Dr. Wayne Dyer's Life Advice Moving Forward & Letting GO - Don't Miss This one!

The next principle I call giving up your personal story and I learned it from a man named Carlos Costan who once said that um one day he said I finally realized I didn't need a personal story anymore and just like drinking he said I gave it up. and that and that alone has made all the difference in the world. You know, the good thing about giving up your personal story is that if you don't have a story, you don't have to live up to it. We all have these bags. of dung that we carry with us called our past and the people who have done things to us and the events and the circumstances, all these things that we use and that we attach ourselves to and we attach ourselves to these wounds of our past and we identify We draw on these wounds and every once in a while we leave it and get in there and smear it all over ourselves and then wonder why my

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moment merging with the now means you may have been in a relationship. I had a woman from Holland come to see me whose husband had left her after 25 years, she had four children and had just been on the verge of suicide. and she was losing weight and she was depressed and she was taking all kinds of medications for it and she was getting sicker and sicker because she just couldn't get over it and she came to a book signing I was doing at a bookstore. there in Florida and she said you have to tell me something you have to tell me something to help me get through this and I told her this line I said give up your personal story join here now in This moment and those 25 years are something if you want to understand how to do it, think in your past like, oh, this hat and this is your past.

Now you can't just leave this here, walk away from it and give up. your personal history because you will always have it there to look back on what you do, you collect your past and you embrace it, you understand it, you accept it, since I had to go through these things that I had to go through in order to get to this place today and the evidence of that is that I did it, you don't need any more evidence, you did it and then you throw it, you throw it, you hug it and you throw it and you merge into the Now giving remove your attachment and some of you have heard me use the metaphor of awakening Alan Watts talked about how the wake is not what drives the boat the wake is just a trace left behind that is all it is and so is the wake of your

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and the Wake does not make the boat go and neither is the trail of your life the reason why your life is going in the direction that is the trail is a trail that is left behind and it is an illusion to believe that it is the cause of your suffering or your struggles or your difficulty let it go Let it go embrace it understand it get help doing it if you need to and then move on to now the next principle I call is from a line by uh Albert Einstein he said you can You don't solve a problem with the same mind that created it to work on solving these things called problems in your life.

You have to change your mind. It's your mind where they live. It is your mind that created them. That's where. what you experience are all illusions you must change your mind literally rewrite your agreement with reality one of the things I said before is that one of the hardest things to do in the world is to admit that you were wrong to admit that we were wrong is nothing more than to say that I have been making decisions with my mind that have created things in my life that are not working and I no longer intend to continue making those decisions.

I was wrong, you don't have to make a statement about it. You don't have to come out and feel guilty about it, you're just saying that the relationship I had before I behaved this way didn't work out. I didn't realize it wasn't working for me now. and this is where I choose to be now. The secret to a successful Rel relationship for me is understanding that you put your attention and energy in a person on what you love instead of what you don't love. Robert Frost said it so beautifully that we love the things we love for what they are not for what they should be not for what they used to be but for what they are so when you look into the eyes of a person you're with You are in a relationship, whether it is your children, you find them doing things right as much as you can, it often takes a long time to look for it, but you will find it and when you think my relationship is not working, remember that it is in my mind, in what I'm thinking? that person and if I could change my mind and put my thoughts on what I love about this person and keep them there, that makes the relationship flourish and there are people who go through the entire history of their relationship without anger, without hate, without bitterness and just Love, the next principle is: I call it treating yourself as if you were already what you would like to be;

In other words, you step out in front of your life and see yourself as if you already have what you know you would like to have and deserve. So that my children know how to do this perfectly. I have a daughter who wanted a prom dress and the prom dress was way out of budget and I thought a prom dress should be it. Well, I figured a graduation Des shouldn't cost more than $20, so. I have a problem, but I raised it to about 250. I don't know how much for me, it was still more than what I paid for my first house, okay, but anyway she called and said: Dad, this is the only desk of graduation I have.

