresa, because it was a very, very lonely experience for you and although people talk about things a lot more now and incest, although it clearly happens, is still a taboo. I don't think so, yes, I think you're doing your best to change that, but there's no doubt that people are very, very uncomfortable with this topic, aren't they? And I think that's the One thing that I've learned is that, of course, no matter what happened at your conception, so to speak, that shouldn't affect you in the rest of your

life

, no, but I think that because it's a such a taboo subject, people leave with the ignorance that I left with, you know you're going to have monsters if you have children and you know that those kinds of things are the way that when people don't talk openly about things, things things are misunderstood, things are misrepresented and if I can stop one person from making the wrong

life

style decision that I made, because if I had known then what I know now, I would have continued with my life and I would have had children and I would have had a family and then my job would be done, so to speak, because that's why I talk and not just about this, but in general I think about the people who are embarrassed and can't share and talk and get some peace of mind.

Yeah, so you know we're at an age now where we encourage people to talk, so the more they do it, the more knowledge is shared, I think, and Theresa, we don't have much time left, but what do we Have you been subsequently told about your ability to have healthy children if that is what you chose to do? it probably wouldn't have made any difference if there had been inherited genetic diseases in the usual way, so possibly that could have been a problem, but it wouldn't have been any different if my parents hadn't had um they weren't related, but that's the chances of having a child. with some problem they would have been very, very soon.