Could this? I have to use this prom desk if I don't use this prom Des. It's over and over and over again with this uh wonderful you know I have a I saw a wonderful book about raising teenagers uh daughters the title is out of my life but first take Cheryl and I to the mall okay , that's the actual title, it's a good book, so I told Serena. I told him it was over budget. I have a certain amount of money that I'm willing to put up for it and she said but I've already seen myself wearing it I've already tried it on I have a picture of me in the dress in my living room and I've already shown it I gave it to the guy who's taking me to the dance graduation, I mean, it was all about this and she already saw herself in it.

I said, well, if you see yourself in it, then you're going to have to see yourself also earning the difference between what I'm willing to pay, and she wrote up a contract, went to the computer, and in the back of the computer, you know, where they have these little background things they put up, there were 500 photographs of the dress, and she signed it. a contract and said I am going to babysit I will do this I will do that and I will pay the difference and she did it and put on the dress because she understood that you treat yourself as if you already were, you are what you would like to become there is a genius in you you have to treat yourself as if you were already that genius there is something you are completely capable of seeing yourself as if you were already there then you will act according to those thoughts because the ancestor of every action said that Emerson is a I thought that the following principle is called treasuring your Divinity treasuring your Divinity there is a wonderful observation that I saw from Emerson in self-reliance it is about trusting your Divinity knowing that you are connected to your Source, knowing that you are a Divine creation and that There are No accidents, he said, a Man should learn to detect and observe that flash of Light that crosses his mind from within more than the brilliance of the firmament of the bards and sages, but he discards without warning his own thought because it is his own in each of them. work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts, they return to us with a certain alienated majesty, we often reject our thoughts and see the things we consider great and brilliant and reject them because they are our own treasure.

Divinity instead of being terrified of it knowing that I am always connected to my source there is no way I can't because it is in you and I am in you and you are in me and you will never be able to separate yourself from it there is no place that this source does not exist, everyone's nails grow, everyone's heart beats, everyone's food digests, every flower opens and you are always connected to it and finally, the last principle that I call wisdom is to avoid all thoughts that weaken you, you know that every thought has an energy like everything else in the universe and if you have a thought of shame it will weaken your muscles and what is your heart but a muscle if you raise a child who believes in shame and is ashamed of himself every time he thinks which is embarrassing I thought that they will weaken and if you have a thought of fear and if you have a thought of stress and you have a thought of anguish and anxiety, all these thoughts and many more are the thoughts that will always weaken you when you are having a The thought that you know it takes away your power, you change it to one that empowers you instead of taking away power and the thoughts that empower are thoughts of neutrality, will and love and ultimately thoughts of divinity, and when you see a person with problems that are out there fighting at the highest level of Unity Consciousness or God Consciousness or Spiritual Consciousness you recognize yourself in everything you see there but by the grace of God I see and I am connected with that person changing your thoughts I appeared in the Tonight Show many years ago several several times and I remember coming home from The Tonight Show and I was walking on the beach and they had taped the show the night before and I was out for a walk and a woman who lived in the Northeast met me.

He stopped and she said: I didn't see you last night and how could you be here? I said, well, I flew on the Redeye and I was walking and she said, you know we moved down here, she said, um, what are the people like here? How is? and I said to her I said well they like where you live she said well she said I live in a very big city and she said uh they are very pushy and the people are not very friendly and they don't have time for you and she said uh it's really not very nice She said that's one of the reasons I'm leaving there I said well that's pretty much what you're going to find here that's basically what people are like here on the way back The same day, another person told me I had seen The Tonight Show the night before and had lived in the Midwest stopped me and asked me almost the same question.

She said, "You live here." I told him yes. She said my husband and I moved here. and we're looking for a school, she said, what are the people like here?, what's it like here?, I said, what are they like in Chicago, where you live?, she said, oh, she said it's the Midwest, she said the people It's very friendly, they're open they open their houses to you they're very affectionate they're very kind he said it's a wonderful place he said I love it I'm going to

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that a lot I said that's more or less what you're going to find here it's what you expect it's what you think what expands is what Emerson taught us the ancestor of every action is a thought change your thoughts and you change your world change your expectations and you change around what you begin to manifest and see appear in your life